24: Standards matter: How husband and wife can unlock their best marriage by raising their standards

This SHOCKED me! Most women seem to prefer "book boyfriends" to real husbands, do you want to know why? The answer is simple...What are your standards when it comes to your relationship? Most couples have a set of standards based on what they have observed in the generation before, or on what is generally accepted, keeping the bar quite low. Doing better than what we may have observed past generations did is a wonderful starting point. It is a great practice to feel appreciative of the efforts your partner makes, and proud of the efforts you make. However, that is just the baseline. There's much more happiness and fulfilment to be unlocked together in your marriage by raising your standards. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.If you enjoyed this episode listen to:Episode 19 The 3 things that will make a wife feel unhappy in her marriageEpisode 18 The 3 lies husbands have been told about married lifeFollow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcast Track 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3. #marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlife

Do you want to know why the fire slowly dies in most marriages? Most couples fall into same-old-same-old routine, caught in the managing of day-to-day responsibilities that come with marriage and family. These are necessary things husband and wife need to tend to, that's true, but the risk is to lose the fire between partners, turning the marriage into what we call mild. However the couples that can access the "wild" energy inside of them keep the flame alive through the years together, unlocking deeper layers of fulfilment in their relationship. In this episode we talk about what is that "wild" that is needed to keep your love alive. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.If you enjoyed this episode listen to:Episode 14 5 relationship hacks to fuel the flame in your marriage this springEpisode 14 YouTubeFollow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcast Track 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3. #marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlife

Do you want to know what is the silent killer of a marriage? It is not lack of love… What slowly kills a marriage is the never-ending list of problem that any couple has to solve each day. This 4-lane motorway of issues big and small is the cause of frustration and arguments that put a wedge between husband and wife on a daily basis. The real issues though are not even the so-called problems but the mindset with which a couple looks at them and goes about finding a solution. Most couples don’t have an effective way to come together and work as a team to find the solutions they need. In this episode we share the mindset that will completely transform your capacity to problem solve together, making the so-called problem another opportunity for strengthening connection.Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.If you enjoyed this episode listen to:Episode 17 The secret to creating a strong relationship in everyday married lifeEpisode 17 YouTube Follow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcast Track 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3. #marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlife

How is the immense amount of stuff you need to get done every day impacting your marriage? How much quality time do you and your partner actually get to spend together? Research shows that most couples spend and average of 3-5 hours together per week, and even that time is mostly taken by practicalities or filled with switching-off time in front of TV to fight exhaustion. To-do lists are part of everyday married life, there’s no escaping them. But there’s a different way to go about making a to-do list that can transform the day from feeling too full and exhausting to doable and fulfilling. And most of all by using this method we share with you in this episode, your to-do list becomes easy to go through, giving you space for quality time with your partner. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.If you liked this episode, go straight to episode 10👇3 steps to generate deeper intimacy couples must knowEpisode 10 YouTube Follow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcast Track 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3. #marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlife

Despite how much husband and wife try to avoid conflict by improving communication, fights happen. We can repair. We can say sorry. We can tell the other what they should do better next time. None of it will truly help to make your marriage a truly exceptional one. When inevitable conflicts happen in relationship they brings more and more pain unless you do this...In this episode we share the proven to work process we apply after a conflict happens, transforming what could be a failure in marriage into a precious learning opportunity that fuels more connection and emotional intimacy. Following these 3 principles will turn the post-conflict debrief from a long, exhausting process to a simple conversation you can have over a cup of coffee together. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship. If you liked this episode go straight to episode 6👇The #1 Tip to Stop Fighting in Relationship - This Will Make All the DifferenceEpisode 6 YouTubeFollow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcastTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlife

How does the conditioning on being “the perfect wife” women have received impact your relationship? There are 3 things women are told they need to do in order to be the “perfect wife” and all 3 are lies!The impact of this conditioning that is fed to every couple through media, movies and society at large is that most wives are deeply unhappy in their marriage. They shrink to fit the box of the “perfect wife” suppressing and repressing their capacity to thrive within the relationship and in life. A wife that tries consciously or unconsciously to limit herself to these 3 things, will always feel unseen and unsatisfied in her marriage. In this episode we challenge these 3 lies and offer 3 empowering traits wives can cultivate instead to transform their marriage and feel happy. Any husband listening in, there’s one thing you can do to support your wife in this. Listen till the end to find out. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Related episodes:Episode 18 The 3 lies husbands have been told about married lifeEpisode 18 YouTubeEpisode 5 The One Thing Women REALLY Want in Marriage – This Will Surprise YouEpisode 5 YouTubeFollow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcastTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlife

Do you want to know why most husbands feel trapped in their marriage? Because they’ve been lied to… There are 3 fundamental lies every husband has been told about married life and about how to be the "perfect husband". Society and conditioning through generations tell men that there are 3 things they need to do to perform well and be a “good husband”. As a result of these lies most husbands feel trapped and most wives feel unfulfilled within their relationship. Seeking to escape the marriage is not always the solution. In this episode we debunk these lies and offer a solution that will support both husband and wife to transform their relationship, feeling satisfied and fulfilled again. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Also listen to:Episode 12 How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2Episode 12 YouTube Follow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcast#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlifeTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.

Do you want to know why autopilot marriage happens despite your best intentions? Because in relationship good intentions are not enough.With never-ending to-do lists, work, parenting, commitments with in-laws and more on the table in everyday life’s chaos, your relationship suffers. For husband and wife it’s easy to get caught in the day-to-day routine and forget to prioritise each other. It’s no one’s fault and yet it has a massive impact on emotional connection, intimacy and communication which becomes less and less fulfilling. If you don’t feel seen and prioritised in your relationship, it’s not because of lack of good intentions by your partner, but those intentions may not be enough. You may feel frustrated and think you need to hack most of what you do every day to have the time to dedicate to your marriage, but that’s not realistically possible in most cases. In this episode we share the #1 thing that when implemented will transform your intentionality in an actionable step, bringing connection back on in your relationship, without having to stop doing everything else that is important in your to-do list. Chapters:00:00:00 Good intentions are simply not enough in marriage00:03:26 Where your attention goes matters00:06:32 The cost of distraction in relationship00:10:10 Do this to reclaim your focus - your partner will love it00:13:26 This will make reclaiming your focus easier00:19:55 This is the best way to stay connected through the day00:23:55 How to start a new moment differently00:27:17 Transform your marriage doing this together Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Related episodes:Episode 10 - 3 steps to generate deeper intimacy couples must knowEpisode 10 YouTube#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriageTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.

Do you want to know why 85% of stonewalling happens in men? Research shows that between husband and wife the husband is more likely to fall into the pattern of stonewalling. With that said, research also shows that when the wife stonewalls it’s a real red flag signalling the risk of divorce. Stonewalling often follows when there’s a pattern of contempt in communication. And although in some cases stonewalling can be used intentionally as a manipulation tactic within abusive relationships, this is not what is actually happening in most cases. But whatever the reason for stonewalling, this emotional shutdown always communicates a message of rejection to your partner, and this is why in this episode we share how couples can consciously communicate to eradicate stonewalling as a pattern and transform the marriage together. By following the four steps we share in this episode you will be able to catch the partner before it escalates in conflict and turn the situation around so that no partner is feeling rejected or hurt anymore.  Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Other episodes in this series:Ep 11 The 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act now — Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1Episode 11 YouTubeEp 12 How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2Episode12 YouTubeEp 13 4 steps to avoid defensiveness from hurting communication in your relationship – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 3Episode 13 YouTubeEp 15 3 phases to eradicate contempt in marriage – couples not doing this risk divorce – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 4Episode 15 YouTubeTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage

Do you want to know why most marriages fails?  The most common answers could be infidelity, financial issues, lack of love, having picked the wrong partner and so on. And yet most of the most common reasons for divorce are the symptoms of an underlying pattern that erodes the relationship and that is contempt. When husband and wife have left the cycle of defensiveness and criticism go on unchecked, this leads to a building of contempt which is the greatest predictor of divorce. The good news is, it’s never too late to turn your relationship around by transforming your communication and rebuild connection. In this episode we share the antidote to contempt so that you and your partner can transform your marriage together.Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Chapters:00:00:00 Contempt: the number 1 predictor of divorce00:05:14 The most potent antidote to contempt00:08:11 Phase 1: see the perfection in the present00:13:34 Skilfully reclaim your past together00:20:20 Reclaim the potential for your marriage's future00:25:30 Listen to the full marriage Apocalypse SeriesRelated episodes:Episode 11 The 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act now — Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1Episode 11 YouTube videoEpisode 12 How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2Episode 12 YouTube videoEpisode 13 4 steps to avoid defensiveness from hurting communication in your relationship – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 3Episode 13 YouTube VideoTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage