The T SPOT

What the f*ck does 'Sex Positivity' even mean?! For this special 2022 episode of THE T SPOT, the microphone is turned on ME by Psychosexual & Relationship psychotherapist, Silva Neves. Silva interviews me on my definition of my sexuality and my idea of sex-positivity - something I am passionately vocal about.  We discuss enjoying giving blowjobs, fuck buddies, monogamy, and my relationships with men who don't publicly identify as queer, bisexual, or gay. We also talk about my fascination with intimacy, trust, and the importance of consent - alongside censorship in social media. And, as usual, I talk about how much I love men.  Please note: This interview was recorded months ago before I got into a relationship and moved into my own apartment.  Silva is the author of 'Compulsive Sexual Behaviours. A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians'. Which is available from RouteLedge.com. You can find out more about Silva here: www.silvaneves.co.uk

Episode 4 is all about religion, sexuality, and queerness as I am joined by Reverend Jarel Robinson-Brown - my friend and openly queer priest in London. He is also the author of the incredibly written ‘Black, Gay, British, Christian, Queer’ which is available to purchase now. We discuss religion and queerness - and the complexities and confusion of their overlapping. The church has a long history persecuting the LGBTQ+ community - so how can one be both religious and queer? Is God love? Jarel was also the target of a right-wing social media pile-on during the COVID-19 which spilled into the mainstream media press. We discuss how he handled the intense pressure of this period. About Jarel: Jarel Robinson-Brown is a priest in the Church of England currently serving in the City of London. He is the Vice-Chair of the Christian LGBT Charity OneBodyOneFaith and the author of 'Black, Gay, British, Christian, Queer' published by SCM Press in July 2021. JarelRobinsonBrown.com

For episode 3 of The T SPOT, I am joined by my friend: sex educator and speaker, Char (@CharTheeGreat) at my flat to discuss giving oral sex to a penis with comfort, confidence — all ultimately leading to YOU (the giver) enjoying the experience. A blowjob doesn’t have to be a job. Enjoy it. This no holes-barred conversation with Char covers tricks, oral positioning, personal anecdotes… and more. Come and join us. Want to get involved? Don’t be shy. [email protected] Music: Girls of The Internet - ‘I Don’t Wanna Lose You’ Episode inspired by ‘Getting into Oral: For Beginners’ from TopherTaylor.co.uk

For episode 2, I’m joined in my flat by hugely successful, multi-award-winning gay porn star, John Thomas. John's name blew up in the adult industry after winning ‘Best Newcomer' at the European Gay Porn awards in 2019 - and he has since gone on to win 2 more awards (even during COVID-19). We talk about John’s journey with queerness, his relationship with sex, pleasure, and religion. John also discusses his HIV diagnosis 10-years-ago, his advocacy work, and what he has learned from it. What can you learn about orgasmic sex from an iconic POWER BOTTOM? What’s better: porn studio work or OnlyFans? Tune in to find out. Follow John on social media: @JohnThomasXXX on Twitter and @JohnEast87on Insta. Want to get involved? Don’t be shy. [email protected] Music: Girls of The Internet - ‘I Don’t Wanna Lose You’ www.tophertaylor.co.uk

Where have I been? Episode 1 of THE T SPOT begins with a catch-up, discussing my new life, relationship, home, and podcast. Then a very frank, fun, and extremely honest conversation with famous Fetish photographer and videographer, Matt Spike. Talking sex, fetish, leather, romance, being a young escort, and getting into sex as a queer boy from the outskirts of Essex.  Also ‘Ask Topher’ a frank and honest sex, relationships, and sexuality Q&A with me.  To see the full photoshoot with Matt Spike and me, head to tophertaylor.co.uk or alternatively, my Instagram @tophertaylor / Twitter @helloiamtopher  Want to get involved? Don’t be shy. [email protected]  Music: Girls of The Internet - ‘I Don’t Wanna Lose You’  MattSpike.com

Have you been naughty or nice this year? Both?! This is the XXXMAS GIFT GUIDE episode! Are you looking for the perfect sex toy to carry you through 2021? Your winter time pleasure product? Not sure where to start? Working with a budget? I speak to 6 incredible adult toy brands and their experts about their companies, product recommendations, and what makes them special. From £20 through to £404.99. Something for most pockets (and other body parts - wink wink). This episode features Tracey Cox of LoveHoney, Anthony of Mr Hankeys Toys, Dr Jill McDevitt of California Exotic Novelties, Adam & Monika of Godmiche Silicone, Brad Taylor of SHOTS Media, and Kerri Middleton of Bathmate - the worlds best-selling penis pump. Links to the products discussed (in order): Tracey Cox: 1. Clitoral Vibrator: https://bit.ly/2VyeGtB at £49.99 2. Bullet Vibrator: https://bit.ly/3qBiusi at £44.99 3. Wand Vibrator: https://bit.ly/3mGAqPH at £69.99 4. G-Spot Vibrator: https://bit.ly/2JHM8ej at £59.99 5. Pegging Kit: https://bit.ly/36ACUJY at £44.99 6. Bondage & Toys Kit: https://bit.ly/2L1T0Ut at £39.99 Tracey Cox’s book ‘Great sex starts at 50’ is available from all booksellers now. Hankeys Toys: 1. XS Range: https://bit.ly/3okzoct (prices vary on size and texture/firmness) 2. Clyde https://bit.ly/3g8Biu2 (prices vary on size and texture/firmness) 3. Seahorse: https://bit.ly/3lBw7Un (prices vary on size and texture/firmness) Full range and custom options from MrHankeysToys.com California Exotic Novelties 1. My Pod: https://bit.ly/3qtEeWG at $124.99 2. Shameless: https://bit.ly/36Fg0Bf from $239.99 - $249.99 3. Jack Rabbit Heated: https://bit.ly/3lDitjU at $134.99 Find out more about Dr Jill McDevitt here: https://www.thesexologist.org/ Godemiche 1. Off-Beat: https://bit.ly/3mRyhkx from £20 2. Ambit: https://bit.ly/2VC1p37 from £28.99 3. Ball Gags: https://bit.ly/2Vz9l57 from £24.99 Find out more about Godemiche here: www.g-silicone.com Shots Media 1. The Twitch - https://www.saintsandsinners.com/product/twitch-hands-free-suction-vibrating-clitoral-stimulator/ - £59.99 2. OUCH Vibrating Silicone Strap-On: https://www.saintsandsinners.com/product/ouch-adjustable-vibrating-double-silicone-strap-on/ - £46.99 3. SONO Rattle Plug: https://www.saintsandsinners.com/product/sono-no-67-self-penetrating-butt-plug-black/ - £19.99 Find out more about SHOTS here: www.shotsmedia.nl Bathmate 1. ULTRAMALE Kit for Penis Owners: https://bit.ly/37ySNzJ from £409.99 2. THE TRIM Manscaping Kit: https://bit.ly/2JOCeHG at £29.99 Find out more at www.BathmateDirect.com

This months episode is about gay porn, featuring an interview with iconic gay porn star DOLF DIETRICH. Known as ‘The Daddy you always wanted’ of porn, Dolf’s 6ft-6 frame made him an instant sex symbol and one of the most recognisable faces (amongst other body parts) in porn. We discuss sex work, his own sex education growing up, getting into sex with a large penis, his HIV advocacy, anal surgery, having sex on stage, having a pretty butthole, and much more. Get ready to fall in love with Dolf. Dolf’s sex toy recommendation is the TitanMen Master Tool made by Doc Johnson. The skin-treatment Dolf was recommended by Michael Lucas is Tend Skin Solution by Tend Skin. The lube Dolf recommends is J-LUBE.  Get 15% OFF sex toys by using discount code ‘TOPHER’ at Clonezone: https://bit.ly/32ZWQlK  Get involved: [email protected] This episode is supported by my friends at Mr-S-Leather.com.

Want to experience anal sex? Don’t know where to begin? Had a bad experience in the past? Episode 6 is all about developing confidence with anal penetration. This episode has a focus on beginners, alongside those who’ve had bad experiences. The ‘Getting Into Anal Play’ episode is my take (as a sex educator) on how to prepare for anal, tricks on how to enjoy it, helpful sex positions, addressing discomfort, recognising whats painful, and what to look out for after sex. This is a detailed and intimate guide developed by myself from my personal experience - and benefit from the experience of a sexpert. Based on my Beginners Guide to Anal Sex which can be found at TopherTaylor.co.uk Got a question or want a product recommendation? Email: [email protected] 15% OFF Sex Toys using discount code ‘TOPHER’: http://bit.ly/32ZWQlK

#SexWithTopher Episode 5 begins with an explanation of what I am doing as a white person, to support the BLACK LIVES MATTER movement in response to systematic racism and police brutality — alongside its relevance in the context of LGBT+ Pride Month (June).  My fabulous guest this episode is an iconic Ru Paul's Drag Race UK queen, Divina De Campo. Divina and I discuss Section 28, Sex (of course), Ru Paul’s Drag Race, Gender Identity, Sexual Fluidity, and meeting met her nightclub-owner-husband, and how she got into DRAG. Also, broken sex toys. Also, 'Ask Topher' is back, where I answer your questions, curiosities, and dilemmas surrounding SEX. Question? [email protected] Please donate to: www.PayPal.me/AvaVidal // www.stephenlawrence.org.uk/support-us/donate // www.gofundme.com/f/ukblm-fund // www.gofundme.com/f/black-protest-legal-support-uk //www.4frontproject.org Check out Divina on Twitter & Instagram @DivinaDeCampo. Divina’s new single ‘Gratify’ is released on 26th June but available for pre-order now.

#SexWithTopher Episode 4 begins with discussing my Channel 4 mini-documentary about cyber sex during quarantine which hit over 2 MILLION VIEWS in just a few days. And the homophobic public backlash. My guest this episode is the iconic Mistress Evilyne, a famous Dominatrix who has made newspaper in the past - and known for her extreme services. Alongside the better known Fem Dom services, Evilyne offers SCAT DOMINATION which is... yes - poo. I was curious to discuss this taboo topic as well as learn more about her and how she got into this fascinating and mysterious line of work. Check out Mistress Evilyne on Twitter @MsEvilyne or visit Mistress-Evilyne.com. Find me using @TopherTaylor on IG, @HelloIAmTopher on Twitter or email [email protected]