47. Understanding External Validation

Join us this week for a conversation with Kori’s friend and client, Dr. Sara, as she shares about her coaching journey, including landing her dream job 10-15 years ahead of schedule.   What you’ll learn from this episode: Why you should apply for jobs you want even if you think you’re not qualified.  What kind of support you might want in place when you land your dream role. How coaching can help you super speed up your life transitions.  How coaching can show you opportunities that exist all around you that are currently invisible to you. Why it’s worth it to risk rejection in order to go after what you want.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/183

It never feels good to let yourself down, but it’s part of life. So let’s have a conversation about how to take care of yourself (and set yourself up to do better in the future) when you find yourself in a sticky situation where you didn’t live up to your own ideals.    What you’ll learn from this episode: 3 key steps for moving through disappointment in yourself. How to have standards without weaponizing your own imperfections. How to like yourself even when you aren’t at the level you want to be at. How to repair with yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/182  

There’s so much encouragement everywhere to set and maintain boundaries, and I get it. Boundaries can be so helpful for creating your satisfying AF life. And also, not all boundaries are created (or delivered) equally. Tune in this week for the low down on what to do (and what *not* to do) when it comes to setting boundaries in your relationships, career, & more.   What you’ll learn from this episode: What a boundary is and what it’s not. 3 key boundary mistakes to watch out for. How to set yourself up for success when it comes to boundaries. What to do if you eff up a boundary.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/181    

You may have heard of triggers, but what about glimmers? While a trigger is a situation in which you’re reminded of a painful experience and may even find yourself in a stress response like fight or flight, a glimmer is a situation in which you feel positive emotions like safety or joy. Identifying and engaging with your glimmers is a simple tool you can use to feel better in the day to day and set yourself up for more satisfaction in the long run.   What you’ll learn from this episode: Why a trigger may be happening for you and what you can do about it. How to find the useful content within an existing trigger. How to identify your glimmers and why you might want to. What glimmer-seeking is and how to do it.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/180

Shedding your old social conditioning can be a tricky feat, and this can especially true when you come from a high-demand religion. Join Kori and her guest Sara Bybee Fisk for a conversation about how to step away from “shoulds” and into satisfaction, even when you come from a background that deeply ingrained its beliefs into you.    What you’ll learn from this episode: How to question deeply ingrained beliefs and why it might feel so hard to grapple with them What it’s like to design and create a highly satisfying life after leaving a high-demand religion Why Sara chose to say goodbye to the religion she loved A few questions you can ask yourself that will help you design and build a life that truly delights you How to learn more about Sara and her work coaching people pleasers   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/179

No one wants to be a burden, but learning how to ask for help - and receive it - is an essential skill for relationships, the workplace, and more.   What you’ll learn from this episode: How to ask for and receive support. Why receiving support doesn’t make you a burden. Why it’s ok to allow others to do labor or effort on your behalf. How to cultivate reciprocity in your relationships.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/178  

Making friends as an adult is so hard! Or is it? This week we discuss simple, doable steps you can take to make new friends, even if that’s something you literally haven’t done since second grade.    What you’ll learn from this episode: What makes building adult friendships hard and how to overcome it. 4 actions to start taking to make new friends. The exact strategy I used to build new friendships when I moved to Sacramento.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/177

What’s the secret to the most loving, connected relationships? And how can you create a sense of emotional safety with your person, whether they’re a romantic partner, friend, or family member?   This week’s episode is based on an Instagram reel I shared that went somewhat viral. Learn five things to start doing immediately if you want better relationships right now, and discover doable, fun ways to incorporate these into your life if it initially feels terrible or overwhelming.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/176

Clair is a global Content Creation and Creative Operations leader, Strategic Advisor, and Community Builder focused on helping clients meet the needs of today’s content velocity. When she first found me, she wasn’t clear on how to take her business to the next level or if she should even be trying.   Hear Clair’s thoughts on working with me, both in a one-on-one capacity as well as in my small group, and the transformations she’s experienced along the way.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/175

If you’re protecting yourself by keeping your life small and contained as a way of avoiding potential devastation, chances are you feel trapped in a life that feels unsatisfying. The risk of trying and facing rejection is painful. However, the fear of potentially being destroyed by a negative outcome also stops you from experiencing wonder and delight.   Hear what happens when you’re unwilling to be devastated, how to create safety for yourself as you ask for what you want, and how to be willing to be devastated in mindful, intentional, and incremental ways.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/174