Ask Your Son Before Blaming Him

In this episode of Dr. Leslie Inspires, for the first time, you will hear the Author of Grace to Climb Mountains: A Childhood of Deception and Emotional Abuse, remove the heavy, uncomfortable layers that she has been wearing for so long, and step into her new season with some lighter layers of abuse and emotional distress. In this episode, Marie reveals some of the traumatizing events that took place in her home with her mother, her father, her dad, and her brother, and her brother's dad...Unfortunately, there was only so much she was willing to reveal, so in order to get the full scoop on what really happened, you are going to have to purchase a copy of her book.  Marie shared that her story is not a story of blame or rights and wrongs, but rather of the injurious effects of not only her childhood but that of her parents before she was born and spanning generations. She goes on to say that her memories are HER memories of what took place, and if today was her last day on earth, she would want her words to remain. WOW! and AMEN!

You don't want to miss this episode when the Author of the book, Grace to Climb Mountains, and her brother El candidly share their point of view of dealing with a childhood of deception and emotional abuse. This is their first podcast together as they share differing opinions about how they were raised. Mental health was not popular during their childhood years, but after listening to their reflections from the book, one would gather that there may have been some undiagnosed and underlying mental health issues in their household, but you dare not speak of it! The Author, Marie Weaver shares her reflections on being raised in the same household as El, and El definitely did not like the fact that their mother used a closet to create his bedroom. Why? You have to tune in to find out more about their childhood of deception and emotional abuse.

If you missed our last conversation with Christian last week, you must go back and listen to that podcast. Christian talks about how his conversation with his Dad was pretty much non existent but the beauty of it all is how he introduced him to music. Music is his connection with his father and music is what Christian loves. You must listen to this week's podcast to hear the details!

In this week's episode, we have a conversation with Christian who is no stranger to Dr. Leslie Inspires. Our conversation is a follow up conversation with him from his initial interview that was done 3 years ago when Christian was age 22. We listen to a piece of that initial interview to jog his memory about some of the things that were said, then we start our new conversation. You want to listen to hear how different his conversation is today. Tune in!

Jay is a young man who has come to grips with the  non-existent relationship between him and his father. He expresses how he felt when his father said some very unkind words about him to his mother without knowing that Jay, his son was listening. Those words forever changed Jay. Listen to this week's episode to find how Jay handled the situation after hearing those words.

Navy CSSR Coleman was at home working everyday and did not like where his life was headed. Ultimately he  decided to change his trajectory by joining the Navy.  He talks about the effectiveness of encouraging your son opposed to yelling at him in order to help motivate him. Tune in to this week's episode to hear some of the strategies and tips that he provides!

Trevelle is a young man transitioning into adulthood and now finding out what the responsibilities of becoming a man actually look like. He also gives mothers and sons some strategies and tactics that could keep your relationship in a good place. Tune in to this week's episode!

Sometimes we don't always know the impact of what not having a relationship with our children will have on them. Yes, we are all busy, and time is of the essence. But this conversation with Shakiah will shake you to your core if you listen to it until the end as she expresses her hearts desires to her biological parents that she desires to have a relationship with. There are things that she says about how she feels but cannot say it to her biological parents but felt very free to express herself on this podcast with hopes they will hear it and take action. Listen to this episode to hear the tips that Shakiah gives to all mothers and fathers in hopes they will take action! 

A character analyst compiled a  list of the most commonly used alabis. As you listen to the list, examine yourself carefully, and determine how many of these alabis, if any, you tell yourself daily. We cling to our alabis because we create them about ourselves and about our sons. Building alabis is a deeply rooted habit that may be difficult to break. Tune in to this week's podcast for encouragement and inspiration to keep plowing forward!!

You must hear this short and candid message from Justin to all Mothers. Although Justin is definitely a talker in person, he got straight to the point with his message. Listen in to this week's podcast to hear what Justin has to say.