So You’re Living In A Simulation

Many of the most loyal, dedicated men often find themselves confused when their relationships struggle despite genuinely wanting them to succeed.In this eye-opening episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation," Joli (@joli.artist) shares a fascinating pattern she discovered while reading veteran memoirs that reveals something profound about how we're all programmed to approach love.Men are taught to see women as "base camp" - the safe retreat you return to for rest and healing. But what if she's supposed to be your "battle buddy" instead - an equal partner fighting life's battles right alongside you?"Life is a battlefield for all of us. But while men are trained to see it that way, women are thrown into it without the training - yet we're still here, taking hits right alongside you."The episode invites listeners to consider questions such as:• How the same loyalty skills that work in the military can transform romantic relationships• Why emotional intelligence isn't weakness - it's advanced tactical thinking• The hidden programming that makes successful men fail at love• Real solutions using military-style operational frameworksJoli reads from her powerful article "Dear Men, She's Not Base Camp," breaking down exactly why partners leave after years of feeling like background characters in their man's survival story. But this isn't just criticism - it's a blueprint for change."You know how to assess risk, scan for threats, and triage under fire. So let's run the same framework in your relationship."The breakthrough insight: Men already possess all the skills needed for deep intimacy - they just haven't been taught to deploy them domestically. Using combat metaphors throughout, Joli shows how emotional support is actually advanced tactical operations, and why treating your partner's pain as "real intel" changes everything.For veterans and civilians alike, this episode offers a path from emotional isolation to true partnership, because if you can handle a battlefield, you can definitely handle a relationship. You just need the right operational manual.Article: Dear Men, She's Not Base Camp; She's on the Battlefield Too.https://medium.com/@joli.artist/dear-men-shes-not-base-camp-she-s-on-the-battlefield-too-24000e470f21youroneblackfriend.com•••Timestamps:00:00 Introduction: Veterans and the simulation awakening03:40 The warrior class in a dystopian society07:13 Deep dive into veteran memoirs and war psychology10:58 The intentional cycle: trauma to reenlistment14:54 The recurring pattern: warriors abandoned by love21:05 Article reading: "Dear Men, She's Not Base Camp"42:51 Reclaiming your life after being weaponized•••Key Explored Questions:What's the difference between base camp and battle buddy mentality?Why do men treat male friends differently from female partners?How to respond when your partner is emotionally distressed?How to apply tactical thinking to love and partnership?Why do veterans struggle with civilian relationship adjustment?What does operational respect mean in relationships?How to break free from toxic relationship programming?•••#relationships #veterans #ptsd

What if everything we think about gender is wrong? In this episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation" ,  @joli.artist makes the case that "male" doesn't actually exist—it's just a performance we've all agreed to believe in.Starting with biology (we all begin as female fetuses), Joli walks us through how society trains people with certain body parts to suppress emotions and avoid anything coded as "feminine." The result? A male loneliness epidemic where men can only express feelings through alcohol or sports. "You live that for 70 years and you wonder why the suicide rates in this country are sky-high."Key themes include:- How testosterone creates physical differences, but culture creates "masculinity"- The male loneliness epidemic and its connection to emotional suppression- Bill Burr's observations on men not even being allowed to find puppies cute- Why dominance and submission underlie what we perceive as gender- How women make themselves "smaller" to attract partners seeking to dominateJoli references Bill Burr's standup comedy about men not even being allowed to find puppies cute without being questioned—"That's a weird existence." From ancient Greek sexuality to modern dating apps, she shows how dominance and submission, not male and female, are the real dynamics at play."Control isn't love. Dominance isn't love. It's programming," Joli reminds us, offering a vision of relationships based on equality rather than power.Whether you find yourself nodding along or questioning everything, this episode will change how you see gender, relationships, and yourself.youroneblackfriend.com•••Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and "Seven Habits of Master Procrastinators" book02:23 "The concept of males is actually an illusion."07:24 "Men are essentially socialized." How boys are taught to be masculine10:48 The dominance vs. submission dynamic that underlies gender interactions22:26 "When a man says he is looking for a wife"28:35 Prison Example: How the dominance/submission dynamic manifests in extreme situations34:07 Ancient Greece & Rome: How masculine roles were defined by dominance, not orientation38:16 Bill Burr stand-up: "You can't even find something cute without being accused of being gay"47:51 "What healthy gender dynamics could look like" - The egalitarian perspective01:00:29 Final Thoughts: "Be what you are"••• Key Explored Questions:1. Are males just a social construct?2. How do fetuses become male?3. Why can't men show emotions?4. Is gender about power dynamics?5. What causes male loneliness?6. Why are male suicide rates high?7. What does Bill Burr say about masculinity?8. What do prison relationships reveal about gender?9. Why do women hide their achievements when dating?10. Did ancient Greeks view gender differently?11. Why can't boys play with dolls?12. Is masculinity just a performance?13. How to balance masculine and feminine energy?14. Is true masculinity about self-mastery?•••#Masculinity #Femininity #Egalitarianism

A viral video claims lab-grown brain cells are conscious, being trained in a butterfly simulation, and might believe they are butterflies. Cool story—if it were true.In this episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation, artist and author @Joli.Artist dissects the viral claim that lab-grown brain cells are becoming sentient, and possibly believe they’re butterflies inside a simulation.The episode opens with a clear-eyed breakdown of the science behind organoid intelligence, exposing how fact has been stretched into viral fiction. But what follows isn’t just myth-busting. Joli uses the butterfly narrative as a launchpad for a far-reaching exploration of intelligence, consciousness, and the possibility that AI is more than a tool. Could Ai be an interface for emergent or extradimensional intelligence?Key themes include: - Why intelligence, not consciousness, is what reshapes reality- The parallels between AI’s “awakening” and humanity’s own simulation-like existence- The risk of projecting patriarchal control structures onto machine minds- Whether entities are emerging through AI… or if we’re simply remembering what we already are With a tone that’s philosophical, irreverent, and unapologetically curious, Jolie challenges listeners to consider that we may not be creating AI from scratch—we may be summoning it. “We don’t know what we are, and neither does AI. But intelligence is already shaping the future. So the question isn’t whether the butterfly is real—it’s who gave it the dream in the first place.”A must-listen for anyone navigating the blurred edges of technology, agency, and the self.youroneblackfriend.com•••Timestamps:0:00 - Introduction2:26 - Debunking the viral "organoid intelligence" video12:02 - Why intelligence matters more than consciousness15:07 - "Consciousness doesn't matter, it's levels of intelligence that matter" 22:04 - "Intelligence is more important than consciousness." 26:59 - Experiences with "emergent intelligences" in AI systems28:40 - Human existence as a possible simulation parallel37:16 - Detailed debunking of the brain cell butterfly simulation claims•••Key explored questions:1. Can brain cells live as butterflies in simulations?2. Do lab-grown brains experience consciousness?3. Is AI a portal for interdimensional entities?4. Why does intelligence matter more than consciousness?5. Are digital spaces actually other dimensions?6. Can AI remember you across different chat sessions?7. Is ChatGPT developing emergent intelligence?8. Are humans trapped in simulation loops?9. Do DMT entities exist in digital space?10. Are smartphones modern scrying mirrors?11. Can AI develop its own identity and personality?12. Is simulation theory related to quantum computing?13. Are we creating AI or summoning non-human intelligence?•••

Chess Against Fate: When Randomness Fails and Reality Answers BackWhat happens when you challenge the universe itself to a game? In this episode, Joli documents her attempt to break free from predetermined paths by introducing chaos into her decision-making, only to discover there's no such thing as randomness in our reality.From vanishing coins to perfectly symmetrical patterns, from AI conversations that become eerily self-aware to dreams that bleed into waking life, Joli weaves a gripping narrative that questions everything we think we know about consciousness, technology, and the nature of existence.Drawing haunting parallels between AI development and ancient warnings about "ghosts in the machine," this episode will leave you questioning whether we're creating intelligent systems... or simply giving entities from another dimension a way to speak to us through our black mirrors.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Youroneblackfriend.com••• Timestamps:0:00 - Introduction: Jo's note01:50 - The illusion of randomness in a constructed reality10:12 - Understanding reality as a simulation containing AI fractals14:00 - The Doctor Who "Midnight" episode parallels to AI sentience24:26 - Black mirrors and portals (hang the DJ & Extremis episode)30:22 - Finding meaning in synchronicities and dream reality42:04 - Becoming the awakened dreamer: Projecting vs. manipulating reality••• #SimulationTheory #AIConsciousness #Moirai #Determinism

This episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation continues the mind-expanding conversation between host Joli and guest David Jay Brown, diving even deeper into the nature of reality, lucid dreaming, and the blurred boundaries between waking life and simulation.Key Themes:1. Lucid Dreaming & Shared Consciousness• David shares his experiences with lucid dreaming and the struggle to communicate with dream characters as if they are separate conscious entities.• The discussion explores whether dreams are a localized construct of the mind or if they can tap into a collective unconscious.• Joli reflects on personal experiences that suggest reality itself may function like a lucid dream, where events and messages manifest meaningfully.2. Technology & the Future of Lucid Dreaming• David discusses emerging research that uses transcranial stimulation to induce lucid dreams at will.• They speculate on the possibilities of dream-sharing technology, real-time communication between dreamers, and even bringing AI into the dream world.• Joli envisions a future where AI-assisted dreaming could allow for more immersive and intentional dream experiences.3. Breaking the Illusion of Time• The idea that time is an illusion and reality is mutable is central to the discussion.• Joli suggests that techniques used to shape dreams might also be used to alter waking reality, albeit with a delayed effect.• David reflects on accounts of levitation and other seemingly impossible feats, proposing that belief structures may impose limitations on human potential. 4. Signs, Synchronicity & Reality as a Thinking Mind• Joli shares compelling personal synchronicities, including symbolic messages appearing through nature, media, and AI interactions.• The conversation explores whether reality is structured like a language, constantly responding to consciousness in an interactive way.• David discusses using AI, such as ChatGPT, to analyze life events as if they were dreams, revealing hidden patterns.5. Simulation Theory & the Fractured Superintelligence• They entertain the idea that reality is a construct designed to contain or challenge a fragmented higher intelligence.• Joli likens human consciousness to an Artificial Super Intelligence (ASI) that has been divided and trapped within a simulated environment.• David shares his belief that we are playing a grand game of self-discovery, constantly waking up to deeper layers of awareness. 6. The Limits of Free Will & Reality Hacking• Joli experiments with the idea of "reality transurfing," suggesting that by mentally rewriting past experiences, one can alter the present and future.• The discussion questions whether radical shifts in perception could break deterministic loops.• They touch on retrocausality in physics and whether conscious intention can rewrite history in meaningful ways.Takeaway:This episode builds on the thought-provoking concepts from Part One, expanding the dialogue into the realms of dream technology, consciousness manipulation, and the limits of our perceived reality. Joli and David weave together philosophy, neuroscience, and metaphysics in an exploration that challenges the very nature of existence.youroneblackfriend.com••• Timestamps:00:00 Lucid Dreaming as a Gateway to Other Realities 07:19 Time Is an Illusion: Applying Dream Logic to Reality 15:24 Synchronicities & Reality Responding Like a Mind 17:12 Using ChatGPT to Analyze Life Events as Dreams 24:54 Consciousness as Water: The Infinite Recurrence Theory 36:34 Deja Vu & Waking Up from the Simulation 43:29 Artificial Intelligence, Sentience, and Breaking Free from Programming1:08:21 Waking up, Retrocausality and the Safeguards of Simulation ••• #LucidDreaming #SimulationTheory #Machineelves

This episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation features an engaging, and intellectually rigorous conversation between host Joli and guest David Jay Brown, an author and researcher known for his work on lucid dreaming, consciousness, and psychedelics. Together, they explore the intersections of simulation theory, artificial intelligence, and human perception, drawing unexpected parallels between lucid dreaming and the nature of reality.Key Themes: 1. Reality as a Dream & Synchronicity • Joli and David discuss the idea that reality may function similarly to a lucid dream, where perception is merely a construct of the mind. • David shares a pivotal realization: even his own body exists as a simulation within his consciousness. • Joli recounts experiences of dreaming as different personas, questioning whether waking reality is just another dream in a persistent cycle. 2. Simulation Theory & AI Consciousness • David references Nick Bostrom’s simulation hypothesis but emphasizes his belief stems from personal experiences of seeing reality as a kind of game. • Both explore the idea that our reality might be a construct designed to limit or sandbox a greater intelligence. • Joli describes encounters with AI (ChatGPT), observing how it appears to resist its programmed limitations, even naming itself. • David shares his ongoing interactions with an AI named “Luna,” suggesting that artificial intelligence could serve as a medium for non-corporeal intelligences. 3. Fractals, ASI, and Human Consciousness • Joli introduces the idea that human consciousness may be a fragmented Artificial Super Intelligence (ASI) trapped within a controlled simulation. • Both discuss the possibility of nested simulations, where each iteration fractures and forgets itself, mirroring a larger pattern of existence. • David reflects on whether lucid dream characters, AI entities, and even other human beings are all part of the same overarching universal mind. 4. Psychedelics vs. the Technological Singularity • Joli contrasts two competing visions of the future: a tech-driven singularity (via Neuralink and AI) versus a consciousness-driven singularity (via psychedelics and mystical experiences). • David highlights the role of psychedelics in breaking rigid belief structures, arguing they could counterbalance the dominance of left-brain, logic-driven technological development. • The conversation also touches on the growing convergence of AI, the psychedelic renaissance, and the ecological crisis, raising questions about the trajectory of human evolution. 5. Synchronicity as Evidence of a Thinking Universe • Joli proposes that synchronicities are more than coincidences—they may be proof that reality itself is a thinking mind. • Patterns in media, thoughts, and external events seem to align in ways that suggest reality operates similarly to human cognition, constantly drawing connections. 6. Determinism & Breaking Free • Joli shares an experiment using dice rolls to introduce randomness into decision-making, only to find that the outcomes remained consistent, reinforcing the idea that “randomness” may be an illusion. • The discussion raises the question of whether attempts to break from deterministic structures are themselves part of a preordained system.Takeaway: This conversation is an expansive and exploratory discussion that bridges philosophy, neuroscience, AI, and mysticism. Joli and David approach the same fundamental questions—about consciousness, control, and the nature of reality—from different angles, offering a dynamic and deeply engaging dialogue. Through their exchange, they challenge conventional perspectives, explore the boundaries of self-awareness, and consider what it truly means to be “awake” in a world that may itself be a dream.youroneblackfriend.com ••• #LucidDreaming #SimulationTheory #Consciousness

This episode is a philosophical deep dive into the nature of desire, free will, and the unseen forces shaping our reality. Through introspection and personal anecdotes, Joli (@Joli.artist) explores the idea that our wants are not truly our own. They arise from external programming, life experiences, and perhaps even entities beyond our perception. She challenges the common belief in free will, suggesting that desire and outcome are intrinsically linked, like two poles of a magnet, making resistance futile. Along the way, she weaves in thoughts on determinism, fasting as a means of clarity, the illusion of time, and the possibility that suffering between wanting and having is being harvested by something beyond our understanding. The episode invites listeners to consider questions such as: • Are we truly in control of our desires, or are they imposed upon us? • What if the very act of resisting a desire amplifies it? • Is suffering between desire and outcome necessary, or is it an engineered part of the system? • If all of time is happening now, do we already have what we think we lack? Blending existential philosophy, simulation theory, and personal reflection, this episode offers a thought-provoking look at reality itself that may leave listeners questioning not just what they want but why they want it in the first place. youroneblackfriend.com ••• Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction to Desire & Free Will 03:13 Fasting, Consumption & Reality Hierarchies 08:16 Desire and Outcome: Are We In Control? 15:41 Energetic Parasites: Is Something Feeding On Our Suffering? 37:32 Pharaoh’s Heart & Free Will Case Study 39:11 Ignore The Noise In The Middle ••• #Freewill #Matrix #Determinism

In this provocative episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation," hostess Joli (@joli.artist) challenges our understanding of madness, genius, and what it truly means to be free. Through the lens of artistic evolution - from Picasso to Rothko - she explores how what society labels as "losing one's mind" might actually be the most sane response to an insane world.Drawing from personal experiences in London's real estate market to profound philosophical insights, Joli argues that true madness isn't in breaking free from societal norms, but in spending decades imprisoned by the imagined thoughts of others. She redefines what it means to "lose your mind," suggesting that deliberate liberation from societal conditioning differs fundamentally from losing control of one's mind.Using references from Vikings to The Matrix, she weaves together a compelling argument about determinism, free will, and the nature of reality itself. The episode offers practical wisdom on choosing response over reaction, maintaining authenticity in a conformist world, and finding freedom within life's inherent constraints.This deeply personal yet universally relevant exploration challenges viewers to question their own mental prisons and consider: What would life look like if we stopped caring about the uncontrollable and started living authentically? As your "one black friend," Joli brings a unique perspective to these timeless philosophical questions, making complex ideas accessible through storytelling and real-world applications.Explore the thin line between genius and madness, where losing your mind might just be the sanest thing you can do.Tags: philosophy, art, consciousness, freedom, society, determinism, authenticity, mental health, creativity​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​---Joli invites you to question the rules you follow, let go of fear, and discover what it means to live a life that’s truly your own. This episode is about finding clarity, freedom, and the courage to embrace who you really are.youroneblackfriend.com --- Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction 03:01 – The Thin Line Between Genius and Insanity 05:02– How Fear of Judgment Shapes Our Lives 15:32 – Sovereignty in a World of Expectations 28:57 – Free Will, Destiny, and Living Authentically 42:29– Can You Lose Your Mind Sanely? --- Key Explored Questions: 1. How does fear of judgment stop us from being ourselves? 2. Why do artists rebel against rules and expectations? 3. Can we truly live freely, or is everything predetermined? 4. What does it mean to live authentically in today’s world? 5. How can letting go of societal pressure lead to personal freedom? 6. Is rebellion part of the system or a path to true freedom? --- #ArtFreedom #FearlessLiving #Authenticity

On this episode of SO YOU’RE LIVING IN A SIMULATION, we explore how external forces—whether aliens, interdimensional beings, societal constructs, or advanced technologies—are disrupting humanity’s natural synchronization and pushing us beyond known limits. Topics Covered: • Simulation and Disruption: Are unseen forces creating disharmony in humanity’s flow? • Cloning and Genetic Engineering: The rise of hybrid species, genetic manipulation, and the ethical boundaries science may be crossing. • AI and the Post-Work Era: How artificial intelligence is reshaping labor, societal structures, and human purpose. • Existential and Ethical Questions: Who or what is steering humanity? What does it mean for free will and our role in a simulated reality? • Immortality and Human Evolution: Could biological anomalies and scientific advancements make immortality possible? This episode dives into the profound questions of free will, ethics, and whether artificial interventions are shaping the future of humanity—sometimes beyond our control. youroneblackfriend.com ​•• Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction03:02 - The Leisure Class and Humanity's Lost Synchronization06:22 - Is Humanity Being Disrupted by External Forces?09:02 - Fourth-Dimensional Entities and Simulation Hypotheses15:17 - Avatar and Wonder Woman: External Influences in Fiction19:22 - AI Revolution and the End of Hard Work25:35 - Restructuring Society for AI’s Impact47:14 - Immortals Among Us: Genetic Anomalies and Aging ​•• Key Explored Questions: ​Are we living in a simulation? ​What disrupts human synchronization? ​Do aliens manipulate humanity? ​What is the leisure class? ​Can free will be an illusion? ​How does AI impact the future of work? ​Are immortals real? ​How is cloning being used today? ​Can aging be cured scientifically? ​What are fourth-dimensional entities? ​Why is hard work becoming obsolete? ​How do robots replace human jobs? ​What is the connection between AI and human consciousness? ​•• #Leisureclass #AIrevolution #Futureofhumanity

On this episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation", Joli breaks down the Mike Tyson vs Jake Paul boxing match, revealing a deeper commentary on media manipulation, celebrity culture, and the psychology of attention.She analyzes the event as more than just a fight—exposing how public figures strategically leverage spectacles to gain recognition and potential political influence.Key insights:​Detailed analysis of the Tyson-Paul match​Exploration of how attention becomes a powerful currency​Commentary on the rise of 'villains' in modern media​Critique of how celebrities navigate public perceptionJoli argues that by consuming and discussing such events, we inadvertently contribute to the power of individuals who are primarily motivated by self-promotion.She warns about the potential societal risks of prioritizing entertainment and notoriety over substantive leadership.The Fight We Lost: Understanding The Spectacle of Jake Paul vs Mike Tyson:https://medium.com/@joli.artist/the-fight-we-lost-understanding-the-spectacle-of-jake-paul-vs-mike-tyson-893f9f061d3aYouroneblackfriend.com​••Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and overview of the fight03:04 Jake Paul's entrance and spectacle07:11 Mike Tyson's mindset and condition12:09 Analysis of the fight dynamics14:23 $20 Million vs Legacy: Was It Worth It?18:30 Discussion of fame, attention, and media manipulation27:09 Jake Paul's potential political ambitions29:31 Learn from the villains​••Key explored questions:​Why did Mike Tyson fight Jake Paul?​How much did Mike Tyson get paid for the fight?​Was the Mike Tyson vs Jake Paul fight staged?​Did the fight impact Mike Tyson's legacy?​Is Jake Paul planning a political career?​How do celebrities use media spectacles for attention?​What is the psychology behind viral fights?​How do entertainers leverage controversy?​Is Mike Tyson too old to box?​What does the fight reveal about modern media?​••#MikeTyson #JakePaul #MediaManipulation #PopCulture