195 - How to respond instead of spanking

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I get to share one of the funniest humans on the internet with you, Taylor Wolfe. You might know her as The Daily Tay. We got to dive into what it looks like to learn how to be a mom while grieving a huge loss. Taylor shares so vulnerably and openly about losing her dog Harlow, who she was so connected to and attuned to and attached to, at the same time that she was entering into motherhood. And we got to look at what does it look like to incorporate grief as a part of our life and in all of these different moments and experiences. Taylor brings so much humor to her work all the time and is one of my favorite humans to follow on the internet. So if you're not already following, head on over to The Daily Tay and snag her book, Birdie and Harlow. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Taylor: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TheDailyTay/ Order the book: Birdie & Harlow: Life, Loss, and Loving My Dog So Much I Didn't Want Kids (…Until I Did) Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to Voices of Your Village and today Monica Packer and I got to dive into how to create habits when you're drained and overwhelmed. For me, when it comes to habits, it can feel like, okay, I'm going to do this thing and then I go all in on something and then it feels really overwhelming and it doesn't continue. Or I look at it and I'm like, oh, that sounds great and I'm so spent or beyond my bandwidth that I cannot add another thing in. Even if my current system isn't working, that sometimes even accessing the bandwidth for change feels overwhelming and hard. I love that Monica has broken down specific steps, ways to form habits with little time, low support, limited energy, and how we can form supportive habits without being perfect at them. There was so much room in her approach for fluidity for it not to always look the same because we are in different seasons of life at different times and I love that it makes it feel accessible and achievable and really helps with the like perfection side to feel like okay don't have to be perfect at this for it to be helpful or effective. So without further ado, let's dive into how to create habits when you're drained and overwhelmed with Monica Packer. All right, folks, let's dive in. Connect with Monica: Instagram: instagram.com/aboutprogress Website: https://aboutprogress.com/ Sticky Habit course: aboutprogress.com/stickyhabitmethod Podcast: aboutprogress.com/podcast Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello everyone and welcome back to Voices of Your Village. I get to hang out with Victoria Facelli. She's an IBCLC, is a graduate of the Global Breastfeeding Institute's Lactation Program, and not the kind of lactation consultant who hates formula, which I'm super jazzed about. Right in the intro she said, "this is a book about feeding babies, nothing more, nothing less. It's easy in the early days of parenthood to confuse feeding with parenting." And I love that because I think it's so true and there's so much tied to it. I think we see it with birth and we see it with feeding. And your book that we were just referencing, Feed the Baby: An Inclusive Guide to Nursing, Bottle-Feeding, and Everything In Between, gives families more tools to really be able to navigate this consciously and intentionally. Alright folks, let's dive in. Connect with Victoria: Instagram: @victoria.facelli.ibclc Website: https://www.victoriafacelli.com/ Order the book: Feed the Baby: An Inclusive Guide to Nursing, Bottle-Feeding, and Everything In Between Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Learn more about Sensory Mismatch: Podcast Episode with Larissa Geleris, OT Learn more about Interoception: Podcast Episode with Kelly Mahler, OT Music by: Bensound This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/VOICES and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and I get to dive in with occupational therapist Kelly Mahler about interoception, which, I would say, is the key to navigating life from a well -being standpoint. Interoception is one of the sensory systems that I think is so often overlooked, and I think it's the cornerstone for mental wellness. It definitely is the cornerstone for accessing self -control. So often we want kids to control their words, control their actions, like, ask for things kindly, all that jazz, and the reality is they can't do that if they don't first have interoceptive awareness, if they aren't aware of what's happening inside their bodies. Kelly is a rad OT who works in this space. I got to pick her brain, and I am so jazzed to bring this to you because I think it also is huge for burnout and overwhelm and that exhaustion that we're often feeling in parenthood and in education. I think this is truly going to be a huge part of the conversation for so much of mental wellness in the next few years. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Kelly: Instagram: @kelly_mahler Website: https://www.kelly-mahler.com/ Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/VOICES and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I get to bring you a much requested episode. We get to dive into what this work looks like with older kids and teens, and especially talking about teen anxiety. I got to hang out with one of my favorite humans, Casey O'Roarty. She hosts the Joyful Courage podcast, and her work really focuses on positive discipline in those adolescent years, and all the things that come up in that space. And she truly is a human that I'm like, I'm gonna need you on speed dial, my friend. I just find her approach to this so in alignment with ours with young humans, and that it really does come back to relationship and connection above all else. And when I look forward to those teen years and look ahead, what I really want is to be in relationship with my teenagers. And Casey does such a beautiful job of laying out what does this look like? What's the messiness of it all and how do we navigate it? I'm so jazzed to get to bring this episode to you. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Casey: Instagram: @joyful_courage  Website: https://www.besproutable.com/teens/ Order the book: Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey Podcast: Joyful Courage Courses: Positive Discipline for Parents of Teens and Tweens Facebook group: Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Podcast episode with Rowan: Here  Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Podcast episode with Hunter Clarke-Fields: Here Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to Voices of Your Village, and today I got to hang out with Claudia Hammond to talk about why kindness matters and how do we teach it. One of the things I've been really into is this difference between being nice and being kind, and what is kindness? How does it play out, not just in early childhood, but then down the road? What effects does it have on our mental health and the longevity of our mental health? I was so enriched by her research that it was really exciting to get to chat with her. She has a book out called The Keys to Kindness, and we got to chat about what it looks like to be kind to toddlers, and how to support tiny humans in building skillsets for kindness. And how do we become kinder to ourselves, to one another? The data are pretty clear that kindness does really matter and so looking at how do we cultivate it and spread it is pretty key. I'm so jazzed to get to share this interview with you. Alright folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Claudia: Instagram: @claudia_hammond_ Website: https://claudiahammond.com/ Order the book: The Keys to Kindness Podcasts: All in the Mind (many others on her website!) Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Y 'all I am so jazzed to share today's special episode with you. It's a sneak peek from our 2024 Seed Teacher Summit coming at you March 12th to the 14th. We are so grateful to have a brand new batch of incredible speakers this year and so many essential topics like Playful Transitions, Why Play Matters for Neurodivergent Learners, and of course How to Manage a Classroom Full of Spitters. This is going to be a compilation episode with little snippets from a handful of the interviews just to give you a taste of what's to come. The summit is free, F-R-E-E, free to watch so please share it with any educators, administrators or fellow caregivers in your life who would benefit from learning more about supporting teachers and kids with the resources they need to thrive. We are all in this thing together and it fills my cup to be able to hand over high quality professional development and learning opportunities completely for free. Head on over to seedandsow.org/summit to register. That's seedandsow.org/summit. All right folks, Let's dive in.  Connect with the presenters featured today: Finn Menzies Susie Allison Mr. Chazz Lewis Katie Crosby, OT Jasmine Bradshaw Clementine Foxglove Connect with us: Register for the Summit! https://www.seedandsew.org/summit Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to Voices of Your Village! We heard you loud and clear after our last digital media podcast interview that you wanted more. So we are diving in with Ash Brandin, you might know them as the Gamer Educator over on Instagram. And today we get to chat about how to use screen time as a tool for regulation. I am stoked to share this and also know that for a lot of us, there's a lot of messaging around screen time as something that's only dysregulating for folks. We get to look at what's happening hormonally, and how do we use screen time with intention? All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Ash: Instagram: @thegamereducator Website: https://thegamereducator.com/ Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village and today I got to hang out with Ed Center to chat about sharing our cultural traditions without passing on trauma. There are so many things from our childhood that we might want to pass on, and so many that we might not, and sometimes these get muddled and mixed and we might wonder like how do we separate some parts of this? What does it look like to parent kids who are experiencing a lot of trauma or who have experienced trauma? We got to chat about so many things in this episode that were so rich. He's the founder of The Village Well Parenting, a community where parents come to learn skills that nurture the parent -child relationship, heal intergenerational wounds, and discover ancestral wisdom that allows parents to remain rooted in their own sacred cultures. Ed is doing such incredible work in this world, and it's a true gift to get to learn from him. I'm really jazzed to get to share this episode with you. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Ed: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/villagewellparenting/ Website: https://www.villagewellparenting.com/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queerbrowndad Newsletter: Morning Cup of Calm Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to Voices of Your Village and today we're diving into baby talk, "fake" helplessness, and regressions with Caley Kukla. I have been following Caley on Instagram for a long time and so it was no shock to me when it felt like we could have just hung out forever. It was such a fun conversation to get to have because I feel like these things are so triggering for so many of us. I know for myself, the like fake helplessness, the like, oh, I can't do it, I need help, in like that voice, oh gosh, it can like grate at my insides and it takes a lot for me to be able to respond with intention. So if you are in a season or you are triggered by baby talk or that fake helplessness or regressions, this episode is ready to rock for you. I hope you enjoy this hang with Caley Kukla as much as I did. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Caley: Instagram: @caleykukla  Website: https://www.caleykukla.com/ Podcast: COR Parenting Conversations Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/voices and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices