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On this episode: Aaron has a tall bed and drinks water at night. Nate appreciates easy night pees. And what is a “pirate pastry”? This week, Nate and Aaron interview Troy Snyder. Troy is an LPC with 25+ years experience, specializing in sex addiction, anger management, men's issues, and also the president of the C-CSAS where he equips the next generation. He shares his story of being “dumb as a box of rocks” as part of his restoration and growth. Troy integrates the Bible and Psychology, encouraging conversation instead of battles. What is a specific or general revelation? And how do you pray specifically in healing? Links: Troy at Restoration Counseling AtlantaNEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) 2026 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions and you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].  The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Restoration Counseling of Atlanta Troy Snyder, LPC, CCSAS, CPCS - Christian Sex Addiction Counseling Troy uses Christian counseling to help men manage sexual struggle, improve purity, and rebuild relational health. He also helps with anger management. Written by Betsyadmin Est. reading time 3 minutes Feb 25th, 2018 https://restorationcounselingatl.com/troy-snyder-ms-lpc-ccsas-cpcs/     App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mightybell.samsonsociety&pcampaignid=web_share                  

On this episode: Aaron talks about decimation, how the church kills its own, and the need to have a clear path to restoration. Nate gives examples of grace, healing, and forgiveness. Sharing how grace triumphs over judgement. The NEW Samson App is out (see links below)! This week, Nate and Aaron interview Erin Moniz. Erin is from Waco, TX, a deacon, associate chaplain at Baylor University and many other roles. She shares how vulnerability is the currency of intimacy. They discuss how transparency and vulnerability are not the same things, transparency keeps people at arms length. How close should your spouse be? Tips on making new friends at any stage of life, maybe join a cult? Also, how a Silas is like learning to be a freaking friend. All this and more! Book: Knowing and Being Known: Hope for All Our Intimate Relationships, by: Erin MonizNEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) 2026 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. (48 kB) https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub (42 kB) https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mightybell.samsonsociety&pcampaignid=web_share                            

On this episode: Aaron makes a sports joke! Nate talks to his first sponsor. They also discuss funny t-shirts, stickers, and Kevin-Kevin! The NEW Samson App is out (see links below)!This week, Nate and Aaron interview Bill and Kristi Gaultiere. Bill is a psychologist and ordained pastor and Kristi is a psychotherapist and both are published authors. They co-found Soul Shepherding in Irvine, California. They discuss deeper ways to connect with God as they understand themselves at a deeper level. Bill and Kristi help us learn to be empathetic towards ourselves, so that we can give it to others. Is empathy nature or nurture? Do you have self shame that prevents you from receiving love, grace, and care? What is empathy fatigue? And also the topic of HSP - Highly sensitive person, which includes 20% of humans! All this, and more!Links: Soul Shepherding Retreats Soul Talks Podcast Book: Deeply Loved: Receiving and Reflecting God’s Great Empathy for You, by: Bill and Kristi GaultiereNEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) 2026 Samson SummitIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Soul Shepherding - Following Jesus for deeper life and greater influence. Soul Shepherding - Soul Shepherding Get Healthy, Lead Healthy Go deeper with Jesus in emotional health and loving leadership Start Now Jesus-centered psychology Safe relationships Practical tools Imagine how your life and ministry would feel if you could get help for... Stress overload Discouragement Relational conflict Spiritual dryness Compassion fatigue Feeling alone as a leader Hitting a wall The health of Sep 13th, 2023 (2 kB) https://www.soulshepherding.org/     Soul Shepherding - Following Jesus for deeper life and greater influence. Soul Shepherding Institute - Soul Shepherding Come on Retreat https://www.youtube.com/embed/VkeKDXYSw-gYou can go deeper with Jesus in emotional health and loving relationships on an immersive retreat.Typical Christian activities and trying hard to "believe and do what’s right" are not enough to overcome your challenges and develop healthy rhythms in your life, relationships, and work. To develop a flourishing life you need training. Est. reading time 15 minutes Dec 13th, 2019 (2 kB) https://www.soulshepherding.org/institute/?clicktype=headerbutton&clickname=institute     Soul Shepherding - Following Jesus for deeper life and greater influence. podcasts - Soul Shepherding (2 kB) https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/     App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. (48 kB) https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016                  

On this episode: Aaron is not in the mood to be here. Nate feels guilt for his callousness. Both share their struggles with change, loss, and grief. The NEW Samson App is out (see links below)!This week, Nate and Aaron interview Amber Smith. Amber is an unexpected writer/author, speaker, wife, and mom from Texas. She shares on the theology of suffering through her personal experience with the loss of a child. They discuss how to grieve, suffer, and weep amidst responsibilities of taking care of kids, jobs, etc. Other topics include: How to have the courage to cry and grieve as a man, leaning in and sitting with others in suffering, what to say or not to say, its ok not to fix someone, and how to process together in relationship.Links: Amber Smith Amber on Instagram Book: The Girl on the Bathroom Floor: Held Together When Everything is Falling Apart, by: Amber SmithNEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) 2026 Samson Summit   If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Arise With Amber Arise With Amber | Discussion about Life, Love, Joy and Grief Arise with Amber is a weekly Youtube series where I speak honestly and openly about life, love, joy and grief, through the lens of my relationship with Jesus Christ (108 kB) https://arisewithamber.com/     amazon.com The Girl on the Bathroom Floor: Held Together When Everything is Falling Apart The Girl on the Bathroom Floor: Held Together When Everything is Falling Apart [Smith, Amber Emily] on Amazon.com. FREE shipping on qualifying offers. The Girl on the Bathroom Floor: Held Together When Everything is Falling Apart (382 kB) https://www.amazon.com/Girl-Bathroom-Floor-Together-Everything/dp/1400347890     App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. (47 kB) https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub (42 kB) https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mightybell.samsonsociety&pcampaignid=web_share                          

 On this episode: Aaron has free time and is complimented for being calm in the storm. Nate discusses the importance of service in recovery. Also, the NEW Samson App is out (see links below)!This week, Nate and Aaron interview Rob Lohman. Rob is the founder and CEO of Christian Rehab Services, an author, podcaster, and has ADHD. Rob shares his dreams of becoming an addict, coming back to Jesus, and helping others. He talks about his time in alcohol and gambling addiction, and prison. He shares his thoughts on substance and process addiction and the importance of community in overcoming either. Rob helps to make it ok to talk about intrusive thoughts by sharing his experiences. He also shares his favorite inspirational movie and his personal phone number! Links: Rob’s Free Book Christian Rehab ServicesNEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) Nov 7-9, 2025 Samson Summit Virtual Experience If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   recoverwithrob.com Stop the chaos of addiction: The Addiction Intervention Book: 11 Breakthrough Strategies for Professionals and Families to Help Clients and Loved Ones Discover FREEDOM From Addiction Stop the cycle of addiction today! Let today be YOUR bottom. Get a FREE copy of the book The Addiction Intervention Book (86 kB) https://www.recoverwithrob.com/intervention-book-order-1     LFTR Christian Rehab Services Faith-Based Rehab Colorado - LFTR Christian Rehab Services Break free from addiction with faith-based recovery. We combine biblical truth and expert care to restore lives through Christ-centered healing. Written by hristo Time to read 2 minutes   App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. (47 kB) https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub (42 kB) https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mightybell.samsonsociety&pcampaignid=web_share     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit Virtual Experience — Samson House Store Can’t make it to Glorieta? No problem — the Samson Summit Virtual Experience brings the heart of the weekend straight to you. Join Chris Bruno’s powerful main sessions live via Zoom as he invites men into deeper integrity, brotherhood, and healing. You will also be able to participate in small groups.

On this episode: Aaron prepares new flip-flops and shares how he terrified people in the special olympics. Nate was neglected of comedy. They discuss Jesus being a comedian.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Ron Pearson. Ron is a comedian, actor, street performer, and ADHDer. Ron knows how to juggle, really well. He attributes his success to ADHD, connecting two things that don’t seem related. Ron shares statistics that challenge those with ADHD as well as many strengths from it. He talks about youth trauma and its links to ADHD, addiction, and intimacy disorder. And this question: How can you be known if you can’t express your feelings?Don’t forget to rate and subscribe on your favorite podcast players. Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.Recovery is not for people who need it but for people who want it.   Samson Society Help Us Reach More Men - Samson Society This site, built and maintained by Samson House, is an effort to turn the computer or smartphone—which has often served as an instrument of destruction—into an instrument of healing. Through this site and the Samson app, men all around the world are being invited into the kind of authentic conversation that actually meets our deep needs.

On this episode Aaron and Nate discuss recovery quotes and prescribe them for others. This week, Nate and Aaron interview Steven Shields. Steven returns and is moving fast. Steve wanted to talk to Aaron, who starts showering with questions. Therapy lacks culture and is useless. Steve teaches: recover, heal, done, so hopeful! Guidance on how to find a therapist, with a purpose. How to fire your therapist or cult, if it isn’t uplifting and forward moving. Also, guidance on how to lead a peer recovery group, STICK TO THE SCRIPT! Don’t forget to rate and subscribe on your favorite podcast players.Links: Accepted Life Unashamed Unafraid Podcast Steve Shields EmailNov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House. Recovery is not for people who need it but for people who want it.   Accepted Therapy and Coaching Accepted Therapy & Coaching MORE THAN A THERAPIST. Healing is possible, and healing can happen today. Take the first step towards a healthier, happier, and more whole life. Written by Justin Martin Time to read Less than a minute Feb 13th, 2024   unashamedunafraid.com Unashamed Unafraid A podcast unashamed about sexual addiction recovery and unafraid of coming unto Christ for healing. Hope. Love. Compassion. Education. Healing.     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico lodging options available.   Samson House Store Wild & Sacred Journey — Samson House Store Join us during the Samson Summit on November 7-9, 2025, for The Wild and Sacred Journey , a transformative weekend retreat designed exclusively for women to reconnect with the wild, playful, and sacred aspects of themselves. This experience weaves together moments of creative expression and deep reflection.     Samson Society Help Us Reach More Men - Samson Society This site, built and maintained by Samson House, is an effort to turn the computer or smartphone—which has often served as an instrument of destruction—into an instrument of healing. Through this site and the Samson app, men all around the world are being invited into the kind of authentic conversation that actually meets our deepest needs.

On this episode: Aaron and Nate reveal that there is a mysterious donor who is matching your Samson Society donations up to $50,000.00!!!!! Also this episode, Aaron is an angry wanker, and gratitude is as real as $!itty stuff. This week, Nate and Aaron interview Noah Filipiak. Noah is an author, pastor, podcaster, and dad. Noah and the guys discuss conversations that need to happen. He guides us on how to talk to kids and teens about sex and why. There is a challenge for parents to parent. Navigating healing from the purity culture. The discussion and need for teen support groups. Other topics include hero!ne in the fruity pebbles, worshipful sex, Dishwalla, Inglorious Basterds, and more. Don’t forget to rate and subscribe on your favorite podcast players.Links: Noah Filipiak Beyond the BattleBooks: Needed Navigation, by: Noah Filipiak Beyond the Battle, by: Noah Filipiak Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids, by: Kristen A. JensonNov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   by Noah Filipiak About Author, Pastor Noah Filipiak Noah Filipiak is an author, pastor, and podcaster with a heart to apply the reality of the gospel to the grit of life.  He is the author of "Beyond the Battle: A man’s guide to his identity in Christ in an over-sexualized world" (Zondervan) and leads online groups through the book. Noah and his wife Jennifer got married in 2004 and have 3 adorable daughters. He is on the Covenant Eyes blogging team and has several other articles published. He is a frequent guest speaker at colleges and churches.    https://www.noahfilipiak.com/     beyondthebattle.net Beyond Ministries Helping men find freedom from porn and sexual sin while finding their identity in the healing love of Jesus Christ. (375 kB) https://www.beyondthebattle.net/     by Noah Filipiak Needed Navigation - by Noah Filipiak Teens are being bombarded with porn and sex everywhere they turn. 93% of boys and 62% of girls first see porn before they turn 18. With smartphones everywhere, this is no surprise. What is a surprise is how little the church talks about porn and when they do, how unhelpful it often is. ~75 pages […] Est. reading time 2 minutes https://www.noahfilipiak.com/needed-navigation/     by Noah Filipiak Beyond the Battle - by Noah Filipiak Purchase on Amazon at a bulk discounted rate from Church Source Digging deeper than the surface-level tricks and tactics men are already familiar with, Beyond the Battle unpacks the heart of the gospel to show every man what he’s been looking for all along. Join Noah in an online video small group through Beyond […] Est. reading time 1 minute  

On this episode: Aaron and Justin are at the American Association of Christian Counselors Convention. They are surprised at the volume of men and women asking for info. The topic of prevention and early conversations in dating are also thrown around.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Reese & Wendy Crane. Reese a former minister and now the director of the gateway to freedom weekend. Wendy is a writer. While in ministry, Reese began to question his faith. He shares his story of being bullied, confusion in friendships, distance from parents, failed ministry, and burnout, and how all of that led to addiction and later recovery. Reese and Wendy share their story of an affair and later marriage. Wendy shares how she has experienced healing through writing books to share her story. Links: Wendy Crane Other Woman Ministries Be Broken - Gateway To FreedomBook: The Scandal of Virginia Grey, by: Wendy GreyNov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   wendycrane.net Wendy Crane - Author Site Wendy Crane, Author of The Scandal of Virginia Grey (135 kB) https://wendycrane.net/     otherwomanministries.com Other Woman Ministries - Welcome to your safe place! Other Woman Ministries provides a safe space for "the other woman" to find support, hope, healing and freedom from the shame of infidelity. (653 kB) https://www.otherwomanministries.com/     Be Broken Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men | Be Broken Learn how to quit porn and overcome any unwanted sexual behaviors at our 3-Day Christian Intensive for Men. This is a grace-based, shame-free environment. (109 kB) https://www.bebroken.org/gateway-to-freedom     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico lodging available.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back from a place that is difficult to pronounce. They give an update on the new website and its local benefits.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to returning guest Chris Bruno. Chris is the 2025 Samson Summit speaker. Discussions include masculine vision, purpose, intention, and design. How avoiding discussing sex and sexuality limits your understanding of God. They also discuss three layers of contempt that Adam and Even experienced. And all your New Mexico Samson Summit questions answered, there’s still time to sign up.Links: Chris Bruno Restoration Project Restore CounselingNov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatIf you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   chrisbruno.org Chris Bruno Chris Bruno is a storywork sage for the masculine soul. Author, business owner, counselor, trainer, and non-profit founder, Chris is a trustworthy voice in the realm of story. (67 kB) https://www.chrisbruno.org/     restorationproject.net Restoration Project A nationwide community of men focused on healing their wounds, knowing God, and bringing their restorative presence to their world. Fathers, Brothers, Sons.     restory.life ReStory Counseling Restory Counseling specializes in Trauma Informed Counseling in Fort Collins, Colorado and telehealth. Specializing in storywork, play therapy, addictions, marriage, counseling intensives and more.     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico. Lodging options available.     Samson House Store Wild & Sacred Journey — Samson House Store Join us during the Samson Summit on November 7-9, 2025, for The Wild and Sacred Journey , a transformative weekend retreat designed exclusively for women to reconnect with the wild, playful, and sacred aspects of themselves. This experience weaves together moments of creative expression and deep reflection.