You're Not Broken - You're Just in Survival Mode

In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin explore:🔹 The Hidden Cost of Survival ModeHow stress, overthinking, and constantly being “on” create invisible emotional armorWhy most accomplished women don’t realize they’re broadcasting tensionHow burnout leads to protection mode, emotional walls, and shutdown🔹 What Men Actually Feel Around a Woman in Survival ModeBenjamin breaks down:Why men physically feel your tension in their bodiesHow survival mode reads as rejection, dismissal, or “I don’t need you”Why men feel unsure, anxious, or useless when you’re overwhelmedHow this energy kills playfulness, chemistry, and romantic momentum🔹 The Dating DisconnectWhat happens when women confuse venting with vulnerabilityHow oversharing, rapid-fire questions, or emotional dumping shuts men downWhy many women walk away saying, “No chemistry,” when it’s really survival mode blocking connectionHow men interpret disconnection, busyness, or rushing from one task to the next🔹 Playfulness: The Missing IngredientWhy playfulness is essential for attraction — especially for masculine menHow survival mode narrows your perception and eliminates playWhat presence feels like to a man, and why it instantly creates chemistryThe difference between being independent vs. emotionally inaccessible🔹 Simple Shifts to Get Out of Survival Mode (Even On a Date)Lisa and Benjamin share practical tools:A single deep breath that resets the energy instantlyHow to acknowledge stress without dumpingHow to communicate authentically when you’re not at your bestSmall rituals that bring you back into your body before a dateA pattern interrupt technique to reset the tone mid-date🔹 What Men Do When They Are in Survival ModeWhy men may default to short-term relationships when overwhelmedHow masculine men pull themselves out of the dating poolHow stressed men may be drawn to stressed women for the wrong reasons🔹 The Path Back to ConnectionHow presence, softness, and playfulness draw in high-caliber menHow vulnerability (not oversharing) opens the door to real intimacyWhy partnership allows women to finally rest, soften, and feel supportedWhy being in a safe relationship creates space for authenticity, emotions, and ease Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

How do men know when a woman is “the one” — and what makes them decide to commit for the long term? In this revealing conversation, Lisa and Benjamin Shield unpack one of the biggest mysteries in dating: how men truly evaluate compatibility, emotional safety, and respect.You’ll discover:-The subtle signals men look for when deciding if a woman is long-term material-Why emotional safety and respect matter more than chemistry or shared goals-The difference between liking a woman and seeing a future with her-How to express vulnerability in a way that draws a man closer — not pushes him away-What successful, self-aware women unknowingly do that can make high-quality men pull backThis episode offers a rare look inside the real decision-making process of emotionally available men — and shows how to meet them at that level with authenticity and confidence. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin Shield explore:-The three biggest fears men face in relationships — losing independence, disappointing a woman, and emotional vulnerability.-Why even strong, loving men can feel trapped or judged — and how that impacts their ability to commit.-The emotional difference between “disappointing” and “shaming” a man (and why one word can shut him down).-How to create emotional safety that makes men want to open up, instead of withdraw.-The art of communicating boundaries and appreciation without losing your authenticity or feminine power.Key Takeaway:Understanding what drives men emotionally doesn’t mean shrinking yourself to fit their needs — it means mastering the dynamics that allow two powerful people to thrive together.Tune in for an eye-opening dialogue that helps successful women elevate love with the same intelligence and self-awareness they bring to every other part of their lives. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

In this quick but powerful episode, Lisa Shield shares four down-and-dirty tips every woman should know about what makes her unforgettable in the eyes of a man. With her signature warmth and insight, Lisa breaks down the essential traits that men are secretly craving in their dream woman. If you're ready to stop guessing and start attracting a high-quality man, this episode is your wake-up call.Key Highlights:PlayfulnessA light-hearted, spontaneous attitude is incredibly attractive.Playful teasing, laughter, and having fun together deepen the connection.You don’t need to be a flirt—just be open to having fun and being in the moment.SensualityEmbrace your senses—sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell.It’s not about being overtly sexual—it’s about being grounded and fully alive.Let yourself be present and expressive, and men will be drawn to your feminine energy.WarmthGenuine warmth makes a man feel safe, seen, and emotionally connected.Show empathy and emotional availability—especially when he's vulnerable.Small gestures, like a gentle touch or holding space for him, go a long way.Self-SufficiencyMen want women who are whole and happy on their own.Self-sufficiency means you can enjoy your life even when he's not around.Avoid appearing overly needy—be secure and confident in yourself.Memorable Quote:"Be the woman who makes him laugh, dream, and admire—not because you need him, but because you choose him."Want More?Ready to dive deeper into your romantic journey? Visit LisaShield.com to watch the free presentation and apply for Lisa’s Emotionally Naked Dating Course—a life-changing 4-month experience that teaches you how to attract the Guardian of Your Soul. **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/#LisaShield #FindingTheGuardianOfYourSoul #DatingAdvice #SmartSuccessfulWomen #FeminineEnergy #ModernDating #PodcastEpisode #WomenEmpowerment #RelationshipCoach Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

Finding the Guardian of Your Soul with Lisa ShieldEpisode Title: “Is Your Success Intimidating Men… or Is It Something Else?”Welcome to Finding the Guardian of Your Soul! I'm your host, Lisa Shield, and I’m thrilled to have you here. Please share this episode with your single girlfriends, guy friends, and anyone navigating the dating world. What we discuss here is something you won’t hear from other coaches—I bring a unique lens to the challenges smart, successful women face in modern dating.In this episode, we’re diving deep into a common and frustrating narrative: “Men find me too intimidating.”You’ve worked hard, climbed the ladder, built a life you’re proud of—so why does it feel like your success is working against you in dating?I’ll share powerful insights from nearly 25 years of experience, including:Why it’s not your success that’s turning men away—but how you're presenting itThe difference between being confident vs. coming across as masculineHow to embrace your femininity without “dumbing yourself down”Why men do want strong, successful women—and how to let them inThe importance of learning to receive, not reject, a man's gesturesYou don’t need to be less of who you are—you just need to learn how to show up in your full, feminine power.Whether you're getting lots of first dates but no meaningful connections—or you're just tired of hearing that you're “too much”—this episode is for YOU. **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/#LisaShield #FindingTheGuardianOfYourSoul #DatingAdvice #SmartSuccessfulWomen #FeminineEnergy #ModernDating #PodcastEpisode #WomenEmpowerment #RelationshipCoach Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

The SPECIFIC Dating Challenges Successful Women Face (and how to overcome them) In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa Shield, a love coach for over two decades, discusses the unique dating challenges successful women face and provides practical solutions to overcome them. Lisa covers key topics, including time management, dealing with intimidating men, and emotional availability. She shares actionable steps to fit dating into a busy schedule, the importance of embracing feminine energy, and becoming emotionally open with potential partners. Tune in for valuable insights and tips on finding your guardian of your soul.Highlights:Time Management ChallengesIntimidating MenEmotional AvailabilitySolutions and Closing**Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/ Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin Shields discuss the complex emotions and pitfalls surrounding the question, 'Can we still be friends?' after a romantic relationship ends. They delve into the reasons why people might hold on to these 'friendships,' the emotional distress and false hopes it creates, and offer advice on how to move forward in a healthy manner.Highlights:The Real Reasons Behind 'Can We Still Be Friends?'Consequences of Staying 'Friends'Personal Anecdotes and ObservationsThe False Hope CycleWhen to Cut TiesCase Study: A Year-Long ObsessionCompartmentalization and Friends With BenefitsImpact on Self-Esteem and Mental Health **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/ Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

Lisa Shield delves into the crucial distinction between love bombing and real love. She shares her own experiences and insights on how to identify a love bomber, highlighting red flags such as over-the-top affection, constant communication, lavish gifts, and pressing for quick commitment. Lisa contrasts this with the slow, steady development of real love, emphasizing the importance of boundaries, consistency, and mutual respect. She offers practical advice on protecting your heart, setting and reinforcing boundaries, and listening to your intuition. Lisa passionately encourages taking time to truly get to know a partner and underscores the value of emotional nakedness and vulnerability in fostering genuine connections. Tune in to learn how to safeguard yourself against love bombers and open the door to lasting, meaningful relationships.Highlights: Understanding Love Bombers  Love bombers overwhelm you with attention, affection, and gifts to quickly win your trust.  They often exhibit narcissistic traits and may have avoidant personality disorders.Characteristics of Love Bombers  Over-the-top affection too soon.  Constant attention and intense communication.  Lavishing gifts and grand gestures.  Putting pressure to commit quickly.Characteristics of Real Love  Develops gradually with mutual respect and understanding.  Establishing a foundation of friendship first.  Consistency, reliability, and genuine interest in each other's goals.  Willingness to have difficult conversations and respect for boundaries.Protecting Yourself from Love Bombers  Slow down and honor your own pace.  Set and reinforce clear boundaries.  Stay connected with friends and family who can offer objective perspectives.  Look for consistent actions over grand promises.  Listen to your intuition and trust your gut feelings.Key Takeaway  Authentic relationships build over time with open communication, mutual respect, and emotional vulnerability. Avoid rushing into commitments and prioritize finding a partner who truly values and respects you. **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/  Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

Unlock the Secret: How to Attract High-Quality Men In this episode, Lisa Shield delves into the intricacies of attracting high-quality men and the concept of Emotionally Naked Dating. She shares her personal journey, offers insights into shifting perspectives, and discusses the importance of genuine emotional vulnerability. Lisa provides practical advice on how women can embrace their femininity, build emotional connections, and approach dating with authenticity and confidence.HighlightsThe Struggle of Attracting High-Quality MenImportance of Shifting PerspectivesSteps to Real Confidence and AuthenticityWhat is Emotionally Naked Dating?Interactive Visualization ExerciseMeeting High-Quality MenSelf-Compassion and Emotional Vulnerability **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/ Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

In this episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul," host Lisa Shield delves into the often overlooked and taxing endeavor of trying to fix or change men in relationships. Lisa, a relationship expert, shares her personal journey and the important lessons she’s learned along the way about recognizing and overcoming codependency in relationships.  Highlights: 1. Personal Reflection on Past Relationships: Lisa discusses her first marriage and how persistent financial disagreements highlighted deeper issues of codependency and unmet expectations. 2. The Codependency Trap: Explains how codependency is a form of people addiction, where both partners rely on each other to fill emotional voids, leading to stagnation and mutual unhappiness.3. Impact on Men: Discusses how efforts to fix or change a man can feel emasculating and create an unhealthy power imbalance, ultimately damaging the relationship. 4. Steps to Break Free: Emphasizes the importance of self-improvement and taking personal responsibility as crucial steps towards attracting a partner who is a true equal and not a project. 5. Final Five Concept: Introduces the concept of the "Final Five," a list of non-negotiable attributes that one must look for in a partner to avoid settling for less than they deserve. Lisa concludes by inviting listeners to visit her website, join the Facebook group "Finding The Guardian of Your Soul," and consider her emotionally naked dating course for deeper relationship transformation.  **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/ Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]