242: Why We Keep Lying (To Others—and to Ourselves)

We're talking about the lies we tell—the tiny white ones, the polite ones, and the quiet ones we whisper to ourselves just to get through the day.Because every lie—no matter how small—costs you connection. With others. And with yourself.We’re unpacking why honesty feels so hard (especially in relationships), how to speak your truth without blowing things up, and why it might be the most freeing thing you ever do.Episode Resources✨ Take the Love Blocks Quiz so you can unlearn the patterns that keep you playing small.✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call and uncover what your truth is really trying to tell you so you can stop pretending and start living fully.In this episode, you’ll learn how to:✨ Recognize the 4 core reasons we lie—and what each one is really protecting✨ Break free from the world’s most common lie ✨ Tell the truth in a way that heals, not harms✨ Use a simple honesty framework that builds trust instead of tension✨ Hear what your body is trying to tell you when you’re not being honest with yourselfIf you’ve ever felt like you’re living half-truths just to keep everyone else comfortable, this episode is your reminder: peace doesn’t come from being perfect—it comes from being real.Connect with Me🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We talk a lot about “moving on,” but what does that actually mean when your heart still replays the good parts like a broken Spotify loop? This week’s episode is for anyone still low-key haunted by an old love, a “what if,” or a story that should’ve ended years ago but somehow keeps sneaking into your present...Because you can't move on if you're still waiting for closure — you heal by choosing yourself.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ The sneaky reason you can’t stop thinking about your ex (hint: it’s not about them)✨ How to stop feeding the fantasy and finally see the relationship for what it was✨ The difference between closure and clarity — and why one sets you free✨ How to shift your energy from overthinking to actual healing✨ A few spicy mindset flips that’ll make you say, “Oh… I get it now.”This episode isn’t about moving on — it’s about moving through the ache, the memories, the mess — and coming out softer, wiser, and way more in love with yourself on the other side.Get Started Here: Enroll in the Relationship Detox Program — release the past and reopen your heart in 5 days. Use code: REDOXFR at checkout to get it free.Book a Relationship Clarity Call — get personal guidance on what’s really keeping you stuck.Take the Self-Love Scorecard — find out if your self-love is thriving or quietly surviving.So if your heart’s been craving clarity more than closure, this episode is your sign to finally tune in and set yourself free. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I just need more balance in my life” is the modern-day mantra for I’m one meltdown away from booking a one-way flight to Bali. ✈️We’ve been told that if we can just balance everything — work, relationships, family, self-care — we’ll finally feel calm. But balance? That’s the real burnout.Because life isn’t meant to sit perfectly still while you juggle all the pieces. This episode is your permission slip to stop performing balance and start practicing presence. To trade the pressure of “having it all together” for the peace you actually want. 💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ Why “balance” is just a prettier word for burnout✨ The secret behind flow and why it feels so damn good✨ How to stop living by your to-do list and start following your energy✨ What it really means to feel calm without controlling everything✨ The mindset shift that makes life feel lighter (without quitting your responsibilities)Because maybe you don’t need to manage your life like a spreadsheet — maybe you just need to let it move with you.Ready to go deeper?Take what you learned in this episode and turn it into real-life flow with these free tools designed to help you align, reset, and thrive:🌿 From Chaos to Calm: A Guided Journey to Emotional Balance🧠 Book a Life Clarity Call — start honoring yourself the way you wish others would💌 Take the Self-Love Scorecard — find out if your self-love is thriving or just quietly surviving in the background🎧 Tune in now — and let this episode remind you that peace isn’t found in perfection… it’s found in flow. 🌊 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if forgiveness isn’t about letting someone off the hook but finally setting yourself free? 💫This week we’re diving into the heart-healing power of forgiveness with Grace Grossman—wellbeing coach, yoga teacher, and bestselling author of Chill Out and Cheer Up: A Ten-Step Guide.In this episode, Grace and Sanaiyah unpack how forgiveness becomes the foundation of self-love and how releasing guilt and resentment allows you to breathe easier, love yourself more, and finally move forward feeling lighter. They dive into the surprising ways resentment hides in your body, and the powerful tools that can help you finally release it all.💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ Why forgiveness isn’t weakness, it’s freedom✨ How self-love helps you attract healthier, soul-aligned friendships✨ The power of community in healing and emotional growth✨ How to release guilt and finally make peace with your past✨ Daily practices that nurture compassion, trust, and inner safetyBecause when you forgive, you don’t erase the past—you release its hold on your future. 🌿Want to connect with Grace?📱 Follow her on Instagram: @healinghearts_hubwithgrace🌸 Join her community: The Healing Hearts Hub ✨ Listen now to discover how forgiveness can help you love yourself—and others—more deeply than ever before. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How many nights have you laid in bed, wide awake, solving problems that don’t even exist yet?We call it “being prepared,” but really, it’s just our anxiety doing the cha-cha on repeat. You’re not solving problems—you’re just exhausting yourself in the name of control.This week, we’re getting real about worry: why it feels so addictive, what it’s really protecting you from, and how to finally break free from the mental hamster wheel that’s been stealing your peace. Because let’s be honest—your brain deserves a vacation, not another late-night worry meeting that could’ve been an email.💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ The sneaky reason worry feels productive (but totally isn’t)✨ What’s actually hiding underneath that constant overthinking✨ Simple ways to retrain your mind to trust instead of spiral✨ A grounding practice to help you stop spinning and start breathing again📝 Ready to raise the bar on how you treat yourself?✔️ Grab the Success Blocks Checklist and spot the sneaky self-worth gaps you didn’t even know were there🧠 Book a Life Clarity Call to start honoring yourself the way you wish others would💌 Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see if your self-love is thriving or just surviving in the background.Because peace doesn’t come from controlling everything—it comes from remembering that you’re safe, capable, and more powerful than any “what if” your mind can come up with. ✨ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

🎙️Ever feel like you’ve checked all the boxes—career, family, life—and somehow you’ve gone invisible in your own story? Like people see your title, your roles, your to-do list… but not you? Yeah, that stops here.This week on Project Loving Myself, we’re calling BS on invisibility with Christina Vidovich—international speaker, podcaster, and the firestarter behind Women Getting Visible. Christina went from ballroom dancer to podcaster to creating a global movement, and trust me, she’s not here for women playing small.We get real about what happens when you’ve been silenced (by society, by circumstance, or by yourself), and how scary—but wildly liberating—it feels to finally step into visibility.💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ Why midlife can feel like a plot twist you didn’t see coming and how to rewrite it✨ The sneaky ways we’re conditioned to keep quiet (and how to break the habit)✨ How to share your story without turning it into trauma dumping (yes, there’s a line)✨ Why community is the ultimate amplifier for your voice (because sisterhood hits different)✨ Christina’s own leap from hiding to hosting—and why your fear of speaking up is lying to you👑 BONUS: Christina drops the one mantra every woman needs when she’s about to shrink back and stay silent.🛠️ Wanna go deeper?🎙️Listen to Christina’s podcasts: Women’s Health, Wealth & Happiness + Mindful Motivation👑Free Membership to the Women Getting Visible community✨Join the Women Getting Visible ConferenceTag @sanaiyahgurnamal, @projectlovingmyselfpodcast, and @christinavidovich with your favorite mic drop moment.Because invisibility isn’t an identity—it’s a habit. And babe, it’s time to break it. ✨ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to keep promises to everyone else… but when it comes to yourself? Poof. Out the window.You’ll drag yourself to that 8 a.m. meeting, show up for a friend’s late-night drama, and say yes to commitments you never wanted to take on. But when it comes to your workout, an early bedtime, or precious family time? Suddenly, you’re “too busy,” “too tired,” or convincing yourself it’s okay to say “just this once.” This is a slippery slope into self-neglect.Here’s the hard truth: the toughest boundaries aren’t the ones you set with other people—they’re the ones you set with yourself. And every time you break them, you chip away at your own self-trust. Ouch.But, hey, if you're ready to break this cycle, join me in Reconnection: The Inner Child Healing Workshop Every Woman Needs on October 11 to uncover the patterns you didn’t even realize were running your life.This week on Project Loving Myself, we’re getting real about why the promises you make to yourself are the only ones that actually matter—and how to stop ghosting yourself like a bad Tinder date.💡 In This Episode, You’ll Explore:✨ Why “just this once” is secretly sabotaging your self-respect✨ How success can trick you into sacrificing what matters most✨ The difference between boundaries that protect and habits that betray✨ A simple way to define your top 3 non-negotiables—and finally keep themSo… what’s one promise you’re ready to stop breaking to yourself?📱 Tag me @sanaiyahgurnamal + @projectlovingmyselfpodcast and let me cheer you on. Because at the end of the day, self-love isn’t bubble baths—it’s keeping your own damn word. ✨ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if every twist, detour, and messy chapter in your life isn’t a setback, but rather an upward spiral guiding you closer to your true self? 🌟This week on Project Loving Myself, we dive into reinvention and soulful creativity with the incredible Teresa Herrera—a Manila-based model, actress, host, art consultant, and wellness advocate who continually rises, no matter the challenges she faces.From international runways to motherhood, from art to yoga, Teresa has learned that flowing with life (instead of controlling it) unlocks your most authentic power.The secret? You don’t need to have it all figured out; just remain open to what your soul is calling you toward.💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ Why motherhood is the ultimate creative project✨ How to reinvent yourself without “losing” who you were before✨ The underrated magic of asking better questions: “What if?” and “What else can I do?”✨ Why your soul's blueprint lies in the visions you often overlook✨ The wellness practices that anchor Teresa through change (meditation, yoga, breathwork, journaling)Remember, life isn’t a straight line—it’s an upward spiral. When you learn to flow with it, every chapter fuels your next transformation.Want to connect with Teresa?📱 Follow her on Instagram: @loveteresaherrera✨ Listen now to discover why your next chapter might just be your most powerful one. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The walls you built to protect your heart? They might be the very same walls keeping love out.What if the “red flag scanning,” second-guessing, and pulling away you call self-protection are actually signs that your past wounds are still making your choices for you?This week on Project Loving Myself, I’m revealing why real safety in love isn’t about hiding behind walls—it’s about discernment. And how healing shifts you from choosing out of fear… to choosing from your worth.💌 Ready to break the cycle? Join the Reconnection Inner Child Healing workshop on October 11 to uncover the patterns you didn’t even realize were running your life. Register here.💡 In This Episode, You’ll Explore:✨ The difference between walls that isolate you and gates that protect you✨ Why pain often feels familiar—and why that’s dangerous in love✨ How healing shifts your choices from fear-based to aligned and empowered✨ The secret to knowing who’s safe to let in—and who isn’tShare this with someone who’s tired of choosing pain and ready to choose better.📱 Tag me @sanaiyahgurnamal + @projectlovingmyselfpodcast with your biggest aha moment.Because love isn’t about letting everyone in—it’s about trusting yourself to choose who’s worth opening the gate for. ✨ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if your dreams didn’t disappear—they just got buried under guilt, responsibilities, and all the ways life told you to play small?This week on Project Loving Myself, we’re exposing the hidden dream killers that quietly steal your vision—and showing you how to bring your dreams back to life. Joining me is transformational coach Anushree Kini, a Mindvalley Certified Life Coach and Marisa Peer Certified Rapid Transformational Coach, who helps women use visualization to shift their identify, dissolve guilt, and step into the lives they were meant for. Translation: she guides you to become the woman your future keeps calling you to be.💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✨ Why your dreams get buried under to-do lists—and how to gently reclaim them✨ The hidden role of guilt and social conditioning (and how to finally release both)✨ How visualization rewires your identity—not just your mindset✨ Small boundaries and micro-actions that create real visible change✨ A client story that proves inner shifts ripple outward into career, love, and self-worthBecause your dreams aren’t gone. They’re waiting for you to stop letting life kill them—and finally choose to bring them back to life.Want to go deeper with Anushree?🎧 Free 15-minute Ultimate Future Self Activationhttps://drive.google.com/file/d/15sGIzg5VmTNNurhwNCmnxHiqGDhomx_s/view?usp=sharing📱 Follow Anu on Instagram: @projectdailymagic✉️ Connect with Anu: [email protected]🔗 https://www.instagram.com/projectdailymagic/Because your future is built from the inside out. Start seeing her, then start being her. ✨ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.