That Husband Podcast

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 41: HOW MY BATTLES SHAPE THE HUSBAND I AM In this episode, Blaque sits down with Jabulani Masombuka for a deeply personal conversation about perseverance, family, addiction and the experiences that shaped the man and husband he has become. He reflects on growing up in a home where his parents' marriage remained intact, where his father was present, provided for the family and constantly encouraged his children to pursue a better future. But behind that stability was a struggle with gambling addiction that would eventually lead to his father's suicide. He shares what it was like to grow up with a father who could be so loving, supportive and intentional, while also carrying struggles that had devastating consequences. At the time, he had little ambition or direction of his own, but watching his father's life unfold became a turning point that forced him to reconsider the kind of man he wanted to become. Today, he lives a life very different from the one his parents knew. But he carries both sides of that upbringing: the beauty of a father who believed in him and the pain of a man who was fighting battles of his own. This is a conversation about the complicated realities of family, the impact of addiction, the weight of loss and the decision to keep going. It's about finding the courage to build a different life, even when your starting point is filled with both love and pain.   FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 40: YOUNG WOMEN GET BRUTALLY HONEST ABOUT MODERN DATING In this episode, Blaque Nubon sits down with Sizo and Lebo for an honest conversation about dating, marriage and what young women are really looking for in a husband. Sizo and Lebo share their perspectives on the pressures women face to be independent, successful and “wife material” all at once. They unpack the importance of clear intentions, shared values and meaningful conversation, while challenging the idea that money or appearances alone can sustain a relationship. The conversation also explores provision, partnership and the tension between building a life for yourself and building one with someone else. From emotional maturity and accountability to marriage timelines, family examples and traditional expectations, they discuss what it means to prepare for love without losing yourself in the process. This isn't just a conversation about what women want. It's about rethinking marriage as a partnership where both people are seen, supported and refined. Because a healthy marriage should not stop your life. It should give two people the space to build something better together. FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/   #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 39: YOU KEEP DISAPPOINTING THE WRONG PERSON In this episode, Blaque Nubon sits down with Karabo Mogane for an honest conversation about marriage, people-pleasing and the pressure to keep everyone happy. Karabo shares how marriage has challenged him to recognise his people-pleasing tendencies, learn to say no and establish boundaries, particularly with family. They explore the tension between being a good son and being a husband who protects his marriage, and why choosing your wife sometimes means making decisions that others may not like. The conversation also unpacks the expectations that come with marriage, the guilt of disappointing people and the importance of ensuring your actions reflect the values you believe in. This isn't just a conversation about learning to say no. It's about understanding what marriage requires of you, confronting the patterns that hold you back and becoming intentional about the man and husband you want to be. Because you can't keep everyone happy. Sometimes, becoming a better husband means having the courage to disappoint people. FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 38: HAVE WE RUINED MARRIAGE FOR THEM? In this episode, Blaque sits down with Percy and Tshenolo for an honest conversation about what it means to be a young man today, navigating relationships, money and the pressure to have life figured out. They unpack why it can feel so difficult to be a man in this generation, from the expectations society places on men to the lack of positive role models and honest conversations about manhood. They explore what happens when young men are taught to focus on success but aren't necessarily shown how to build healthy relationships, become good husbands or prepare for family life. Percy and Tshenolo share their perspectives on dating, marriage and the financial pressure young men face when thinking about their futures. They discuss the expectation that a man should have money, stability and everything in place before pursuing a relationship, and ask whether we've made it harder for young people to build a life together from the ground up. They also get into the influence of social media, the pressure to keep up with expensive lifestyles, and how constant comparison can shape what we expect from relationships. When everyone seems to be travelling, spending and living a certain way, where does that leave a young man who is still studying, finding his feet and trying to figure out what he has to offer? The conversation goes deeper into vulnerability, emotional honesty and the challenge of learning how to be a man without always having examples to follow. They reflect on the messages young people receive about dating, the importance of community, and how the advice to focus on building a career and making money can sometimes leave marriage and family as an afterthought. FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 37: WHY DO YOU HANDLE CONFLICT THE WAY YOU DO? In this episode, Blaque sits down with VTJ Masakona for an honest conversation about conflict, pressure and the different ways husbands respond when marriage gets difficult. They unpack the different kinds of husbands that can emerge under pressure: the husband driven by ego, the husband who needs to be needed, and the husband driven by fear. What looks like love, leadership or sacrifice on the surface can sometimes be rooted in something much deeper. VTJ and Blaque talk about what happens when a husband tries to be everything for his wife, why some men struggle to admit they no longer have the capacity to show up the way they once did, and how the need to be needed can become part of a man's identity. They also get into the harder side of conflict: silence, emotional capacity, difficult conversations and the importance of choosing the right language when emotions are high. Sometimes the issue isn't the person you're fighting with. It's the thing that has happened — and learning to face that thing together can change the entire conversation. VTJ also shares deeply personal experiences of loss, vulnerability and learning to process pain alongside his wife, including the realisation that two people can experience the same loss without experiencing it in the same way. FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 36: WOULD I LET MY SON MARRY THIS EARLY? In this episode, Blaque sits down with Allan P to talk about getting married young and what 13 years of marriage has taught him about the decision he made at just 21. While he doesn’t regret marrying his wife, but looking back, there are things he wishes he had understood before saying “I do.” They talk about what it really means to be ready for marriage, the role of financial stability, the importance of having a healthy community around you, and why faith without preparation can sometimes become an excuse for poor planning. They also wrestle with a bigger question: If his son came to him at 21 and said he wanted to get married, would he encourage him to do it? From growing up alongside his wife to building a family together, Allan P reflects on the challenges of learning marriage while already living it, the mistakes he made in his younger years, and the bond that can come from building a life together from the ground up. This isn't a simple argument for or against getting married young. It's an honest conversation about maturity, responsibility, preparation, community, faith and whether you're actually ready for what marriage requires. FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK:   / thathusbandpodcast   INSTAGRAM:   / thathusbandpodcast   #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether  

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 35: 12 YEARS IN AND STILL LEARNING In this week's episode Blaque sits down with Anele for an honest and necessary conversation about divorce, identity, healing, and the journey of finding your way again. Drawing from his book, Thrive, Anele Matshisi opens up about the phases men go through after divorce moments many are never prepared for and few feel safe enough to talk about. Together, they unpack the weight of separation, the questions it raises around purpose and identity, and the quiet struggles men often carry behind closed doors. This conversation goes beyond simply surviving heartbreak. Anele reflects on what it takes to confront pain honestly, rebuild your life with intention, and heal in a way that does not leave you repeating the same patterns. From loss and loneliness to self-worth, responsibility, and rediscovering purpose, this episode makes space for the real work of becoming whole again. They also explore why men need healthier conversations around divorce, support through life’s hardest transitions, and the courage to seek healing instead of hiding behind strength. If you’ve experienced divorce, felt disconnected from who you are, or are trying to rebuild after a season that changed everything, this conversation is for you.   FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 34: THE GRIEF MEN AREN'T PREPARED FOR In this week's episode Blaque sits down with Anele for an honest and necessary conversation about divorce, identity, healing, and the journey of finding your way again. Drawing from his book, Thrive, Anele Matshisi opens up about the phases men go through after divorce moments many are never prepared for and few feel safe enough to talk about. Together, they unpack the weight of separation, the questions it raises around purpose and identity, and the quiet struggles men often carry behind closed doors. This conversation goes beyond simply surviving heartbreak. Anele reflects on what it takes to confront pain honestly, rebuild your life with intention, and heal in a way that does not leave you repeating the same patterns. From loss and loneliness to self-worth, responsibility, and rediscovering purpose, this episode makes space for the real work of becoming whole again. They also explore why men need healthier conversations around divorce, support through life’s hardest transitions, and the courage to seek healing instead of hiding behind strength. If you’ve experienced divorce, felt disconnected from who you are, or are trying to rebuild after a season that changed everything, this conversation is for you. FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources. [S3] EPISODE 33: SHOWING UP IS NOT ENOUGH In this live episode of Beans and Bonds, Blaque sits down with Muzi Mthabela for an honest conversation about marriage, leadership, family, and the intentional work of building a home that lasts. Filmed in March 2025, they unpack what it means for a marriage to be grounded by vision, grown through hard work, and kept alive through the joy of truly enjoying one another. Muzi reflects on the example of the men who shaped him, the importance of leading with love, and why marriage is something we build brick by brick not simply walk into. They get real about the trauma we bring into relationships, the unspoken expectations that quietly create pressure, and the need to communicate before resentment takes over. From forgiveness and healing to fatherhood and faith, this conversation challenges husbands and future husbands to take responsibility for the kind of family they are building. They also explore the role of men in restoring the Black family, the power of having a clear vision for your home, and what it looks like to lead your family with intention, humility, and godliness. If you’ve ever felt the weight of marriage, struggled to communicate what you need, or wondered how to build a family that is rooted in more than appearances, this conversation is for you. FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 32: A RELATIONSHIP VS. A TRANSACTION In this episode, Blaque sits down with Luxolo Kentane to talk about his new book "There Must Be More" and the realities of marriage, fatherhood, and learning what it really means to love the people you’ve committed your life to. They get real about the hunger for more, the pressure to provide, the ways men can turn love into performance, and the difficulty of receiving love without feeling like you have to earn it. They unpack the expectations we place on ourselves and our partners, and how easily love can become transactional when we start keeping score. They also explore ambition, success, desire, and the question of what happens when the life you’re building still doesn’t feel like enough. From marriage and family to purpose and personal fulfilment, the conversation challenges the idea that more will always make us happier and asks what we’re really chasing when we keep wanting more. And perhaps the biggest question: What happens when the things we expect to fulfil us were never designed to? If you’ve ever struggled to feel satisfied with what you have, found yourself measuring love by what you receive, or wondered why achieving more doesn’t always make you feel like you’ve arrived, then this conversation is for you. FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #HusbandPodcast #ChristianMarriage #MarriageMatters #HealthyMarriage #MarriageConversations #CommunicationInMarriage #ConflictResolution #UnderstandingYourSpouse #HusbandsWhoLead #HealthyMasculinity #EmotionalIntelligence #MarriageHealing #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageWisdom #LoveAndRespect #StrongerTogether #MarriageGrowth #BlackLove #KingdomMarriage #FailingForward #KnowBetterDoBetter #MarriageCommunication #RelationshipsThatLast #BetterTogether