Blog Article: Child Support After Separation - Clear Guide for Single Mums

Stop scrolling if you’re tired of flinching every time your ex’s name pops up, or feeling like you have zero bandwidth left at 5:30 PM. When the legal battles wrap up and the dust settles, single mums often hit the hardest wall: rebuilding self-worth, walking on eggshells around an ex, and trying to stay present for their kids on an empty tank. In this episode of Real Talk for Single Mums, Elle chats with Nat (Co-Founder) and Katie (Graduate and Partnerships Manager) from the registered charity SOCIII. Katie opens up about raising two young girls solo with zero family support nearby, shifting from panic mode into emotional stability, and the genius AI text-decoding hack she uses to disarm inflammatory co-parenting messages. Nat breaks down why their six-month, one-on-one coaching program is 100% free for mums, how it works around hectic solo schedules via Zoom, and why lifting a mother’s nervous system creates lasting generational change for her kids. 💬 Comment of the Day: What is the single hardest boundary or emotional trigger you are trying to manage with your ex or daily routine right now? Exact Episode Timestamps 00:00 - Moving Past Separation Survival: The Rebuilding Trap 04:15 - Overcoming the Fear of "Free": Why SOCIII Has Zero Strings 07:30 - Detaching from an Ex: Shifting from Fight-or-Flight to Calm 13:40 - Flexible Single Mum Coaching: Fitting 6 Months into Crazy Schedules 19:15 - Raising Resilient Girls: Breaking Generational Burnout 24:30 - The 60-Second Co-Parent Reset: Using AI to Neutralise Toxic Texts 29:10 - Holding the Steering Wheel: How to Apply for the Free Program Links Section 💌 Get the inside scoop, real talk, & exclusive resources straight to your inbox: https://beanstalkmumslifehackgifts.subscribepage.io 💬 Join the conversation: Drop a comment below and let us know your biggest takeaway! 📝 Read the full article & get the show notes: https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/rebuilding-life-after-separation 🤝 Connect with Nat, Katie & the SOCIII Team: https://sociii.life

We know the feeling: you are stuck in a role that drains you, but because you are limited by time, money, and confidence, launching your dream feels like an impossible risk. Today, we are stripping away the polished "girlboss" myth with Sabrina, a fellow Gold Coast single mum who defied those exact odds to build the proptech startup WeView. Sabrina breaks down the raw reality of escaping the employment trap, building a company from the ground up without a safety net, and navigating the intimidating world of raising capital. She also shares her ruthless prioritisation strategies for when both your new business and your baby need you at 100%. As our host Elle shared, hearing from women in the trenches of running a business while living this life is true food for the soul. What is the one business idea you’ve been too scared to start, and what is your biggest struggle—is it juggling the work and kids, or just getting the idea off the ground? Let’s uplift and support each other! Timestamps: 00:00 - The fear of starting a business on one income 04:15 - Escaping the trap: Why Sabrina built WeView 09:30 - Navigating capital raising with zero confidence 16:20 - Combating founder loneliness and financial pressure 22:45 - The 60-Second Reset: Managing peak toddler/business chaos 27:10 - How WeView fixes the broken property inspection process 31:30 - Elle’s final thoughts and the comment of the day Links: 🤝 Connect with Sabrina: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sabrina-isabel-thompson 🧭 Explore WeView: https://www.weview.com.au 💲Become a WeViewer: https://www.weview.com.au/become-a-weviewer 📝 Read the full article: https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/escape-the-9-to-5-trap/ 🎧 Prefer to listen to our episodes: APPLE https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/beanstalk-real-talk-for-single-mums/id1226897925 OR SPOTIFY https://open.spotify.com/show/6SMV0pRwQZ1CzL5wPepOan?si=becd44e81d424f2b 👯‍♀️ Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice: https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine 🎁 Get our favourite practical life hacks, clever shortcuts and simple ideas to save you time, money and effort - https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmum You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to like and follow the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey!

Terrified of losing the family home after separation? Discover the exact post-divorce finance strategies to secure a single mum mortgage today. Navigating post-separation finances can feel like a panic-inducing mountain to climb, especially when you are suddenly relying on a single income. In this episode of Real Talk for Single Mums, Kylie Soltani from Soren Financial dismantles the toxic myth that banks won't lend to single mothers. We break down how lenders actually assess child support, why going directly to your own bank might severely limit your options, and how little-known government schemes like the 2% deposit stream can get you back into the property market. Kylie gives us a step-by-step roadmap to shift from financial defence to proactive recovery, proving that with a clear plan, clarity truly creates confidence. 💬 What is your biggest financial hurdle right now, or what is one win you've had since starting again? Timestamps ⌚ 00:00 - The Panic of Post-Separation Finances 08:14 - The Biggest Single Mum Mortgage Myth 10:01 - How Banks Actually View Child Support 17:21 - Government Schemes & 2% Deposits 19:10 - The Family Security Guarantee (107% Loans) 23:31 - 3 Steps to Prep Your Bank Accounts 33:16 - Beating the Bank's Expenditure Assumptions (HEM) 35:26 - The 60-Second Financial Fresh Start Links🔗  🤝 Ready to take the first step? Connect with Kylie here: https://calendly.com/kylie-sorenfinancial/30min 🧭 Explore the Soren Financial website: https://www.sorenfinancial.com/ 📝 Read the full article: https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/single-mum-mortgages-how-to-buy-your-home-on-one-income 🎥 Prefer to watch our episodes? Find us on YouTube 👯‍♀️ Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice: https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine 💌 Sign up here to get the inside scoop: https://beanstalksinglemums.subscribepage.io 🎁 Get our favourite practical life hacks, clever shortcuts and simple ideas to save you time, money and effort - https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts 💬 Join the conversation: Drop a comment and let us know your biggest takeaway! 👉 Found this helpful? Like, subscribe, and share it with another mum who needs this kind of support.

Stuck in the "time heals all wounds" waiting room while your ex moves on? It’s time to rebuild your identity and set unbreakable boundaries after divorce. Divorce doesn't just break a marriage; it often shatters a woman’s confidence, leaving single mums feeling exhausted, stuck, and unworthy of a brilliant next chapter. In this episode, we are cutting through the standard fluff to deliver a proactive, step-by-step game plan to reclaim your life. Sandra, one of the driving forces behind Women on Transition, joins us to share her incredible journey of surviving a toxic separation and exactly how she rebuilt her foundations. We break down how to start healing when you have zero emotional bandwidth, the exact mechanics of setting a firm boundary with a difficult ex, and a 60-second "pause" tool you can use the next time your phone blows up with triggering texts.   Timestamps 00:00 - The "Time Heals All Wounds" Trap 13:55 - Surviving the Initial Divorce Trauma 29:43 - Healing When You Have Zero Free Time 35:13 - Setting Unbreakable Boundaries 4 5:37 - The 60-Second "Pause" Protocol 59:18 - Women on Transition & The 3-Day Reset   Links Section 🤝 Explore Women on Transition: www.womenontransition.com 💌 Get the inside scoop, real talk, & exclusive resources straight to your inbox: subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts 📝 Read the full article & get the show notes: https://beanstalkmums.com.au/podcast/stop-waiting-rebuild-your-life-after-divorce 💬 Join the conversation: Drop a comment below and let us know your biggest takeaway!

Are you overwhelmed by the ADHD morning wars? If so, stick around — we'll cover how to use cognitive reprogramming and quick movement resets to start the day calmly. I’m so glad you’re here; this episode hands you simple, doable tools a single mum can actually use. Think one-minute drills to blow off steam, bedtime recordings that retrain the brain, and tiny daily wins that build confidence — for you and your child. Try them for a few weeks and notice how mornings begin to breathe a little easier.   Links for this episode: 🤝 https://app.mindshiftmentors.com?fpr=elle80 - Explore the Mindshift Mentors services, the app, and connect with Rob. 📝 https://survivingmorningwars.mindshiftmentors.net/?fpr=elle30- Discover Col’s highly recommended program. 👯‍♀️ https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine — Don’t forget to join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook! It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🎥 https://www.youtube.com/@BeanstalkSingleMums — Our brand-new widget is live on the Beanstalk Mums website! Drop us a voice message with your thoughts or questions; you might hear them in a future episode. 📝 https://subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts - Get the inside scoop, real talk, & exclusive resources straight to your inbox. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to like and follow the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey!

If you’re worried your child is losing confidence or constantly doubting themselves, this episode will help you breathe easier. Stella Beckett shares simple, playful habits that help kids feel secure, capable, and proud of who they are. In this warm and practical chat, Stella Beckett, the inspiring creator of Diary Dolls, shares her journey from a challenging childhood to empowering children with confidence and emotional resilience. Discover how Stella's personal experiences led her to develop Diary Dolls, tools that help build self-worth and emotional strength in kids. Learn about the simple, playful practices that can transform everyday moments into opportunities for growth and connection. Stella also reveals the microhabits that parents can adopt to nurture their children's self-worth and emotional strength. Tune in to explore the impact of Diary Dolls and how they foster a supportive environment for both children and parents. 📖 What You’ll Learn How Stella turned her own childhood fears into a confidence-building tool for kids The 5-minute daily habits that strengthen emotional resilience How to help kids name feelings and feel seen How mums can model confidence (even on tough days)  A “tiny tool” your child can start tonight ⌚Timestamps 00:00 Introduction 01:15 Stella's Journey and Diary Dolls 05:30 Building Confidence in Girls 10:45 Raising Strong Daughters 15:00 Confidence Habits for Kids 20:20 Emotional Resilience for Children 25:40 Single Mum Parenting Tips 30:15 Child Anxiety Support 35:00 Boosting a Child’s Self-Worth 40:30 Confidence Activities for Kids 45:00 Gentle Parenting Routines   🔗 Links & Resources 📝 Read the full Beanstalk Mums article: https://beanstalkmums.com.au/life/build-selfworth-in-kids-with-daily-habits 🎀 Explore Diary Dolls: www.diarydolls.com 🪆 Find Stella on her socials @diarydolls_ 💛 Join The Vine FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine If this helped, share it with a mum who needs a soft place to land today. And don’t forget to subscribe for more calming, practical support.

Feeling guilty because your child’s dad isn’t around? You’re not alone. In this honest conversation, counsellor Elle Sitek sits down with Lara Owers — Vine member, single mum and author of Mummy, Me & Our Family — to share how she turned a moment of panic into a beautiful tool that celebrates family in all its forms. Grab your cuppa and join us for a chat filled with empathy, humour and hope. What you’ll learn: How to answer your child’s question “Where’s dad?” without shame — and why it’s okay to admit you don’t have all the answers. The “family description” bedtime ritual that gently shows kids who loves them, even when there’s no father figure. Why building a village of aunties, uncles, friends and grandparents is the greatest gift you can give your child. A candid look at Lara’s journey from NICU and separation to becoming a published author (and how writing became her healing). Practical self‑care tips and mantras for mums who feel they’re barely holding it together. Links for this episode: 📖 Buy Lara’s book: https://www.dymocks.com.au/mummy-me-and-our-family-by-lara-owers-9781035892709 - A gentle, beautifully simple story for little ones navigating father absence. 📸 Follow Lara on Instagram: - A lovely place for mums to feel seen, understood, and connected to another woman walking a similar path. 👩‍👧‍👦 Join the Single Mum Vine on Facebook — It’s the perfect spot to connect with fellow single mums for support and advice. 🧙🏼‍♀️ Download your life hacks: - Practical cheat-sheets, emotional reset tools, money-saving guides and bite-sized parenting supports — all created with single mums in mind. You’ve got this! Let’s thrive together. And don’t forget to like and follow the podcast so you never miss an episode packed with inspiration and practical tips for your journey!

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stuck in survival mode, or even quietly ashamed that you’re struggling – this episode is a gentle lifeline. 🙏 You are not alone. Single mums often carry the world on their shoulders, in silence. But pushing down your feelings doesn’t make them go away; it only leads to burnout and that deep sense of isolation. It’s time to hit pause and reset. In this empowering conversation, we’ll help you release the guilt, calm your nerves, and find your strength again. Join us as Elle Sitek – a fellow mum and counsellor who truly understands what you’re going through – shares her warmth and wisdom on emotional restoration. She’s been in the thick of it, too, and together we unpack practical ways to feel steady and supported no matter how chaotic life gets. You deserve to move from just “getting by” to genuinely feeling okay. In this episode, you’ll learn:  A simple 5-minute “emotional reset” ritual to go from chaos to calm (even on the craziest days). How to release “mum guilt” and shame, and why being kind to yourself actually makes you a stronger parent. Ways to stop feeling so alone by building tiny moments of connection and support into your day – even if you have zero free time. Elle’s go-to techniques for emotional regulation (used in therapy sessions and in her own home) to help you literally breathe easier and sleep better at night. Tender, honest, and uplifting – this episode is like a friendly chat with someone who gets it and wants to help you heal. 💗 Take a break from the overwhelm and tune in to discover how to reset your heart and mind so that you can carry on with more calm, confidence, and genuine hope. It’s time to put down that heavy load, Mama, and remember: you don’t have to hold it all alone anymore.

If your child’s worries or meltdowns leave you wrung out, this warm, practical chat with counsellor + parent coach Sarah Florenze will help you steady yourself, calm your child, and drop the pressure of perfect parenting. We cover growth mindset for mums, how perfectionism shows up (and why it’s really about safety), red flags that signal extra support, and two tiny tools you can try tonight.   In this episode you’ll learn: Why connection beats perfection (and how to get present fast) Early signs a child’s anxiety needs more support (sleep, school, appetite, physical cues) Counselling vs parent coaching — which one fits your family right now Two soothing rituals: Night-Walk Star Chat + 20-Minute Child-Led Time Links for this episode Raising Children Network (Australian, evidence-based guides for anxiety at every age).  Triple P – Positive Parenting Program (free/low-cost options in many areas).  Book: What Happens to Our Kids When We Fail to Grow Up? by Maggie Hamilton.  Join community: The Vine—Single Mum Facebook group (kind, practical support).  Care note: This is general info, not medical advice. If this helped, share it with a mum who needs a softer day. 💛

Sorting out child support after separation can feel confusing and overwhelming, but you don’t have to figure it out alone. In this episode, we break down the essentials in plain language so single mums can feel clearer, calmer, and more confident about their next steps. 📖 What you’ll learn: ~ How child support is calculated in Australia ~ Your options: private agreements vs. Services Australia ~ What to do if payments are late or not made ~ When to seek legal advice ~ Tips for keeping things child-focused and manageable 💛 This is information, not legal advice. For personalised support, connect with Services Australia or a community legal centre. 🔗 Links & Resources: * Services Australia – Child Support - https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/learning-about-child-support?context=60015 * Beanstalk Mums Blog - https://beanstalkmums.com.au/ ⌚ Timestamps: 00:00 Why child support feels so overwhelming 01:15 The basics: how it’s calculated 05:40 Option 1: Private agreements 09:20 Option 2: Services Australia 14:00 What to do when payments are late 18:30 Legal advice and red flags 22:00 Tiny Tool for today 24:00 Resources & gentle CTA 🤗 If this helped, share with a mum who’s navigating child support. For more tools and support, join The Vine community https://www.facebook.com/groups/SingleMumVine 👉 Subscribe for more real talk and tools for single mums subscribepage.io/beanstalkmumslifehackgifts