239: Boundaries Before Burnout

It's easy to label someone "difficult" because it takes us off the hook. In Myth #3 of the Five Myths of Conflict Resolution series, Michelle and Chase suggest that most everyday workplace conflict is a difficult pattern between two people, not a difficult person. They share how to swap snap character judgments for observable behaviors, and how to ask, "What's happening between us, and what's my role in it?" Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

Part 2 of a 5-part series on the Five Myths of Conflict Resolution. We've all heard it: stay calm, don't take it personally and just focus on the work. But what if leaving emotions out of it is actually holding us back?   In this episode, Michelle and Chase take on Myth #2: Leave Emotions Out of It. Being able to manage your emotions matters, but that's different from pretending they don't exist. When emotions go unspoken, they don't disappear. They show up as silence, defensiveness, sarcasm, or withdrawal.    You'll learn how emotions like frustration, anxiety and disappointment give you useful information about what's really going on. You'll also hear simple, professional ways to name what you're feeling without blaming anyone, whether you're leading a team or talking with your own leader. Where there are humans, there will be conflict. In this kickoff to a 5-part series on the Five Myths of Conflict Resolution, Michelle & CHase take on Myth #1: Focus on the facts to resolve conflict. Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

Where there are humans, there will be conflict. In this kickoff to a 5-part series on the Five Myths of Conflict Resolution, Michelle & CHase take on Myth #1: Focus on the facts to resolve conflict. Facts matter, but they only tell us what happened. They don't tell us what it meant to the people involved. They show how the same facts can lead two people to tell themselves very different stories. They also share how to name a problem without assuming your view is the only one. Whether you lead a team or you're individual contributor, you'll walk away with a simple Fact - Story - Question exercise to try on your next unresolved tension.  Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

In this solo episode, Michelle acknowledges the reality of the final quarter of the year and how easy it is to get discouraged when we don't accomplish all of the personal or professional goals we set for ourselves at the beginning of the year. She offers an uplifting reminder to give yourself grace and identify where you might still make meaningful progress (not perfection!) before the year's end. Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

In this solo episode, Chase unpacks two small moments from one ordinary day and the career and life lessons hiding inside them. We don't need more years added to our life. We need more life added to the years we've already got. A short, honest reflection on presence, habit, and what we miss when we stay heads-down at work and everywhere else.  Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!  

Would you bring an iced coffee into a job interview ... and should anyone really care if you did? In this episode, Michelle and Chase use one surprisingly heated debate to unpack unwritten workplace rules, first impressions, authenticity, and the gap between intention and impact. Your professional reputation isn't built in one big moment, it's shaped by the small choices people notice every day.  Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

What does it really take to be ready for leadership? In this episode, Tony Sanders joins Michelle and Chase to discuss the mindset shifts that happen when moving from individual contributor to leader, why you can never be fully ready but can always prepare, and how to demonstrate leadership long before receiving the title. They also explore career growth, belonging, the leadership growth trap, and the human skills that will matter most in an AI-powered future.   Connect with Tony: LinkedIn   Leading Through Growth Podcast: YouTube Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

"That's not how I would have done it…"   But is it actually wrong? Or simply different? What if being a better leader or teammate isn't about caring less about the work. What if it's about caring enough about the people around you that you're willing to let them find their own way to excellence? In this episode of Career Dreams, Michelle and Chase talk about how we can hold on loosely to the way we have always done things and allow others to find their path to excellence.  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

Healthy boundaries aren't about doing less. Boundaries are not an attempt at controlling someone else's behavior. Boundaries are about making better choices with your time and energy and communicating effectively. In this episode, Michelle and Chase talk about capacity, tradeoffs, and speaking up before burnout takes over. Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

What if the "song" stuck in your head isn't a song at all, but an old belief about what you can or can't do? In this episode of Career Dreams, Michelle and Chase talk about the internal soundtracks that shape our career growth, and how to turn down the ones that no longer serve us. Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: [email protected]. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!