Episode 185: Why mild dissociation is the main cause of restless sleep and frequent night waking

In this episode, I share listeners' questions and my answers, for babies 3 months to 12 months old. The questions include: "Can babies get nightmares/night terrors as young as 3 months?" "How do I support my baby when he gets the wriggles?" "Should I be putting my 9 mth old In her own cot?" "Do we have to co sleep?" "Do you think the whole family should sleep together?" "For day time naps do you recommend she continues sleeping on us or next to us for a long time? Unless in her pram or car we don’t have luck with her sleeping on her own." "What are you meant to do throughout the entire night to encourage bub to sleep throughout the whole night?" "Our 10 month old twins scream 40 mins after bedtime." If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 Doors are open to the live round of this year's Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course. Codes for early bird prices are on my social media. Details are here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-course/ You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

In this episode, I talk about the chronotypes of the early bird and the night owl. I also explain how you can differentiate each of these from the effects of accumulated healing-feelings. I also share about the possibility that both chronotypes and accumulated feelings can be happening, and what you can do it this is the case. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 The live round of this year's Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is starting soon, and there will be early bird reduced fee places! You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

In this episode, I talk about the most common reason why babies and toddlers: wake up with the slightest noise or movement; wake up after one sleep cycle; wake up crying; are restless at night; wake frequently; appear to resist sleep; take a long time to go to sleep. If you're walking on eggshells to make sure they don't wake up, this might interest you. I explain how quiet and stillness can indicate relaxation or mild dissociation, why that's important for sleep, and how you can differentiate between the two. I share about needs-feelings and healing-feelings, and why being able to differentiate between these is also vital to understanding why it's really common for babies and children to be mildly dissociated before sleep. I talk about why we don't use the terms 'soothing' and 'self-soothing' in Aware Parenting, and how this relates to understanding mild dissociation. I also share why and how listening to healing-feelings before sleep leads to deep relaxation and restful sleep. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 The live round of this year's Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is starting soon, and there will be early bird reduced fee places! You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

In this episode, I talk to Maru Rojas again. Maru is an Aware Parenting instructor in the UK and is originally from Mexico. She was a guest on the podcast on episode 139, also talking about sleep. If you haven't listened to that episode, I highly recommend listening to it after this one. Maru shares her journey of sleep with her daughter and son, as she gradually increased the depth of her understanding and practice of Aware Parenting. In particular, she talks about her daughter's night waking and moving all around the bed as a toddler. She shares how she stopped breastfeeding at night, and about her increasing awareness of the surprising control pattern that was the lynchpin for more sleep. She also shares more about the huge difference in sleep between her daughter and her son, with whom she started practicing Aware Parenting with at birth, alongside having much more understanding and experience with Aware Parenting by that time. Maru is also a teacher of Elimination Communication and offers courses and 1:1 consultations in both EC and Aware Parenting. You can find out more about her work and can contact her at: https://parenttogether.co.uk/ and https://www.instagram.com/_maru.rojas_/

In this episode, I share why Aware Parenting doesn't include the terms 'overtired', 'wake windows', and 'sleep regression', and what we perceive is going on when these terms are used. Because Aware Parenting has such different ways of understanding what's going on with sleep, it doesn't use a lot of terminology commonly used in other parenting paradigms. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

In this episode, I talk about the three ingredients for restful sleep. The first is well-known, the second is less well-known in this culture, and the third is often not recognised at all. I also explain the three different ways to bring about calmness before sleep, and why two of those only lead to superficial calmness, which often leads to babies and children waking up easily and frequently. Then I share the third way, which leads to deep relaxation. This is a part of Aware Parenting, and I talk about why that way that leads to relaxed, restful and restorative sleep. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

This little mini episode continues on from the last episode on cultural beliefs in relation to sleep. I talk about how looking at sleep practices all around the world helps us understand biological needs and cultural practices. Babies and children vitally need sleep, so it's adaptive for there to be many ways to support them to be able to go to sleep in whatever climate and culture, but these different ways have consequences in other areas. There are three reasons I find it helpful to look at the wider cultural context with sleep: To see how sleep practices are related to climate, culture, etc. To get free from shame and guilt about what others might think if you choose your own way. To see clearly what you might hvae been told is from a cultural belief rather than what's most helpful for babies and children. I also talk about the three main ways for sleep to happen: With closeness - eg movement, feeding, etc. -> frequent night waking. Without closeness - eg. swaddling, stillness, etc -> baby wakes up but doesn't call out. Aware Parenting: Closeness and natural relaxation through release -> more relaxation and more restful sleep and longer sleep. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

I love looking at how cultural beliefs and practices affect parenting, and in this episode I explore this in relation to sleep for babies and children. I talk about The Continuum Concept book about the Yequana people, by Jean Liedloff, and how reading it affected me back in 1992. I explore how Classical Attachment Parenting was deeply influenced by Indigenous cultures in hot climates, and how parenting beliefs and practices were often quite different in cold climates. I share about how Aware Parenting aims to differentiate between parenting practices that are based on cultural beliefs around and practices that are based on innate needs and body wisdom. If you'd like my free PDF to learn more about sleep, secure attachment, emotional release and Aware Parenting, you can sign up for it here: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/ssgsvngo66 You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Hello again! This is a very different episode, and it's for mothers, to mark Mothers Day in some parts of the world. Please note, that this is based on The Marion Method, rather than Aware Parenting. In the episode, I share three things: ~ An invitation to see what shows up for you on Mothers Day. ~ Me appreciating you as a mother. ~ Me standing in for Divine Mother / your Inner Loving Mother / the Soul version of your mother, and offering you loving phrases. I'm sending you love this Mothers Day and every day! If you want to learn more about my Inner Loving Presence Process Course, you can find it here: https://innerlovingpresenceprocess.com/ My Transformation Through Mothering Course is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/transformation-through-mothering-twenty-twenty-one/ You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

I'm so delighted to be starting this second sleep series, in tandem with editing my book, Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting, as well as offering a live round of the course of the same name, and my first Aware Parenting children's book, on rambunctious play before bed. This episode is an introduction to what me and my guests will be talking about in this series. I include: The innate release and relaxation response all babies and children have. Differentiating cultural beliefs about sleep from innate biological wisdom. How sleep challenges are a reflection of needs and feelings. The three things babies, children and teens need to sleep peacefully. Why they're not fighting sleep but we're often fighting their release and relaxation response. How the relaxation response is the same as the intrinsic ability to heal from daily stresses and larger traumas. How we can have sound sleep and secure attachment with Aware Parenting. If you'd like me free PDF on sleep, you can access it by signing up for my newsletter here: http://eepurl.com/8ifhn The Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting Course is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/sound-sleep-and-secure-attachment-with-aware-parenting-course/ You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD