HEALING HURTS: The hidden heartbreak of leaving your old self behind

In this week’s episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox air out the DIRTY LAUNDRY — literally. From BO and bed sheets to flannel roulette and maggot towels (yes, really), we talk about the messy realities of hygiene and cleaning when you have ADHD. We share our most embarrassing confessions, break down why cleanliness has no moral value, and give you the hacks that actually work — from five-minute cleans to dopamine baths to inviting someone over just to get the house sorted. This is the shame-free conversation we all need: raw, funny, and practical. If you’ve ever struggled to keep on top of laundry, showers, or cleaning routines, this episode will make you feel seen — and maybe even give you a system that sticks.

Being in love with an ADHDer is equal parts chaos, comedy, and connection. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive into The ADHD Partner Survival Guide: 10 strategies for a happier relationship. From time blindness to forgotten anniversaries, we share the hacks that have saved our sanity (and our marriage). Expect raw honesty, plenty of laughter, and a few “oh my god, that’s us” moments along the way. Whether you’re the ADHDer, the long-suffering partner, or both, this episode will help you feel seen — and maybe even a little more hopeful about love in the madness. 20% off Loop Earplugs: https://www.loopearplugs.com/pages/lp-adhdlove

Ever wonder if your brain’s thriving or just surviving? In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox and Rich dive into Nancy McWilliams’ 10 qualities of mental health and grade their own messy minds. From secure attachment to zest for life, nothing’s off limits as they swap stories of Rox’s chaotic boozy uni days and Rich’s deer-in-headlights youth. Their scores? A wild mix of wins and “still growing.” Rox finds safety with Rich but still wrestles with self-esteem, while Rich loves their purpose-driven life but questions his grit when things crumble. Along the way they tackle why ADHDers and neurodivergents often feel “less than,” and how therapy, love, and environment can change the soil you’re planted in. Raw, funny, and painfully relatable, this episode isn’t a perfect checklist—it’s a no-shame checkup. If you’ve ever wondered “Am I actually okay, or just really good at faking it?” this one’s for you. 

Is laziness real, or is it one of the biggest lies told about ADHD? In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox tackle the “lazy lie” head-on. They explore why being called lazy never motivates anyone, and why shame only fuels procrastination, anxiety, and self-doubt instead of getting things done. From homework left to the last minute, uni rooms infested with flies, and dodged coffee duties, they swap hilarious and raw stories that show how “lazy” is almost never the truth. With banter, and brutal honesty, they pull apart the difference between actual laziness (vibing on your phone while someone else makes the coffee) and executive dysfunction: the invisible ADHD struggle that looks like laziness but feels like quicksand. If you’ve ever called yourself lazy, or been crushed under the weight of that label, this episode is for you.

Welcome to LATE BLOOMERS, where Rox and Rich get real about being anti-social butterflies and navigating social life with neurodivergent brains. Rox shares ADHD chaos like double-booking disasters, missing weddings, and the social anxiety that often keeps them home. Rich admits to dodging small talk, pulling Irish Goodbyes, and choosing the dog over most invites unless it’s Green Day. Together they explore the exhaustion of parties that feel like performances, the guilt of cancelling plans, and why home feels like the safest place. If you have ever cheered when plans fell through or left a gathering completely drained, this episode is for you. 20% off Loop Earplugs: https://www.loopearplugs.com/pages/lp-adhdlove

In this honest and unfiltered episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox share the side of healing no one talks about—the part where it feels lonely, awkward, and nothing in your old life fits anymore. Sobriety meant losing friends who only knew them as drinkers. Changing priorities meant some family relationships shifted or ended. Even work and identity had to be rebuilt from scratch. They talk about the grief of outgrowing people you thought would be in your life forever, and how clarity can make old dynamics impossible to return to. But they also share the small wins, the peace, and the self-respect that come with sticking it out. If you’re in the messy middle of getting better, this episode is a reminder that the loneliness won’t last—but the growth will.

Here’s our website for 20% Loop EarPlugs: https://www.loopearplugs.com/pages/lp-adhdlove What even is normal? In this hilarious and heartfelt episode, Rox and Rich dive into the absurd, confusing, and often unspoken rules of neurotypical behaviour. They unpack why some people relax by drinking in loud bars, the strange obsession with small talk, and the exhausting pressure to follow a rigid life roadmap. Rich questions the morality assigned to messiness, and Rox explains why “fitting in” always came at the cost of authenticity. They break down social hierarchies, unspoken rules, and why direct communication often feels like rebellion. If you’ve ever felt like you missed the memo on how to be “normal,” this episode will make you feel seen — and probably make you laugh.

In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive into the messy reality of addiction—far beyond the stereotypes of vodka bottles and rock bottoms. From alcohol and gambling to phone scrolling, comfort eating, and chasing validation, we explore the many ways addiction hides in plain sight. We talk openly about our own experiences with compulsive behaviors, the childhood trauma that fed them, and the shame that kept them alive. We unpack why it’s so hard to stop: the relief it brings, the shame it creates, and the terrifying thought of life without it. We also share what actually helped us heal. From the moment we admitted there was a problem, to the small, brave steps that pulled us out of the cycle—one day at a time. This episode isn’t just about sobriety; it’s about self-understanding, compassion, and change. If you’ve ever wondered, why can’t I stop doing this thing I hate?—this one’s for you.

20% OFF LOOP EARPLUGS HERE: https://www.loopearplugs.com/pages/lp-adhdlove We’ve tried every productivity system out there — and most of them made us feel worse. So in this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox share the ADHD hacks that actually helped. No shame, no pressure — just real strategies that work with your brain, not against it. From “the 300 second rule” to “lesser-of-two-evils,” these are the weird little tricks that finally made a difference in our day-to-day lives. I f you’ve ever felt like a broken human in a productivity-obsessed world, this one’s for you. Expect honesty, laughter, and 8 practical tools to try today.

When we brought Rocket home, we expected healing, routine, and emotional support. What we got was… that, plus pee on the floor, chewed furniture, and a full identity crisis. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox tell the honest story of life with their puppy. From 3 a.m. wake-ups to questioning whether we’d made a huge mistake, we share how Rocket changed our lives in ways we never expected — and how he became the little soul mate we both adore. Whether you're thinking of getting a puppy or just want a laugh at our expense, this is the beautiful, brutal truth of life with Rocket.