474. How I transformed my relationship with exercise

Content note: This episode includes discussions of exercise, dieting, weight loss and body image. How do you learn to love exercise when it has always felt like punishment? In today’s more personal episode, I’m sharing how I completely changed my relationship with movement over the past three years, from barely moving to running half marathons and genuinely enjoying the gym. Watch on Netflix: HERE We discuss: Why enjoyment became more important than discipline Starting slowly and letting yourself stop How I focused on progress that wasn't attached to my appearance Removing comparison from your fitness journey My running tips  Why taking a break doesn’t mean having to start all over again Happy listening! Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why does dancing in a crowd feel so good? What is the emotional allure of the dance floor, the club scene, the music? Today, we’re exploring the psychology of clubbing, from the physiological rush of a beat drop to the role it plays in making the most of our 20s. Watch on Netflix: HERE We discuss: How music and dance influence our mood Collective effervescence: the feeling of being part of something bigger Why clubs feel freeing for some and overwhelming for others Alcohol, inhibition and “hangxiety” Clubbing as a coming-of-age ritual FOMO, nostalgia and why our relationship with nightlife changes Happy listening! Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is a 'spark' all that it takes to be compatible in the long-term? What about sharing the same interests, personality or sense of humour? Or is it something more deep and intangible? In today’s episode, we explore what ACTUALLY makes two people right for each other, and why the things that draw us together aren’t always the things that keep us together. Watch on Netflix: HERE We discuss: Chemistry versus long-term compatibility Why shared values matter more than shared hobbies The importance of feeling understood, appreciated and responded to (i.e the Gottman's theory of responsiveness) How the belief in soulmates can shape your relationship The Four Horsemen that erode connection What an argument can reveal about your future together Whether you’re dating someone new or reflecting on a long-term relationship, this episode explores what it means to build a love that lasts, through change, conflict and the thousands of little choices we make along the way. Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why is there so much pressure for your wedding to be the best day of your life? And what happens when that pressure gets in the way of actually enjoying it? Today, we’re unpacking the psychology of weddings: the expectations, money, family dynamics and friendship tensions that come with saying “I do”. Watch on Netflix: HERE We explore: Why the “perfect wedding” can leave us feeling disappointed How weddings became such extravagant events Social media, comparison and the pressure to spend more The surprising relationship between wedding spending and divorce Why weddings can expose cracks in our friendships The psychology of elopements ... Whether you’re planning a wedding, attending your sixth this year or wondering whether to skip the whole thing, let’s talk about keeping the celebration from overshadowing the relationship. Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you really have a love language? And does learning your partner’s actually make your relationship better? In this bonus episode of our debunking psychology series, we unpack the truth behind one of the most popular ideas in modern dating. We explore: Where the five love languages came from and their religious roots The controversial advice in Gary Chapman’s original book What the research actually says about love languages and relationship satisfaction Why lasting love might need a “balanced diet” of affection Partner responsiveness and what it means to feel understood, valued and cared for Find all episodes of DEBUNKING PSYCHOLOGY: HERE Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected] The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We blush, we look away, we replay the moment for hours (or years) after it happened, becoming convinced that everyone noticed far more than they probably did. Embarrassment is an interesting and complex emotion, but it can help us recognise social expectations and communicate how our behaviour affects others. Watch on Netflix: HERE We explore:•        When we first develop the capacity to feel embarrassed•        Why we blush and the role of embarrassment in trust•        Why some of us feel embarrassment more than others•        The role of rumination •        The psychological and social role of embarrassment •        How we can form a better relationship with it Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected]  Our favourite sources: https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0025403 https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/european-psychiatry/article/not-intended-still-embarrassed-social-anxiety-is-related-to-increased-levels-of-embarrassment-in-response-to-unintentional-social-norm-violations/F4143AB3B88D41FB18F9962696A77151 https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/desc.70024  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brain fog is so much more than just feeling tired. It's that frustrating feeling of knowing what you want to say or do, but your brain simply won't cooperate. And whilst it's incredibly common, we're only just beginning to understand what actually causes it. Watch on Netflix: HERE In today's episode, we're breaking down the fascinating new research behind brain fog, including: The three main causes of brain fog, from physical depletion to cognitive overload and neurological disruption Why chronic stress, anxiety and mental load can leave your brain feeling exhausted The surprising links between brain fog, inflammation, long COVID and gut health Why women may be more susceptible to brain fog The science of sleep, nutrition and the brain's natural cleaning system What actually helps clear brain fog, beyond just drinking more water and getting more rest Extra links:  Brain fog and trauma: HERE Brain fog and ADHD: HERE Brain fog and food: HERE The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Does the taxi cab theory actually explain why some people suddenly become ready to settle down, or is it just another dating myth? In this episode, we’re breaking down the psychology behind the infamous, Sex and The City taxi cab theory and asking whether timing really can determine who we end up with. We explore commitment readiness, the social clock, why our relationship priorities change as we age, and the painful psychology of watching someone give their next partner everything they refused to give you. Watch on Netflix: HERE We discuss: • The psychology behind the taxi cab theory• Why someone can suddenly become “ready” for commitment• The foster girlfriend phenomenon• Why timing matters, but compatibility matters more• How to tell when someone is genuinely serious about you• Why waiting for someone’s “light to switch on” can keep you stuck Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How much of your behaviour is really “you” - and how much has been shaped by the environments around you? In this episode, we explore how childhood, relationships, social expectations, habits and physical spaces can influence the way we think, feel and behave. From nervous-system responses and beliefs about what is possible for us, to the people we pursue, the habits we repeat and the versions of ourselves that present in different places, we look at the psychology of how environments programme our behaviour. Watch on Netflix: HERE We explore:●        What our ‘environment’ can include●        Impacts of childhood experiences on our nervous system ●        Where our belief of what it possible or attainable comes from●        How relational environments shape our pursuit of love●        How our environment shapes our habits●        The impact of our physical environment on our personalities Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected]  Our favourite sources:https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-9280.2009.02309.x  https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-33544-001 https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.883795/full https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2006-08705-013  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this bonus episode, we’re looking at the placebo effect - what it is, how it became an important part of medical research, and why an inactive treatment can sometimes produce genuine changes how we feel, and what this tells us about the relationship between the brain, body and experience of receiving care. The FULL Debunking Psychology playlist: HERE  We explore:•        How placebos became an important part of scientific research•        Some of the earliest placebo experiments•        Why our expectations can change the way we experience symptoms•        Whether the placebo effect produces real, biological changes•        Why the ritual of receiving care may itself influence how we feel•        Whether placebo effects represent genuine, lasting change Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.