For Melanin's Sake

A few reminders for some, affirmations for others!

Let's get to the bottom of this "high value man" idea and why we just aren't buying into it!

A new perspective on boundary setting and self care goals.

In life we often have to decide how we want to show up in a space, how we want to take up a space, and even how to survive in a space. I have worn many masks in my lifetime and each served a purpose. Some call it fake, however, those people don't always know what survival looks like so you can't put too much energy into people that don't understand your journey. Listen as my guest and I engage in a discussion centered around being centered and seen while being hidden simultaneously.  Instagram: @formelaninsake| @adoseofmelaninco www.formelaninsakepod.com

This episode is shares three major tips on how to achieve balance, what balance truly is, and what keep skills you will need if you're going to get it right!

Listen as Gracie and Katori Walker have a candid conversation about why Black women feel that Black men do not respect them. Katori feels that it originates from a collective bonding by way of traumatic relationships - Gracie holds her position that it is rooted in the way that Black men assess the social value of Black women. IG: @formelaninsake and @adoseofmelaninco IG: @katoriwalker; Twitter: @Katoriwalker

This dialogue between Gracie and Dr. Donna Oriowo unpacks a few of the major “Isms” — colorism, texturism, featurism, and sexism. Listen and find out who colorism impacts, who benefits from it and how all of this impacts the sexual mental health. This conversation challenges you to explore whether or not your “preferences” are truly preferences or if they are rooted in white supremacist ideas about what is beautiful and what is not? We explore the concept that anything that impacts your mental health also impacts your sexual health.   Resources: www.annodright.com Instagram: @drdonnaoriowo 

This conversation between Gracie and NAACP Image Award recipient and rapper Vince Staples is all about how community violence impacts young Black girls. Girls that come from communities at the intersection of Blackness and poverty are seen as strong, angry, and almost sub-human. As a result they are often overlooked and unprotected. “Feminism in the hood is for everyone, because everyone needs it.” ― Mikki Kendall, Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot

This dialogue is all about why romanticizing your Ex is sending yourself down a slippery slope. Yes, we’re quarantined. Yes, you’re lonely — but do you really miss him/her?  Romanticism can be considered normal but that doesn't mean it's healthy. Listen to discover some things you can do to help you figure out if you really miss them or if you test positive for a case of romanticisim. 

This episode takes a deeper look at the idea of what insecurity is and what insecurity is not. In my opinion the term "insecure" is often over used and misguided. Boundaries are necessary in any healthy relationship and sets the tones for things like emotional tolerances, finances, and sexual limits. Boundaries do not just represent a healthy relationship they also represent self-respect. Just because you want access to my spouse in a way that I do not find appropriate does not make me insecure, you're just entitled. Join the podcast community on Facebook at For Melanin's Sake Podcast and on Instagram @formelaninsake.