BONUS: Cancel Me, Daddy (ft. Emily VanDerWerff)

Tuck tackles more advice questions with BFF of the show Mckenzee Griffler (she/her). Topics include: What if my partner doesn’t want me to come out to their parents? Are we sure that cis people don’t think about gender this much? Can my gender be “boy” if I’m in my thirties?  Should I live the plot of Boys Weekend by Mattie Lubchansky? Plus: wedding photos, astrology, nonprofits, FFS soup, King of Falafel, and securely attached Super Smash Bros characters? This Week in Gender: Kai Jacobsen bravely attempts the segment that Tuck refused. Find Mckenzee at mckenzeegriffler.com and @mckenzeeisshortforzee. Submit a piece of Theymail: Today’s message was from Succulent. Come see us at the Bell House on June 20!  ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Young Buck” & “Tin Tile Shuffle” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck catches up with organizer Jerika Che (they/them). Topics include: Creating an abolitionism-inspired trans summer camp What’s up with all the gender-segregated trans picnics? Advice for creating your own trans community events  Learning to successfully collaborate with co-organizers Plus: Xenogenders, Transoween, and Warrior Cats? This Week in Gender: The Girls & Gays Movie Corner (lol) Find Jerika’s events at seattletransjoy.com and @seattletransjoy. Submit a piece of Theymail: Today’s messages were from Joce Ryder/Gentlethem and the podcast Cruising. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with author KT Hoffman (he/him) about trans romance novels, egg & cheddar gender, egg behavior, and not being Assigned Mariners At Birth.  Listen to the full episode on Patreon for discussions of bagel recipes, real-life baseball romance (in our dreams), local queer softball leagues, formative gay YA novels, and which marginalized group will get to play professional baseball first (lol).  The Prospects is available now wherever books are sold! Find KT Hoffman at kthoffmanwrites.com and @squashgoblin.

Ozzy and Tuck chat with with Yin Q (they/them). Topics include: How parenting changed Yin’s relationship to gender and kink What queer people still need to learn about kink and consent  How the Red Canary Song documentary honors its subjects’ privacy and agency Decriminalizing sex work — and then taking the “work” part out of it Plus: Spiritual sexuality, the kink-o-meter, and parent-child top surgery? This Week in Gender: A Trans Day of Snack update!  Find Yin @redcanarysong @kinkoutevents and @yinq13ritual. Yin also recommends the book Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina as a resource. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from the podcast Cruising. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Jadie Grange” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Happy (almost) Trans Day of Snack! We’re explaining this weekend’s mutual aid campaign (including FREE SNACKS for trans people in 26 US states) and sharing part two of our chat with Shuli Branson. Sign up to receive your snack and/or financial aid at bit.ly/tdos24. View our list of trans resources at bit.ly/tdos24links. Spread the word! Our full chat with Shuli is available here. (Part one is available here.) Find Shuli at sjbranson.com and @shulibranson. Practical Anarchism is available from Pluto Press. Support The Breakup Theory on Patreon. Get 25% off the Surviving the Future paperback or e-book with the coupon code GENDERREVEAL at pmpress.org this weekend. Donate to our mutual aid/snack fund via PayPal or Venmo. (Put "TDoS" in the subject line plz.) Please donate to families fleeing Gaza at linktr.ee/fundsforgaza. Our Trans Day of Snack merch is available through March 31 at bit.ly/gendermerch. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Hensteeth” & “Road to Petersby” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with with writer Jamie Lauren Keiles (he/him). Topics include: Writing a nonbinary history book that eschews common trans identity rhetoric  Reporting on phallo and blowjob jokes for the New York Times Magazine  Why Jamie will never run another Most Transgender Name Competition  Why everyone in the trans community is annoying in different beautiful ways :) :) :) Plus: “Fake bi to real bi,” best novelty license plates, and Chaz Bono shopping in Miami? This Week in Gender: There’s new work by Andrea Long Chu, Beans Velocci, Paisley Currah and Judith Butler… but we instead quote Sawyer Kemp, Lola Pellegrino and Foz Meadows.  Find Jamie at jamielaurenkeiles.com and on Instagram and Twitter. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Southpaw Cafe. We’ve got limited-edition Trans Day of Snack 2024 merch on sale this month, with proceeds benefiting our mutual aid fund. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Syriah” & “The Odd About It” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck and Ozzy chat with Liz Fong-Jones (she/her). Topics include: Creating a Coworker Solidarity Fund to support worker organizing and potential strikes Organizing your Google colleagues so hard that you crash Google Docs Being realistic about your security threats (e.g., is it safe to organize in Google Docs?) Ways that (trans & cis) tech workers can support trans people  Plus: How the Joy Luck Club (not that one) saved her life This Week in Gender: Listen to Hang Up. Find Liz at lizthegrey.com and on cohost. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Wren Dove Lark. We’ve got limited-edition Trans Day of Snack 2024 merch on sale this month, with proceeds benefiting our mutual aid fund. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Hrse Hrse” & “Gamboler” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck shares last year’s conversation with Nigerian fashion designer and activist Fola Francis (she/her/they). Topics include: Dodging a blacklist to walk in Lagos Fashion Week Advice for other people living under anti-LGBTQ laws  “Queerness has always been very African”  Hosting several of Lagos’s first balls Plus: Nigerian healthcare, Dolls Activities, and And Just Like That…  This Week in Gender: Remembering Fola.  A full episode transcript is available at genderpodcast.com/listen. You can find archives of Fola’s life at @folafrancis and @thefolafrancis.  We've got Trans Day of Snack merch for a limited time over at bit.ly/gendermerch. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Taoudella” by Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck chats with linguist Ariana Steele (they/them). Topics include:  Studying ways that Black nonbinary people degender themselves via language Developing a “chill vs loud” nonbinary fashion taxonomy  How Ariana’s autism and gender relate to each other… …and how all this ties into their mixed identity and Aquarius-Pisces cusp Plus: Britney Spears, the “gay lisp,” and doing ethnographies in the club This Week in Gender: Get ready for Trans Day of Snack 2024! Find Ariana at arianasteele.com. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from MappingTransJoy.org. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Beignet” & “Capering” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with artist and experience designer Shing Yin Khor (they/them). Topics include:  The memoirist’s dilemma: narcissism vs turning other people into Content™  “The long human tradition of grabbing some clay and making a little guy” Shifting your approach to activism in order to (hopefully!) avoid burnout Transitioning out of gender entirely? Plus: Burning Man hot takes, Paul Bunyan’s BDE and the Muffler Man renaissance  This Week in Gender: Krys Malcolm Belc reviews Caitlyn Jenner’s memoir. Find Shing at shingkhor.com, on Patreon, and @sawdustbear. Read “I Do Not Want to Write Today” on Catapult. Suggested Gaza support: @fundsforgaza & MECA Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Alex Nolos. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Slimheart” “Our Only Lark” & “The Poplar Grove” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Aphrodisia Boutique (code: GENDERREVEAL) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)