Ep 4: The Break Up

In this episode, we talk about how we navigated the difficult (for one of us) and life-changing decision to leave our careers, friends, and family in the US to move to Ireland in 2019.

In this episode, we share our different approaches to conflict, revisit some old arguments, and agree that compromise is rarely a good solution.

In this episode Bret admits that it's hard to take your own advice, as we revisit some of his early experiences of dating while polyamorous and ace.

In this episode, we talk about the emotions and stressors related to both polyamorous dating and the tension of day-to-day life.

From gender roles to dating (and even recording a podcast), so much of what we do is a performance. In this episode, we look back at some of our early conversations about anxiety, dating, and the value of cultivating deep friendships.

In this episode, we revisit some of our early conversations (rants?) about feminism, relationship anarchy and heteronormative dynamics to see how our own perspectives have evolved.

In this episode, Nicole talks about her first experience visiting a gay bar after a break-up. We also talk about the importance of finding queer community and friendships in adulthood.

In this episode, we talk about finding our queer labels, considering diverse styles of polyamory, and exploring the role social expectations play in enforcing compulsory heteronormativity. Tiffany also joins us to challenge patriarchal ideas that can arise even within queer spaces.

In this episode, Bret consoles Nicole as she processes a break-up. We discuss the benefits of moving on from a relationship while appreciating the good memories, even when moving on isn’t what we want. Bret offers "the best advice you'll never take," and we reflect on the importance of prioritising friendship.

In this episode, Nicole talks with her first ever girlfriend about their break-up. We talk through old arguments, read break-up messages, and offer advice to anyone who wants to stay friends with their ex.