Waking Up From Narc Abuse

What if your true crime habit isn't just entertainment, but a way of returning to an emotional landscape that feels strangely familiar? In this episode, I explore how true crime can function as comfort, validation, preparation, and even a form of trauma reenactment--especially for survivors of manipulation, coercive control, and narcissistic abuse. We'll also look at how to recognize when a comforting security blanket may be keeping you immersed in the very darkness you're trying to heal from.  Ready for support? If you're trying to make sense of a confusing, manipulative, or emotionally abusive relationship—or figuring out who you are after one—you don't have to sort through it alone. Learn more about working with me, my support community, and other resources at wisevoicelifecoach.com. Connect with me: TikTok: alanasanborn.coach Instagram: alanasanborn This podcast is for education and support and isn't a substitute for mental health treatment.

Abusers isolate you because isolation makes control easier. Healing requires connection, safety, and people who get it. In this episode, we talk about why isolation is such a powerful abuse tactic—and why community is the most effective antidote. If you’re looking for a safe place to rebuild trust and connection, the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Space is here for you. https://narcissisticabuserecoveryspace.mn.co/

Could you be using the term "trauma bond" totally wrong?   In this episode I explain what a trauma bond really is, and what it's not, and I offer an alternative term that you can start using that will actually mean what you think it means.    Also, I delve into the cycle of abuse as it relates to the narcissist's playbook and how that relates to the real meaning of "trauma bond."

Dating can be a nightmare. Of course, it can also be fun and exciting. But after being manipulated by a narcissist, dating can feel like entering a battle when you're still limping from the last fight. So, how do you learn to trust your judgment? How do you identify the red flags? Listen in for some of my thoughts on the subject of dating after narcissistic abuse.

Narcissists do all kinds of things to gain your sympathy, time, money, and energy. One of the worst (in my opinion), is when they pretend they are ill or injured to use you, to appear less scary, or to keep you coming back to them when you try to leave. It's really hard to say no to someone who is hurting, right? But what if it's all a ruse?

Narcissists come in all shapes, sizes and ages, but here are three types to look out for. The end result is similar for all three, but their approaches are strikingly different.  Do you recognize someone you know from this list?

This is Casey's Story, a true-ish story of narcissistic abuse, told in installments. Follow along as Casey meets the love of her life, only to realize he's the stuff of nightmares. This is a new, limited series I'm offering for free to subscribers.  Click here to subscribe to the series. You'll receive new episodes in your email inbox as they come out. Music, in order of appearance: 1. Perfection by MaxKoMusic https://maxkomusic.com/  2. Hope by Ghostrifter Official  https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-official  3.0 https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/ 3. Reporting From The Scene by MaxKoMusic https://maxkomusic.com/  All music under Creative Commons CC BY-SA 3.0, promoted by Chosic.  

Sometimes we can't avoid the narcissists in our lives. So, here are three ways to cope with the triggering experience of contact with the narcissist in your life.

If you're used to the turmoil of toxic relationships, you may not be sure how to tell if a relationship is healthy or not. In this episode, we'll go through 5 key signs of a healthy relationship, and you'll notice how different these are from the dynamics you'll have with a narcissistic person.

In this episode, we're exploring they dynamics of narcissistic parenting and its profound effects on adult children. Learn more about how a narcissistic parent (or two) can turn you into someone who barely knows your own needs, much less how to speak up for yourself.