When Better Just Means Whiter

"The behaviours that once kept us safe are now keeping us stuck. You cannot truly enjoy the rebuild of your life until your shoulders come down from your ears. You're in the Garden of Eden, but you're still holding the weapons from the war."Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Seven of Conversations with Candice! Fresh off the high of our very first "IRL" live show at Beauty Beat, Candice delivers a deeply reflective Monday Musing on the hardest word of 2026: Forgiveness.📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access extended Part Two deep dives, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!Inside today's episode:Monday Musing ('What Kept You Safe Is Keeping You Stuck'): Candice reflects on a year of profound spiritual stretching, admitting that her "word of the year"—forgiveness—isn't just about absolving others, but acknowledging when she owes an apology herself. She unpacks how the defensive behaviours, pettiness, and combat readiness that once protected her are now blocking her from enjoying the life she's built.The Army General Metaphor: Producer Bode steps onto the mic to deliver a masterclass analogy: If you've survived the war and finally reached the Garden of Eden, why are you still firing missiles? How our unhealed survival tactics end up destroying our own safe spaces.A Quick-Fire Dilemma (Spouse A vs. Spouse B): What happens when a spouse who abandoned you in your vulnerable time now needs you during theirs? Candice gives a blunt, straight-no-chaser verdict on the boredom of perpetual marital resentment.Housekeeping & OOTP: Rescuing a 70% off Max Mara hat from the stockroom, the success of the Beauty Beat live show, and letting Jesus control the GPS.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.comSubstack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"There is enough space in the sky for all the stars to shine. The issue is that other stars around us don't believe that, especially when your light is coming from a vessel the world incorrectly told them shouldn't be the one. Don't dim your light because they live in the dark."Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Six of Conversations with Candice! Candice pushes through sniffle season to deliver one of the most fiery, truth-telling episodes of the season, tackling fashion ego, unapologetic Black beauty, and how to stop internalising hostile energy.📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access our explosive Part Two extended deep dive confronting eldest daughter financial abuse, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:Monday Musing ('Back at the Fish Market'): Inspired by Gabriella Karefa-Johnson's Front Row, Back Table, Candice reflects on how people treat you when titles drop, why corporate badges never define you, and remembering who holds your hand when the lights go down.Dilemma 1 (Unapologetic Confidence in Hostile Rooms): A voice note from a Jamaican-Canadian listener asks how to navigate walking into predominantly white events looking sensational, only to face cold, judgmental stares. Candice breaks down stepping out as an act of gratitude to God, turning down negative radio dials, and why dimming your light never keeps you safe.Housekeeping & Community Updates: Sniffle season remedies, Issey Miyake muumuus, and a debate on what to name the Substack paid subscriber community.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.comSubstack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"The reason why you struggle to trust yourself is because the first person the world told you to trust, you cannot. When you turn to them to acknowledge the pain they've caused and they repeatedly tell you 'no,' it plants a seed that grows into the distrust of your own reality."Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Five of Conversations with Candice! We are continuing our season on Parental Relationships, and today we are tackling the heavy, disorienting reality of parental gaslighting and the long road back to trusting your own intuition.📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access our exclusive Part Two extended deep dives, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:Dilemma ('The Distortion of My Inner World'): A 33-year-old listener reflects on going 'no contact' with her mother, only for her mother to completely deny their long-standing toxic dynamic. The listener asks: 'How do you seriously go about trusting yourself and your choices if, deep down, you don't trust yourself?'Candice unpacks why parental gaslighting isolates you, the necessity of finding "witnesses" outside of your payroll (therapists/coaches), and why abusers manipulate your self-trust simply to maintain control.Housekeeping & OOTP: Late night studio recordings, looming book deadlines, Issey Miyake muumuu dresses, and the beauty of reconnecting with an estranged first cousin.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.comSubstack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Sometimes 'better' just means whiter, and we have to be willing to analyse that and challenge it. And when it comes to adult boundaries under your parents' roof: sometimes the only way to truly uphold a boundary is to go and build your own."Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Four of Conversations with Candice! Today Candice leads with a raw, unfiltered monologue on race, class, and education, before diving into an essential dilemma on upholding adult boundaries while living under your parents' roof.📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER:Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access our exclusive Part Two deep-dive on demolishing a 20-year marriage, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:Monologue (When 'Better' Means Whiter): Inspired by Nikole Hannah-Jones' New York Times essay on public vs. selective schooling, Candice reflects on the tension between community and individual parenting, private school trade-offs, and the emotional fallout of navigating predominantly white spaces as Black parents.Dilemma (Parental Boundaries Under One Roof at 38): A 38-year-old Black Caribbean woman has spent 3–4 years trying to establish boundaries with her parents while living in their home, but feels constantly disregarded. Candice explains why the emotional cost of staying is running in the negative and urges her to move out, while Bode steps in with an insightful reality check on immigrant family conditioning and managing expectations.Housekeeping & Community Updates: Missing Montblanc pens, cultivating a safe space in the Substack chat, and why Chapter Three's parental themes require deeper nuance.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.comSubstack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable Productions Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Content is now. To be content is to be in the still waters of now, not continuously running your head mad with what has been, and not putting tension on what could be."Welcome back to Chapter Three, Episode Three of Conversations with Candice! Today Candice opens up about navigating her luteal phase on HRT, looming book deadlines, and why we must stop robbing ourselves of joy.📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch full 1-hour video episodes, access exclusive deep-dive discussions, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:Dilemma (FOMO, Self-Worth & Being Present): A listener with a great job, an amazing partner, and great friends struggles with severe FOMO, constantly nitpicking moments (even while watching London skyline fireworks or holidaying in Brazil) and worrying that others are having a better time. Candice and Bode unpack why FOMO is actually "deprivation in action", the discipline of "catch it, bin it, kill it" for negative self-talk, and why low self-worth makes us feel unworthy of good experiences.The "Almost Woman" Mindset: Candice shares a deeply personal reflection on her upcoming essay 'The Plight of the Almost Woman', exploring how chasing the "next big milestone" blinds us from recognizing that we have already arrived.Housekeeping & OOTP: White asymmetric cape shirt, Dior headscarf, Swarovski ear piercings, HRT luteal phase realities, and book deadline updates.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.comSubstack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"You don't want tea, my love. You want your ego stroked. You want a guy in your ear telling you he misses you and loves you and made a mistake, but there ain't no tea here. The kettle is broken." Welcome back to Chapter Three, Episode Two of Conversations with Candice! We are continuing our season on Parental Relationships and boundaries, but today we start with a little foreplay for our audio listeners before diving into some deep family dynamics. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT UPDATE: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access deep-dive discussions on maternal estrangement, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:Dilemma 1 ('Confused Gal' & The Circling Ex): An ex from 8 years ago randomly messages after building a life with someone else and having a child, claiming he 'loves' her and wants to meet. Candice and Bode break down why he doesn't want tea—he wants an ego stroke—and the spiritual/karma realities of messing with a family man. Dilemma 2 (Do You Owe It To Your Kids To Find An Absent Father?): A listener who has never met her father asks if she owes it to her children to track him down. Candice and Bode discuss 'stranger danger', who the search is really for, 'relentless hope', and the painful dynamic of watching an absent parent become a great grandparent. Housekeeping & OOTP: Off-white Issey Miyake stole, Gucci designer headscarf, Fenty Beauty blue mascara, and Mordella ear stack. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com Substack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast 🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candice Acast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice 📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaite TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite 🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable Productions Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"There is a thin line between hope and stupidity. The hope you once held for your absent father, you are now repackaging and giving to men who will never love you the way you love them."Welcome to Chapter Three of Conversations with Candice! After a well-deserved summer break, Candice is back in your ears to launch an explosive, deeply personal new chapter focused entirely on Parental Relationships—exploring parental estrangement, neglect, abuse, and how our childhood foundations shape our adult lives.📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT UPDATE: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are now 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access deep-dive discussions, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:Dilemma 1 (Parental Estrangement & Repackaged Hope): A 35-year-old listener reflects on her semi-estranged relationship with her father and why she continually accepts toxic behaviour from her ex-boyfriend and friends. Candice unpacks the fine line between "hope" and "stupidity", childhood window-waiting trauma, and facing the hard truth that some people simply do not love you back.Dilemma 2 (Fear of Online Backlash & Sharing Your Truth): How do you share your wisdom on the internet when you're terrified of community backlash? Candice explains why "bravery is just fear that's said its prayers", how your truth can save lives, and practical ways to modify your content (like turning off comments) to build confidence.Housekeeping & OOTP: Rest after "hot girl summer", Issey Miyake uniforms, Chloé glasses, and Bleach London's "Proper Copper" hair dye.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.comSubstack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"You have to decide what you're worth. Just because someone doesn't agree with what you believe you're worth doesn't mean it changes the worth. What about your life needs an edit?"Welcome to the Chapter Two Finale of Conversations with Candice! We are closing the doors on our season on Love & Relationships with one of the most explosive, crucial episodes yet.📢 FINAL ANNOUNCEMENT: VIDEO IS MOVING TO SUBSTACK FOR CHAPTER 3! This is your final warning: starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes will live exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack. (Plus, an announcement on Chapter Three's theme: Parental Relationships, Estrangement & Family Dynamics!)Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:Dilemma 1 (Financial Abuse, 19-Year Age Gap & Deception): A listener trapped in a 6-year marriage to a man 19 years her senior—who lied about secret children on their wedding day, bled her savings dry, and refuses to support her—asks if she is overreacting by wanting a divorce. Candice delivers her "doctorate in life lessons" response, while Bode steps in with vital legal counsel on Indefinite Leave to Remain (ILR), spousal visas, and exiting safely.Dilemma 2 (Femicide, Heartbreak & Staying Hopeful): How do we stay hopeful about love in light of heartbreak, abuse, and femicide statistics? Candice reflects on personal tragedy, the power of choice, and why we cannot over-index on negativity or give up on good love.Knowing Your Worth & Setting Your Price: Candice's powerful opening monologue on setting your own value in business and personal relationships.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Before you invite someone into your house, you have to get your foundation solid. You can't perform confidence out in the world if you're talking down to yourself inside."Welcome to Chapter Two, Episode Nine of Conversations with Candice! We have arrived at the penultimate episode of our season on Love & Relationships, and we are diving deep into two of the most emotionally charged dilemmas of the entire chapter.📢 FINAL WARNING FOR CHAPTER THREE: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack.Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:Dilemma 1 (Self-Worth & 'Am I Deserving of Love?'): A 33-year-old listener who escaped a toxic situationship that left her in £20k debt asks if there is any hope left for her. Candice breaks down the danger of negative self-talk, body image perceptions, her book Manifesto, and why you must build self-respect and self-belief before letting anyone into your life.Dilemma 2 (Too Picky vs. Settling & The 'Zaza Zoo'): Is keeping high standards being 'too stush,' or is settling a recipe for disaster? Candice defends the need for the 'zaza zoo' spark, while Bode steps in with a major reality check on 'potential,' status badges (money, cars, titles), and why the most important thing is finding someone you actually like when 'life lifes' in the trenches.Dating as Data Collection: Bode's perspective on hacking your way to love and why status badges can be removed at any moment.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"What actually hurts us as humans is expectation. You create your own lust—it takes two to sprinkle a little stardust on the routine."Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Eight of Conversations with Candice! We are just two episodes away from closing out our chapter on Love & Relationships, and today’s episode delivers some of our most passionate, unfiltered debates yet.CHAPTER THREE HOUSEKEEPING REMINDER: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and closed group chat will live solely on Substack.Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:Dilemma 1 (Starting a PhD & The Silent Husband): A listener starting her PhD after 10 years of putting her family first feels crushed by her husband's lack of enthusiasm. Candice and Bode unpack the "invisible labour" that holds up a home, male competition, "negging", and why unmet expectations open the gates for pain.Dilemma 2 ("I've Fallen Out of Lust" After 16 Years): Married with three kids, feeling like roommates, and losing the spicy spark. Candice questions why men let themselves go, prompting Bode to passionately push back on male mental health, financial stress, and patriarchal expectations.Creating Your Own Lust: How predictability kills desire and why you have to work with the "Polestar 4" in your yard!No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation.Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week.Get in touch: [email protected] on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candiceWatch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/Follow Candice:Instagram: @candicebrathwaiteTikTok: @candicebrathwaiteSubstack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.