Is It Them or Me? Separating My Avoidant Fears With Randy Hamama (Client Stories)

In this episode, I explore the difference between commitment and compatibility, sharing my personal experience navigating these challenges in a past relationship. I also discuss how to recognize the distinction, helping you better assess whether you’re in the right relationship.Learn about attachment coaching with me here.

Today on the podcast, I'm joined by dating coach Sabrina Zohar—best known for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. She brings a no-nonsense, straightforward approach to relationship advice.In this episode, we discuss: Sabrina’s journey from anxious to secure attachment. The reality of managing anxiety—it doesn’t just disappear. The power of nervous system regulation for those with anxious attachment. How to spot emotional unavailability in dating. Low-effort vs. high-effort behaviors in dating & relationships. Key qualities to look for in a secure partnership.Tune in for insightful and actionable advice on building healthier relationships!Contact Sabrina Zohar:www.sabrinazohar.comInstagram: @thesabrinazoharshowPodcast: The Sabrina Zohar ShowTikTok: Sabrina.zoharYoutube: Sabrina ZoharWork With Jessica:1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica HEREMy Secure Self E-Course (Self-Study)Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

Today on the podcast we have Melina Charis. She is a writer and mentor for women moving through grief and heartbreak. She has 10+ years experience with ceremonial + somatic healing practices and 6+ years experience holding space for others, but her greatest teachers by far have been motherhood, death, grief and life itself.We cover:Grieving breakups, death, identity shifts, and more.How unprocessed grief manifests in daily life.The ways grief can resurface years later.Understanding that grief is an ongoing process.What it truly means to process grief.Different healing approaches and ways to move through grief.*Find Melina’s offerings at melinacharis.com and read her writing at [/14b27051b990809ab0a4e21d62ab80a3?pvs=25]melinacharis.substack.com.*Learn about attachment Coaching with JessicaHERE.

If you've been following my breakup journey, I wanted to share an update on my healing process now that it's been 1 year. My hope is that this gives you insight into the grief cycle, the messiness of healing, and reassurance that things do get better.Work With Me : Attachment Coaching - ⁠CLICK HERE⁠Previous recorded break-up updates:- Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure Lens)- Recovering From Heartbreak - (Through a Secure Lens) Almost 6 Month Update-To Stay or Breakup - Leaving My Relationship of 6 Years

In today’s episode, former client and dismissive avoidant attacher Randy Hamama shares his journey of navigating insecurities in a new relationship. He discusses common avoidant struggles, such as discerning fears from authentic desires, staying present when the urge to withdraw arises, identifying what makes a partner feel safe for avoidants, and understanding when it’s worth staying with an avoidant partner or when it’s time to walk away. Whether you have an avoidant attachment style or are in a relationship with someone who does, this conversation offers valuable insights and practical takeaways. Learn about attachment coaching with Jessica here.

Today on the podcast, Vanessa Scaringi, PhD, CEDS-C, a licensed psychologist and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, and Kathryn Garland, LCSW-S, CEDS-C, a clinical social worker and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, discuss: How attachment styles influence our relationship with our body and eating habits How different attachment styles may experience eating disorders The impact of early relational experiences on eating behaviors Tools to heal and rebuild a positive relationship with your body And so much more! Vanessa and both co-own a group practice Calm Counseling in Austin Texas that specializes in the treatment of disordered eating and body image issues.  Contact Vanessa and Kathryn: www.keepcalmtx.com Instagram: @calmcounselingatx Work with Jessica: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilvacoaching

In today's episode, the wonderful Hannah Flynn, a former client of mine, shares her journey of navigating her avoidant attachment style, overcoming deception and heartbreak, and ultimately finding healthy, secure love. We discuss: The challenges of communication with an avoidant attachment style. The importance of addressing conflict rather than avoiding it to maintain peace. The pain of being deceived in a trusted relationship. Learning your relationship needs and desires through trial and error. The journey to finding love again. Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

I had a revelation recently with a big life change. I noticed similar insecure ways of thinking and feeling surface that resembled how I used to feel in unhealthy relationship dynamics. The goal with this episode is to help you reflect on how you may be "insecurely attaching" to things outside of your relationships, such as your home, belongings, items, routines, goals, dreams, by highlighting similar attachment patterns that could be harming you rather than helping you. Most importantly, how to shift your approach! ATTACHMENT COACHING WITH ME: Book a free clarity call here. www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com [email protected]

Today on the podcast we have Chris Rackliffe, also known as @crackliffe. He is a trauma healer, mental health advocate, anxious attachment style coach, and author of the new self-help book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment—available exclusively on Amazon beginning November 19, 2024. Chris has worked with countless clients across five continents to help them heal their anxious attachment style and grow more secure, sharing everything he’s learned on his own healing journey—from how to integrate trauma and regulate the nervous system, to how to effectively communicate and set boundaries. With a B.S. in Psychology from the University of Miami—and an honorary Ph.D. in the “School of Life”—Chris has made it his sole purpose to help others find peace, perspective, purpose, and power through their trauma. We discuss: -Why it's important to know your needs for relationship health and satisfaction. -How to identify and meet your needs. -How to measure if your needs are being met within your relationship. -Creating a balanced approach of give and take. -When to stay or leave your relationship. Contact and work with Chris: Check his my website and TikTok! Get your copy of his first book, It's Good to See Me Again, on Amazon now. Contact and work with Jessica: 10 Week Attachment Coaching Instagram: @thejessicadasilva [email protected]

Today on the podcast we have Lisa May Francisco who is a first-generation Filipino women’s empowerment coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, EFT practitioner, and host of the Sacred Femme Alchemy podcast. She leads women to bust through their emotional blocks, reclaim unshakable self-worth, and unleash their wild, authentic selves through potent spiritual coaching and transformative practices. We talk about:-The benefits of using somatic techniques to address our attachment challenges.-A guided EFT session for anxiety.-Retraining our nervous system for secure attachment.CONTACT LISA: Free 45-min EFT coaching session - https://calendly.com/sacredfemmealchemy/free-eft-sessionSacred Femme Alchemy PodcastInstagram: @sacredfemmealchemyWork with Lisa CONTACT JESSICA:1-1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2Instagram: @thejessicadasilva