Over-seriousness Kills Self Differentiation

Discover how narcissistic parents' behaviors lead to deep and lasting loneliness in you. This video breaks down key traits and their impact. 👇🏼Join 'The Scapegoat Recovery Workshop' on December 2nd👇🏼https://join.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/scapegoat-recovery-workshop/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=scapegoat+workshop&utm_content=a62 Other ways I can help you👇🏼 🔥Access my FREE Training - "Build The Differentiated-Self You Were Never Allowed To Have!" https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=a62 🔥🔥🔥 Join the 'Self-Differentiation Recovery' Program: Get your family of origin of you and stand strong as your differentiated SELF in relationships and life. https://program.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/welcome/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=YNRTS&utm_content=a62 🔥🔥🔥 Coaching packages & solutions: https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/book-online?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=coaching&utm_content=a62 🌐 More free recourses on my website: www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com ➡️ Recommended Playlists: Outgrowing dysfunctional family Patterns- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W2Eu-hOf7YkDY7xD-zVq-BR Break Free From Narcissistic Parents & Families- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W172vXggx0taH1_eHfNDq2a Adult Children of Alcoholics: Heal & Change The Pattern - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W2hxQ_UzQsKEm2d39X8B2hH ➡️ You can find me also on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrytwise/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jerrytwise Twitter: https://twitter.com/Jerrytwise Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82?si=4a5987b4b8064a39 For over 45 Years, Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has helped 1000s of People in the Same Situation as You… As a family system and self-differentiation coach, he uses his knowledge to help clients permanently get unstuck from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships and build a true sense of self. DISCLAIMER: This video is not intended to substitute for professional counseling help. Be sure to consult a professional in helping you with these integrate and utilize these concepts. 🔥Access my FREE Training - "Build The Differentiated-Self You Were Never Allowed To Have!" https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=a62 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support

Narcissistic parents often use tactics that lead to CPTSD, childhood trauma and can have long-lasting effects on you as an adult. This is how I can help you 👇🏼 🔥Access my FREE Training - "Build The REAL SELF You Were Never Allowed To Have!" https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=a59 🔥🔥🔥 Join 'Your New Road To SELF': Break free from toxic family patterns, heal your relationships, and discover your true self! https://program.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/welcome/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=YNRTS&utm_content=a59 🔥🔥🔥 Coaching packages & solutions: https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/book-online?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=coaching&utm_content=a59 🌐 More free recourses on my website: www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com ➡️ Recommended Playlists: Outgrowing dysfunctional family Patterns- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W2Eu-hOf7YkDY7xD-zVq-BR Break Free From Narcissistic Parents & Families- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W172vXggx0taH1_eHfNDq2a Adult Children of Alcoholics: Heal & Change The Pattern - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W2hxQ_UzQsKEm2d39X8B2hH ➡️ You can find me also on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrytwise/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jerrytwise Twitter: https://twitter.com/Jerrytwise Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82?si=4a5987b4b8064a39 For over 45 Years, Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has helped 1000s of People in the Same Situation as You… As a family system and self-differentiation coach, he uses his knowledge to help clients permanently get unstuck from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships and build a true sense of self. DISCLAIMER: This video is not intended to substitute for professional counseling help. Be sure to consult a professional in helping you with these integrate and utilize these concepts. 🔥Access my FREE Training - "Build The REAL SELF You Were Never Allowed To Have!" https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=a59 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support

Are you having trouble getting the narcissist out of you?   Jerry Wise is a life and relationship coach and been helping people for over 40 years using a family systems approach to recovery and healing.    In this video he shares 5 keys for helping you get the narcissist out of you.  He talks about using a paradoxical acceptance tool, unlocking the interlocking relationships in the past with the narcissist, stopping systems behaviors and resisting systems feelings, resisting and overcoming obsessive thinking, and turning your obsession to self love.  To work with Jerry Wise contact him at: www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264  [email protected]  Join Jerry's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZWHfOsTVegeEFEXV56llWA Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/ #invisible #feelinginvisible #narcissism #jerrywise #stages #stagesofresistance #resistance #courage #consistency #patience #self #boundaries #boundary #lovebombing #lovebomb #familylovebombing #family #excessive #emotional #dysfunctionalfamily #dysfunctional #boundaries #worry #disrespect #jerrywise #needyoursupport #god #ideal #compliments #stringsattached #deeds #emotions #familyselfvsrealself #anxiety #reactivity #selfabandonment #selfdenial #selfpowerlessness #selfborrowing #selfhelp #self #beliefs #feelings #actions #emotionalprocess #maturity #dysfunctional #dysfunctionalfamily #foo #family #parents #calm #calmness #selfcare #selfdifferentiation #jerrywise #narcissism #youtubevideo #yt #youtubeexplore #narcissist #narcissism #empathy #learning #learn #youtube #trending #trend #boundaries #acoa #acon #bowenfamilysystems #bowentherapy #trauma #narcissisticfamilies #wise #superpower #superpowers #relationship #relationships #views #familyoforigin #inside #abuse #abusiverelationships #abusiverelationship #familyissues #wise #wiser #narcissistic #narcisismo #narcisista #famous #blowthisup #youtuber #viral #viralvideo #convert #selfhelpvideos #selfhelp #innerchild #reparenting #selfdifferentiation #keys #jerrywise #podcast #spotifypodcasts --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy mature inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.     KEY POINT: "Resists the forces to fit in with the group ethos when it contradicts their values"  Number 6 of the 7 part series  Our aim is to resist group think, group feel, the family superself, the workplace superself, and following the herd.  Stating I-positions without reactivity, with calmness, and focusing on Self when dealing with others and the group ethos (values, morals, opinions).  Staying in contact means we do not retreat nor do we attack or become reactive in relationships in which we disagree with others.     Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up".  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and life and relationship coach.  He and his team work with individuals, couples, and families and businesses to become strong self-differentiating people and leaders.   To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 [email protected] Join Jerry's YouTube Channel,   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/   Also all of his videos are on Spotify and Anchor.fm for online and offline listening. You can take them with you in your car or at work.  "Not How but When" by Jerry Wise  https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?    Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.    KEY POINT: "Doesn't Expect to be Rescued by Others and Refrains from Taking Over for Others."  Number 5 of 7 part series  Jerry Wise Life and Relationship Coach explains what it means to be rescued by others and taking over for others.  Using Bowen Family Systems Theory he describes the sharing of Self with others.  Giving and taking of self is common in dysfunctional relationships.  He explains how we can identify and avoid this so we can be self-differentiated.       Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up".  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 [email protected]   Join Jerry's YouTube Channel,   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/   Also all of his videos are on Spotify and Anchor.fm for online and offline listening. You can take them with you in your car or at work.  "Not How but When" by Jerry Wise  https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.     KEY POINT: "Stays in Contact with Those Who are Upset"  Number 4 of the 7 Part Series  Staying in contact means we do not retreat nor do we attack or become reactive in relationships in which others are upset or are upset with us.     Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up".  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at  www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 [email protected] --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Improves themselves without blaming others". This is Number 3 in the Seven Part Series Focusing on ourselves and how we function in the troubled relationships.  Blaming keeps the focus on others and will keep us stuck. Jerry offers helps to resist SELF-blame and OTHER-blame.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 [email protected] Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Staying on Task Even When Experiencing Discomfort" Number 2 of the Seven Part Series Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 [email protected] Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.   To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 [email protected] Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support

Self differentiation expert Jerry Wise explains how over-seriousness is a way to maintain enmeshment and emotional fusion.  To break free we need more playfulness, more flexibility in our emotional responses, and less over-seriousness.   When others make things heavier, we must make things lighter.  The world will thank us for this.  (The exception when there is a grief or loss or tragedy), most things people get over-serious about are over nothing or small things.  For more help contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at [email protected] or 317-919-6264 www.jerrywiserelationsystems.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jerry-wise/support