When They Complain But Resist Changing

Amy’s back behind the mic and she’s 5 months post partum, here to give you a life and baby update!

In this final episode of 2023 and the last episode of season 7, Amy digs into the behaviors of projection, deflection, blame and attack. Why do people behave like that? Amy shares her insights into these behavior patterns and explains what YOU can do when face to face with them. Tune in to hear Amy offer you guidance and a memorable final episode before she takes a brief hiatus after giving birth. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: • Emotional management • Self-protective patterns • Unhealthy coping tools • A lack of accountability • Amy’s ‘Hot Potato Theory’ • Navigating difficult relationships

Amy digs deeper into the topic of disrespect and what many of the reasons are for your high tolerance of it. Last week she covered several submitted responses to the question, "Why do YOU think you tolerate too much?" And this week she's tackling even more from over-empathizing, not communicating a boundary is breached to having no limits on extending others the benefit of the doubt. Tune in to hear Amy offer you further insight and your next steps towards changing these patterns and struggles for good! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Believing love is 'enough' Over-empathizing Poor communication Avoidant behavior Not trusting your own judgment Making excuses for a lack of action + growth Using your self-awareness as an excuse As mentioned in this episode, the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors Course will reopen enrollment in January of the new year! To hear about it first and receive early bird discounts, place your Name and Email on the Waitlist here.

Amy responds to your submissions about why you believe you tolerate too much and over-communicate your boundaries. She provides you with further guidance for introspection, deeper understanding into your fears and patterns as well as what your next steps are towards changing it! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Fears of abandonment Fears of conflict Fears of backlash Boundary Setting with difficult people Tolerating mistreatment Childhood trauma Redefining love Healing from neglect Healing from childhood trauma Adulthood trauma People Pleasing patterns The resources mentioned in this episode to support you are linked below! - Access Amy's recommend Somatic Exercise program here. - Download Identifying Your Trauma Triggers Guide here. - Join the Waitlist for the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors course, opening enrollment January 2024. - Join the Waitlist for Rebuilding Self-Trust, re-opening enrollment March 2024.

This week Amy shares the top 3 ways you're shown and taught to not have boundaries growing up. She provides insight and understanding into the fears, unhealthy coping mechanisms and survival strategies adapted from being exposed to this type of caregiver modeling. Amy leaves you with a list of self-reflective prompts to get started reviewing your own relationships and behavior patterns. This episode will support you in identifying any current struggles as we move into what Amy calls "Boundary Season" and help you bring awareness to what you'd like to improve upon. If you're wanting additional support in the boundary setting process, especially after childhood or adulthood trauma, use this link to join the WAITLIST for the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors course re-opening this January 2024. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Childhood trauma Adulthood trauma Boundary setting struggles Adverse childhood experiences Toxic stress People pleasing Provides you self-reflective questions to process your experiences.

Amy discusses what is happening inside an individual who is unloading their pain but resistant to making any changes in their life. She digs into the different scenarios you may have encountered with friends, family or even partners and the distinctions between someone seeking validation, wanting guidance or just wanting to complain. She leaves you with insight into how to navigate these relationships in the most supportive ways possible for yourself and for them! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Being resistant to growth Being open to growth Trauma-dumping Supportive boundaries Post-traumatic awareness Supportive friendships + relationships Taking advantage of professional support (free + paid)

Amy discusses the concept of "extreme thinking" and what fuels the behavior pattern. She offers her insights into how this binary way of thinking can show up in mental health social media content and perpetuate victimhood. By the end of the episode, you're left with more knowledge on this topic as well as what you will want to work on improving to step away from thinking in extremes! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Self-protection + self-preservation Binary Thinking / All or Nothing Thinking / Black + White Thinking / Extreme Thinking Self-trust Victim marketing Solutions for extreme thinking If you're enjoying these episodes of Connect the Dots B*tch, take a moment to leave me a 5-star rating on Apple or Spotify!

In this episode, Amy highlights what is hindering you from healing. She emphasizes the tangible steps that MUST happen in order to move from having experienced trauma and emotional pain to processing, releasing and changing your adapted survival and coping strategies. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Emotional healing Trauma healing Tangible action steps needed to heal. How to know if you are hindering your own healing. A self-qualifying list to help you determine if this episode is for you! Identifying too much with your pain. Making excuses for your trauma. Playing the victim. Taking accountability vs. victim blaming Rebuilding self-trust If you're ready to rebuild your foundation after experiencing trauma, abuse, childhood trauma or any type of emotional pain. And ready to heal your people pleasing, fears of abandonment, trust issues + more! Join Amy as she walks you hand-in-hand through all (3) steps of healing (mentioned in episode) and provides you the proven strategy to rebuild your self-trust in her course: Rebuilding Self-Trust . Enrollment ends on 11/22/23 for the year so do not miss your opportunity to take this essential step!

Amy returns after a brief break to dig into why you're attaching to potential in your relationships. What happens when you attach? What's the underlying root problem that keeps you stuck and wanting to fix, save and rescue others? And most importantly, what tangible steps can you take today to begin making changes and breaking this pattern! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Being a FIXER, SAVER/SAVIOR, RESCUER Attaching to potential in relationships Trying to prove + convince others of your worth. Blaming yourself for others not growing + changing. Childhood trauma Control issues Struggles with acceptance + self-respect. Boundaries For more resources on Boundary Setting, learn more about Amy's course here.

Amy discusses why we experience anxiety especially in relationships. She talks about why anxiety is a symptom of 1 of 3 root problems and shares how to take steps to improve all of them. You'll hear about her personal struggles with an Anxiety Disorder in her teens and what helped her most in healing from it. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Anxiety + Anxiety Disorders OCD Relational anxiety Self-trust and struggles with trusting others Coping strategies Nervous system dysregulation Personal stories from Amy about her anxiety struggles + more! If you'd like access to the highly recommended Somatic Program Amy mentions in this episode, use this link: http://collabs.shop/etrgun . If you'd like to learn more about Rebuilding Self-Trust, you can go here: https://amy-fiedler.teachable.com/p/rebuilding-self-trust .