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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers34:39 Promoting the Book and Final ThoughtsBio:Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/. In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers34:39 Promoting the Book and Final ThoughtsBio:Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores the common misunderstanding surrounding lower desire partners in relationships. She discusses how a lack of evident effort towards sexual intimacy problems is often misinterpreted as indifference. Jessa explains that it's more about a lack of hope and feeling stuck rather than a lack of care. The episode provides insightful reframing strategies for higher desire partners, emphasizing understanding and teamwork to address intimate relationship challenges. Listeners are encouraged to connect to the idea that change is possible and to approach these issues with optimism and shared goals.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast01:02 Understanding Lower Desire Partners03:21 The Importance of Hope in Sexual Relationships04:11 Encouragement and Resources04:28 Conclusion and Listener EngagementWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Junvi Ola, who shares her personal story of overcoming vaginismus, a condition that prevented her from having intercourse until the age of 36. Junvi discusses her journey, which included working with a sex therapist, using dilators, and eventually hiring a surrogate partner. The episode provides insights and inspiration for those facing similar struggles, highlighting the bravery and determination required to break through such challenges.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast01:46 Junvi's Personal Story Begins02:30 The Impact of Early Experiences03:42 Struggles with Intimacy and Seeking Help06:09 Discovering Vaginismus07:46 Therapy and Overcoming Mental Barriers14:28 Exploring Sex Surrogacy19:37 Choosing a Therapist19:53 The Triad Therapy Experience20:42 Invitation to Share Your Story21:11 Overcoming Fear and Dilator Use22:16 First Steps with the Surrogate Partner23:18 Sensate Touching and Emotional Challenges24:22 The Turning Point25:43 Achieving Penetration28:25 Focusing on Pleasure and Education32:03 Reflecting on the Journey34:07 Normalizing Vaginismus and Surrogate Use38:02 Final Thoughts and EncouragementWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this soapbox episode of 'The Better Sex Podcast,' sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman emphasizes the importance of talking about sex more openly. Jessa explores the cultural taboo surrounding discussions about sex and how it leads to feelings of isolation and shame. Sharing her personal experiences and observations, she highlights the common struggles couples face and encourages listeners to initiate conversations about sex with their partners and friends. By normalizing these discussions, Jessa argues, people can alleviate feelings of inadequacy and seek the support they need. The episode ends with a challenge for listeners to talk about sex with at least one person in the coming week.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex00:58 The Taboo of Talking About Sex01:10 Real-Life Conversations and Observations02:50 Common Struggles in Sexual Relationships04:18 Encouragement to Open Up05:31 Conclusion and Call to ActionWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by psychiatrist Dr. Hector Rodriguez to discuss the effects of trauma on sexual desire, libido, pleasure, and satisfaction. Dr. Rodriguez shares insights on how trauma can impact intimate relationships and how the brain can be rewired to facilitate healing and enjoyment of sex. He dives into the role of dopamine and oxytocin, the difference in trauma's impact on individuals, and how simple actions like hugging and handholding can promote healing. The episode highlights the importance of understanding and caring for the brain to improve overall sexual wellness.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:52 Guest Introduction: Dr. Hector Rodriguez on Trauma and Sexual Health01:40 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact on Intimacy03:44 Brain Patterns and Trauma Responses05:39 Trauma's Effect on Sexual Wellness08:52 The Brain's Role in Desire and Intimacy11:18 Self-Soothing and Healthy Sexual Practices12:23 Quizzes for Better Intimacy12:50 Trauma and Self-Soothing Behaviors13:49 Integrating Dopamine and Life Management14:59 Addressing Trauma and Brain Health16:02 Hope and Brain Scan Validation18:45 Emotional Intelligence and Forgiveness19:52 Reconnecting Couples Through Simple Gestures23:00 Understanding the Brain's Complexity24:18 Resources and Final ThoughtsTake any of my quizzes at https://www.intimacywithease.comBio:Dr. Hector Rodriguez is a psychiatrist, brain expert, and speaker specializing in trauma, brain health, and sexual wellness. With a background in neuroscience, advanced brain imaging, and lifestyle psychiatry, he helps people reframe struggles with intimacy, libido, and confidence through both science and soul. Known for his unapologetic yet compassionate approach, Dr. Hector blends trauma-informed care with practical strategies for resilience, emotional intelligence, and thriving relationships. His core message is simple: you’re not broken — you’re wired to survive, and you can rewire to thrive.www.whitebutterflyclinic.comDoctor_hectorWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses the common issue of differences in sexual desire among couples. She emphasizes the importance of open communication and partnership when addressing this issue, rather than resorting to quick fixes like CBD gummies or sex toys without mutual consent. Jessa explains why these well-intentioned solutions often backfire and are perceived as pressure or blame. Instead, she encourages couples to work together in improving their intimate relationship through shared responsibility and understanding.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:45 Today's Topic: Enhancing Desire in Relationships01:15 Case Study: Alcohol and Connection02:09 The Trap of Quick Fixes02:47 The Importance of Communication04:10 Working Together as a Team05:29 Conclusion and Listener EngagementWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Dr. Jacquie Del Rosario about the invasive impact of technology on relationships. They discuss how excessive screen time can weaken intimacy and emotional connections, and how couples can set boundaries to deepen their face-to-face interactions. Dr. Del Rosario shares insights on how technology has altered dating and wooing practices, the importance of intentional communication, and strategies for couples to reconnect. They also touch on the challenges of addressing a partner's technology use and the benefits of seeking professional help to maintain a healthy relationship.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:47 Impact of Technology on Relationships04:04 Challenges of Modern Dating07:44 Maintaining Connection in the Digital Age13:16 Setting Boundaries for Better Intimacy15:12 The Impact of Technology on Intimacy15:38 Introduction to Jess and Her Services16:06 Setting Boundaries with Technology17:07 The Importance of Face-to-Face Communication20:08 Using Conversation Cards to Reconnect22:17 Leveraging Technology Positively23:26 Addressing Technology Concerns with Your Partner26:35 The Role of Professional Help in Relationships29:00 Dr. Jacquie's Trauma Treatment Cohort30:45 Conclusion and Contact InformationWork with Jessa? Visit https://www.intimacywithease.comBio:Dr. Jacquie’s meteoric rise into the relationship and marriage arena hasdeemed her America's Marriage Coach™. Her magnetic appeal andpractical solutions to relatable issues captivates her audiences worldwide.Dr. Jacquie’s mantra derives from the idea that the foundation of any societystarts within an individual’s home. For the past 20 years, Dr. Jacquie hasevangelized couples everywhere with her philosophy of the seven pillars ofcompatibility. She has engineered a host of tools to cultivate healthyrelationships and marriage. These tools include: Curricula, The MarriageUniversity, Best Marriage Keys, and created the Compatibility Quiz. Inaddition to this curricula, Dr. Jacquie hosts conferences and intensivetrainings that provide skill-based learning that induces a shift intrajectories.drjacquie.com@askdrjacquieWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, legendary adult film actor Mitch Hartwell shares his unique insights on male sexual performance. Drawing from his two-decade career in the adult film industry and his expertise in neurolinguistic programming, Mitch discusses the psychological and physical strategies men can utilize to improve their sexual experiences, focusing on control, mindset, and overcoming common issues like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Mitch emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own anatomy, being strategic in the bedroom, and building self-confidence through incremental success. Listen in for expert advice, practical tips, and an in-depth conversation about navigating and enhancing intimate relationships.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:50 Guest Introduction: Mitch Hartwell01:56 Mitch's Journey and Expertise05:27 Understanding Male Performance11:06 The Three Levels of Sexual Satisfaction20:58 Belief Systems and Performance25:31 Recognizing and Utilizing Tools for Change26:08 The Dangers of 'I Hope' Thinking26:54 Strategies for Erectile Dysfunction27:25 Understanding Sensations and Performance Pathways30:54 Psychological vs. Physical Erections38:39 Strategies for Premature Ejaculation39:07 The Five Minute Marker40:15 Position Strategies for Lasting Longer43:19 Building Confidence and Avoiding the Doom Loop44:18 Conclusion and How to Reach OutDesire discrepancy resources are at: https://www.desirediscrepancy.comBio:Erik Everhard (Mitch Hartwell) is a best-selling author, elite men’s coach, and former top-ranked adult film star who helps men get harder, last longer, and satisfy women faster — by increasing their “SQ” (sexual intelligence).His methods combine tactical psychology, proven techniques, and strategic bedroom positioning — not theory. With over 5,000 real-world sexual encounters and a master-level certification in neuro-linguistic programming, Erik brings a rare, lived perspective that helps men eliminate limiting beliefs, master their performance, and lead with confidence in the bedroom.Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses a practical strategy for improving communication and collaboration in intimate relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding each other's perspectives and removing the pressure of making immediate decisions. By fostering empathy and seeking a win-win solution, couples can create a more harmonious decision-making process. The episode provides actionable steps on how partners can share their views and reach mutually beneficial outcomes.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex00:52 Communication Strategy for Couples01:31 Understanding Each Other's Perspectives02:33 Collaborative Decision Making04:11 Seeking Win-Win Solutions05:45 Conclusion and Listener EngagementWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of Better Sex, host Jess Zimmerman, a sex therapist, speaks with Gabriela Rosa about overcoming difficult fertility challenges. Rosa shares her journey into the field of infertility, which started with a broad interest in nutrition and naturopathy, leading her to specialize in reproductive health. They discuss the impact of minor factors on fertility, the importance of acting pregnant now to get pregnant later, and the role of chronic stress. Rosa also explains her approach to working with patients, diagnosing issues, and collaborating with physicians globally. The episode emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing underlying health issues and the benefits of proactive care for enhancing fertility.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:50 Guest Introduction: Gabriela Rosa on Fertility Challenges02:07 Gabriela's Journey into Fertility and Reproductive Health07:00 Understanding Infertility Trends and Misconceptions11:01 Act Pregnant Now to Get Pregnant Later17:21 Lesser-Known Causes of Infertility21:11 Understanding Homeostasis and Fertility Challenges22:25 Healthcare Systems and Fertility Treatments26:05 The Role of Stress in Fertility30:49 Working with a Fertility Specialist34:37 Virtual Fertility Clinic Operations37:17 Getting in Touch and Additional ResourcesTake my quizzes at: https://www.intimacywithease.comBio:Gabriela Rosa is a fertility specialist, reproductive health educator, Harvard University-awarded scholar, and an accomplished business leader and entrepreneur. She created the world’s first entirely virtual and holistic fertility clinic. As the founder and CEO of The Rosa Institute, which serves patients across every continent except Antarctica, Gabriela leads a team of holistic specialists.Her treatment methodology is a recognized authority in the industry, identifying and addressing biochemical obstacles to help couples overcome infertility and recurrent miscarriage, even after previous reproductive challenges and failed treatments.Through various programs, Gabriela and her team have educated over 140,000 couples in more than 110 countries. She is also the host of the TalkSex with Gabriela Rosa™ podcast.www.fertilitybreakthrough.comhttps://rosa.institute/FBYThttps://rosa.institute/FertilityChallengeWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass