117. Why I Avoid Saying "You Can't" To My Kids

Well, this episode will thoroughly convince you to reconsider what is true and worth listening to in todays motherhood. Let's explore some common narratives that moms are fed and see exactly how the victim mentality is at play in them. If this resonates with you, and you're ready for renewed empowerment and positivity, then join the challenge I'm hosting to master the 5 daily habits of highly empowered moms. It starts January 5th and you can use this link to try my app (where the challenge is hosted) for a free seven days to make sure we are the right community for you! Explore my courses, coaching sessions and approach before committing fully to a community of moms BEING who they want to be in any room and group they're in. I'll see you there!

If why you do what you do is too strongly focused on the ideal outcome, weight loss, obedient children, a new home ... then you're missing the best part and will likely feel like a failure in the process. This episode teaches you to put your attention on who you're becoming in the process of pursuing goals and dreams.Follow along on InstagramGet more resources here

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my actual morning. There's mess, noise, interruptions and all. I'm sharing how I protect the dreams in my heart while meeting the very real needs of my family. Enjoy this raw and honest conversation about the choices I make to anchor my day in joy through it all.If you’ve ever wondered how to hold onto your vision while serving your home, or how to stay emotionally present without losing yourself in the demands of motherhood—this episode is for you.Come take a peak at my sacred mess and let it spark gratitude for your own.Follow along on Instagram Get more resources here.

This episode is taking you through the foundation of your identity in these moments and to be mindful of the "IF" that limits you in the hard moments. Your entire internal atmosphere changes when you move like God is watching you. Suddenly there's peace and surrender in the places you wrestled with perfection, people pleasing and approval of others. Imagine you're in the room with your close family and friends and "everyone else's" kids were playing, using manners and doing the "right" behavior for the room. Then you hear your child screaming, pushing a cousin over and saying "no" to grandma. Oh, boy... what happens IN YOU next?Well, that depends on what your focus is on. "What does Jesus think of how I handle this?""What does (friend, family, stranger) think of how I handle this?"With a mind set on Jesus you experience peace and a guided hand to help you through. With a mind set on man you experience pressure- perfect, perform and please. Which do you want and which do you have? Let's make forward progress here, together.

I used to see "God-fearing" often referenced, especially in 2020 during heightened fear and stress in the world, and I'd wonder "why would you want to believe in a God you feel afraid of?"Little did I know, that's a beautiful thing. Years later I'm here to share why "God-fearing" is a power word for me and what you can do to rise above the focus of man and the fears of the world. The Alignment Journaling Course is having a black Friday sale and it's the only time it has been discounted this year! Save $20 off the course and check out our NEEEEW (incredible) Daily Prompt Vault that is full of follow along video journaling sessions with me, 2 min inspiration and of course, written prompts and examples. This ends soon so come save a little money and an enormous amount of time you would have spent feeling negative.

Teaching regulation to my children feels incredibly difficult at times. It challenges me, stretches my patience and requires more attention than I knew I had to give. AND, seeing them take deep breaths when they feel upset, guide their brother to breathe and start doing 20 burpees without me even asking- IS WELL WORTH IT. Today I'm sharing what has worked exceptionally well in my home with high energy big feeling boys, which is BURPEES. I'm breaking down why I diligently emphasize regulation, what we do and how you can incorporate a plan like this, too. Side note: Christmas is coming quick. Get the 25 Days of Christ Advent Kit if you want to stay focused on Jesus and His teachings this holiday season. Use code TESSA for 20% off

There are times in life we hear one little line that changes the trajectory for us. I was attending a funeral while six months pregnant with my first son when one little line did that for me. I hope this episode gives you hope and encouragement to bring more positive communication into your home and daily life. Even if you've said "no" right in line with the average of 400 times a day that children hear it. Even if you grew up with negative communication being the norm. You get to decide what you do next, my friend. This holiday season is a great time to bring the story of Jesus into your home, with a guided story telling advent experience!This has been a favorite of ours for three years! 25 Days of Christ Ornament SetCode TESSA to save 20% off

I've been told "delayed obedience is disobedience" like it's a favorite line from a popular song since posting this reel.It got me thinking about the rush and urgency parents put themselves and their children in. It's certainly a catchy line and I can confidently say it is not biblical.Come explore where I have found the Bible praises pause, what could have gone differently and what Jesus would possibly do in our shoes. I believe teaching our children to exercise discernment, regulate emotions, pray for clarity and ask question IS our job. We are not here to rush our kids along to fit into the status quo and ensure they respect authority... a delay can be a very, very good thing.Good news, my Yes Language Course is now available for you to drastically reduce the times you say "no" and become a clear and kind communicator! It's 21 days long and incredibly effective to teach you with bite sized lessons and implementation! It's $50 off until 11/1/2025

This is a topic I have strong personal conviction and passion on and I'm sure you will feel that in this episode. After receiving criticism about a reel I made on IG that involved me waiting 90 seconds for my son to make the right choice and sharing that it takes 90 seconds to properly feel an emotion, I decided this podcast episode is the best way to respond. Discipline, boundaries and expectations are powerful in our parenting and they are a foundation for our kids to thrive. We can use each of those tools effectively, arguably more effectively, when we use them with kindness, calm authority and self-discipline. This episode has four key points in the heart of a disciple of Jesus Christ that is using discipline in parenting. I strive to be a loyal disciple of Jesus Christ and that means doing what is right even when it is hard and committing to parenting with faith over fear. All of the "what if..." theories thrown by others are fear based and I have resounding faith in following Jesus today in my parenting is the best possible outcome for our future.

Well, wouldn't you know it that the Bible is in full support of Yes Language?! Let's go through some scripture together and see where the meaning connects to our home life. Here are the links to Bibles I mentioned for any other beginners out there that want to start reading truth!Jesus Story Book Bible (I LOVE this one with my kids)Hosanna Revival NLT Bible (My first Bible I read for two years and appreciated the easy to understand language!)Study Bible ESV (My new Bible I am loving. The language is the right amount of challenge for me right now. I can still understand what it is saying and it reflects more of the traditional writings.)