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Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3899: Anthony Ongaro challenges the rigid definitions of minimalism by framing it as a deeply personal, evolving tool for clarity and fulfillment. By embracing experimentation, failure, and mindful reduction of both physical and mental clutter, he shows how minimalism can help align our lives with what truly matters. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.breakthetwitch.com/real-minimalist/ Quotes to ponder: "A lot of people try to create artificial rankings in areas of life that do not need them." "Failure is how we learn in life." "In the end, the only thing that will matter is whether we lived the life we wanted to live." Episode references: 100 Thing Challenge: https://zenhabits.net/minimalist-fun-the-100-things-challenge/ The Minimalist Game: https://www.theminimalists.com/game/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3898: Jay and Heather Harrington explore how embracing life's inevitable limitations is key to unlocking its deeper promise. Drawing on Viktor Frankl's Holocaust survival and philosophical insights, they show how meaning, growth, and happiness are not found in avoiding struggle, but in confronting it with intention and purpose. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.lifeandwhim.com/first-moments-blog/embrace-lifes-limitations Quotes to ponder: “To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.” "If we define ourselves by what we have, and not by who we are and what we do, then we become trapped by our limitations, not set free by them." “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Episode references: Man’s Search for Meaning: https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/0807014273 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3897: Dan Buettner shares timeless kitchen wisdom from the world’s longest-living communities, revealing how simple, affordable meals made with beans, greens, whole grains, and herbs support both longevity and vitality. By focusing on plant-based ingredients, mindful mealtime habits, and time-tested cooking techniques, Buettner shows how living to 100 can start right in your own kitchen. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.bluezones.com/2023/01/cooking-tips-for-eating-to-100/ Quotes to ponder: "People who’ve grown up eating the foods of their ancestors aren’t looking to trade them in for packaged junk." "Cruciferous vegetables like broccoli, cabbage, and cauliflower have been known to help protect the heart, stave off cancer, and lower oxidative stress." "Nuts, beans, and grains are a much healthier source of protein than meat or eggs, they’re also high in fiber and complex carbohydrates." Episode references: The Blue Zones Kitchen: https://www.amazon.com/Blue-Zones-Kitchen-Hundred-Recipes/dp/1426220138 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3896: David Cain reveals how our desires, though fleeting and often irrational, quietly shape our choices and quality of life. By learning to recognize their temporary nature and the discomfort they bring, we can free ourselves from impulsive decisions and build healthier habits grounded in awareness. Read along with the original article(s) here: http://www.raptitude.com/217/7/three-things-we-all-need-to-know-about-desire/ Quotes to ponder: "Desires begin vanishing as soon as they arrive, yet our responses to them can have far reaching consequences." "You’ve experienced millions of desires and there will be millions more." "If you pay attention to wanting itself, it’s a tense, breath-shortening feeling, one that makes the present moment a lot less tolerable." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3895: Courtney Carver shares ten thoughtful strategies to help you say no with clarity and confidence, freeing up time and energy for what truly matters to you. Her compassionate guidance empowers you to protect your well-being, set boundaries without guilt, and reclaim joy through intentional choices. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://bemorewithless.com/no/ Quotes to ponder: "No thank you. I appreciate you thinking of me, but I have another commitment." "Feel joy that you have a choice, and joy because you are protecting what matters most." "Saying yes to less is the way out." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3894: Tyler Tervooren explores how the Law of Equal Effort can help you build endurance in business, relationships, and life without burning out. By adjusting your output to match the terrain, whether you're climbing a hill or cruising downhill, you can sustain progress and avoid the trap of overexerting when it matters least. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.riskology.co/equal-effort-theory/ Quotes to ponder: "When it’s early on and everyone’s sprinting, hold yourself back and conserve energy. Near the end, deploy that energy while the people around you are slowing down." "You end up in a cycle where you’re working too hard when you should be slowing down and slacking off when you should be pushing harder." "If you carefully nurture things back to a good place, you can make tremendous progress during the happy times." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3893: Tyler Tervooren introduces the Law of Equal Effort, a simple yet powerful mindset shift for tackling ambitious goals without burning out. By maintaining a consistent, sustainable level of effort, especially when conditions make it easy to overdo or underperform, you stay resilient and actually finish what you start, whether it’s a marathon, a business, or a relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.riskology.co/equal-effort-theory/ Quotes to ponder: "Regardless what life throws at you, put in the same effort." "If you go too fast, you risk burning out." "Whatever you’re working on, a marathon, a business, a relationship, or anything else that takes time, knowing the pace you can maintain will help you make the best choices to get what you want in the time you want it." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3892: Allison Carmen reflects on the powerful final words of journalist Steven Sotloff, using them as a call to live each day with deeper presence and gratitude. Through personal reflection and heartfelt conversation, she explores how adopting a practice of gratitude can help us reconnect with what matters most and find strength in the face of fear, grief, and uncertainty. Read along with the original article(s) here: http://www.allisoncarmen.com/living-life-to-the-fullest/ Quotes to ponder: "Everyone has two lives. A second one begins when you realize you only have one. Hug each other every day. Please know I am OK. Live your lives to the fullest and pray to be happy." "It is just a matter of allowing our gratitude to grant us perspective on what is important and what we do have." "With gratitude we change our hyper-focus on the things that are bothering us and we expand to see the entire vista of our lives." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3891: Shawna Scafe explores the deeper meaning of hygge, a Danish cultural concept rooted in comfort, connection, and presence, and contrasts it with the more utilitarian philosophy of minimalism. By examining how each approach shapes the way we live, gather, and value our belongings, she highlights how hygge invites us to find joy in the simple, shared moments of everyday life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://simpleonpurpose.ca/hygge-vs-minimalism/ Quotes to ponder: "Hygge is the invitation to gather, the beauty of the simple things, the heart of conversation, the details of hospitality." "Hygge has a priority to set time aside for simply being with one another in a relaxed setting." “The pleasure is found in living hygge, not curating it, in the experience of the journey, not owning the map.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3890: Nir Eyal challenges the popular belief that willpower is a limited resource and reveals how this mindset can sabotage our ability to stay disciplined. Backed by research from Carol Dweck and Michael Inzlicht, the article reframes willpower as an emotion that fluctuates and can be managed, not something we "run out" of. Shifting this perspective can help us build resilience, make better decisions, and stop using "lack of willpower" as an excuse to quit. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.nirandfar.com/about-willpower/ Quotes to ponder: "Believing we do [run out of willpower] makes us less likely to accomplish our goals, by providing a rationale to quit when we could otherwise persist." "Ego-depletion is essentially caused by self-defeating thoughts and not by any biological limitation." "Rather than telling ourselves we failed because we're somehow deficient, we should offer self-compassion by speaking to ourselves with kindness when we experience setbacks." Episode references: Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs: https://www.jsad.com Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences: https://www.pnas.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices