You Don’t Have a Shopping Problem. It’s Called “Relief Spending”

We all desire more money, more joy, support, opportunity, pleasure and abundance. In this episode, I am unpacking what “opening to receive” might really ask of us when we’re burnt out, overgiving, caregiving, controlling all the things, or simply too damn full.We’ll talk capacity, boundaries, money, and play. And how receiving sometimes isn’t about attracting more, but about making room for what’s already trying to come in.Enjoy the show! ⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

If you are up most nights worrying about money scenarios that may or may not happen, this episode is for you. I know how hard it is… In this episode, we explore why financial uncertainty can feel so overwhelming, especially when our capacity is already depleted by caregiving, grief, burnout, health concerns, work pressure or major life transitions.You’ll learn how the nervous system responds to uncertainty, how reduced capacity can turn a future possibility into a present emergency, and how to distinguish useful preparation from fear-based forecasting.We’ll also explore the certainty-seeking loop: the cycle of one more calculation, one more scenario and one more question, all in the hope that enough thinking will finally make us feel safe.Because some money stress needs a plan.Some money stress needs care.And often, it needs both.In this episode, we explore:Why even exciting uncertainty can activate the nervous systemHow capacity affects our ability to tolerate financial unknownsThe window of tolerance in ordinary, everyday languageThe difference between practical preparation and fear-based forecastingHow to identify the specific problem your worry is trying to preventWhy every possible future scenario does not require a plan todayHow one small practical step can build agency and self-trustWhat to do when your mind continues asking, “But are we absolutely sure?”An IFS-inspired* practice for meeting the part of you that carries financial fear*The guided reflection in this episode is inspired by Internal Family Systems and is offered for education and gentle self-reflection. It is not a substitute for mental health treatment or individualized financial advice.⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

Today I sit down with one of clients, Desiree Eby to chat about the most common money issues that block financial wellness. We chat about Desiree’s personal experience with overspending and people pleasing, and how she worked on overcoming these habits through self awareness and untangling her own money story from her parents’. Through understanding her money parts* and understanding how her emotions influence her spending patterns, Desiree was able to break the habit of reckless, emotional spending. And funny plot twist! Desiree’s money work even improved her sex life! AND then she was able to manifest a crazy amount of money, which completely changed her money story. Listen to this awesome episode and let us know what resonated with you by leaving a 5 star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Links mentioned in this episode:Empowered Spender is self paced course for emotional spending. Join on my website. * Money parts are inspired by Internal Family System by Dr Dick Schwartz, and Deborah Price from The Money Coaching Institute. ⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

What if your spending or shopping habis aren't the problem?In this episode, we explore why shopping, takeout, scrolling, vaping, and other habits are often less about a lack of discipline and more about our nervous system searching for relief. Together, we’ll unpack what your financial behaviors might be trying to do for you and why understanding the need beneath the habit is the first step toward lasting change.Because maybe you’re not bad with money…Maybe you’re just looking for a little relief ❤️❤️❤️⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

Ever feel like you’re carrying so much that even the smallest task feels impossible? In this episode, I’m sharing a very honest look at what survival mode has been like for me lately as a caregiver, and how anticipatory grief, depletion, and a lack of nervous system capacity can quietly affect our goals, creativity, financial habits, and self-worth. We explore why procrastination isn’t laziness, the difference between boundaries and capacity, and how tiny, compassionate actions can help us keep moving forward… even when life feels heavy ♥️keywordsMoney goalsProcrastination Burn outNervous System HealthSomatic Healing Parts WorkGriefFinancial Wellness ⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

In this episode, Gloria Zhang of the Inner Child Podcast joins me to chat about Mother and Father wounds and how they affect our relationship with our worth and finances. Connect with Gloria:Based out of British Columbia, Gloria Zhang (@bygloriazhang) is a renowned Inner Child healer, trained therapist, and award-winning author and TEDx speaker known for her signature style of translating deep esoteric ideas into everyday wisdom. Gloria hosts the global sensation, 'The Inner Child Podcast,' a self-help show which has captivated audiences across the globe, accumulating 2.4 million downloads. Her clients include accomplished athletes, founders, and entertainment industry giants.Previous episodes featuring Gloria:Building Wealth and Financial Freedom through Inner Child Healing with Gloria ZhangEnd Your Year with Wisdom From Gloria Zhang⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

Scarcity can shape the way we spend, save, give, receive, and even how we experience joy. In this episode, I explore scarcity through the lenses of Behavioral Finance, Somatic Experiencing, and my own personal journey. We talk about how scarcity is a normal part of being human, how it influences our financial behaviors, why shame keeps scarcity alive, and how practices like compassionate awareness, slowing down, orienting, and faith can help us build the capacity to experience scarcity without letting it make all of our decisions. If you’ve ever felt like fear was driving your relationship with money and joy, this episode is for you!⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

We often view procrastination as a sign of laziness or a lack of motivation or willpower. But, what if there's more under the hood? What if it actually holds the shortcut the getting things done and not an obstacle?In this episode, I explore procrastination through the lens of Behavioral Finance, Somatic Experiencing and Parts Work, and introduce a simple life skill that will change how you relate to this "bad" habit without shame, self criticism or will power. I hope you enjoy the episode!⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

Listen to Felina's first appearance on UnF*ck Your Money here:The Best Money Convo in the WorldRegister with Felina's workshop with Somatic Experiencing International, The Somatic Side of Money Trauma on her website: https://www.felinadanalis.com/When it comes to money, most people think about money mindset, budgeting, or financial literacy... But very few understand what happens in the body around money and how this is actually what drives most of our financial decisions and behaviors. In this episode, Felina and I chat about:What Somatic Experiencing is and how it's different to traditional talk therapy.Why high-achieving people can understand money intellectually but still struggle with their money behaviors and habits. What happens in the nervous system when someone feels stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed about money.And what financial trauma looks like, and how to begin healing. Keywords: financial trauma, money, budgets, spending, saving; financial healing, money healing: Connect with Felina:Felina Danalis, M.A., S.E.P. (she/her) helps individuals and mission-driven organizations master resilience to stress, anxiety and trauma in order to have a more meaningful impact in the world. After witnessing a traumatic car bombing while working as a diplomat in the Balkans, she had a breaking open moment which caused her to radically change direction and course. A bi-cultural and multi-lingual daughter of working class immigrants, for more than a decade she has stewarded a global coaching practice (www.felinadanalis.com) that helps individuals and organizations deal with the impacts of stress in a culturally-sensitive, trauma-informed, body-based way. She has worked with institutions ranging from the World Bank to Planned Parenthood, the Betty Ford Center to the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies, Google to The Golden Door. She holds degrees from Georgetown and Johns Hopkins University, is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and assistant teaching faculty and once upon a time co-wrote a book on socially responsible investing. www.felinadanalis.comhttps://www.instagram.com/fdanalis/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/felinadanalis/ ⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony

If you are someone who has significant savings but cannot spend money on basic needs without going into anxiety.... If you find yourself delaying healthcare, therapy, dental work, or support despite being able to afford it... Or you experience guilt every time you spend money on yourself, or rest...Then this episode is for you! You will learn what financial deprivation looks like and how you can release this pattern, not recklessly, but in a way that helps you do BOTH: enjoy life, spend without guilt AND have a financial security. ⭐️ Book Your Introductory SessionIf you’re tired of wondering why money feels harder than it should, I invite you to book a 1:1 Financial Wellness Session.Together, we’ll explore the emotional, behavioral, and nervous system patterns driving your financial decisions, identify what’s getting in the way, and create a practical path forward that actually works for your real life.Because I BET you don’t need more financial advice... you need help understanding why you're struggling to do what you already know would help.You can book your session here. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If this episode made you think, gave you a new perspective, or helped you feel a little less alone, would you do me a favor?Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and email me a screenshot. Reviews help this little podcast reach more go-getters who need it. And because I appreciate you, I’ll send you a special thank-you gift in return ♥️~Podcast theme song by The Jilted Irony