252 Navigating Reconnection after Rupture: Messiness is a Healthy Part of Relationships

Taking a Podcast Break: Self-Acceptance & Self-Worth     Patricia announces that she will be taking a break from the podcast. She discusses the challenges of OCD and attachment injuries in relationships and shares tools that have been helpful for her, such as identifying wants, needs, desires, and expectations. She also talks about the importance of rupture and repair work in therapy and coaching relationships. Patricia expresses gratitude to all the listeners, and emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and self-worth.   HIGHLIGHTS   Takeaways   Taking breaks for self-care and healing is important, even in professional endeavors. Identifying wants, needs, desires, and expectations can help navigate relationships and attachment injuries. Rupture and repair work in therapy and coaching relationships can strengthen the therapeutic alliance. Self-acceptance and self-worth are essential for personal growth and well-being.   Sound Bites "I'm going to be taking a break from the podcast." "We struggle, especially if you're neurodivergent, if you're autistic, if you identify as a highly sensitive person." "I can regulate on my own and I am able to stay connected." Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction 00:00 Taking a Break for Healing and Self-Care 02:16 Navigating Relationships and Attachment Injuries 04:10 Tools for Identifying Wants, Needs, Desires, and Expectations 09:41 The Challenges of Containing Emotions in Relationships 15:04 The Power of Rupture and Repair in Therapy and Coaching 20:37 Embracing Self-Acceptance and Self-Worth PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Attachment Injuries and OCD: The Healing Continues Summary   Patricia discusses her experience with OCD and attachment injuries while Jen, is on vacation. She explores her fears and insecurities about asking for support and needing connection. Patricia reflects on the importance of consistent communication and creating containers to improve nervous system regulation. She also delves into her childhood experiences of feeling invisible and not belonging, and how this impacts current relationships.   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways   ·         Consistent communication and connection can help soothe attachment injuries and provide a sense of security. ·         It's important to ask for support and express your needs, even if it feels uncomfortable or vulnerable. ·         Childhood experiences of feeling invisible or not belonging can impact current relationships, but healing and corrective experiences are possible. ·         Managing medication and mood during challenging times requires self-awareness and flexibility. ·         Sensitivity is nothing to apologize for, and everyone has the right to take up space and ask for what they need.   Ways to navigate attachment injuries and related OCD   ·         Acknowledge and accept personal wounds and trauma. ·         Establish consistent connections with a supportive individual. ·         When possible, engage in regular communication to ease nervous system and promote relaxation. ·         Reflect on past experiences to differentiate from current relationships. ·         Practice self-awareness and internal reflection. ·         Identify personal needs and communicate them. ·         Let go of expectations and embrace uncertainty ·         Challenge negative thoughts and OCD lies. ·         Stay present and focused on current tasks. ·         Acknowledge intrusive thoughts without acting on them. ·         Engage in corrective work to address attachment injuries. ·         Cultivate a sense of security and belonging through consistent connections.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Context 01:29 Navigating OCD and Attachment Injuries 08:05 The Importance of Consistent Communication 20:38 Healing Childhood Wounds in Relationships 26:08 Managing Medication and Mood 29:18 Embracing Sensitivity and Taking Up Space PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Annoyance & Acceptance: Managing Emotions in Friendships   Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of naming and accepting emotions, including annoyance, as well as the challenges of communication and managing expectations in their friendship. They share personal experiences and strategies for navigating difficult feelings, emphasizing the value of patience and trust in their conversations. They discuss concepts like nonviolent communication and the impact of attachment wounds on relationships.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences with physical activity and the importance of setting realistic expectations. They explore the tendency to have all-or-nothing thinking and the need for flexibility and self-compassion. Patricia shares her recent experiences with medication and managing her OCD symptoms. In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss Patricia's experience with OCD and how it affects her relationships. They explore the challenges of managing dysregulation and the importance of communication and authenticity in navigating difficult emotions. They also touch on the impact of past traumas on current relationships and the need for self-compassion and setting boundaries. The conversation highlights the importance of accepting and expressing emotions and the value of being honest about one's limitations. Takeaways Setting realistic expectations and being flexible is important when trying new activities. Naming and accepting emotions is crucial for self-awareness and healthy relationships. Communication and managing expectations are key in maintaining strong friendships. Medication can be helpful in managing symptoms, but self-awareness and self-compassion are also important. OCD can manifest in different ways, such as excessive worry and fear of harm to loved ones. Managing dysregulation can be challenging, and reaching out for support is important. Authenticity and open communication are key in navigating difficult emotions and maintaining healthy relationships. It's important to recognize and address past traumas that may impact current relationships. Setting boundaries and being honest about one's limitations is crucial for self-care and maintaining healthy relationships. Sound Bites   ·      "I went kickboxing. Yes, it was so much fun." ·      "Finding ways to really lower the bar to just get my body there." ·      "Are there ways that you can create a little bit more flexibility and options so that your life works for you?" ·      "I worry every morning that my husband, you know, is dead." ·      "I felt very disconnected from you, like everything just felt meh." ·      "I wonder if you remembered about recording and you didn't say anything about recording." Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Kickboxing Experience 01:54 Setting Realistic Expectations and Lowering the Bar 04:15 Embracing Emotions and Practicing Self-Compassion 06:16 Communication and Expectations in Friendships 08:43 Managing Symptoms: Medication and Self-Awareness 20:43 Dysregulation and Feeling Disconnected 24:47 Navigating Uncertainty and Hurt Feelings 29:26 Being Present and Authentic in Relationships 33:18 Addressing Past Traumas and Setting Boundaries 40:13 The Importance of Honesty and Saying No PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS Diane Poole-Heller: https://dianepooleheller.com/   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

The Importance of Self-Regulation, Self-Compassion and Connection   Patricia discusses her feelings of annoyance and disappointment when her scheduled recording with Jen is cancelled. The conversation highlights the complexities of managing emotions and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. She also discusses her experience of transitioning from an expansive state to a contractive state and the challenges that come with it. She talks about managing dysregulation, the impact of trauma work and OCD, and the importance of self-compassion.   HIGHLIGHTS Summary Patricia explores her attachment style, OCD, and preoccupation with Jen, as well as her efforts to regulate her nervous system. Patricia also reflects on the challenges that arise from the different ways she and Jen navigate time and commitments. She emphasizes the importance of self-regulation and the need for connection in her relationship with Jen. Overall, Takeaways ·         Different individuals have different attachment styles and ways of navigating time and commitments. ·         Self-regulation is important for managing emotions and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. ·         Open communication and understanding can help navigate challenges in relationships. ·         Recognizing and challenging OCD lies can prevent spiraling into negative thought patterns. ·         Transitioning between expansive and contractive states is a normal part of being human. ·         Managing dysregulation and finding ways to self-soothe are important during contractive states. ·         Trauma work and OCD can add additional challenges to the process. ·         Self-compassion and acceptance of all emotions and experiences are crucial. ·         Validation and support from others can help navigate difficult times. ·         Fears and anxieties as a parent are valid and should be acknowledged and addressed. Sound Bites "I'm annoyed and I'm disappointed." "I have a need to be, feel like we've got autonomy over things." "Timeliness, making commitments about things often are more challenging for her." "I noticed probably about a week ago, I went into what I call an expansive state." "I know that I do not maintain this expansive state and that at some point I will drop back into a contractive state." "It felt nice to go into this very expansive space and I could feel myself kind of dropping down out of it." Chapters Navigating Attachment Styles and Time Management Uncertainty and Preoccupation in Relationships Challenging OCD Lies and Managing Emotions Communication and Understanding in Relationships Navigating the Expansive and Contractive States Managing Dysregulation and Self-Soothing Challenges of Trauma Work and OCD The Power of Self-Compassion Validating Fears and Anxieties Finding Support and Acceptance PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Navigating Reconnection after Rupture: Messiness Is a Healthy Part of Relationships   Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of reconnecting after a rupture in their relationship. They explore the fear of not being able to get back to normal and the desire for rupture and repair in significant relationships. They also discuss the importance of authenticity, setting boundaries, and being clear about needs and expectations. They touch on topics such as OCD, panic attacks, and the process of growth and transformation.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. They explore topics such as discomfort, identity, accuracy in sharing personal experiences, and the process of unmasking. They also touch on the importance of honoring individual processes and the impact of communication and responsiveness in relationships. Patricia shares her experiences with OCD and the need for connection, while Jen reflects on the need for self-care and exploring new directions. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness, authenticity, and growth. Takeaways ·         Honor your own process and don't feel pressured to share or show up in a certain way. ·         Recognize the impact of communication and responsiveness in relationships. ·         Embrace self-awareness and explore new directions for personal growth. ·         Practice authenticity and unmasking to find joy and connection. Reconnecting after a rupture in a relationship can be challenging and may require starting over to rebuild the connection. ·         Fear of not being able to get back to normal after a rupture is common, but rupture and repair are a natural part of significant relationships. ·         Authenticity, setting boundaries, and clear communication about needs and expectations are essential for maintaining healthy relationships. ·         It is important to recognize and manage conditions like OCD and panic attacks, and to seek support and self-care when needed. ·         Growth and transformation in relationships require navigating uncertainty and being open to change. Sound Bites ·         "Hey, Patricia, that feels like a trick question these days." ·         "I'm feeling a little uncomfortable." ·         "I get excited that we're willing to talk about some of the things that are difficult." ·         "But it's not like when I reconnect with you, I go oh, we're connected. It's like I lose that and we almost have to start over again for me to get that connection." ·         "The if onlys, right? The if only we do this right, then we're never gonna have to do it again." Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Expressing Discomfort 03:02 Navigating Identity and Accuracy in Sharing 07:58 The Impact of Communication and Responsiveness 11:52 Embracing Self-Awareness and Exploring New Directions 23:38 Reconnecting After Rupture 28:22 Authenticity and Setting Boundaries in Relationships 30:15 Managing Conditions like OCD and Panic Attacks 32:20 The Process of Growth and Transformation in Relationships PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS Diane Poole-Heller: https://dianepooleheller.com/   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Taking up Space and Expressing Your Feelings is Important for Healing Attachment Injuries   Patricia shares her experiences of her recent trip to Chicago. She discusses the challenges she faced in navigating changes in plans and the emotions that arose during her son's graduation from boot camp. Patricia also explores the importance of creating a secure attachment in her relationship with Jen and the need to ask for what she wants and needs with both Jen and her son. She emphasizes the significance of taking up space, expressing feelings, and finding support in managing attachment injuries.   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways   ·         Navigating changes in plans and unexpected events can be challenging, especially for individuals with attachment injuries. ·         Creating a secure attachment in relationships involves open communication, asking for what you want and need, and being aware of your own emotions and triggers. ·         Taking up space and expressing your feelings is important for healing attachment injuries and building healthier relationships. ·         Finding support from trusted individuals can help regulate emotions and provide a sense of security. ·         Managing attachment injuries is an ongoing process that requires self-awareness, self-compassion, and patience.   Sound Bites "Navigating changes in plans and unexpected events can be challenging" "Creating a secure attachment in relationships involves open communication" "Taking up space and expressing your feelings is important for healing attachment injuries" Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction 00:00 Introduction and Disappointment 08:27 Emotional Challenges of Departure and Goodbyes 13:46 Creating a Secure Attachment in Relationships 16:19 Taking Up Space and Expressing Feelings 28:00 Managing Attachment Injuries: An Ongoing Process 31:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Anger and Attachment: Navigating Different Neurotypes Within a Relationship Patricia and Jen explore the dynamics of attachment injuries, ADHD, and autism within their friendship. They explore the challenges of communication, time orientation, and emotional regulation. They touch on the concept of platonic life partnership and the challenges navigating different attachment styles and the impact of past trauma on present interactions. They discuss the importance of setting expectations, creating safe containers for communication, and validating each other's emotions.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary The conversation delves into the complexities of attachment wounds, communication styles, and emotional regulation within a friendship. Takeaways ·         The impact of attachment injuries, ADHD, and autism on communication and emotional regulation in friendships. ·         The challenges of navigating differences in time orientation and managing expectations within a friendship. ·         The concept of platonic life partnership and its relevance in fostering secure attachments and meaningful connections in friendships. ·         Navigating attachment wounds and communication styles in friendships can be complex and challenging. ·         Understanding the impact of past trauma on present interactions is crucial for building empathy and connection. ·         Setting clear expectations and creating safe containers for communication can help navigate emotional triggers and attachment injuries in friendships. ·         Validating each other's emotions and experiences is essential for building trust and understanding in a friendship. Additional Takeaways: Understanding the importance of having important conversations and finding the right time for them. Exploring vulnerability and the fear of being misunderstood or perceived as angry. Acknowledging feelings of frustration and hopelessness in relationships. Validating the range of human emotions, including anger, and the need to express them fully. Reflecting on personal tendencies and vulnerabilities, such as attachment injuries. Recognizing the impact of dysregulation and expressing anger in a healthy manner. Navigating feelings of anger and the desire for mutual understanding in relationships. Balancing the need for connection with the challenges and pain of relationships. Embracing vulnerability and seeking growth through therapy and self-reflection. Learning to communicate effectively and manage difficult emotions in relationships. Exploring the complexities of attachment styles and their influence on behavior. Cultivating self-awareness and empathy towards oneself and others. Addressing past traumas and their effects on present relationships. Practicing self-care and setting boundaries to maintain emotional well-being. Embracing change and growth through ongoing self-reflection and therapy. Building resilience and coping strategies for navigating challenging emotions. Fostering healthy communication patterns and conflict resolution skills. Recognizing the importance of seeking support and guidance in times of emotional distress. Embracing authenticity and vulnerability as pathways to personal healing and growth. Encouraging listeners to engage in self-discovery and emotional exploration for personal development. Sound Bites "Having these conversations is important." "I'm doing the best I can in my unmedicated, very sloppy way." "Those are gonna be the labels that you're gonna have if you don't want the label." "Navigating attachment wounds and communication styles in friendships can be complex and challenging." "Understanding the impact of past trauma on present interactions is crucial for building empathy and connection." "Setting clear expectations and creating safe containers for communication can help navigate emotional triggers and attachment injuries in friendships." Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) Chapters 00:00 Exploring Attachment Injuries and Gremlins in Friendship Dynamics 03:04 Understanding Time Orientation and Emotional Regulation in Relationships 08:20 Navigating Differences in Communication and Expectations 14:02 The Concept of Platonic Life Partnership and Friendship Dynamics 29:19 Understanding the Impact of Past Trauma on Present Interactions 39:22 Creating Safe Containers for Communication in Friendships 43:19 The Importance of Validating Emotions in Friendships PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

PDA & Empowering Autonomy: Navigating Uncertainty and Travel Preparation   Patricia discusses her experiences with attachment injuries, being activated, anxiety, and preparing for travel. She shares insights into managing her emotions and navigating relationships through the lens of autism with a PDA profile. Patricia asserts her need for autonomy, feelings of powerlessness, and the challenges of managing uncertainty. Patricia also explores her experiences with OCD, hypervigilance, and the impact of early childhood trauma on her current behaviors and thought patterns.   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways ·         Exploring attachment injuries and the impact on relationships ·         Managing anxiety and OCD symptoms ·         Navigating travel preparations and the challenges of change and uncertainty ·         Understanding the impact of early childhood trauma on current behaviors ·         Coping with autism and sensory processing   Ways to reclaim a sense of agency and control when faced with feelings of powerlessness. Acknowledge the lack of control and see if there are ways to be more proactive in daily life. Focus on stepping back into your life and regaining a sense of autonomy. Address attachment injuries and work towards healing and growth. Engage in activities that help manage anxiety, especially in anticipation of upcoming events like travel, or where there’s uncertainty. Utilize skills and coping mechanisms to navigate challenges that can activate your nervous system. Seek comfort in preparedness and organization, such as creating packing lists and to-do lists (IF this brings you comfort). Maintain open communication with family or support systems to process emotions and work through difficulties.   Strategies for travel to increase your sense of autonomy, reduce anxiety, and promote a smoother travel experience. Create a universal packing list to streamline the packing process. Develop a to-do list for tasks related to travel arrangements and pet care, childcare, plant care, etc. Utilize familiar items like a fleece throw for comfort during the trip. Opt for direct flights to minimize the stress of layovers. Communicate openly with family members or travel companions to address concerns and plan activities effectively. Embrace routines and familiar items to provide comfort and stability in new environments. Engage in troubleshooting and forecasting to anticipate potential challenges and mitigate anxiety. Make a plan, but try and have some flexibility for unanticipated changes. Sound Bites "I think probably the easiest place to start is the attachment injuries." "It's just fascinating to watch. It's also really annoying AF." Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction 00:00 Navigating Attachment Injuries and Emotional Management 13:39 Challenges of Travel Preparations and Coping Strategies PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Friendships Paradigms: Monogamy and Polyamory and Platonic Partnerships   Patricia discusses the concept of monogamy and polyamory in friendships and platonic partnerships. She explores how the traditional view of monogamy has a hierarchy when one person enters a romantic relationship. Neurodivergent folks often have closer friendships that are more like platonic partnerships. Patricia shares her insights on the importance of defining communication patterns and expectations in friendships. She also reflects on the challenges of permanence and attachment wounds in relationships.   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways The traditional view of monogamy can impact friendships when one person enters a romantic relationship. Defining communication patterns and expectations in friendships is important for maintaining connection and avoiding attachment wounds. The challenges of permanence can affect neurodivergent individuals, leading to feelings of disconnection and uncertainty. Embracing blended parts and honoring individual needs in relationships is essential for creating healthy and fulfilling connections. Additional Takeaways Understanding the dynamics of relationships through the lens of attachment theory, particularly in the context of neurodivergent individuals. Exploring the nuances of polyamory and monogamy in modern society and how they intersect with platonic partnerships. Unpacking the concept of primary and secondary relationships within the framework of monogamous norms. Delving into attachment injuries and how they can impact friendships and romantic connections. Gaining insights into navigating blended parts within relationships and the challenges they may present. Examining the shifts in relationships when one party enters a new romantic relationship, especially in the context of monogamous views. Learning about communication patterns and compatibility in friendships and partnerships, particularly in the realm of polyamory. Discovering strategies for healing attachment wounds and fostering healthier relationships, as discussed in Jessica Fern's book "Polysecure." Reflecting on the differences in communication styles between individuals and how they can affect relationship dynamics. Exploring the complexities of non-monogamous relationships and platonic partnerships in the modern world. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness and open communication in maintaining strong friendships and romantic connections. Considering the impact of societal norms on relationships and how they influence our perceptions of friendship and partnership. Embracing the diversity of relationship structures and finding resonance in the experiences shared by individuals navigating polyamory, monogamy, and platonic partnerships. Sound Bites "Attachment wounds and the challenges of permanence in relationships" "Polyamory and platonic partnerships" "Feeling left behind in a friendship" Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction 01:50 Monogamy and Platonic Partnerships 11:48 Defining Communication Patterns 15:24 Feeling Left Behind in Friendships 23:21 Permanence and Limited Communication 26:06 Embracing Blended Parts in Relationships PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern   Episode 109: The Power of Attachment Styles with Jessica Fern https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-109-the-power-of-attachment-styles-and-the-highly-sensitive-person-hsp-jessica-fern-ms/   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Attachment: Self-Compassion, Recognizing & Healing Unblended Parts   Patricia and Jen discuss their personal experiences with attachment injuries and how it affects their relationship. They explore the challenges of communication and the impact of past traumas. Patricia shares insights from her recovery journey, drawing parallels between her eating disorder and her attachment struggles. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion and understanding in navigating these complex dynamics. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the value of conflict and the importance of welcoming all parts of ourselves.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary Patricia and Jen discuss the experience of being preoccupied with attachment injuries and how it affects their thoughts and behaviors. They explore the concept of being blended with certain parts and the importance of unblending to gain perspective. They also touch on the role of a catalyst in triggering attachment wounds and the process of healing and unblending. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and understanding when going through intense emotions and trauma work Takeaways ·         Attachment injuries can impact relationships and trigger past traumas. ·         Communication can be challenging when attachment wounds are activated. ·         Self-compassion and understanding are crucial in navigating attachment struggles. ·         Recovery from past traumas requires self-reflection and self-awareness. Attachment injuries can lead to preoccupation with thoughts and behaviors related to the relationship. ·         Being blended with certain parts can make it difficult to gain perspective and let go of preoccupations. ·         The presence of a catalyst in triggering attachment wounds can provide an opportunity for healing and growth. ·         Self-compassion and understanding are crucial when going through intense emotions and trauma work. ·         Conflict can be seen as an opportunity for growth and understanding, rather than something negative or bad. Sound Bites "I'm actually doing really well. This is day four of feeling like I'm back to my grounded self." "In the absence of having information and without a secure attachment, I made up a story in my head of like, you didn't even respond to this." "Confidence is such a beautiful attribute sometimes, right? That I have the confidence that you have this." "When I'm in a place where I'm struggling with my attachment injuries, I'm preoccupied about the thoughts that I have about you, where you are, where I am in the relationship." "In IFS terms, we would say blended, right? When you're so completely blended, there's no other perspective." "This preoccupied stuff is, oof, I mean, it can get so intense." Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates 03:27 Parenting Challenges and Appreciation 05:10 Navigating Attachment Injuries and Communication Challenges 08:06 The Impact of Past Traumas on Relationships 11:25 Understanding the Complex Dynamics of Attachment 16:14 Articulating Experiences and Symbolic Communication 21:36 Blended Parts and Unblending 25:20 The Role of a Catalyst 29:59 Healing and Unblending 37:47 Conflict as an Opportunity PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com