Ep 05: Being Kinky with Javay

This is a solo episode. A little stream of consciousness about what I have learned about my sexuality as a sex educator. What pleasure means to me, and why we should prioritize it.

IN THIS EPISODE:- Lauren’s upbringing in “True Love Waits” Christianity- How religious systems of oppression influence how we view sex- Sex-negative beliefs impact everybody- Figuring out your personal sexual timeline- How to invite a partner into practicing sexual wellness- How sex education can be life-changing for childrenABOUT LAUREN:As a professional sexuality educator with 20+ years of public speaking experience, Lauren makes comprehensive sexuality education fun and accessible. Specializing in helping individuals overcome sex-negative beliefs based in religiousity, Lauren believes all humans deserve pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence.Follow more of Lauren’s work on Instagram (@sex_ed_for_you) and see her offerings on her website (sexedforyou.com)!

IN THIS EPISODE:- Their experience as a life coach- What exactly is coaching and how it can help anyone- Elena’s year and a half of celibacy- Building strong boundaries with yourself- Life is about choices- Sobriety and relationships- What it means to be intentional- Having a meditation practiceABOUT ELENA:Elena Rangel (they/them/she/her) is a human empowerment coach whose practice is specialized in comprehensive coaching within the LGBTQIA+ community. They are a certified Life Coach and Recovery Coach. Their background in accessible and trauma informed yoga and bodywork, partnered with the techniques of coaching and harm reduction, creates a cohesive healing model for each individual.Elena has been concentrated on bringing trauma informed coaching to the queer community, as they have seen firsthand the impact that trauma and addiction has on the LGBTQIA+ community.Elena has walked through the struggle of addiction in their own life and knows the power that full body healing and recovery holds. They are passionate about furthering that opportunity to as many people as possible.https://www.elenarangelhealing.com/

IN THIS EPISODE- Tatiana’s creative background- What sexual wellness means, how to cultivate it, and how this plays into our daily lives- Why we should prioritize our sexual wellbeing- The importance of building community and the patience that is needed- What it means to be in a creative flow- Pleasure practices- How to cultivate more creativity into your self lives- The concept of play- The permission to step into your powerABOUT TATIANA:Tatiana is the founder, host, and sexuality educator behind Bedside. A podcast series unpacking the intricacies of modern love, dating, relationships, and all things sex. By trade she’s a branding designer on a mission to make sexual wellness more accessible and approachable. Her agenda is to talk about the sex we’re really out here having; and make room for the space between the hyper-clinical and hyper-sexual narratives we so often see.

IN THIS EPISODE- Beginners' guide to dirty talking- Breaking down assumptions- Fantasy and Roleplaying- Engaging in Play- Relational Aspects of Dirty Talk and Role Playing- Kink Types- Discovering new turn-ons and role-play ideas- What we can learn from our partners- Gender, identity, and expansion- Why sex education needs to be more widespreadABOUT TUCK:Tuck Malloy (they/them) is a white, queer, non-binary, and polyamorous sex educator. They are a certified holistic sex educator with five years combined experience as a sex-educator and sex-toy expert. They live on unceded Ohlone land. Tuck has a background in global feminisms, sexual assault and domestic violence advocacy, and youth education. They create holistic workshops and work 1:1 with students on the topics of relationships, sensuality, gender identity, BDSM & kink, desire, pleasure, and all the many kinds of sex humans have! When not teaching or writing new classes Tuck loves to eat their favorite foods, play with their enormous dog, take naps, watch movies, and slay at karaoke.

IN THIS EPISODE- What does being kinky mean- How one can explore their kinky side- You might be kinky and not even realize it- Misconceptions about BDSM and Kink- What Javay has learned about herself after exploring her Kinky side- How communication is strengthened in Kink and BDSM- How you can get more comfortable voicing your desiresABOUT JAVAY:Javay da BAE, aka the Millennial Sexpert, is a sex educator, pleasure professional, content creator, kinkster, academic, and media personality. Her goal as a sex educator is to offer comprehensive, inclusive sex education for all. She offers sex education through her YouTube series, In Bed With a Millennial, her Instagram (@MillennialSexpert), her Tik Tok (@CallMeDrFN), and her website (TheMillennialSexpert.com). Javay is currently working on her PhD in human sexuality.

IN THIS EPISODE- Desire issues due to porn consumption- Statistics on sexual health and how it relates to internet porn- Pros and cons of watching porn- Queerness in porn- Why cis straight women enjoy lesbian porn- Self esteem and body image- How communication is impacted by porn- How to interact with porn in a healthy way- What TV & film have in common with pornABOUT SELINA:Selina is a queer relationship therapist and sexologist. Based in Sydney Australia, she works with individuals, couples and other relationship formations to unpack everything from communication issues and mismatched libidos to exploring your sexuality and improving body confidence. Selina is a self-proclaimed pleasure activist and loves empowering people through knowledge and celebrating individuality. She also writes sex and relationship advice at her Instagram, sexwith_sel which will be expanding to a blog in the very near future. Selina holds degrees in Psychology, Sociology, Family and Relationship Therapy and is undertaking another in Psychosexual Therapy WHAT IS BODYTALK?BodyTalk is an interview series within Club BodyTalk. Club BodyTalk is your hub for all things s3xual communication. Hosted by sex educator Lizzy Jo, the series emphasizes education, self-reflection, and direct communication as core principles for nurturing intimate relationships with yourself and others.

IN THIS INTERVIEW:Melanie talks about what pleasure activism really meansHow creativity, pleasure, and activism overlapMelanie’s grad school project makes reading Pleasure Activism more digestible and even more impactful! How important it is to “bust the right nut” ABOUT MELANIE:Melanie Ernestina is a Houston, Tx native with a background in theater, dance, and music and a recent graduate of CalArts with an MFA in Creative Producing and Management. It is here where her pleasure work begins. Inspired by the syllabus created for Beyonce’s Lemonade and fueled by Melanie Ernestina’s desire to give pleasure and joy back to her community, Melanie presents the second phase of her ongoing Bookclub project work. “Bookclub” represents the power of shared community, united through text and discussion, and expanded to communal spaces she creates across the internet, in physical form, and ultimately through a festival platform. the pleasure activism syllabus explores the New York Times Bestseller Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by adrienne maree brown.WHAT IS BODYTALK?BodyTalk is an interview series within Club BodyTalk. Club BodyTalk is your hub for all things s3xual communication. Hosted by sex educator Lizzy Jo, the series emphasizes education, self-reflection, and direct communication as core principles for nurturing intimate relationships with yourself and others.

IN THIS INTERVIEW:Ellina defines shadow work How does one begin their shadow work journey The parenting mirror Exploring our relationships with body image How is shadow work related to manifestation How do we know when we are healingABOUT ELLINA:Ellina uses different modalities to dive deep into all your different bodies (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual) to create harmony between them. Some modalities are breathwork, nutrition, movement, parts work, reiki, and tarot. She is a certified yoga instructor and taught for 8 years in Los Angeles before dedicating all her time to shadow work, spiritual, and physical healing. Prior to teaching yoga, Ellina received a B.A. in Psychology at Boston University. She now lives in Maui, HI with her husband and son with the intention of getting reconnected with Mother Earth to heal in deep mystical ways.WHAT IS BODYTALK?BodyTalk is an interview series within Club BodyTalk. Club BodyTalk is your hub for all things s3xual communication. Hosted by sex educator Lizzy Jo, the series emphasizes education, self-reflection, and direct communication as core principles for nurturing intimate relationships with yourself and others.

In Episode 01 of BodyTalking, Lizzy and Tori talk about Borderline Personality Disorder, DBT Therapy, and how that all plays into relationships of any kind.Tori Lynn Leibovic (she/her/hers) is an LA native who’s been living in New York City for the past year while looking for her partner in crime. Tori is a 29 years young Aquarius woman with passions in art, stand-up comedy, and most importantly Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). When she isn’t working her 9-5 job, Tori is building her own lifestyle art brand, @torilynnliving, where she paints and embroiders vintage denim wearable art jackets and canvases.BodyTalk is an interview series within Club BodyTalk. Club BodyTalk is your hub for all things s3xual communication. Hosted by sex educator Lizzy Jo, the series emphasizes education, self-reflection, and direct communication as core principles for nurturing intimate relationships with yourself and others.