Ep 42: Ethics, Ego & Spiritual Bypassing in ENM 🎙️

Broadcasting from the sunny shores of Nicaragua 🌊☀️, Anna and Aiden tackle complexities in ethical non-monogamy head-on.In this episode, we unpack a listener's relationship dilemma, stirring a passionate response from Anna as she fiercely advocates for self-worth and setting boundaries. Meanwhile, Aiden brings his usual calm clarity 🧘‍♂️, offering thoughtful takes on trust, transparency, and what it really means to be in ENM. (Hint: it's the ethical part) 👀 💭We also rough up a controversial episode from a famous billionaire podcaster 🎙️🤑, exposing manipulation and the misuse of 'spirituality” in what is presented.as an ENM relationship .Tune in for an episode filled with heartfelt advice, fiery debates, and a sneak peek into our exciting Nicaraguan retreat 🌴✨.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast#HackingLove #EthicalNonMonogamy #ENM #RelationshipTalk #OpenRelationships #PodcastCouple #ConsciousLove #NicaraguaVibes #LoveOutLoud #PolyTalk

What happens when the party ends? We get honest about the emotional hangover that hit us both—the letdown, the exhaustion, and the questions that linger after the fun fades. We open up about navigating big play parties as a couple, asking for what we need, and the sometimes awkward reality of fitting in when you’re not quite like everyone else. 😬From the highs of partying and connecting our friends, to the lows of feeling left out, meh vibes, and the struggle to balance self-care with social pressure, we’re sharing it all. We get real about the weirdness of party dynamics, the complexities of open relationships, and why sometimes you just need to do your own thing, take your own car and leave when you’re ready. 🚗✨If you’ve ever felt out of place in a crowd, wondered how to ask for what you want, or struggled with the morning after a big night out—this episode is for you. Join us for honest talk, laughter, and a reminder that even in the wildest spaces, it’s okay to just be yourself. 💕📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Life’s been busy—family, work, and all the chaos that comes with it—but we’re here to dive deep into the real, messy, and beautiful side of love and relationships.This week, we unpack a listener’s email that had us both raising eyebrows: What happens when “ethical non-monogamy” starts to look less than honest? We talk red flags 🚩, jealousy, and why true partnership means being on the same team—not just doing your own thing just because you "can". We get real about trust, boundaries, and what to do when your partner’s desire for solo exploits start to feel like you’re being left behind.We also spill the tea on what was just about the wildest party we’ve ever attended and share what it’s like to be in a room where really anything goes. Plus, we dig into a surprising new study about infidelity and why so many people don’t regret cheating, even in happy relationships. 🤯Also—political talk in the lifestyle? 😱 🙉Tune in for real talk, wild stories, and a reminder that love is always a work in progress.Email us at [email protected] Live Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast https://www.instagram.com/hackinglove_podcast/

This week on Hacking Love, we’re diving into the surprisingly accessible (and way deeper than you think) world of Tantra-- and how it intersects with ethical non-monogamy 🌀🔥 If you thought Tantra was all gongs and slow-motion sex, think again. Here we discuss practical, grounded practices that can help you become more present in your body, connect more deeply to your partner, and even (yes, really) separate orgasm from ejaculation..We’re joined by our friend and longtime Tantra coach, ScottieO, whose journey from corporate burnout and sexual shame to the deepest of intimacy and connections, will blow your mind. Whether you're open, monogamous, poly, or just curious, we break down how Tantra can transform your intimacy, your healing, and your entire way of relating. Join us for a fast-paced introduction to Tantra, hear some wild stories and enjoy few “oh god” moments you’ll never forget. 😉As a bonus, learn how you can extend your own orgasms for hours and hours 🤯 - beyond anything you've ever imagined. 💥💥💥Learn more about Tantra and Scottie O at: EcstaticHearts.com.Tantric Couple's Retreat: ConsciousCoupling.net📩 Email us! [email protected] Live Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast https://www.instagram.com/hackinglove_podcast/

This week, we’re diving into what happens when exes reappear—and how to handle it in a healthy, honest, and open relationship. Aiden reconnects with a past girlfriend who once showed him love at a time when he really needed it, and we unpack everything—from unexpected closure to what it brought up for us emotionally (and erotically 😏). What does it mean when one of you flirts with someone else, and suddenly the other feels compelled to hit the apps five minutes later?We also get real about feeling competitive in swinging, and the awkward truth that sometimes all you want is a sexy side text to make you feel like all of this is worth it. 💬💦 Whether you’re an inactive slut (like one of us 🙋‍♀️) or processing beautiful old relationships, this one's a funny, sweet, and very raw look at exes, desire, and what it means to truly share everything.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast

Hey guys! This episode is a no-filter deep dive into our time at a Wellness Retreat in El Salvador —a tropical playground of connection, curiosity, and just enough chaos. 🌴🍹Hosted by Naughty Gym's Scott and April, the retreat delivered everything from men’s and women’s connection circles 💬 to beach parties and a sexy ‘Kiss Me Orgasmic’ workshop 💋🔥 .🎙️ We finally upgraded our audio gear and recorded with our REAL voices - we may sound like completely different people now, but trust us, it's the real us!We also share the behind-the-scenes of our sandy, sexy cabana adventure 🏖️🫣, some cuddle puddle surprises 🤗, and what it was like shedding not just clothes, but prejudgements too And Aiden was thrilled to get to DJ for a mostly-naked dance floor at the Neon Glow party 🎧🍑The episode ends with wonderful interview with relationship coach Kel from Expansive Connection, who shares amazing insights on how to better communicate, navigate jealousy 🌀 and make non-monogamy feel less scary... and more expansive 💞.If you’re curious about what happens when you mix open hearts with open relationships in a tropical paradise—you’re gonna want to hear this one. 🎙️🌶️One more spot available on our Nicaragua mini-retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for details.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_PodcastKel at Expansive Connection

🎙For the first time ever, we’ve invited guests onto the pod—and it’s a juicy one. Our dear friends Chloe and Michel join us to share their 12-year polyamorous journey: from almost breaking up on date one to building a family, a business, and a deeply secure open relationship. Chloe (a relationship coach) opens up about what changed when she stopped playing small, while Michel shares the unexpected gift that came from facing his jealousy head-on. 💥We talk real intimacy, evolving desires, healing through open love, and the difference between feeling “owned” vs. feeling claimed. 💫 Plus—how opening their marriage actually made their partnership stronger than ever. Whether you’re just curious or years into non-monogamy, this one’s full of truth bombs and heart. ❤️One more spot available on our Nicaragua mini-retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for details.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_PodcastReach out to Chloe for Relationship Coaching: www.swoon.coach and on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/swoon.coach/

In this long-promised episode, Aiden interviews Anna about her 20-year experience on the birth control pill—and the profound changes she experienced when she finally stopped them. From libido and attraction, mood and metabolism, nothing was untouched... and no one had warned her.This isn’t an anti-pill debate—it’s a conversation about informed choice, full of jaw-dropping research, real-life lab data, and one woman’s journey back to herself. If you or someone you love is on hormonal birth control, don’t miss this one. 💥Note: Anna is a functional medicine health coach, not a doctor. She’s sharing her personal experience and research for educational purposes only, to help listeners feel informed, curious, and empowered to have deeper conversations with their own providers. 💛Also last call to join our Nicaragua mini-retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for details.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast

🎙️ In this episode, we’re riding high on the glow of a dreamy, disco-fueled night—roller skates 🛼, glitter, and all. After weeks of talking through every possible scenario (same-room? separate play? group energy?), the night unfolded in a way we never quite expected… and it changed something between us.From Aiden’s euphoric modern disco DJ set to an unexpected intimate moment in a pile of pillows with Superman and Wonder Woman (you’ll see), this night reminded us why we do this—and what we’re really looking for underneath all the exploration.We dive into what makes these parties feel so expansive, pressure-free, and honestly… kind of healing. Whether you’re cuddling over tea, giggling through a flirt, or witnessing a beautiful group scene (👀 yes, that happened too!) this episode is a love letter to curiosity, safety, and connection.Wondering how a lifestyle event like this one might unlock new layers of connection and curiosity with your partner? This episode will take you there. 💛Also last call to join our Nicaragua mini-retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for details.📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast

🎙️ Hey guys! In episode 33, we continue to peel back the layers of the onion as we revisit our feelings around separate play—especially rules vs. no rules. Our conversation dives into how our understanding of ethical non-monogamy keeps evolving—not just as a lifestyle, but as a powerful relationship lab where radical honesty deepens intimacy.We ask: Is wanting to witness each other’s separate play 👀about being aroused? Or does it just feel more safe? 🛟 Does giving someone total freedom make the giver feel more loved—or more replaceable? From the hotwife dynamic to jealousy-as-turn-on, to the tough question“What if my partner starts wanting more from a play partner?” 😳As a bonus, Anna shares her revealing post-processing thoughts in an addendum at the end of the episode.We also, talk about what different types of orgasms can mean with full-time partners vs. play partners 😳, and explore whether “no rules” is a radical form of love? Or just clever emotional armor?In this episode we also share a preview of our Nicaragua retreat for ENM newbies! See the FB group for deatails.If you’re in the swirl of learning what's next, this one’s for you. 💥📩 Email us: [email protected] Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/IG: @HackingLove_Podcast