103 Dark Matters, Pt. 3: Working with Life's Most Difficult Emotions (Insecurity)

“Pain is a portal to profound spiritual growth,” says our host, Roy Biancalana. He shares that there is a moment in every person’s life, a dark-night-of-the-soul type moment, where we realize that the well from which we’ve been drinking is dry.   It’s at this crucial moment that our spiritual journey CAN begin. We can recognize that our strategies for happiness haven’t worked (and will never work), and in that moment of despair, we can begin an honest search for answers.   In this, the second episode of a 5-part series, you will receive a profound insight into yourself, one that will launch your spiritual journey and change your life forever.   You will learn… ·      the single recognition that starts the spiritual journey; ·      the real reason people seek relationships, success, fame or beauty; ·      why attraction, manifestation and getting what you want is overrated; ·      what your life purpose has been; ·      and much, much more!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

Many think that spiritual awakening leads to a boring life, one of abstaining and renunciation. They fear it means never having any fun and sitting on a cushion all day saying goofy words like, “Om” and “namaste”.   But in this 5-part series, you’ll learn that the opposite is true. In fact, our host, Roy Biancalana, says enlightenment leads to a life of engagement, playfulness, and authenticity, a life where the past is powerless, loneliness disappears, and drama ends.   In this first episode of the series, you’ll discover not only what spiritual awakening is, but you will embark on the greatest journey of all—the discovery of who you truly are.   You will learn… ·      how spiritual awakening is tragically misunderstood; ·      the drastic difference between personal growth and spiritual awakening; ·      the simplest definition of enlightenment; ·      12 reasons to be interested in spiritual awakening; ·      …and much, much more!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

Roy is back with another epic rant! The first time Roy unloaded (episode #136), he ranted about things that drive a conscious relationship like himself insane.   In this episode, which might feel like someone waking you up out of a deep sleep by dumping a bucket of cold water on your head, Roy rants about 4 things that surprise and confuse him, things that just don’t make sense. People say they want to attract a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship and yet they don’t do the very things that are needed to make it happen. It leaves Roy shaking his head.   Don’t miss the playful and powerful episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that’s what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find “the middle way,” or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren’t.   So, in this episode, Roy discusses MASCULINE and FEMININE. These energies (they aren’t genders) hold the key to attraction, chemistry, and a great sex life!   But balance is not the goal as it has been in the other episodes in this series. Rather, the goal here is how to magnify your lead energy and diminish the other. It’s a fascinating topic and one you don’t want to miss.   You will learn… …what masculine and feminine mean in a relationship context; …what the toxic masculine and toxic feminine are and how to tell them apart; …how and why we can end up in “the friend zone”; …how to make sense of the trans/gender controversy; …how to display your masculine or feminine in an irresistible way; …and much, much more!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that’s what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find “the middle way,” or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren’t.   So, in this episode, Roy discusses SELFISH and UNSELFISH. Separately, they are both true—we need to value our needs, but we also need to consider others—but together they seem contradictory, or at least it looks that way. But listen in and you will learn the critical life skill of finding the balance between the two.   You will learn… …why unselfishness comes back to bite you; …that narcissists and empaths are basically the same person and equally dysfunctional; …why compromise is not a value of healthy relationships; …how to shift a win/lose dynamic to a win/win dynamic; …and much more!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that’s what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find “the middle way,” or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren’t.   So, in this episode, Roy discusses JUDGMENT and DISCERNMENT. Being wise and discerning keeps us from experiencing heartache and pain, but how is that different from being judging or judgmental? How do we discern and not judge? Listen in and you will learn the critical life skill of knowing the difference between the two.   You will learn… …what makes judgement different than discernment; …3 reasons why we are judgmental and how to stop; …3 ways we can growing in wisdom and discernment; …and much more!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that’s what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find “the middle way,” or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren’t.   So, in this episode, Roy discusses COMPASSION and RESPONSIBILITY. Separately, they are both true—compassion and forgiveness are necessary but so is responsibility and accountability—but together they seem contradictory, or at least it looks that way. But listen in and you will learn the critical life skill of finding the balance between the two.   You will learn… …why relationships are often co-dependent and dysfunctional; …the “equation” for creating healthy, supportive relationships; …how the dark sides of compassion and responsibility often manifest; …the process of strengthening your “heart” or your “hammer”; …and much more.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that’s what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find “the middle way,” or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren’t.   So, in this episode, Roy discusses THINKING and FEELING. Separately, they are both true—thoughts are important, but so are emotions—but together they seem contradictory, or at least it looks that way. But listen in and you will learn the critical life skill of finding the balance between the two.   You will learn… …why EQ and IQ are both necessary for a happy life and love life; …if you are a “Sheldon” or a “Penny” and why that’s dangerous; …the critical relationship skill of celebrating and appreciating differences; …why thoughts, emotions and instincts can’t be trusted individually; …what it means to have a “whole-body YES!”;   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that’s what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find “the middle way,” or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren’t.   So, in this episode, Roy discusses ACCEPTANCE and ACTION. Separately, they are both true—we need to accept reality, but we also need to take action—but together they seem contradictory, or at least it looks that way. But listen in and you will learn the critical life skill of finding the balance between the two.   You will learn… …that acceptance and action are not contradictory but complimentary; …how to make the best choices and decisions; …why acceptance rather than shame or anger is the best motivation for change; …how to find that grounded, centered place within which leads to the best action; …and much, much more!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

Let’s face it: relationships can be a source of great frustration. People do and say things that trigger intense reactions within us, and all too often, because we don’t know how to handle those feelings, we react in ways that make it worse. We’ve all been there.   In this episode, Roy shares a talk given by his favorite spiritual teacher, Michael Singer. In his down-to-earth, practical style, Michael goes into detail describing the skill that we all need to develop if we want to stay centered when we’re triggered or when experiencing inner turbulence.   You will learn… ·      how and why we get triggered and what happens inside us; ·      why it’s so important to learn how to not react to the inner turbulence; ·      the two strategies we can use to let go and not make matters worse; ·      and much more!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   For more talks by Michael Singer: www.tou.org    Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K   Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.