How to stop being a people pleaser

How do you define success? How does that impact how you feel about yourself?   Resources & References A blog post on this topic I published on my 34th birthday: The key to success   References: "Success is only meaningful and enjoyable if it feels like your own." —Michelle Obama "Success isn't about how your life looks to others. It's about how it feels to you. We realized that being successful isn't about being impressive, it's about being inspired." —Michelle Obama   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

How do you make decisions? Do you only allow yourself to do things that you can rationalize? Do things other people say make you question yourself? How is that making you feel?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Are you distracting yourself from your inner knowing? A subtle form of trying to be normal The rules inside your head "I can't do that. That's crazy." Are you abandoning yourself?   References: Human Design Lookup Scene from 90 Day Fiancé   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.  

What kind of fear is in your life? How can you upgrade the quality of fear in your life?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: What is your relationship with life? Two kinds of hesitation Two kinds of uncertainty   The other 10 episodes with fear in the title: Fear of judgment The fear of missing out (aka fomo) 5 signs you're stalling out of fear 5 ways to deal with fear A simple practice to rise above fear What your fear of judgment is trying to tell you 3 strategies to let go of your fear of failure What fear really is An antidote to fear The upside of fear   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

How can you clear emotional clutter? How can you heal old wounds and mindfully process your emotions? Listen now or watch on YouTube.   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Are you hiding your emotions? An unexpected way we numb ourselves "I should feel..." Two types of emotional clutter   Links to GuruMeher: emotionalliberation.com GuruMeher on Instagram   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

What are the benefits of fear? How can you see fear in a positive light?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Inner resistance "This shouldn't be happening." Nervous energy What fear really is   References: "The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it." —Steven Pressfield   "Fear is excitement without breath." —Fritz Perls   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.  

How can you see beyond your fears?   Resources & References Episodes about worry: Worry The end of worry   Episodes about perspective & negative thinking: Judgment A re-frame on self-doubt & negative thoughts Negative thinking spirals   Episodes about failure: An alternate perspective on failure and rejection 3 strategies to let go of your fear of failure The gifts of failure Are you setting yourself up for failure?   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

What is fear, really? Is it something that exists in reality? Or something that just exists in the mind?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Fear of judgment "But what will people think?" Worry How to get out of your head 5 signs you're stalling out of fear What happens vs. the meaning you give it   References: "All problems are illusions of the mind." —Eckhart Tolle   "My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened." —Michel de Montaigne   "I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened." —Mark Twain   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.

Are you constantly trying to please others? What assumptions are driving that behaviour?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Fear of judgment "But what will people think?" The voice inside your head Judgment Autopilot & assumptions about yourself Thinking vs. feeling Where do emotions come from?   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.    

Are you confusing your thoughts and your feelings? What impact is that having on you?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: The voice inside your head How to get out of your head An unexpected way we numb ourselves The power of the present moment   Some breathing practices: How to reset yourself (in 3 minutes) Feeling triggered? Try this meditation A meditation for inner peace   References: "Only when I get out of my past and stay away from my future can I genuinely experience what's happening right here, right now." —Neale Donald Walsch   "Thoughts are not feelings, they are ideas of how you "should" feel. When thoughts and feelings get confused, truth becomes clouded, lost." —Neale Donald Walsch   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.    

Do you think that emotions come from outside you or inside you? How does that impact how you feel?   Resources & References Related episodes & posts: Automatic patterns Inner resistance Emotional clutter The first step towards inner peace What happens vs. the meaning you give it   For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com.