3941: How to Stop Using Excuses and Make Conscious Choices Instead by Ellen Burgan of If It Brings You Joy

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3942: Benjamin Hardy reflects on a simple moment when he chose to help a struggling college student walking alone on a dark road. His story highlights how small, compassionate actions, offering a ride, a few words of encouragement, or simply noticing someone, can have a lasting impact on another person’s life. The piece reminds us that meaningful change often begins with small choices to care and listen. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://medium.com/@benjaminhardy/you-can-do-more-good-than-you-think-6b1cda5547f0 Quotes to ponder: "These small seemingly insignificant opportunities are everywhere around us." "Never let a goal to be accomplished become more important than a person to be loved." "You don't have to be a guru to care about someone. All you have to do is truly care to listen and to love." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3941: Ellen Burgan challenges the cultural badge of honor around being “busy,” revealing how it often disguises fear-based excuses that keep us stuck. She explains the difference between genuine reasons and emotionally driven excuses, showing how self-awareness and honesty can shift us from avoidance into empowered decision-making. By choosing consciously rather than hiding behind busyness, it becomes possible to reclaim personal power, confidence, and joy. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://ifitbringsyoujoy.com/how-to-stop-using-excuses/ Quotes to ponder: "Excuses take a fact and spin a story (emotion & drama) around it. They feel real yet usually there is regret behind an excuse." "Being busy does not make a person more important than anyone else, and by no means is being BUSY a sure sign of success nor worthiness." "Using 'I’m too busy' as an excuse (or a badge of honor) steals your power, confidence, and joy." Episode references: Fearless Living Institute: https://fearlessliving.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3940: Isaac Morehouse explores how much of everyday life operates through social “games” and narratives, from sports to language to dress codes. Recognizing these systems as games rather than ultimate reality can be freeing, allowing us to participate more skillfully without letting them define our worth or purpose. By playing consciously and keeping sight of deeper truth, we can navigate society with greater joy, flexibility, and fulfillment. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://isaacmorehouse.com/2013/01/22/life-as-a-game/ Quotes to ponder: "Life is full of stories and games. It is not the playing or telling that causes trouble, but when we begin to believe the game is the reality." "Games and stories help us make sense of the world, form relationships, predict causality, and move closer to our goals." "Don’t despise or run away from the games, but don’t forget that they’re just games! Play them, enjoy them, master them, fail at them, laugh at them, love them." Episode references: Any Given Sunday: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0146838/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3939: Chalene Johnson redefines success by shifting the focus from chasing material milestones to prioritizing the feelings that truly create happiness, offering a powerful framework for setting goals with intention and freedom of choice. She pairs this mindset with practical time management strategies, like identifying “destination procrastination,” prioritizing your top three tasks, and building accountability, to help you stay focused on what truly matters. Together, these insights create a clear, actionable path toward greater productivity, balance, and lasting fulfillment. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.chalenejohnson.com/a-new-approach-to-goal-setting/  &  https://www.chalenejohnson.com/why-is-time-management-so-important/ Quotes to ponder: "Destination procrastination is anything you do or 'go to' that feels productive but really isn’t." "If you want to get better at time management, to-do lists are a must." "The best approach to to-do lists in my opinion, is to write out your top 3 tasks of the day and then follow up with 3-5 secondary tasks you’d like to accomplish." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3938: Krista O’Reilly Davi-Dagui reflects on a lifetime of bold, imperfect decisions and the unexpected beauty that comes from embracing risk. Drawing inspiration from Ms. Frizzle’s famous motto, she invites us to see our mistakes and messes not as failures but as essential threads in a meaningful life. Listen in to rediscover the courage to loosen your grip, live with intention, and step fully into the unknown. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/take-chances-make-mistakes-get-messy/ Quotes to ponder: "Sometimes what appears completely illogical to the natural eye is actually a crazy, beautiful, life-raft to those with eyes to see." "I believe that each of your mistakes and heartaches and all your imperfection and messiness is part of a beautiful tapestry and that instead of making you a failure it is simply part of your journey." "We loosen our grip and take chances, make mistakes, get messy." Episode references: The Magic School Bus (TV Series): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Magic_School_Bus Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3937: Tamsen Firestone explores how a deeply ingrained negative self-image can quietly sabotage intimacy, causing us to reject the very love we crave. She reveals how early family dynamics shape a critical inner voice that keeps us loyal to a painful identity, even when a partner sees us more positively. By challenging this inner narrative and embracing a more accurate sense of self, we open the door to deeper connection and lasting love. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.psychalive.org/is-my-self-hatred-getting-in-the-way-of-love/ Quotes to ponder: "When we first fall in love, we have a positive response to feeling understood and valued by someone who matters to us." "Once our negative identity is formed, we go on to elaborate on it and behave accordingly, thereby constantly reinforcing it." "It is a sad fact that we react against love because it contradicts our negative beliefs about ourselves." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3936: Tynan reflects on what it truly feels like to live in near-constant motion, building “half homes” across the globe while giving up the stability of a single permanent base. He unpacks the emotional trade-offs of global connectedness, fragile dating momentum, blurred seasons, and the way perpetual travel reshapes work and identity. His perspective offers rare clarity for anyone wondering whether a nomadic life expands your world, or quietly fragments it. Read along with the original article(s) here: http://tynan.com/alwaystraveling Quotes to ponder: "While I definitely miss out on a certain depth in relationships afforded by living in constant proximity, I gain depth from sharing unique experiences around the world with them." "This lifestyle now feels totally normal to me, so I thought it might be interesting to share what it feels like to live such a life, both good and bad." "Maybe the best part of moving around constantly is that I have a “presence” in different cities around the world." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3935: Jay and Heather Harrington explore why obstacles feel more prominent than advantages, drawing on research from Professors Tom Gilovich and Shari Davidai to explain the psychological bias behind this imbalance. They reveal how this tendency fuels resentment and diminishes gratitude, while offering practical strategies to intentionally cultivate a more appreciative mindset. Their insights provide a powerful framework for shifting perspective and experiencing greater happiness, health, and success. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.lifeandwhim.com/first-moments-blog/lifes-headwinds-and-tailwinds Quotes to ponder: "I think the big takeaway from all of this is that, like most good things in life, gratitude doesn’t come easy. Feelings of gratitude are not instinctual or automatic, they must be cultivated." "Feelings of gratitude are not instinctual or automatic, they must be cultivated." "Numerous studies have shown that feeling more grateful about one’s circumstances leads to a multitude of benefits, including more happiness, more friends, better health, and career success, to name a few." Episode references: Freakonomics Radio: https://freakonomics.com/podcast/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3934: Kristen Manieri reimagines gratitude as a shared, tangible act by committing to write 365 handwritten thank you notes in one year. Through this simple but powerful practice, she discovers deeper connection, heightened awareness, and a more meaningful way to acknowledge the people who shape her daily life. Her experience invites us to move gratitude off the page of a private journal and into the hands of others, where its impact multiplies. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/stop-creating-gratitude-lists-and-do-this-instead/ Quotes to ponder: "The act of writing a thank you note is so different from typing an email or tapping in a text. It’s slower, more thoughtful, and more heartfelt." "No act is ever too small to deserve acknowledgment." "This project taught me to notice that every single day we are touched by the people we interact with if we allow ourselves to be." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3933: Courtney Carver explores the space between feeling inspired and actually taking action, revealing how easily distractions and self-doubt can trap us in the “inspiration gap.” She shares gentle, practical ways to close that gap, by taking one tiny step the moment inspiration strikes. Listen to discover how small, consistent actions can transform fleeting motivation into meaningful, lasting change. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://bemorewithless.com/inspiration-gap/ Quotes to ponder: "One tiny step is all it takes." "Big change comes from hundreds of tiny steps and they all matter." "Sometimes we have to be inspired by the same idea for years before it sticks." Episode references: Your Money or Your Life: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Money-Life-Transforming-Relationship/dp/0143115766 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices