RELATIONSHIP REHAB: The 5 rules that transformed our relationship

In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox and Rich dive into the real work of building healthy, long-lasting love — the kind nobody taught us how to do. Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or just exhausted from repeating the same patterns, this episode breaks down the 5 essential rules that transformed their relationship (and could transform yours too). You'll learn: Don’t use extreme communication — how silent treatment or shouting damages safety. Respect your partner’s nervous system — why their reactions aren’t always about you. Remember your childhoods — how the past shows up in your present. Stay connected — why little moments of intimacy matter. Celebrate the ordinary — because healthy love is built in the boring bits. This is your no-BS guide to unlearning toxic patterns, healing your attachment style, and finding love that actually lasts.

Why does everything feel so hard? In this painfully honest episode, Rox and Rich unpack the everyday struggles of “being a grown-up” with ADHD—from brushing your teeth to answering emails to keeping your house from turning into chaos. They talk about the crushing shame of falling behind on life admin, the emotional toll of forgetting simple things, and the silent pressure of pretending you’ve got it all together. Rox shares what it’s like to feel like a bad adult almost every day, and Rich opens up about how he’s learned to support her without judgment. Together, they explore what’s really behind the meltdown over laundry, the panic over unopened letters, and the guilt that follows every unfinished task. This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt broken by the basics. You’re not lazy, you’re not alone—and there is a way through. Let this be your permission slip to drop the shame and find your own version of functioning.

Arguments don’t have to mean the end. In this raw and relatable episode, Rox and Rich unpack the hidden rules of conflict—especially in neurodivergent relationships where communication styles, emotional regulation, and processing speeds can clash hard. From shutdowns and shouting matches to storming off and saying the wrong thing, they explore how fights happen, why they escalate, and what they’ve learned about surviving them. Rox opens up about her explosive ADHD fight style and the fear that every argument means it’s over. Rich shares his autistic tendency to shut down or withdraw—and how misunderstood that can feel. Together, they reflect on the patterns that nearly broke them, and the tools that helped them break the cycle instead. This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re fighting on loop, stuck in a relationship that’s full of love but littered with landmines. Whether you're the one who yells or the one who hides, FIGHT CLUB will help you feel less alone—and give you hope that repair is possible when you finally learn the rules.

Ever felt like you’re running behind in life—while everyone else is ticking boxes, buying homes, and smashing careers? In this brutally honest episode, Rox and Rich unpack what it really means to be a “late bloomer.” From chaotic finances to relationship disasters and career false starts, they explore the deep shame that can come with feeling like you're years behind your peers—and how ADHD, trauma, and a lack of support often fuel that spiral. Rox opens up about hitting rock bottom in all three areas—money, love, and work—by her mid-thirties. She shares the terrifying debt, the hyperfocus heartbreaks, and the endless job hopping that left her feeling broken and hopeless. But through small steps, vulnerability, and a hell of a lot of therapy, she began to rebuild—and Rich, the bank manager she accidentally fell in love with, helped her see that being “late” doesn’t mean you’re lost. Whether you’re in your twenties, thirties, or fifties, this episode is a love letter to anyone who feels behind. It’s not too late to start again. It’s not too late to change your story. And it’s definitely not too late to create a life that finally fits. This one’s for the screwups, the slow starters, and the quietly resilient. You’re right on time.

Self-care is everywhere. From matcha lattes and five-step skincare routines to cold plunges and pastel journals, the internet is overflowing with advice on how to look after yourself. But here’s the problem…most of it doesn’t work for people like us. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox and Rich pull the curtain back on the performance of self-care and ask the big question: what does it actually look like when you're neurodivergent, overwhelmed, and barely keeping up with life? We talk honestly about our own struggles — including Rich’s emotional pizza binges and Rox’s battle with cleaning her teeth — and unpack why so many self-care trends set us up to fail. We explore how “care” became something we perform for the internet, why aesthetics can be damaging, and how toxic productivity has snuck into even our bubble baths. This is not an episode about doing more. It’s about doing less — with kindness. It's about brushing your teeth, sending the email, and drinking some bloody water. If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at self-care, we want you to know: you’re not alone, and there is a better way.

What if the things you’re most ashamed of — the things you swore you’d never tell anyone — are the very things holding you back? In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox open up the “shame files” and share the moments they’ve buried for years: the gambling, the stealing, the lying, the drinking, the secrets, the things they hoped no one would ever find out. Together, they unpack how shame shapes our identities, how we carry guilt that was never ours to begin with, and how hiding the truth keeps us sick, small, and disconnected. From addiction and childhood trauma to money meltdowns and compulsive people-pleasing, this is a raw and honest look at what happens when we finally say it out loud. If you’ve ever thought, “If they knew the real me, they’d leave,” — this episode is your proof that healing starts with honesty.

“For most of my life, I thought I was just a bad person — lazy, dramatic, messy, and too much”. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox shares the raw truth about being diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood, and how it changed everything. Alongside Rich, she reflects on the years of masking, people-pleasing, addiction, and breakdowns that came from not understanding her own brain. Together, they explore the emotional weight of a late diagnosis — the grief, the relief, the shame, and the transformation. If you've ever asked yourself “Why am I like this?” — if you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at life for reasons you can’t explain — this episode will hit home. Because sometimes, a diagnosis isn’t just a label. It’s a lifeline.

Ever planned a total life overhaul, only to burn out in three days and feel even worse? Yeah, us too. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox get brutally honest about why we chase fantasy fixes—like crash diets, productivity sprints, or becoming a totally new person overnight—and why those plans always fall apart. From ADHD brains addicted to dopamine and all-or-nothing thinking, to trauma-based shame spirals and the lure of a brand new notebook, we unpack the psychology behind self-sabotage. But more importantly, we talk about the antidote: small victories. You’ll hear about money meltdowns, fantasy meal plans, unfinished wardrobes, and why building trust with yourself through micro-changes is the only sustainable way to grow. If you’ve ever thought, “I should have my life together by now”—this one’s for you.

In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive deep into the quiet epidemic of self-hatred. We explore where it really comes from: childhood trauma, rejection, bullying, addiction, neurodivergence, and the survival strategies we learned just to make it through. Whether it's self-sabotage, choosing the wrong people, or never feeling good enough, self-hate often hides in plain sight. We share our own stories—gambling addiction, self-harm, broken relationships, and shame—and the long, messy road toward finally learning to treat ourselves with compassion. If you’ve ever struggled with that voice in your head that says you’re not enough, this is the episode you need. We also break down some practical ways to start changing the script: how to recognise your inner critic, track your self-talk, accept compliments without deflecting, and understand that self-hatred is something you learned—which means it’s something you can unlearn. 

We finally talk about therapy — the good, the bad, and the absolutely brutal. From Rich’s years of avoiding it to Rox’s emotional unravelling in front of multiple therapists, this episode is a brutally honest look at what happens when you actually start doing the work. We share our personal journeys: the mismatched therapists, the awkward silences, the big breakthroughs, and the breakdowns that came with them. If you’ve ever left a session feeling worse, ghosted a therapist, or wondered if therapy even works — this one’s for you. Whether you’re just starting out or deep in the process, we hope this episode helps you feel less alone in the mess of healing.