How to Let Go of a Grudge (and Set Yourself Free)

In times of crisis or challenge, it’s natural to feel a certain amount of stress.But we often make things harder by focusing on everything we can’t control: what others are doing, what might happen next, or what’s already happened and can’t be changed. The more we focus on what’s outside of our control, the more helpless, frustrated, and reactive we become.But when we shift our attention to what is within our control we begin to reclaim our power.In this episode, I’ll guide you through two simple steps to move from reactivity to empowerment.You’ll learn how to centre yourself, clarify what’s truly within your control, and take calm, purposeful, effective action even when life feels chaotic.This practice helps you meet life’s challenges with more steadiness, wisdom, and strength.Over time, it trains your mind to stay focused on what matters most, and to act from presence instead of fear.Resources & Links:Free guided meditations to support your practice: https://melliobrien.com/free-meditations/My book Deep Resilience: A four-step framework for unshakable calm and wisdom: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/

How to Let Go of a Grudge (and Set Yourself Free)We’ve all felt hurt by someone else’s words or actions, and sometimes that pain lingers long after the moment has passed.When we hold on to resentment, it weighs us down, fuels stress, and closes our hearts. In this episode, I share a gentle, three-step practice for letting go of a grudge and setting yourself free.You’ll learn how to see the situation with objectivity and understanding, hold healthy boundaries, make space for imperfection, and choose forgiveness — not to excuse what happened, but to release the heaviness you’ve been carrying.Because when we learn to meet hurt and resentment with awareness and skill, it doesn’t break us, it awakens us.Resources & Links:Free guided meditations to support your practice: https://melliobrien.com/free-meditations/My book Deep Resilience — a four-step framework for unshakable calm and wisdom: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/

Drop One BurdenMost of us carry around far more mental baggage than we need to.Old resentments. Grievances. Self-judgment. Worries that loop endlessly.These mental burdens weigh us down. They steal our energy, fuel stress and negativity, and keep us from feeling the freedom and peace that are already here.In this episode, I share a simple but powerful practice: drop one burden.We’ll look at how to notice the mental baggage you’ve been carrying, how to discern what’s useful from what’s just rumination, and how to set down what no longer serves you.Even dropping just one burden can create a surprising sense of ease and lightness. And over time, this practice opens up more space for peace, joy, and wholeness in your daily life.Resources & Links:Free guided meditations to support your practice: https://melliobrien.com/free-meditations/My book Deep Resilience — a four-step framework for unshakable calm and wisdom: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/

The Four Steps to a Paradigm ShiftHave you ever noticed how much your beliefs shape the way you experience the world? Those beliefs form our paradigms. And when a paradigm is unhelpful. When it keeps us stuck in stress, cynicism, or old habits — it quietly limits how we live. The good news is: we can shift them.In this episode, I’ll share a simple four-step process for creating a paradigm shift. You’ll learn how to:Recognise the beliefs that are holding you back.Question them with openness and curiosity.Try on more empowering, life-giving perspectives.Practice them until they become second nature.These small steps can lead to profound changes — not just in how you see the world, but in how you show up in it.Resources & Links🌿 Free guided meditations to support your practice: https://melliobrien.com/free-meditations/📖 My book Deep Resilience — a four-step framework for unshakable strength and wisdom: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/

Love Back BiggerIt’s easy to be kind when others treat us kindly. The real test is when someone hurts, disappoints, or lets us down. In those moments, our instinct is often to lash out, blame, or retaliate — and before we know it, we’re caught in cycles of hostility that leave us depleted.In this episode, I invite you to practice what I call loving back bigger. It doesn’t mean being a pushover. Sometimes we absolutely need to set boundaries, speak up, or stand our ground. But it does mean learning how to do those things without losing ourselves in reactivity, resentment, or hatred.Together, we’ll explore how to:Remember the shared humanity in those who hurt us.Release blame and reactivity, even when it feels justified.Stay true to your own values instead of being dragged down into the behaviour of others.Even the smallest steps toward loving back bigger can restore your own peace of mind and free you from cycles of anger.Resources & LinksFree guided meditations to support your practice: https://melliobrien.com/free-meditations/ My book Deep Resilience — a four-step framework for unshakable inner strength: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/

The 5 Habits for Inner PeaceLife is full of ups and downs. Moments of joy, moments of struggle, moments of everything in between. We can’t always control what happens, but we can learn to meet it all from a deeper place of steadiness and calm.In this episode, I share five simple yet powerful habits for cultivating inner peace. From meditation to everyday mindfulness practices, each one helps us return to presence, release resistance, and reconnect with the wholeness that’s always within us.These are not complicated techniques. They’re small shifts. Things you can begin today that, over time, weave more peace, wisdom, and fullfillment into the fabric of your life.You’ll also hear a story of a Zen master whose mantra points us to a radical kind of acceptance, one that transforms how we relate to life itself.Resources & LinksFree guided meditations and a 10-day mindfulness course to support your practice: https://melliobrien.com/free-meditations/

What Is Wisdom? (And Why It Matters Now More Than Ever) David Attenborough recently said: ‘If human beings are to survive, we’ll need more than just intelligence. We’ll need wisdom.’But what is wisdom exactly? And how do we bring wisdom into our everyday lives?In this episode, we’ll explore together:A clear and practical way of understanding what wisdom actually is (and what it isn’t)How wisdom helps us move beyond stress, fear, and survival patterns into greater calm, clarity, and connection'The Seven Strengths of the Deep Self' and how they can guide your life.Three simple ways you can begin cultivating wisdom todayThis isn’t about abstract philosophy. It’s about rediscovering a deeper intelligence that’s already within you, and learning how to live from it, for your own peace, your relationships, and even for the wellbeing of the planet.Resources & LinksMy book Deep Resilience — a four step framework for unshakable strength and wisdom: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/ 🎧 Free guided meditations to help you connect with your deeper self and start cultivating wisdom today: https://melliobrien.com/free-meditations/ Next EpisodeIn the next episode, I’ll share some simple ways to weave mindfulness into daily life, so you can return to presence again and again — and let wisdom flow through you.

The Main Way People Get Stuck in Personal Growth (and How to Move Forward)Ever tried to change a painful pattern — like anxiety, self-doubt, or stress — only to find yourself looping back again and again?In this episode, Melli shares the surprising missing piece that keeps so many people stuck, why our brains naturally resist change, and a simple practice to help you connect with your inner strength so growth feels easier and more sustainable.Try this week’s practice: Anchoring Meditation – To Grow Your Inner Resources Click Here https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-care-package-day2/ This meditation has been a game changer for thousands of people around the world, helping them stabilise in calm, strength, and clarity so change flows more naturally.📖 Learn more in Melli's book Deep Resilience: melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

What Everyone Gets Wrong About Other People (and How to See More Clearly)Have you ever jumped to conclusions about someone—only to later find out you were completely wrong?Our minds are constantly making assumptions about others, often without us even realizing it. And thanks to our brain’s built-in negativity bias, we tend to assume the worst more than the best.In this episode, Melli unpacks the subtle mental habit that leads to so much unnecessary conflict, misunderstanding, and disconnection—and how to shift it.You’ll discover:Why our brains are wired to fill in the blanks (and often get it wrong)The surprising consequences of assumption-based thinkingHow a small shift in perspective can transform your relationshipsA weekly practice to help you stay open, grounded, and connectedThis is a powerful episode for anyone looking to strengthen their relationships and build a more peaceful, mindful way of relating to others—and themselves.🎁 Join the Deep Resilience Experience (starting July 15th!)A 30-day guided course to reset your mind and build lasting inner strength with short daily lessons, transformative meditations, and live coaching support from Melli.🌀 Sign up here: melliobrien.com/30daycourse

The Phrase That Steals Your Power (and What to Say Instead)How often do you catch yourself saying “I can’t”? It might seem small, but this tiny phrase can quietly drain your energy, disconnect you from your values, and leave you feeling powerless.In this episode, Melli shares how shifting your self-talk from “I can’t” to “I choose not to” can be a game changer for your mindset and emotional well-being. This simple language tweak can help you reclaim your agency and act from a place of clarity and purpose.You’ll learn:Why “I can’t” reinforces a subtle sense of helplessnessHow “I choose not to” reconnects you with your values and powerHow to use this practice to uncover limiting beliefs and step into wiser choicesThis is a powerful mindset tool for anyone ready to break free from mental loops and start living with more intention.🧠 Feeling stuck in unhelpful mental patterns?Join The Deep Resilience Experience — a 30-day guided reset to help you reclaim your inner strength. Just 15 minutes a day of micro-lessons, evidence-based practices, and transformative meditations to rewire your mind in deep and lasting ways.Starts July 15th. Early bird bonuses end June 30th.👉 melliobrien.com/30daycourse