219. The Vacation Rules One

Ali is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares the “vacation rules” that she and Skyline have come up with to help them best enjoy their trips and how some of those “rules” have expanded into every day life. Plus, a stressful moment provides an opportunity to reflect on managing low-level conflict and responding vs reacting in relationships. Ali also answers two listeners questions: one about a friend who consistently brings down the vibe at events and one from a listener who’s debating if she should reach out to a former situationship.This week’s Media Mention comes from the IMO Podcast with Michelle Obama & Craig Robinson - it’s their episode about joyful dating with Tracee Eliss Ross from April 16th.If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20.Greenleaf Book Group Press: Get your hands on Heirs & Spares: Betwixt the Sheets Edition out now—because royal duty has never been this delicious.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAvocado Green Mattress: Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comRoss: Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ali and Skyline are on their first anniversary vacation and he’s just been introduced on social media…no better time to introduce him to the podcast! This week, you’ll hear an interview that Ali & Erica did on the Patreon back in February.Skyline joined us to answer your questions and introduce himself to the community he’s heard so much about. Our discussion includes: his version of how he met Ali (and what her nickname would have been if he’d given her one), how he was listening along to the pod during early dating, his thoughts on dating someone who talks about dating so openly, how being divorced has impacted his approach to his relationship with Ali, and lots more.But first, we hear updates from Elyse (one of our Diary Daters) who went to visit a guy in NYC. Will he make good on his nickname as Three Minute Makeout Man?!Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 24.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Greenleaf Book Group Press: Get your hands on Heirs & Spares: Betwixt the Sheets Edition out now—because royal duty has never been this delicious.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAvocado Green Mattress: Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comRoss: Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Caeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, and photos and discuss where she can make improvements to set herself up for more success. Through Ali’s notes on photo guidelines, best ways to elicit a reply with your prompts, and ways that different people swipe you’ll get some great tips for crafting your own profile! Plus, Caeli fills us in on a first date she went on and the two debate whether she should go on a second. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for the updates section, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio.In Updates, Ali is back from Colombia with a renewed zest for creating community through travel and is looking forward to this month’s surprise date (planned by Skyline) and their anniversary trip to Mexico. She also reflects on Love On The Spectrum in this week’s Media Mention.Timestamps: Caeli joins us at around minute 22.If you'd like to hear my personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20. And through 4/22/25, use code 420 for 30% off the entire site!Greenleaf Book Group Press: Get your hands on Heirs & Spares: Betwixt the Sheets Edition out now—because royal duty has never been this delicious.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Avocado Green Mattress: Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comRoss: Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It’s time to meet our second Dating Diaries participant…Elyse! A 26-year-old living in a major east coast city, Elyse is ready to dive back into dating after recovering from her longest relationship to date. In this introduction episode, you’ll learn about Elyse’s dating history as a self-proclaimed “late bloomer,” how her last relationship played out, plus a very recent development that’s hot off the presses. Stay tuned as we hear more from Elyse and offer her some big sister advice on her journey that’s unfolding right here on the podcast.In Updates, Ali has a rough week in her personal life and sets out to have a rejuvenating weekend with Skyline - from new outfits, to sunshine-filled park walks, to yapping with friends, and ending with a relaxing belated birthday present.Timestamps: Elyse joins us at around minute 26.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Greenleaf Book Group Press: Get your hands on Heirs & Spares: Betwixt the Sheets Edition out now—because royal duty has never been this delicious.Avocado Green Mattress: Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.comAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHRoss: Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comCheck out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s living room couch, Jess chronicles the dating frustrations that led her to focus more on dating in person and start her own IRL dating events…a journey that ultimately led to her now partner. Ali and Jess chat flirting strategies, how to approach dating events, and much more in this super fun conversation.But first, Ali is still glowing from her birthday week (plus a surprise date!), feeling so celebrated and loved by everyone in her life. She introduces a relationship check-in lens to her updates, opening up about an emotional moment from last week.This week’s Media Mention comes from one of Ali’s faves: The Gottman Institute. The article is called Accepting Influence: Find Ways to Say “Yes” and you can find it here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/accepting-influence-find-ways-to-say-yes/Where to find Bored of Dating Apps: On Instagram @boredofdatingapps on TikTok @boredofdatingapps, at www.boredofdatingapps.com.Where to find Jessica: On Instagram @jessica.hope.boda.Timestamps: Jessica joins at around minute 25.If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20.Avocado Green Mattress: Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com.Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHHappy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comFactor: Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcastArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Ross: Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two listeners, and our first Diary Dater is Caeli, a 32-year-old living in the Chicago suburbs who is ready to start dating intentionally. In this intro episode, you’ll learn more about Caeli’s story including her dating history (and some nicknames), what she’s looking for, her current dating goals/challenges, and more. Stay tuned in future episodes as we follow along with Caeli’s dates and help her get some outside guidance.But first, in Updates, Ali is having an emotional day (okay, week) while recording and shares her release from that. But the week kicked off celebrating her best friend’s birthday starting with a group trip to New Orleans and wrapping with a relaxing day at a bath house!Timestamps: Caeli joins at around minute 19.If you'd like to hear Ali’s personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Bellesa: SILENT VIBRATOR GIVEAWAY: https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/findingmrheight-podcastRoss: Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHFactor: Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcastArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’ve got part 2 of my re-introduction this week - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I pick up where we left off last week and dive deep into my live since starting FMH. We chat toxic relationships, career changes, regrets, and much more in part two of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, I share some exciting news on the Skyline front (and promise to highlight more about our relationship in future episodes, including with him as a guest!).This week’s media mention comes from Josh Lora, @tellthebeees on TikTok and IG, discussing The Cut’s article “My Friends Abandoned Me When They Had Kids.”Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 12.If you'd like to hear my personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20.Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

TW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my background - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I share deeper insights into my childhood/early adulthood & the things that led me to who I am today. We chat friendship wounds, anxious attachment origins, grief, and much more in part one of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, we get into some early days nicknames from before FMH as you know it existed and chat about a strategy I recently learned for managing overthinking!Trigger warning: I discuss grief/loss throughout the episode, beginning around minute 15, and briefly discuss SA around minute 27 lasting for 35 minutes (both are called out verbally before they are mentioned).This week’s media mention comes from episode 11 of Felix Levine’s podcast, Unlike Me, and the clip is posted to his TikTok @felixlevine.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHCheck out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcastArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After getting the latest Roommate update, Ali interviews Erica using questions from both you the listeners and ones Ali has herself. Topics include: Erica’s highlights and learnings from her journey on the podcast, her favorite (and least favorite) piece of dating advice, what she hopes for her career moving forward, advice she has for Ali on the pod moving forward, and more. Erica, we will miss you SO much. We love you!Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastThanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com/FMH and use code FMH20.Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Factor: Check out Factor: https://factormeals.com/factorpodcastAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHOur Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

For Erica’s second to last episode on the pod, we’re doing one of our favorite formats one last time together…Am I The Asshole featuring submissions from Reddit! This week we have: a man wonders if he’s being unreasonable in wanting his girlfriend to loosen up her 50/50 view of household chores, the finances of a long distance relationship causes resentment, and a husband and wife clash over whose responsibility it is to wake themselves up in the morning.In Updates, Erica is still traveling and reflects on her communication and connection with The Roommate while she’s been gone. Ali celebrates Valentine’s Day with Skyline and the gals reminisce about Valentine’s Days past.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Acorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHApostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Factor: Head to factormeals.com/factorpodcast and use code fmh50off to get 50% off.Life Straw: Check out LifeStraw and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://lifestraw.comArya: Make every date night Valentine’s Day with Arya by your side. VISIT ARYA.FYI AND USE CODE FINDING for 15% off today!Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://www.avocadogreenmattress.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Ross: https://www.ross.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy