Tether Together

The second half of our conversation unpacking an analogy we created back in 2013 as we began the journey of helping people understand the importance, and the impact of planning for postpartum.  Don't forget to subscribe, rate and leave a review if you love this podcast! 

Part 1 of 2 as we explore one of our signature phrases "Birth is to the Wedding, as Postpartum is to the Marriage"  In this episode of Tether Together, Erica and Laura detangle the first part of this analogy - and somehow continue to center postpartum in our birth-iest episode yet! Links to things we mention in this episode: Mentorship with Birdsong - apply now! Esther Perel Our postpartum planning class "What's Next" The Support Network for Indigenous Women and Women of Colour* Moms Against Racism* The Nesting Doula Collective* MBRACE Report on Maternal Mortality in the UK *Organizations in Canada speaking directly to perinatal inequities and racism

We are back! In our first episode back since Fall 2019, Erica and Laura talk about “what’s changed” since Season One. Don’t forget to participate in this years 3rd annual Nourished Postpartum Challenge on instagram November 9-15th, tag @birdsongbrooklyn in your shares, invite your friends and colleagues and don’t forget to follow and use the hashtags #showupforpostpartum #nourishedpostpartumchallenge This is our one major social media event of the year and this year we are going ALL OUT!  Make sure you’re signed up for the emails to get the most support during the week! Self-location inspiration from Erynne Gilpin of Nesting Doula Collective For more information about us and our work you can visit www.birdsongbrooklyn.com This podcast is produced by Salvatore Interlandi

This week we are talking Trust Building! Before we get stuck in, we have a big announcement for you! Diving back into the conversation: we often call ourselves Professional Trust Builders. This is Doula/Human Ethics 101 and, we believe, the primary antidote to 'Sister'wound. In doula-world sometimes there is a very short turn around time between meeting a client and being privy to the most intimate moments of their life. In life, like in doula work, every moment is an opportunity to build trust. But what does trust look like? Feel like? What do we owe each other in healthy relationship? In addition to discussing these vast questions we delve into the rupture > repair cycle within attachment parenting AND attachment friendships. Erica permissions Laura to put her main wound on blast (fun!) including why she cried in a magical book store. We reference Brené Brown's 'Anatomy of Trust' which you can find here and we talk trust building in learning spaces for the highest growth for all. If you enjoy this episode please share widely and tag us on your socials! Leaving a review is so helpful for our continued growth, visibility and expansion. Thank you for taking the time to review!  This episode of Tether Together was produced by Salvatore Interlandi Want to make sure you receive the SEEN Early Bird Discount Code that we mentioned? Sign up for our email love notes at http://www.birdsongbrooklyn.com/heyfriend Find us on Instagram @birdsongbrooklyn On Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/birdsongbrooklyn.com

Have you ever felt on the outs? Like someone built a table purposefully for you NOT to sit at? Have you ever felt psychically attacked? Emotionally bullied? Ever screenshot private texts and shared them without permission... or had that done to you? This episode we are exploring something we call "Sisterwound", the psychological, emotional and social wounding that occurs, almost pathologically, EVERYDAY - particularly in cis female spaces. It is important to acknowledge that sisterwound is a result of the gender binary and is the internalized expression of the larger white supremacist patriarchal system. To that end, we take some time to do some education on the difference between anatomical sex and gender identity and underscore why the binary is harming and so easily produces something like Sisterwound.  Hierarchy and cultures of silence are the gasoline on this fire - where any hierarchical system exists, where people are not encouraged and supported to be direct with their needs and feelings, sisterwound will be present - with needs and feelings being weaponized for gain up that hierarchical structure.  This episode discusses where feminism missed the mark and how white cis- hetero passing women are the main perpetrators AND beneficiaries of this malignant force within social spheres, work spaces, spiritual circles and even activist groups. As two cis het white women we know it cause we ARE it -  trying to figure out how to decondition/reprogram/heal/do better than inherited reactive patterning.  We don't claim to have it right. This is our raw, honest 2019 rendering of a tough conversation that doesn't stop at the end of this episode. This is a through line in our work and friendship and our commitment to working outside of this conditioning (or at least TRYING TO! This stuff goes DEEP!) is how we are able to keep our relationship clear. This episode might make your gut churn and throat get hot. That's the edge, the fear, the place we need to be in to grow beyond harming patterning - thanks for being brave. Feel free to reach to us with your feelings and memories brought up by this convo. We are co creating a new paradigm together and we need each other as we wade through the inherited muck of normalized wounding. Next episode will be on trust building... some expansion after the contraction. This episode of Tether Together was produced by Salvatore Interlandi  Want to know what we are up to? Get love notes from us? http://www.birdsongbrooklyn.com/heyfriend Find us on Instagram @birdsongbrooklyn On Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/birdsongbrooklyn.com

Today we are discussing mental health through the lens of joy finding and receiving. Laura tells the story of finding out she is pregnant with twins and why and how Available Joy became so vital and Erica reflects on the Grandmother medicine of 'simple joy's'. We explore the pressure in parenting to "enjoy every moment" and what it means to be realistic while also staying open to what is magic and juicy in life in real time. Of course there is some doula nerd-ery about Oxytocin thrown in for good measure and we close with why the basic tenants of comedy will help you in your life, your parenting and your ability to create space for and access Available Joy.  You know, casual 80 minute chats. #availablejoy Want to know what we are up to? Get love notes from us? http://www.birdsongbrooklyn.com/heyfriend Find us on Instagram @birdsongbrooklyn On Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/birdsongbrooklyn.com This episode of Tether Together was produced by Samara Ferguson 

Show UP for Postpartum! Last week we talked about WHY we need to #showupforpostpartum. This week we are breaking down HOW. Hiring a Postpartum Doula can actually revolutionize how your family and friends show up for you! Not only are we teaching families about how create rings of support, we are equipping those rings with a solid roadmap of how to doula you. Now everyone is your Doula! We've got your DO-sies and your DON'T-sies for showing up in postpartum spaces because we know you want to be the dream guest! We are looking at YOU Great Aunt Susan! Our dream for this episode is that it is shared far and wide by pregnant and postpartum people, to their family and friends near and far and by doula's to their communities and in their client resource docs, inspiring people to activate support and receive care from their community. If you want further nourishment, support and inspo, hop over to our email love notes and make sure you're signed up so we can doula your inbox. Also, over on Instagram the hashtags #nourishedpostpartumchallenge and #showupforpostpartum are a beautiful example of what happens when community comes together to support this vital and potent time period. Check it out! Happy meal preppin'! #nourishedpostpartum #bossydoula #doularesourcedoc This episode of Tether Together was produced by Samara Ferguson

Welcome friends, to our second episode: all things Nourished Postpartum. What do you think of when you hear the word “Postpartum”? Please join us as we explore what it means to plan for and receive care from people in your community. If you've had your babes already, or don't plan on having children you will learn to apply these concepts in other milestone moments #gositzyourself The question we are asking and (trying!) answering this episode: how can we shift perspectives when it comes to the postpartum period in ways that will yield better outcomes? We share cross cultural practices of care, what postpartum planning can look like and even some recipes that can be enjoyed long after you stop putting cold packs on your healing parts. #postpartumdonuts Help us take 'Postpartum' from the cultural junk drawer to center stage with joy, reverence and honouring. And don't forget #thatsitzisntgoingtositzitself Books: The First Forty Days A Taste of Our Own Medicine Full Moon Feast Meal Train Websites: Mealtrain.com Takethemameal.com To mobilize change we are rallying to discuss, with nuance, many of the layers that make the postpartum transition feel challenging: enter the 2nd Annual Nourished Postpartum Challenge! Join in, follow the hashtags #nourishedpostpartumchallenge and #showupforpostpartum and tag us in your posts! Want to know what we are up to? Get lovenotes from us? Visit http://www.birdsongbrooklyn.com/heyfriend Find us on Instagram @birdsongbrooklyn at http://www.instagram.com/birdsongbrooklyn And on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/birdsongbrooklyn This episode of Tether Together was produced by Samara Ferguson

Episode One Welcome to Tether Together with Erica Livingston and Laura Interlandi of Birdsong Brooklyn! We are excited to tell you that we have a podcast! This is Season One Episode One aka the “low key intro episode” Here we introduce ourselves, talk about how we came to be, how the podcast came to be and who we are. In a world of feeling like we’re too much, we touch on setting intentions to step into and create a container for the “too muchness” and celebrate it! #nevertoomuch We explore the concept of “Tether Together” and how it relates to our friendship and business. This is a community offering and the intention of the Podcast is to show up in joyful service, share our friendship and invite you into the juiciest parts of it.  Thanks for tuning in and please remember to subscribe and leave us a review - literally embodying the concept of ‘Tether Together’ with us! #friendshiptimetravelling Want to know what we are up to? Get lovenotes from us? Visit http://www.birdsongbrooklyn.com/heyfriend Find us on Instagram @birdsongbrooklyn at http://www.instagram.com/birdsongbrooklyn And on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/birdsongbrooklyn This episode of Tether Together was produced by Samara Ferguson