How To Ask For What You Want

In this episode of Sex With Emily, my friend and somatic sexologist Dolly Josette, The Pleasure Muse, returns to help us reconnect with our bodies and unlock deeper pleasure. She shares how to pleasure yourself and communicate those desires to your partner. You’ll walk away knowing how to heal trauma in your genitals, access the prostate for an epic orgasm (for all bodies!), and deepen intimacy with yourself and your partner to enhance your life. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why embodiment is the key to unlocking deeper pleasure and connection. Why releasing stored trauma (yes, even in your genitals!) can transform your sex life and help you feel more during intimacy. How to access the prostate for mind-blowing orgasms and greater sexual fulfillment. Show Notes: More Dolly Josette: Pleasure Muse | Instagram | Nashville Relationship Reboot Retreat Try the Enigma Double Sonic Today! Visit lelo.com and use code “EMILY20” at checkout for an additional 20% OFF any existing sales. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Social media is becoming the “third'' partner in so many of our relationships, but it’s not the threesome most of us are craving. Sure, it’s a great way to connect, but it can take a major toll on our sex lives. Today’s episode gets into the good, bad, and questionable impacts of social media. I answer your top questions like, what does it mean if my partner follows a bunch of Instagram models? If my partner is paying for Only Fans, does it count as cheating? And is it okay to check my partner's phone? (We surveyed our listeners and you might be surprised how many of you have snooped.) Also, how does all the endless scrolling affect your confidence? I offer advice on how to manage the relationship with your phone, so you can stop the “compare and despair” mindset and build stronger relationships with yourself and others. In this episode, you’ll learn: How Social Media Becomes a “Third Wheel” in Relationships The Sneaky Ways Social Media Can Undermine Your Confidence Micro-Cheating, Doomscrolling, and the Need for Digital Detox Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Ready to grow your business? Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

You may think of her as divorce attorney to the stars, and Laura Wasser is certainly that. But Laura is also a sharp thinker on marriage and communication, and is here to tell us what every couple needs to know before saying "I do." She says that couples who have the prenup conversation are actually more likely to stay together than those who don't, and that money is an even bigger conversational taboo than sex. She also tells us what it's like repping actor clients vs. musician clients, why we're seeing a celebrity-led trend of "gentle separations," and how social media has changed the game for divorce cases. Plus, I take your divorce questions! When is it time to say "I don't," and get the hell out? Or how about if you're single, and have a tendency to hook up with older, separated men -- are they just your type? Or...are there some deeper conversations you need to be having, with them, and with yourself? Let's talk dating as a divorcee: when is it OK to tell the kids you've met someone new? And finally, after being married for so long, how do you tell the difference between love and lust, when you're back on the scene? All this and more, on today's divorce show. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why open conversations about finances are just as crucial as discussing intimacy in relationships The power of the “prenup conversation” for a stronger relationship Why understanding each other’s relationship expectations can prevent major conflicts down the line Show Notes: More Laura Wasser: Instagram | Office Divorce.com: Instagram | Website | Facebook | Twitter (X) | Youtube | Tiktok Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more on todays episode.  In this episode, you’ll learn: How to get out of your own head and finally let go for a better orgasm Why pleasure is a right, not a reward Practical tips for tackling delayed orgasms and performance pressure Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

How do you know if you’re bisexual? Author Jen Winston helps me answer just that. In her book Greedy: Notes From A Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, Jen reveals how she came to terms with her bisexuality, in a world that loves to slap stereotypes on it: greedy, slutty, and constantly confused. Whether you’re a vulva owner in a heterosexual partnership who wants to explore same sex fantasies, or a penis owner who has recently come out as gay but still has thoughts about the opposite sex, Jen helps us all understand why sexuality is about so much more than who you’re sleeping with. Because after all, your sexuality is less about the destination and more about the journey to get there.  In this episode, you’ll learn: Labels like bi or pan are for you to explore your identity, not to please others Communication is everything. Talk openly with your partner about desires and fantasies to strengthen intimacy Bisexuality isn’t one-size-fits-all: It’s a personal journey, and questioning your sexuality is part of it Show Notes: Try the LELO ENIGMA Wave Today! (Use code "EMILY20" at checkout for an additional 20% OFF any existing sales.) More Jen Winston: Instagram | Twitter (X)  | Greedy: Notes From A Bisexual Who Wants Too Much Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?” Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy. In this episode, you’ll learn: Tips on how to align your dates with your unique arousal style, whether it’s through touch, adventure, or conversation, to keep things fresh and fun Fun, creative date ideas—like role-playing as sexy strangers or planning a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market—that spark connection and curiosity How to break free from routine and create exciting, playful dates that build sexual tension and enhance intimacy Show Notes: Try VIIA Hemp! https://bit.ly/viiaemily and use code "EMILY"! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties!  If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why your 50s are a time for empowerment, confidence, and embracing your desires. Tips for navigating bodily changes and maintaining intimacy in midlife. Understanding the impact of menopause on your body and libido, and how to adapt for a fulfilling sex life.​ Show Notes: More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | X | Website | Book Enter the Solaray giveaway now! Entries end on 10/21 at 11:59 PM PT and the winner will be chosen on 10/22. Follow @solarayvitamins and @sexwithemily on instagram Like our giveaway post on our Instagram Tag your friends in the comments – each tag gets you an entry, so go ahead and tag all your people! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Housewife turned billion-dollar co-founder Lisa Bilyeu is the picture of confidence: she’s got a thriving business, a partner she adores, and basically, is a literal boss. But she also overcame illness, insecurity, and massive relationship challenges to get where she is today. In her book Radical Confidence, Lisa shares the lessons that changed her life, and helped her become the hero of her own story. On today’s show, I ask her about keeping the sexual spark alive in a long term relationship, the “purgatory of the mundane,” and how to have a growth mindset with your partner. In this episode, you’ll learn: Radical confidence is built by taking action, even when you’re scared. How to escape the “purgatory of the mundane” by making small changes and stop waiting for the perfect moment. All about validating yourself—don’t rely on others for approval, celebrate your own wins. Show Notes: WIN FREE VIBRATORS! Bellesa and I are giving away *free toys* to everyone – sign up here: bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast More Lisa Bilyeu: Instagram | Youtube | Twitter | Book: Radical Confidence | Impact Theory Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try the LELO SORAYA WAVE today! (Use code "EMILY10" for an additional 10% OFF at checkout, exclusions may apply) Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

When it comes to your most pressing sex issues, have you ever wondered: “ugh, is it just me?” I promise: it’s not just you! To prove it, I’m tackling your top sex questions in this episode. From raising your libido to acing your oral, we cover a lot of ground in this one.  How do you talk to your partner about sex? I teach you how to broach this conversation with compassion, and how to normalize sex talks in general. How about amping up your sex drive? There are hacks for that! Maybe you want to last longer in bed, get better at oral, or spice up your sex life. There’s a whole world of solutions for those, and I walk you through them. Whether it’s toys, technique, or just a good talk, this episode is all about finding answers, so you can have the pleasure you deserve. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to talk to your partner about sex or trying something new How to get better at oral How to spice up your sex life How to increase your sex drive How to last longer during sex Show Notes: WIN FREE VIBRATORS! Bellesa and I are giving away *free toys* to everyone – sign up here: bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try VIIA Hemp! https://bit.ly/viiaemily and use code EMILY! Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE  Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered. Dr. Evan gives tips on how to relax, toys that can help, and which lubes are best for every act imaginable. We also break down lube shooters, how to minimize the risk of exposing yourself to STIs and what to consider whether you’re a top or a bottom. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why communication and preparation are key to a positive anal experience with your partner. Expert tips on easing into anal play without discomfort or pain. Safe and effective cleaning practices to maintain a healthy and pleasurable anal routine. Show Notes: WIN FREE VIBRATORS! Bellesa and I are giving away *free toys* to everyone - sign up here: bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast More More Dr. Evan Goldstein: Instagram  | Website | Bespoke Surgical | Future Method  Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. This episode is brought to you by: Just Thrive (Visit justthrivehealth.com and use code “SEXWITHEMILY” at checkout for 20% off your order) Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com