You Aren't Selfish Enough

In this episode, I'm sharing the how and why of getting sober—including my resistance, and what faith and spirituality have to do with this new way of living. Prioritizing ourselves is holy work. It's also uncomfortable work. It's the work of discovering who we really are—and uncovering the treasure God has already given us. I'm reading my latest Substack essay, The Case for Selfishness, and sharing a little more of the story behind it. Find me on Substack at Uncomfortably Holy ariannerice.com Instagram

What if being a little more selfish actually makes us more compassionate? 🤔 In this solo episode, I share why getting sober was one of the most selfish, and life-giving, choices I've ever made. And why I think we could all benefit from a little healthy selfishness. ✨ Because it's going to help us communicate better, move through resistance, and show up with more compassion. 🎧 Maybe you aren't selfish enough! Thanks for listening.   Find me on Substack at Uncomfortably Holy ariannerice.com Instagram LinkedIn   The Luckiest Club: A sobriety support community for those of us who are feeling beings who think. Hope to see you there.  

How do we love an institution that can offer profound belonging and healing, yet also cause deep harm? In this episode of Feeling Beings Who Think, I speak with the Rev. Chantelle McKinney, Episcopal priest, author, and church planter, about institutional betrayal, healing, and reclaiming our spiritual authority. We explore her journey from personal pain to advocacy, and what faith and community might look like beyond the church structures we've inherited. Connect with Chantelle: chantalmckinney.com — Learn about her book, Following Jesus Beyond Church Walls, and her Water and Light initiative. Continue the conversation: Join me on Substack at Uncomfortably Holy. Free to subscribe.

What do you want to embrace and what are you scared of embracing? I’m talking with trauma-informed health, life, and business coach Jackie Shea about change, the ones we are forced to navigate like health crisis and the changes we run towards. Because either way - change is hard! We need self-compassion, trust, and a willingness to surrender to what is not in our control.  Jackie shares her “year of resistance,” when a serious illness dramatically changed her life and forced her to let go of the future she had imagined. We talk about our discomfort with uncertainty and the ways we support ourselves so we can move towards not knowing, where transformation happens. Resources: A special offer for listeners: Jackie is generously offering a complimentary coaching conversation to listeners of Feeling Beings Who Think. Mention this episode when you reach out to her.  Jackie Shea is a trauma-informed health, life and business coach who creates lasting, sustainable transformation — in boardrooms and beyond. Her work spans corporate offices with C-suite executives to transformative circles inside prisons. Jackie believes every human is capable of healing and peace, and has built her life around a simple truth: healed people heal people. She draws on a powerful range of coaching modalities including Somatic Experiencing, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Spiritual Psychology, regression, and the frameworks of Byron Katie, The Alchemy Group, Steve Chandler,Kristin Neff, and Simon Sinek to meet each client exactly where they are. Jackie specializes in activating strong Self Leadership in her clients, then helps them channel that foundation into every role they hold — as a leader, a colleague, and a human www.jackieshea.com   Thanks for listening - and for the work you do in the world. If this work supports you in yours please take a moment to rate and review this episode. Connect with me at www.ariannerice.com Join me on Substack where I’m sharing episodes, reflections, and more ways to stay connected.    

A season-closing reflection on leadership as the work all of us are called to do in service of our emotional and spiritual growth as human beings. In this episode you will come away with:  A reframing of leadership beyond roles, titles, and approval Why emotional maturity is central to effective leadership A real story about holding anxiety, conflict, and disappointment without fixing or avoiding An invitation to reflect on where your leadership is asking you to grow and celebrate where you've grown. Thanks for listening - and for the work you do in the world.  Connect with me at www.ariannerice.com Thanks for listening to Feeling Beings Who Think! If this work supports you in yours please take a moment to rate and review this episode.

Good facilitators are attuned to the anxiety present in any room. Great facilitators understand that anxiety is energy waiting to be transformed into curiosity and engagement in service of growth and learning. In this episode, I’m joined by Meg Bolger, a facilitator’s facilitator and the creator of Facilitator Cards. Together, we explore facilitation isn’t just for workshops and brainstorming meetings, but in everyday leadership that cares about making room for being human in spaces where we hope to hold honest, meaningful, and sometimes challenging conversations. Meg shares practical insights and clear do’s and don’ts for skillful facilitation, offering tools to help you design meetings and gatherings that truly support the purpose and goals of the group. And yes these skills apply just as much to worship and other sacred or meaningful gatherings (I’m talking to you, my clergy friends). You’ll come away with: How to move beyond open-ended questions and structure participation so more voices are heard Why group size and simple materials are powerful levers for engagement (in person and online) How trust is built before the meeting even starts through clarity, logistics, and care for people’s experience Connect with me at www.ariannerice.com Thanks for listening to Feeling Beings Who Think! If this work supports you in yours please take a moment to rate and review this episode. Guest Bio: Meg Bolger has spent over a decade teaching people how to facilitate meaningful, inclusive group experiences. She specializes in foundational facilitation skills and practical processes that help groups think, decide, and connect more effectively. Learn more about Meg’s work and Facilitator Cards: https://facilitator.cards

It's hard working with volunteers! You're thrilled they are giving their time and talents to support the mission and you have to support them in how to best help you. Volunteer-based systems create a unique leadership dynamic: you are accountable with the very people you lead. Without clear structures, this often leads to over-functioning, unproductive meetings, and burnout. In this episode, you’ll explore: Why working with volunteers requires a different leadership posture How over-functioning shows up in nonprofit and church leadership A five-discipline framework for coaching your board or vestry as a team How clarity and connection can reduce burnout and build shared accountability If you lead in a volunteer-driven organization and want a steadier, more sustainable way forward, this episode offers a framework you can apply immediately. Click here for more information on the lay retreat and clergy retreat I'll be leading in the Episcopal Diocese of Newark in February and March 2026. Connect with me at www.ariannerice.com Thanks for listening to Feeling Beings Who Think! If this work supports you in yours please take a moment to rate and review this episode.

You are part of a system. A network of relationships at work, at home and in the world. What does it mean to lead knowing these are all living systems that you influence and are influenced by?  Today I'm speaking with leadership and team coach and coach supervisor Judy Wolf about how groups clarify purpose, navigate discomfort, build trust, and learn together over time. Judy shares a practical five-part framework for leading within complex nonprofit, faith-based, and community systems grounded in presence, awareness, and what happens between people. Connect with me at www.ariannerice.com Thanks for listening to Feeling Beings Who Think! If this work supports you in yours please take a moment to rate and review this episode. Bio - Judy Wolf Judy Wolf is an executive and team coach and coach supervisor, holding advanced accreditations from both the ICF and EMCC. She partners with heart-centered, service-driven leaders and organizations to strengthen trust, collaboration, and systemic effectiveness across boards, staff, and communities. Judy brings experience across Fortune 100 companies, government agencies, and nonprofit organizations, and serves on the board of Coaching for Social Justice. Her work blends emotional, social, and somatic intelligence, informed by mindfulness, neuroscience, facilitation, and mediation. You can connect with Judy on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/judywolf1/) or learn more about her work at https://judywolf.com/.

Your relationship with time and attention are dictating how you use these gifts in service of all you do. Have you asked yourself the important question: What has shaped my relationship with time? In this short reflection I share the value of exploring time and attention as relational gifts, not scarce commodities, and to notice how urgency, fear, and values quietly shape the decisions you’re making. Learn to reframe time and attention as relational, not transactional Gain insight into how urgency and scarcity influence decisions Takeaway a simple reflective writing practice to support your ability to make choices from a place of alignment, instead of pressure Connect with me at www.ariannerice.com Thanks for listening to Feeling Beings Who Think! If this work supports you in yours please take a moment to rate and review this episode.

Today I'm speaking with leadership strategist, coach, and writer Jennifer England, host of the podcast The Tension of Emergence. Jennifer joined me from her home in the Yukon, and we explored how wild landscapes, deep silence, and contemplative practice have shaped her leadership, her spirituality, and the way she supports social change makers. Together we talk about: What “emergence” really means in our lives, leadership, and spiritual work Why unpredictability, friction, and tension are often the catalysts for real transformation Our cultural obsession with mastery and control—and what becomes possible when we loosen our grip The inner capacities that allow leaders to stay present, grounded, and connected How core agreements and belonging create healthier, more courageous communities and teams This conversation invites you to notice what might be taking shape in your own life, not fully formed, not planned, but quietly emerging. My hope is that it helps you meet that unfolding with curiosity, courage, and a bit more spaciousness. If this conversation supports you: Please take a moment to rate or review the podcast it truly helps others discover the show. 👉 A simple practice of building core agreements is outlined here. 🌿 Learn how I support clergy and nonprofit leaders in leading with clarity, courage, and heart. Bio: Jennifer England Jennifer England equips leaders and teams to pursue soul-aligned missions for the collective good. A Master Integral Coach™, Executive Team Coach and skilled facilitator, she works with high-performing leaders to expand their impact and fulfillment. Known for cultivating adaptability and emergent collaboration, Jennifer helps leadership teams thrive amid uncertainty and change. In 2019, she founded Spark Coaching + Consulting to bring together her passion for inner development, leadership, and systems change. Previously, she spent two decades as an executive public servant and non-profit leader advancing gender equality and human rights across Canada. Jennifer is also the host of the Tension of Emergence podcast, where she convenes artists, philosophers, scientists, and spiritual teachers to explore transformation and systems change. She writes biweekly on Substack, and is a committed student of Zen, founder of the Wisdom North meditation collective and a life-long back-country adventurer. She is also the mother of two wild and wonderful soon-to-be adulting teens. Links:  Website: www.jenniferengland.co Substack: https://jengland.substack.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/sparkcoaching/ LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-england-7515b440/