103: Men's Mental Health with Dr. Audra Horney

In this episode, Sam sits down with psychologist Dr. Audra Horney to talk about what therapists — and the internet — are getting wrong about men right now.In conversation, we tackle: The uncomfortable backlash to talking about the “male loneliness epidemic” — and why dismissing it only pushes men further underground The therapy mistake that turns a lot of men off immediately: endless validation with zero tangible direction What women often misunderstand about the emotional landscape men are navigating right now How algorithms quietly funnel lonely, frustrated men toward increasingly extreme content The balance men in therapy actually need: validation and accountability Dr. Audra Horney is a licensed psychologist based in Phoenix, Arizona who specializes in working with men. She shares insights about men’s mental health, relationships, and emotional development online and in her private practice. Follow her on social media @dr.audra.horneyIf you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected]. We’d love to hear what you think!

For years, women have been told that success comes down to confidence: negotiate your salary, advocate for yourself, and lean in. But what happens when women follow that advice—and still face backlash?In this episode, Amanda sits down with writer and researcher Stefanie O’Connell to unpack the research behind what she calls the “ambition penalty.” We discuss: Why women negotiate salaries just as often as men—but are more likely to face backlash for it How cultural expectations about gender shape workplace outcomes The difference between personal failure and structural barriers How the “lean in” narrative oversimplifies the challenges women face The gap between the girl-power messaging many millennials grew up with and their current reality How motherhood and midlife can intensify these structural pressures Why understanding the data can help women stop blaming themselves You can follow Stefanie on Instagram @stefanieoconnell. Find more of her work on Substack at https://tooambitious.substack.com/. You can also pre-order her book "The Ambition Penalty" on her website here: https://tooambitious.com/book/.If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected]. We’d love to hear what you think!

We're doing something different this week: we went through our giant list of listener questions and topic suggestions and gave our top-of-the-dome thoughts on a bunch of them. - Are headphones making our anxiety worse? - Critical thinking: why we've gotten really good at arguing with other people's opinions but terrible at challenging our own- Why we confuse certainty with intelligence- How to find deep friendships when most people only want surface-level hangs- Sam's take on the New York Magazine article about Mormons infiltrating pop culture- The problem with Secret Lives of Mormon Wives skating past the real issuesIf you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected] or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

Did America’s Next Top Model actually empower women or did it just package trauma, body shame, and misogyny as inspiration?In conversation, we tackle: Why America’s Next Top Model was the perfect storm of early 2000s body culture, internalized misogyny, and reality TV cruelty Trauma as casting criteria: plucking girls with the hardest backgrounds, weaponizing their stories, and calling it opportunity The makeover episodes from hell — shaving teeth for veneers, forcing Black contestants to chemically straighten their hair, widening one girl’s gap after closing another’s Race-swapping, headdresses, coffin shoots right after someone lost a loved one — and calling all of it “preparing them for the industry” Why framing yourself as a mentor makes this infinitely worse than just being a cutthroat competition show The politician-level therapy speak at the end (“we all need to do better”) with zero actual accountability If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected]. We’d love to hear what you think!

In this episode of Nuance Needed, host Amanda White is joined by therapist and bestselling author Nedra Tawwab. In conversation they discuss: The gray areas of relationships — where boundaries, connection, and emotional maturity meet. Why so many people are feeling lonelier despite having more “mental health language” than ever before.  How rigid boundaries, misused therapy terms, and avoidance of hard conversations can quietly damage our relationships. Friendship expectations, changing seasons of connection, trauma dumping vs. healthy sharing, and why learning to tolerate discomfort is key to deeper, more sustainable relationships. Nedra Tawwab is a licensed therapist and New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace and her new book, The Balancing Act. You can find Nedra on social media @nedratawwab.If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected]. We’d love to hear what you think!

In this episode, we're unpacking why everything from nail polish to dating behavior now needs its own branded term and how that's making us more paranoid and less equipped to handle real life. This episode is quite a wild ride... we start out by talking about beauty trends, how online culture is making us paranoid, and then unpack our feelings about current events, specifically the Epstein files. We don't go into details about it but discuss how we are sitting with it, the misoginy, and our anger. We round out the episode by Amanda reading to Sam the most ridiculous internet dating terms and Sam sharing her unpopular opinions. As always, we don't have answers here, but we have ideas and hope to keep you company and model that you can feel horror and still laugh about jelly milk nails. If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected]. We’d love to hear what you think!

It seems like everyone on the internet is obsessed with the idea that we are over-therapized! We decided to dig in on this topic while also exploring the difference between intellectualizing, ruminating and processing. In conversation, we discuss: The misconception that intellectualizing IS therapy (when it's actually a defense mechanism) How the fire hose of self-help content can make us hyper-fixated on what's wrong with us The signs you're intellectualizing How you can honor the full breadth of your feelings while still showing up for what matters The trap of self-awareness without action: understanding your patterns but never changing them Amanda's story: teaching her daughter to do hard things (even when she's scared) and realizing she needs to take her own advice Sam's story: moving to a new city, being tired from actually living, and realizing her quiet life was just safe, not full How energy spent trying to control everything robs you of actually living Big thanks to our sponsor Cozy Earth! Use code NUANCE for 20% off your order!If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected] or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

Is “excellence” just another word for hustle culture nonsense now?In this episode, Amanda sits down with Brad Stulberg to reclaim effort, care, and ambition from the internet grifters who ruined them. Why “excellence” got hijacked by 4am cold plunges, supplement stacks, and performative grind The epidemic of nonchalance  and why “not caring” is often just fear in a cooler outfit Why consistency beats intensity every time  The difference between real growth and the performance of hard work on social media The arrival fallacy: why hitting the goal so often feels emptier than you expect Why fierce self-discipline requires fierce self-kindness Brad Stulberg is a writer and author whose work explores sustainable success, mental health, and what it actually means to live in alignment with your values. You can find him on Instagram and Substack @bradstulberg, and The Way of Excellence is available wherever books are sold.If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected]. We’d love to hear what you think!

When the political landscape feels chaotic, exhausting, and impossible to control, staying grounded is very important. This episode is a real-time case for why routines, not reinvention, are what actually help people stay regulated right now.In conversation, we tackle: Why routines matter more than hobbies when your nervous system is already fried The myth that self-care has to be impressive, aesthetic, or time-consuming to “count” How having one predictable touchpoint can ground you when everything else feels out of control The overlooked mental health power of making your bed (yes, really) Why being a leader in your own life hits different than constantly reacting to what’s happening to you Please note, we recorded this before the weekend. If you want to hear the extended conversation—including Sam diagnosing Amanda’s “hobby problem” and several off-the-rails existential detours—join us on Substack at nuanceneeded.substack.com.If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected]. We’d love to hear what you think!

Why do celebrations surrounding weddings bring out so much stress, pressure, and weird tension in friendships? Today we’re talking about bridal showers, bachelorettes, weddings, and how these milestones quietly become overwhelming for everyone involved.In conversation, we cover: How weddings shifted from celebrations into multi-event marathons The role social media plays in raising expectations around “perfect” moments Why bridesmaids often feel stretched thin — financially, emotionally, and logistically The friendship strain that shows up when expectations aren’t clearly communicated What weddings reveal about boundaries, loyalty, and showing up for each other How to approach these events with more honesty, flexibility, and care for everyone involved If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.Want to join the conversation? You can email us [email protected]. We’d love to hear what you think!