26: Lightbulb Moments and Impending Changes

NEW PLATFORM: Meeting in the Middle In this week’s episode of I Hadn’t Considered That, we hear from Michelle, a listener with some questions about ghosting, especially in relationships that are not romantic in nature. To help get to the bottom of Michelle’s questions and concerns, I’ll be sharing some insight into how prevalent ghosting is, why people do it, and what we can do if we have been ghosted. Resources: BBC article on workplace ghosting Psychology Today primer on ghosting Live Science: Why People Ghost Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre. If you enjoyed this podcast, please share it with a friend who may love Meeting in the Middle! Connect with Vanessa: Website: www.vanessatorre.com More writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: www.twitter.com/vanessaltorre TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@vanessaltorre Email: [email protected] Voicemail: (602) 551-7359

In this episode, I sit down with Kathryn Finney, author of Build the Damn Thing: How to Start a Successful Business If You're Not a Rich White Guy, to talk about the difference between Entitleds and Builders in the business world and how to change our thinking and strategies to create the business we're confident we can.  Kathryn Finney is an author, researcher, investor, entrepreneur, and businesswoman. She is the founder of Genius Guild, a business creation platform that uses the venture studio model (Lab and Venture Fund) to invest in Black entrepreneurs building scalable businesses, and the founder and Board Chair of The Doonie Fund, a social platform that provides micro-investment to Black women entrepreneurs. Buy Kathryn's book: Build the Damn Thing: How to Start a Successful Business If You're Not a Rich White Guy Website: https://www.kathrynfinney.com/ Instagram: @hiiamkathryn Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre.  Website: www.vanessatorre.com Meeting in the Middle (Substack): https://vanessatorre.substack.com/ Writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: www.twitter.com/vanessaltorre

In this week's episode, it's just me and all of my allergies! In this high histamined episode, I'm sharing a big a-ha moment that (not surprisingly) came out of therapy, that brought me joy and changes for the podcast. Exciting things are coming up on the horizon, so tune in and get the deets! And you're going to want this link in a minute: Meeting in the Middle (Substack): https://vanessatorre.substack.com/ Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre.  Website: www.vanessatorre.com Writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: www.twitter.com/vanessaltorre

I'm joined this week by Lilli Bewley for an amazing conversation about dating that goes so way far beyond the surface. We dig deep into how we learned about love and romance, our failures and successes in love, and how to finally show up in our space and energy in a way that is authentic and magnetic.  Lilli Bewley is a Feminine Dating Coach for Finding Love with over 10 years of experience in personal development. She, herself, went from just surviving in life to thriving in love and purpose. Currently, she is helping women who are single and struggling to date with confidence so that they can find epic, magnetic, extraordinary love with their soul mate. Lilli is on a mission to educate people on how dating can be fun again after a divorce or even in their 30s & 40s & 50s & even if they've been single forever. We have the ability to create magnetic energy in our dating lives even if we have to perform & be high achievers in another area of our lives. Over hundreds of coaching hours, her LOVE Method For Finding Epic Love & her DATE to Soul Mate Blueprint - How to Attract Your Dream Partner without The Drama guide women to find fulfillment and joy in the dating process and in finding their person. Website: lillibewley.com Feminine Archetype Quiz: lillibewley.com/quiz The LOVE Method for Finding Epic Love Free Workbook: www.findepiclove.com Instagram: @lillibewley Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre. You can support the podcast by becoming a Patron: www.patreon.com/vanessatorre Website: www.vanessatorre.com Writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: www.twitter.com/vanessaltorre Help us reach more people! Rate the podcast and leave a review if you like it! Apple Podcasts: Leave a Review!

In this week's episode, I sit with Julie McAllister, an experienced therapist who works to help people who have experienced trauma heal using a specific treatment called eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR). Julie has been a therapist for 15 years and is licensed by the Arizona Board of Behavioral Health Examiners and is a Nationally Certified Counselor. Having worked in the behavioral health field for the past 20 years, Julie has experience serving various populations, but has a special interest in working with first responders and veterans. She also has specialized experience working with members of the LGBT community, as well as individuals newly diagnosed and living with HIV/AIDS.  Resources: What Happened to You - Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry The Body Keeps the Score; Brain, Mind, Body and the Healing of Trauma- Bessel van der Kolk, MD Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre. You can support the podcast by becoming a Patron: www.patreon.com/vanessatorre Website: www.vanessatorre.com Writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: www.twitter.com/vanessaltorre Help us reach more people! Rate the podcast and leave a review if you like it! Apple Podcasts: Leave a Review!

In this week's episode, I sit down with my friend Sali to talk about the next phase of my life: being an emptynester. This is my first week after having dropped my daughter off at college three states away and I have questions.  Sali Cranleigh hails from Somerset, England and is a two-time retired mom and has been since her son, Harley, left home over a decade ago followed shortly by her daughter, Lola. Sali helps me navigate this new phase of my life by offering insight, perspective, experience, and reassurance that everything will be just fine and as it should be: parents and children doing the best they can in their own space, growing and learning.  Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre. You can support the podcast by becoming a Patron: www.patreon.com/vanessatorre Website: www.vanessatorre.com Writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: www.twitter.com/vanessaltorre Help us reach more people! Rate the podcast and leave a review if you like it! Apple Podcasts: Leave a Review!

In this week's episode, I talk with Joe Duncan, top writer on Medium and editor of the Substack publication, The Science of Sex. In the aftermath of the overturning of Roe v. Wade, we're finding ourselves having more conversations about the roles and responsibilities of men and women and how society has dictated these over time. Joe lends some data and insight into what we're seeing and feeling.  Joe Duncan is a journalist, writer, and editor from Los Angeles, California. He's a defender of liberty and human rights currently residing in Florida. He runs The Science of Sex newsletter on Substack. You can check out his work at Medium.com. He's the editor for the Medium publication Sexography: Conversations About Sex From Around the World, and the creator of the Moments publication on Medium.   References: 1. Why Reproductive Rights Are Necessary: Stealthing, Abortion Laws, and More  2. Christian Nationalism is at America’s Doorstep and It’s Terrifying 3. History Shows Us the Abortion Issue is More About Religious Control and Less About Saving Lives 4. Let’s Talk About Male Birth Control. Study Finds Couples With Vasectomies Have More Sex. 5. Abortion is a Health Issue That Affects Everyone — Including Men 6. Your Rights Are Now On The Chopping Block 7. The Texas GOP Goes to War With Common-Sense Sex Education 8. Republicans Want to Use the Government to Police Our Bedrooms Joe Duncan Medium: joemduncan.medium.com; Sexograpy https://medium.com/sexography Moments of passion: https://medium.com/moments-of-passion Substack: The Science of Sex Instagram: @joemduncan Twitter: @JoeMDuncan Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre. You can support the podcast by becoming a Patron: www.patreon.com/vanessatorre Website: www.vanessatorre.com Writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: www.twitter.com/vanessaltorre Help us reach more people! Rate the podcast and leave a review if you like it! Apple Podcasts: Leave a Review!

In this week's episode, we're having a talk about the overturning of Roe v. Wade because there is no such thing as too much conversation and there are so many conversations we still need to have and we can't stop having them. In this solo episode, I'm going to shed some light on what this decision means, how we got here, and what we can do now. This isn't pontification. It's information, facts, and actions we need to take. Thank you for coming to this space and being part of how we solve this.  Please, if you have friends that need more information and want to understand what we can do to help protect a woman's right to an abortion, and the rights of anyone else fighting for their right to exist in the manner of their choosing, share this episode.  Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre. You can support the podcast by becoming a Patron: www.patreon.com/vanessatorre Website: www.vanessatorre.com Writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: www.twitter.com/vanessaltorre Help us reach more people! Rate the podcast and leave a review if you like it! Apple Podcasts: Leave a Review!

In this week's episode, I am joined by Lacie Jones, the owner of Milky Candles. We have an amazing conversation about starting a small business, what it takes to turn our passion into a business, what obstacles we need to overcome, and the joy that we can find in our endeavor.  Milky Candles is a Queer, Black, + Woman-owned business allowing others the opportunity to control their mental and physical space with their handmade and hand-poured candles. They use cruelty-free and non-toxic ingredients, and emphasize up-cycling your candle vessels to reuse and recycle. Learn about and shop Milky Candles: www.milkycandlecompany.com Shop Milky Candles locally at Dig It Gardens: www.digphx.com Instagram: @milkycandlecompany Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre. You can support the podcast by becoming a Patron: www.patreon.com/vanessatorre Website: www.vanessatorre.com Writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: @vanessaltorre Help us reach more people! Rate the podcast and leave a review if you like it! Apple Podcasts: Leave a Review!

In this week's episode, I am joined by my favorite human being. She's my favorite human because she's the one I made and I love her to all ends. As it's pride month, my daughter Caroline and I sat down to talk about her coming out story, what fears she had, what fears I had, and how it helped us grow as a mother and daughter.  I'm proud of her bravery every day in being who she is and showing up in the world unapologetically as she is. She inspires me and I hope she inspires you with her strength and perspective as well.  Thanks for listening to I Hadn't Considered That with Vanessa Torre. You can support the podcast by becoming a Patron: www.patreon.com/vanessatorre Website: www.vanessatorre.com Writing: vanessatorre.medium.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/vanessaltorre Instagram: @vanessaltorre Twitter: www.twitter.com/vanessaltorre Help us reach more people! Rate the podcast and leave a review if you like it! Apple Podcasts: Leave a Review!