S2E15 - Prioritizing Relationships

“I think anyone can be a great, great superconnector whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert.” - Ryan Paugh Click to Tweet   In today’s episode I sit down with the Superconnectors themselves, Scott Gerber and Ryan Paugh. Scott and Ryan founded the YEC, an invite-only organization for entrepreneurs under 40 back in 2010, which quickly became one of the most elite organizations of its kind. Since then they have partnered on virtually everything they have done from founding a service-based company to The Forbes Leaderships Councils.     I had the pleasure to sit down with these two fine gents just before their book, Superconnector: Stop Networking and Start Building Business Relationships that Matter hit the shelves back in February and it has since become and instant hit.   From understanding your natural style of connection, to forging partnerships capable of standing the test of time, and how to become a Superconnecting rockstar in your your own circles, in this episode of Community Made!   Reviewer of the week: Nate Lesnik   Select Links and References Superconnector Never get a real job YEC   People mentioned in this episode: Kyle Kramer Steve Sims   Richard Branson Morely Safer Penelope Trunk Chris Farley Gary Vaynerchuck JJ Ramberg Ryan Holiday Tim Ferriss Clay Hebert Michael Roderick Neal Strauss David Hassel  

“If I could buy people at what they think they're worth, and sell them at their true value, I’d be filthy rich.“ Jayson Gaignard Click to Tweet Amazing people become more amazing over time and you just can’t predict who someone will become or what they will go on to accomplish in their life. So if you’re looking to build a world class network, if you appreciate the power of proximity and want to build a solid group of peers, then find people who are undervalued, under-appreciated, who show great potential, and double down on them. You’ll be glad you did. Practical steps for scouting new and promising talent, how to capture relationship intelligence, my 6 Strategies for investing in relationships so that you can really nurture them for the long haul, and so much more in this episode of Community Made… Reviewer of the week: Zvi Band   Select links and references The Tim Ferriss Show The 5 Love Languages   People mentioned Ryan Holiday Nick Kusmich Tim Ferriss Richard Branson John Paul Dejoria Travis Kalanick Eric Schmidt Bob Chapman Burnay Brown Dan martell Tony Robbins John Ruhlin  

“If you want a world class network, you need to invest in world class people.” Jayson Gaignard Click to Tweet   I’m a firm believer that all problems can be solved with the right peer group. That being said, if you’re looking to build a world class network then you got to go wide in your networking and narrow in your nurturing.   In this episode I share action-oriented strategies for building an incredibly peer group regardless of whether you’re just starting out or already established as a community catalyst within your circles. You will learn the 5 categories of relationships and the practical steps you can take nurture them each step of the way, why the key to a strong network is subtraction not addition, and how to constantly be re-investing in existing relationships and micro-investing in new ones this week on Community Made…   Reviewer of the week: Sol Orwell   Select Links and References: Warren Buffett’s ‘20 Slot’ Rule: How to Simplify Your Life and Maximize Your Results Summit Series Fire by Judy Brown   People Mentioned in this episode James Clear Warren Buffett Robin Dunbar John Ive Esther Perel Tim Ferriss Larry Page Sergei Brin Casey Neistat Tai Lopez Kevin Kelly Judy Brown  

If you want to be great at something, find someone who’s the best at it and learn from them.” -Todd Herman   Full disclosure: I am a huge Todd Herman fan. I met Todd during one of the darkest times of my life, and my connection to him has had a substantial positive impact. This man owns real estate in my mind when it comes to mentorship, and for good reason. His digital book, The Definitive Guide on Finding & Becoming a Mentor is the most underrated piece of literature on the subject I have ever read. In this episode of Community Made, the two of us sit down to discuss the many myths of mentorship, Todd's framework for finding a great mentor, his personal playbook on how to be a great mentor, and the many benefits that can be found in mentoring other people...   Reviewer of the Week: Christy Burch   Select Links and References The Definitive Guide on Finding & Becoming a Mentor Seeking Wisdom by Peter Bevelin Contagious by Jonah Berger Give and Take by Adam Grant Luxy Hair Coaching the Mental Game by Harvey Dorfman 22 Immutable Laws of Marketing How to Get a Meeting with Anyone The 90 Day Year

“The best mentors know this: Instead of giving answers, they ask better questions. Instead of speaking in absolutes, they offer points of view. Instead of giving direct advice, they share their first hand experience.” Jayson Gaignard Click to Tweet   Looking backwards on my career, I can honestly say that I wouldn’t be where I am without the guidance of a few great mentors that took me under their wing. I have learned that you’re never too old to have a mentor, you’ll need different mentors at different stages in your life and career, and no one person will take you from good to great and excellent to exceptional, so approach it with the goal of creating a network of mentors instead of looking for the whole package. Why the wisest investment is wisdom, how to make the most of a mentoring relationship regardless of which side of the equation you might fall, myths of mentorship that we tend to take as truths, and the 4 stages of mentoring, and so much more in this episode of Community Made!   Reviewer of the week: Na Ka   Select Links and References How to Find and Become a Mentor by Todd Herman I can’t make this up by Kevin Hart Back Pocket COO by Cameron Herold Vivid Vision by Cameron Herold The Perfect Calendar Steve Sisler’s DISC profiles  

”I was feeling a little bit isolated in my entrepreneurial journey and I just wanted to build a circle of people.” Alexis Dean Click to Tweet In this episode of Community Made I sit down with two uber-catalysts, Giovanni Marsico and Alexis Dean. Giovanni is the founder of Archangel Summit, Archangel Academy and Archangel Masters, a trifecta designed to support mission-driven entrepreneurs, help socially oriented startups fund their dreams, and connect global leaders in cause-driven enterprise through annual gatherings. Alexis is the founder of Dovetail Summit, a curated global community of high performing female founders who gather at invitation-only, all-inclusive summit weekends.   The three of us discuss how to build communities at scale, finding your tribe, the complexities of hosting small intimate gatherings vs. huge summit style events, best practices for vetting potential members and attendees and so much more! Reviewer of the week: Ernest Khan Select Links and References:ArchAngel Masters Archangel Summit Dovetail Team Building To apply for an invitation to the Dovetail Summer Summit (August 9th - 12th, 2018) visit: Dovetail Summit People mentioned in this episode: Joe Polish Chris Guillebeau Dan Martell Sol Orwell A.J. Jacobs James Altucher Naveen Jain Tony Gareri Clay Hebert

Today I sit down with publicity powerhouses Selena Soo and Chris Winfield to discuss how their “divide and conquer” mentality has enabled them to host dinners for some of NYC’s top media influencers. Reviewer of the week: Mary Dooley   Select Links and References Elite Retreat Impacting Millions Unfair Advantage   People mentioned in this episode: Derek Halpern Dan Martell Todd Herman John Corcoran Clay Hebert Neil Patell Jeffrey Zurofsky Michael Fishman Ramit Sethi Steve Jobs Danny Meyer Pat Flynn John Lee Dumas Chris Ducker Kimra Luna Suzy Moore Ryan Lee Sol Orwell Victor Chung David Olk Neil Strauss Nick Onken Jonathon Fields Ryan Lee

“If you’re not acting consistently, then any strategy you try to implement will be useless” - Zvi Band Click to Tweet   How do you successfully implement a relationship strategy that nurtures key connections and takes them to the next level? In this episode of the Community Made Podcast, Derek Coburn and Zvi Band about best practices for building a killer network from scratch. Derek founded Cadre, which is a relationship-oriented, invitation-only community of successful business owners. And Zvi Band is the CEO of Contactually, which is essentially a relationship-based CRM system. I use the software myself, and it’s had such a positive impact on my relationships… all of this to say, they’re the real deal when it comes to building networks. Get ready to hear how to create a network of incredible people from scratch on this episode of Community Made...   Reviewer of the week: Michelle Talbert   Select Links and References Cadre Contactually Networking is Not Working Your Network is Your Net Worth by Porter Gale Book in a Box EO YPO 747 dinners WeWork   People mentioned in this episode: Daniel Pink Joey Coleman Glenn Hellman Anton Zolotov Tucker Max Chris Brogan James Altucher Ryan Holiday Neils Parker Clay Hebert Steve Jobs Warren Buffett Gary Vaynerchuck Tim Ferriss Chris Shembrauf Eddie Vedder Richard Branson Michael Port Jay Papasan Scott Stratten John Hall Sol Orwell Cal Newport  

“I do dinners selfishly because I’m fascinated… I just have an addiction to being around people who are passionate about what they’re creating in the world. Period.” - Dan Martell   In this episode of Community Made I sit down with my dear friends Sol Orwell and Dan Martell to talk about their signature styles of hosting catalyst dinners in their own communities. The three of us discuss everything you need to consider to become an excellent host. From best practices for invitations, to seating assignments, venue selection, tips for facilitating great dinner conversations and so much more….   Select Links and References Sol Orwell Dan Martell Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferazzi   People mentioned in this episode: Clay Hebert Michael Litt Tim Ferriss Keith Ferrazzi Jeff Walker Lewis Howes Ryan Holiday Shaa Wasmund Joey Coleman Chris Plough Chris Ashenden Mark Cuban Derek Coburn Richard Branson Dave McClure Ryan Holmes Michael Lind Rick Perreault Nicholas Kusmich Trivinia Barber Jack Canfield Steve Hanselman Frank Bouchard Matt Bertulli Neil Patel Jim Estill Darryl Hicks

I’m a firm believer that all problems can be solved with the right peer group. Hosting dinners and unique live experiences is my favourite way to seed new relationships and re-invest in existing ones. To date I’ve done hundreds of dinners in cities all over North America but in full transparency, I was a complete wreck while planning my first dinner so many years ago. In this episode of Community Made I’m going to share some of the key takeaways from my book Mastermind Dinners: Build Lifelong Relationships by Connecting Experts, Influencers, and Linchpins and provide an in-depth play by play of what went into the planning of one of my most recent dinners, giving you the playbook on how to become a super-connecting catalyst in your own community. Enjoy!   Reviewer of the week: Mark Fujiwara   Links and references Mastermind Dinners: Build Lifelong Relationships by Connecting Experts, Influencers, and Linchpins The Art of Charm Podcast People mentioned in this episode Seth Godin Neil Strauss Jordan Harbinger David Buss Tim Ferriss Mark Ecko Dave Asprey Ryan Holiday Travis Kalanick Eric Schmidt BJ Fogg Simon Sinek Simon Bowen Robert Cialdini