Said Your Nan

In this episode of Said Your Nan, we step into one of the most talked-about — and controversial — spaces influencing men today: the manosphere.Sparked by the Into the Manosphere documentary, we explore what’s really going on beneath the surface.Because this isn’t just about social media…It’s about identity.It’s about loneliness.It’s about what happens when men go looking for answers — and where they end up finding them.We break down: • What the manosphere actually is (without the buzzwords) • Why so many men — especially younger men — are being drawn into it • The positives: discipline, structure, purpose • The darker side: anger, division, and unrealistic expectations • Why older men are less talked about… but still part of the storyWe also get into the bigger question:Are these spaces helping men grow… or pulling them further away from what they actually need?As always, it’s honest, it’s raw, and there’s a bit of humour along the way — because sometimes that’s the only way to talk about the hard stuff.Key Takeaways • The manosphere isn’t the root problem — it’s a symptom • Many men aren’t looking for dominance… they’re looking for direction • Younger men may be shaped by these spaces, but older men can be caught by them during vulnerable moments • If positive spaces for men don’t exist or aren’t visible… others will fill the gapStandout Line“Maybe the question isn’t why men are going into the manosphere…maybe it’s why they feel like they have nowhere else to go.”Stats We Discuss • Suicide remains the leading cause of death for men under 50 in the UK • 1 in 5 men report feeling lonely regularly • Younger men are significantly more likely to engage with online identity-based communities • Older men are less visible in the data — but often engage during key life challenges (divorce, isolation, loss of identity)Topics Covered • Masculinity in 2026 • Online influence & algorithms • Loneliness and male identity • Generational differences in men • The role of society vs personal responsibilityGet Involved • 🎧 Follow & listen on Spotify • 📱 Follow On the MENd • 💬 Join the conversation on LinkedIn & Instagram • 📧 Email: [email protected]

This week on Said Your Nan, James, Stuart and Steve take on an important and often misunderstood topic — Neurodiversity Celebration Week (16–22 March).What does it really mean to be neurodivergent?From ADHD and autism to dyslexia and Tourette’s, the lads explore how different brains experience the world — and why society hasn’t always been built to support them.They dive into the stats, the stigma, and the lived reality behind the labels. From school experiences and workplace challenges to family dynamics and late diagnoses, this episode is all about understanding, empathy, and breaking down misconceptions.Because maybe the issue isn’t people being “different”…maybe it’s the world expecting everyone to be the same.🔍 What We Cover • What neurodiversity actually means (without the jargon) • The truth about Tourette’s (and why most people get it wrong) • How many people are actually neurodivergent • School experiences: “naughty” vs misunderstood • Neurodiversity in the workplace — challenge or superpower? • The link between ADHD, autism, OCD and family traits • Why so many adults are only discovering this later in life📊 Key Stats From The Episode • Around 1 in 7 people in the UK are neurodivergent • Tourette’s affects roughly 300,000 people in the UK • Only 10–30% of people with Tourette’s experience swearing (coprolalia) • ADHD is 70–80% hereditary • Only ~29% of autistic adults are in employment in the UK💬 Join the ConversationHave you or someone close to you experienced neurodiversity?We’d love to hear your stories, questions, or topics you want us to cover next:📧 [email protected]🎧 Listen & Follow Said Your NanStay connected and never miss an episode: • 🎙️ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/saidyournan • 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saidyournan • 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/on-the-mend • 🌐 Website: https://www.onthemend.org.uk

In this episode of Said Your Nan, James, Stu and Steve speak with Richard, a volunteer with the Samaritans, the UK charity providing 24/7 emotional support for people struggling with their mental health, feeling overwhelmed, or experiencing suicidal thoughts.Many people know the name Samaritans, but few know what actually happens when someone makes that call.Richard shares his experience of being on the other end of the phone — supporting people through loneliness, crisis, and difficult moments in life. We explore why listening without judgement can be life-changing, why so many people struggle to ask for help, and what it really means to support someone experiencing emotional distress.This conversation also touches on men’s mental health, the stigma around vulnerability, and why talking openly about how we feel is still one of the hardest — and most important — things we can do.If you’ve ever wondered whether reaching out for help is the right thing to do, this episode is a powerful reminder that you don’t have to go through tough moments alone.⚠ Content NoteThis episode discusses mental health and suicide. If this topic feels difficult for you right now, please listen with care.Support & ResourcesIf you or someone you know needs support, help is available.Samaritans (UK & Ireland)📞 Call: 116 123 (Free, 24 hours a day)🌐 https://www.samaritans.org📧 Email: [email protected] don’t need to be in crisis to reach out — Samaritans are there to listen.Guest MentionRichard also hosts the podcast:🎧 The Constant ReaderA podcast exploring books, ideas, and the stories of Stephen King Said Your Nan🎙 Hosted by James, Stu & SteveHonest conversations about life, mental health, masculinity, and the experiences that shape us.If you enjoyed the episode, please follow the podcast, leave a review and share it — it helps more people discover these conversations.If you’d like to support Said Your Nan and the On the MENd charity, you can buy us a coffee here:☕ https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournanEvery bit of support helps us keep these conversations going.Get Involved📧 Email: [email protected]🐦 Twitter/X: @saidyournan📸 Instagram: @saidyournan💼 LinkedIn: On The Mend#MentalHealth#MensMentalHealth#SuicidePrevention#Samaritans#MentalHealthPodcast

On this episode, James, Stuart and Steve open the inbox again for Part 2 of our Listener Letters.Some messages are honest.Some are uncomfortable.Some will make you laugh.Some might sit with you long after the episode ends.But every single one matters.We genuinely appreciate everyone who listens, shares the podcast, and takes the time to write in. Season 4 has already brought some powerful conversations — and your voices are shaping where we go next.If you’ve ever thought, “I wish someone would talk about this…” — drop us a message. The best conversations often start with one brave email.⸻If anything in today’s episode resonates with you…Please remember, you don’t have to handle it alone.Samaritans🌐 https://www.samaritans.org📞 116 123 (Free, 24 hours a day)Mind🌐 https://www.mind.org.uk📞 0300 123 3393Reaching out isn’t weakness. It’s awareness.⸻Support Said Your Nan & On the MENdIf you’d like to support the podcast and the On the MENd charity, you can buy us a coffee here:☕ https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournanEvery contribution helps us continue creating open, honest conversations around mental health.⸻Get Involved📧 [email protected]🐦 @saidyournan📸 @saidyournan💼 LinkedIn: On The Mend⸻Thanks for being part of the community.

On today’s episode of Said Your Nan, we return to the subject of domestic violence, continuing a conversation we know can be incredibly difficult, confronting, and emotional.This episode is different.Following on from our previous discussion, Stuart bravely shares his own personal experiences of domestic abuse. It’s an honest, raw, and deeply human conversation about what abuse can look like, how it feels when you’re inside it, and how hard it can be to recognise when something isn’t right, especially when you’re trying to survive day-to-day.We talk about: • The reality of domestic abuse beyond physical violence • Shame, silence, and why so many people don’t speak up • The impact abuse has on mental health, confidence, and identity • Why abuse can happen to anyone • The importance of being believed, supported, and listened to⚠️ Content Warning:This episode contains discussion of domestic violence and abuse. We completely understand if this is one you choose to skip. Please take care of yourself and listen at your own pace.⸻Support & ResourcesIf you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, help is available. The following organisations offer confidential, non-judgemental support:The ManKind Initiative🌐 https://mankind.org.uk📞 01823 334244The principal UK charity supporting male victims of domestic abuse. They work in close partnership with other organisations to ensure victims receive the help they need.Respect – Men’s Advice Line🌐 https://mensadviceline.org.ukSupport for men experiencing domestic abuse. Speak to trained advisors via phone, email, or webchat — no pressure, no judgement, just help.National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV)🌐 https://www.ncdv.org.ukProviding free, fast, and effective support to survivors of domestic abuse, including help with injunctions and legal protection. Their services are available to everyone, regardless of background or circumstance.⸻Thank YouThank you for listening, and for trusting us with conversations that aren’t always easy — but matter deeply.If you’d like to support Said Your Nan and the On the MENd charity, you can buy us a coffee here:☕ https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournanIf you’d like to get involved or reach out: • 📧 Email: [email protected] • 🐦 Twitter: @saidyournan • 📸 Instagram: @saidyournan • 💼 LinkedIn: On The MendYou’re not weak for struggling.You’re not alone for staying quiet.And it’s never too late to ask for help.

In this episode of Said Your Nan, Steve opens up and shares a deeply personal journey. From childhood through to adulthood, he reflects on relationships, identity, and life as it unfolds. It’s funny, harrowing, joyful, and heartbreaking.. sometimes all at once.If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournanIf you would like to get involved, please contact us:Email: [email protected]: @saidyournanInstagram: @saidyournanLinkedIn: On The Mend

This week on Said Your Nan, James, Stuart and Steve dig into one of the most talked about health trends right now: fasting.From insulin and visceral fat to calorie timing and so-called “simple fixes”, we explore what the evidence actually says and where nuance often gets lost. James brings the science (and some personal honesty), Stuart grounds it in real UK life, and Steve cuts through the noise with humour and cultural truth.Most importantly, we look at fasting through a mental health lens, particularly men’s mental health — asking when discipline becomes pressure, when control replaces care, and why health advice doesn’t land in a vacuum.This episode isn’t about telling you what to eat or when to eat.It’s about slowing the conversation down.Not medical advice. Just an honest conversation.If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournanIf you would like to get involved, please contact us:Email: [email protected]: @saidyournanInstagram: @saidyournanLinkedIn: On The Mend

Christmas Special: AI Takes the Reins This Christmas, James, Steve and Stu did something very silly… they handed the keys to AI.For this festive special, the lads stepped aside and let artificial intelligence choose the topic and learn their voices. What followed can only be described as weird, quirky, hilarious, and at times, downright unsettling.Is it still the boys if the words aren’t theirs?Should we be laughing… or preparing for the robot uprising?And did we just give Skynet its first podcast credit?Expect festive chaos, uncanny impressions, unexpected moments, and a glimpse into a future none of us asked for…. but we definitely recorded.If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournanIf you would like to get involved, please contact us:Email: [email protected]: @saidyournanInstagram: @saidyournanLinkedIn: On The Mend

In this episode of Said Your Nan, Stu, Steve, and James take on one of their biggest and most sensitive topics yet: religion.The lads explore how religion can impact mental health, for better and for worse. From the sense of community, purpose, and comfort faith can bring, to the guilt, fear, pressure, and trauma it can sometimes create, this is an open and honest conversation that doesn’t shy away from difficult realities.As always, the discussion is candid, occasionally uncomfortable, and rooted in personal experience. The aim isn’t to preach or offend, but to talk honestly about how belief systems have affected people differently and why those conversations matter when it comes to mental wellbeing.Trigger Warning!!This episode contains discussion of religion, faith, mental health, guilt, shame, and personal experiences that some listeners may find distressing. Listener discretion is advised.Important NoteThe views shared in this episode are strictly personal opinions based on the hosts’ own experiences. They are not intended to represent universal truths, professional advice, or an attack on any belief system or individual.If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournanIf you would like to get involved, please contact us:Email: [email protected]: @saidyournanInstagram: @saidyournanLinkedIn: On The Mend

In this episode of Said Your Nan, James, Stuart and Steve dive head-first (and slightly under-qualified) into the world of Imposter Syndrome. That annoying voice in your head that insists you’re one mistake away from being “found out.”With the usual blend of banter, honesty, and questionable wisdom, the lads explore why so many men feel like frauds in their own lives, even when they’re smashing it. James brings the facts: from the 70% of people who experience imposter syndrome to how it shows up across ages, while Stuart and Steve share stories, laughs, and wildly relatable moments of self-doubt.They break down the symptoms, the role masculinity plays, and why mid-career blokes often feel it the hardest. And of course, they offer practical ways to challenge those thoughts. From talking openly to taking the piss out of your own inner critic.It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s a reminder that nearly everyone is winging it…especially your nan.