What's a nice guy and why nice guys should finish last because they're dangerous

Tanja is back with Robert with candid coaching and dropping into a topic i hear many men deal with. The shame of desiring sex. How to be a good man and own your sexuality when your childhood and early teens programs didn't set you up well. 

A brave listner of Men, Sex and Tantra takes Tanja up on being coached on the podcast. Robert  has faced what a lot of good men are facing today... confusion around what women want and why when a man attempts to give them what they ask for, they are rejected. 

Mathias and Tanja dive into the topic of vulnerability and it's most men's least favorite topic... we get it.Some men would say "OK vulnerability is not as important as authenticity. I think authenticity is important!But let's unpack this: in order to be authentic to yourself… First you have to know yourself.Second of all, you are an evolving being and so from one perspective "being authentic" you might be authentic to a way you existed before or a way of being… But in authentic in a way that you are growing into that is less familiar to you...And it's easy to communicate from those places that we feel sure and confident...But is much more difficult to be in, and communicate from, those places where you might feel unsure… Or unformed, or at risk. Or even worse… From a place of being completely undone...And that's where the true jiuce of life lives!Tanja's Last Longer For Sex Program can be found here lastlongerforsex.com Intro Coaching Session Here Become a Neo Tantra Certified CoachJ. Mathias Bennett is an Author, Leadership Advisor, and Speaker. He helps visionaries with ‘ecosystems’ worth of projects to connect with themselves, clarify their approach, and connect with resources to help build the regenerative world that is possible.His experience spans technology spirituality, regeneration and leadership. Mathias loves to speak, share and coach on the connection between the spiritual and physical realms, and how to listen to the Universe when it whispers, so it doesn’t have to shout. Mathias is also a strong proponent of centering indigenous wisdom and Divine feminine wisdom - in the form of Eros - to help reveal Truth, and co-create wholeness into being.To connect with Mathias - LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmathiasbennett/

Some people think about the truth : "you want the truth? You can't handle the truth!!" With a sense of happiness or duty...From a western standpoint, our mind is conditioned to think about things. Especially from a western scientific standpoint, we take things and slice and dice them into smaller and smaller quantities, analyze them, interpret our analysis, then extrapolate that interpretation of that analysis to put in a report to be a peer reviewed, for maximum competitive advantage...But if you're curious about the truth and whatever area you have the greatest interest , there's delightful light, playful spontaneity about it.Tanja's Last Longer For Sex Program can be found here lastlongerforsex.com Intro Coaching Session Here Become a Neo Tantra Certified CoachJ. Mathias Bennett is an Author, Leadership Advisor, and Speaker. He helps visionaries with ‘ecosystems’ worth of projects to connect with themselves, clarify their approach, and connect with resources to help build the regenerative world that is possible.His experience spans technology spirituality, regeneration and leadership. Mathias loves to speak, share and coach on the connection between the spiritual and physical realms, and how to listen to the Universe when it whispers, so it doesn’t have to shout. Mathias is also a strong proponent of centering indigenous wisdom and Divine feminine wisdom - in the form of Eros - to help reveal Truth, and co-create wholeness into being.To connect with Mathias or request a consult- head to LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmathiasbennett/

J Mathias and I get into the definition and idea of courage. It's my numer 1 value and I use it everyday to make decisions and stay in alignment with my integrity. Is courage a heroic act or something you are driven to by an impulsive action."Courage is that which is in alignment with a particular value or goal" MathiasDo you have the courage to do what you need to do in your life? Tanja's Last Longer For Sex Program can be found here lastlongerforsex.com Intro Coaching Session Here Become a Neo Tantra Certified CoachJ. Mathias Bennett is an Author, Leadership Advisor, and Speaker. He helps visionaries with ‘ecosystems’ worth of projects to connect with themselves, clarify their approach, and connect with resources to help build the regenerative world that is possible.His experience spans technology spirituality, regeneration and leadership. Mathias loves to speak, share and coach on the connection between the spiritual and physical realms, and how to listen to the Universe when it whispers, so it doesn’t have to shout. Mathias is also a strong proponent of centering indigenous wisdom and Divine feminine wisdom - in the form of Eros - to help reveal Truth, and co-create wholeness into being.To connect with or consult with Mathias go to LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmathiasbennett/

My new guest J Mathias Bennett brings a refreshing perspectve to things that make men stand out from the ordinary and become unforgettable. Our next 4 episodes dive into what seems like some familiar topics and yet we deep dive into questions and answers that will leave you rethinking things.It's what happens when spiritual meets strategy. Buckle in and learn to question everything.Tanja's Last Longer For Sex Program can be found here lastlongerforsex.com Intro Coaching Session Here Become a Neo Tantra Certified Coach.Mathias Bennett is an Author, Leadership Advisor, and Speaker. He helps visionaries with ‘ecosystems’ worth of projects to connect with themselves, clarify their approach, and connect with resources to help build the regenerative world that is possible.His experience spans technology spirituality, regeneration and leadership. Mathias loves to speak, share and coach on the connection between the spiritual and physical realms, and how to listen to the Universe when it whispers, so it doesn’t have to shout. Mathias is also a strong proponent of centering indigenous wisdom and Divine feminine wisdom - in the form of Eros - to help reveal Truth, and co-create wholeness into being.To connect with or inquire about a consultation - Mathias on LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmathiasbennett/

Enough of the BS that a masculine man needs a watered down woman. Most strong men I have met are not intimidated nor turned off my a strong woman. Oliver is a badass and his woman is a force of nature. When Oliver gets attacked by a wolf, it's a woman who saves him.Tanja's Last Longer For Sex Program can be found here lastlongerforsex.com Intro Coaching Session Here Become a Neo Tantra Certified CoachOliver- TahoeWolfCenter.org- OliverTheWolfGuy.com (Merch)- YouTube (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.youtube.com/@oliverthewolfguy  - TikTok (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.tiktok.com/@oliverthewolfguy - X (formerly Twitter) (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.twitter.com/olivrthewolfguy - Instagram (Oliver Starr): https://www.instagram.com/ostarr  LinkedIn (Oliver Starr): https://www.linkedin.com/in/oliverstarr 

Olver Starr is still with us and we explore what can wolves show us about the potency of aging in a world obbsessed with youth.Tanja's Last Longer For Sex Program can be found here lastlongerforsex.com Intro Coaching Session Here Become a Neo Tantra Certified CoachOliver-- TahoeWolfCenter.org- OliverTheWolfGuy.com (Merch)- YouTube (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.youtube.com/@oliverthewolfguy  - TikTok (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.tiktok.com/@oliverthewolfguy - X (formerly Twitter) (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.twitter.com/olivrthewolfguy - Instagram (Oliver Starr): https://www.instagram.com/ostarr  LinkedIn (Oliver Starr): https://www.linkedin.com/in/oliverstarr 

Oliver expains why the females in the wolf family group are the glue which holds the pack together. We see the same experience in human family groups. Let's see if we gain some wolf wisdom for our own journey.Tanja's Last Longer For Sex Program can be found here lastlongerforsex.com Intro Coaching Session Here Become a Neo Tantra Certified CoachOliver StarrTahoeWolfCenter.org- OliverTheWolfGuy.com (Merch)- YouTube (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.youtube.com/@oliverthewolfguy  - TikTok (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.tiktok.com/@oliverthewolfguy - X (formerly Twitter) (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.twitter.com/olivrthewolfguy - Instagram (Oliver Starr): https://www.instagram.com/ostarr  LinkedIn (Oliver Starr): https://www.linkedin.com/in/oliverstarr 

I have Olver Starr with me to talk about how we got it all wrong when it comes to what an Alpha is.And Oliver should know, he works with wolves and removes mama bears from under houses!In a world where a bunch of men on podcasts are giving you a bunch of BS about the Alpha male... come hear the real scoop.Tanja's Last Longer For Sex Program can be found here lastlongerforsex.com Intro Coaching Session Here Become a Neo Tantra Certified CoachOliver Starr is a wolf conservationist, author, and former tech executive whose work bridges the worlds of the wild and the boardroom. As the founder of the Tahoe Wolf Center and creator of the Benevolent Alpha Leadership Framework, Oliver draws on decades of firsthand experience with wolves to challenge outdated models of dominance-based leadership. His book, The Wolf Lover’s Guide to Raising Dogs, is a top-rated release in animal behavior, and his viral social media content educates millions about the true nature of wolves. A TEDx speaker and seasoned entrepreneur, Oliver advocates for leadership rooted in empathy, cooperation, and the wisdom of the pack.v- TahoeWolfCenter.org- OliverTheWolfGuy.com (Merch)- YouTube (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.youtube.com/@oliverthewolfguy  - TikTok (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.tiktok.com/@oliverthewolfguy - X (formerly Twitter) (Oliver the Wolf Guy): https://www.twitter.com/olivrthewolfguy - Instagram (Oliver Starr): https://www.instagram.com/ostarr  LinkedIn (Oliver Starr): https://www.linkedin.com/in/oliverstarr