199. The Seventeenth Hot Topics One

Ali & Erica are answering listener questions on the pod this week! But first, we start out with a listener update from a prior Hot Topics episode - remember our distant security guard?? Then, the gals answer 3 new questions. First, what to do if a match’s app profile disappears before your first date? Second, we give advice to a listener who is struggling with getting back onto the apps after a dating hiatus as the only single friend. Lastly, a listener is headed to a wedding where she’ll see an old fling - should she tell her current partner? Don’t forget you can submit questions (and updates!) of your own at findingmrheight.com/podcast!In Updates, Erica has a ~magical~ blast from the past while Ali reveals what she’s getting Skyline for Christmas (and how they decided on gifts!). Skyline, if you’re listening to this, no you’re not.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 22.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comCheck out Gobble and use our code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It’s our first ever public Uncensored episode, featuring Abigail Jensen of the Rat Girls podcast! Abigail was such a popular Patreon Uncensored guest that we had to bring her practical sex and pleasure tips to the main pod. You’ll come away with some amazing tips from this discussion including: navigating mismatched libidos (and why they may not actually be mismatched!), working on initiating sex when it doesn’t feel natural, testing out new things in the bedroom, working through intimacy with body insecurities, and more.In Updates, Ali has a conversation with Skyline that might have been difficult for her in the past while Erica has a very meta first date that takes a turn.Where to find Abigail: On Instagram @vibeslut, on TikTok @abigailjensen_, and on the Rat Girls Podcast.Timestamps: Abigail joins us at around minute 42.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comFactor: Head to factormeals.com/fmh50 and use code fmh50 to get 50% off.Check out Uncommon Goods and use our code FMH for a great deal: www.uncommongoods.comCheck out Gobble and use our code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ali & Erica are breaking down one of their favorite personality tests this week: Myers Briggs! The episode starts with a break down of Myers Briggs as a concept - each aspect of the types and the limitations. The gals then discuss their own (basically opposite, lol) personality types and how they impact relationships, both romantic and otherwise. Plus: What personality type is Skyline??In Updates, Erica has an IRL encounter with a potential date while Ali recaps her surprise date night with Skyline.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comFactor: Head to factormeals.com/fmh50 and use code fmh50 to get 50% off.Check out Uncommon Goods and use our code FMH for a great deal: www.uncommongoods.comCozy Earth: Visit cozyearth.com/FMH and use our exclusive 40% off code FMH to give the gift of luxury this holiday season.Check out Gobble and use our code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It feels like flirting just comes naturally to some people, but is it possible to learn to be a better flirt? Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, says yes! He’s taking us through his best flirting tips this week, all the way from approaching a stranger at a party to keeping the flirt going in a long-term relationship. You’ll come out of the episode with concrete tips designed to get you out there and flirting!In Updates, Erica is back in LA and reflecting on how life has blossomed in her new city. Meanwhile, Ali returns from a weekend away with her friends where she was part of a couple for the first time ever.Where to find Benjamin: On Instagram @benjamincamras, on TikTok @benjamincamras, & on the Flirtations Podcast. Timestamps: Benjamin joins us at around minute 33.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.Cozy Earth: Visit cozyearth.com/FMH and use our exclusive 40% off code FMH to give the gift of luxury this holiday season.Check out Gobble and use our code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.comCheck out Uncommon Goods and use our code FMH for a great deal: www.uncommongoods.com.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We’ve heard more and more in the dating space about Facebook groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy lately - so we sent a survey out to our listeners asking your thoughts. On this week’s episode, we discuss all sides of these groups, including their original intent, what they’ve become, and how they seem to be impacting our view of dating.In Updates, Erica recounts how dating burnout seems similar across the world and prepares to bring her apps back stateside. Meanwhile, Ali reflects on lessons from last week’s episode as it relates to “sitting comfortably in” her relationship with Skyline.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 42.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Check out Gobble and use our code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.comCheck out Uncommon Goods and use our code FMH for a great deal: www.uncommongoods.com.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jewish Matchmaking remains one of Erica and Ali’s favorite dating shows, and this week we welcome its host: Aleeza Ben-Shalom! We get into her viral dating philosophies including no touching for five dates and “date them until you hate them,” plus her thoughts on what qualities make a good match.In Updates, Ali debriefs a Halloween night that was very out of her comfort zone while Erica discovers that dating app tropes span multiple continents.Where to find Aleeza: On Instagram @aleezabenshalom, on TikTok @aleezabenshalom, at www.marriagemindedmentor.com. Pre-order Aleeza's book "Matchmaker Matchmaker": https://marriagemindedmentor.com/book/Timestamps: Aleeza joins us at around minute 42.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Check out Gobble and use our code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.comCozy Earth: Visit cozyearth.com/FMH and use our exclusive 40% off code FMH to give the gift of luxury this holiday season.Check out Uncommon Goods and use our code FMH for a great deal: www.uncommongoods.com.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Did you binge Nobody Wants This on Netflix as quickly as we did? Ali & Erica are diving into the show that took over our social media feeds (and for good reason) and how it relates to real-life dating. For Ali, the early days of the characters’ relationship hits very close to home and both gals contemplate how they’d react to some of the scenarios if they happened IRL.In Updates, Erica spends time with her Italian family & learns more about dating/relationships in their culture. Ali is fresh off her 6-month anniversary trip with Skyline, which was magical while also including a frustrating moment or two…Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 46.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.Check out Gobble and use our code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.comFactor: Head to factormeals.com/fmh50 and use code fmh50 to get 50% off.Check out Uncommon Goods and use our code FMH for a great deal: www.uncommongoods.comHappy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever dreamed of travelling abroad and meeting the love of your life? Kacie Rose (@kacierose_ on IG) just did that and she’s here to tell us all about dating long distance and cross-culturally. We discuss her best tips for long distance, what worked in managing conflicts between her and her now-fiancé, and how dating an Italian man is different. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for Kacie’s interview, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio.In Updates, Erica & Ali recount their last night in Lisbon and Erica has some surprises for Ali about the end of the night.Where to find Kacie: On Instagram @kacierose_, on TikTok @kacierose4, at www.kacierosetravel.com. Check out her book, You Deserve Good Gelato.Timestamps: Kacie joins us at around minute 20.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comSeed: Check out Seed : seed.com/fmh, code 25FMHAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have a question? Erica & Ali are here to answer it! This week, we answer three listener questions. First, a woman has been setting her friend up on dates and wonders if she should share “exit interview” feedback with her. Second, when should you share potential dealbreaker like pet allergies with a date? Lastly, a listener considers canceling a date when she notices something has changed on his profile.But first, the gals are together in Portugal with their moms! Erica reveals a side mission she started with the single ladies on the trip while Ali reflects on Skyline meeting Mama J.Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.comSeed: Check out Seed : seed.com/fmh, code 25FMHAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Do you experience anxiety in dating and relationships? Worrying that you’ll say the wrong thing, be in the wrong relationship, or ruin things with the right one? Sarah Yudkin, relationship anxiety coach and host of You Love and You Learn podcast, has some soothing words for you (and us!). Sarah shares how her own experience with her now fiance shaped her relationship anxiety work and we discuss issues such as: knowing if it’s your gut or anxiety, how to bring up anxiety with your partner, and dealing with outside opinions about your relationship.But first, Erica & Ali are back from Chicago and reminiscing about the show and their time in the city (which joins NYC for one of the worst cities to date, apparently). Ali reveals Skyline’s surprise for her end-of-corporate celebration and Erica makes an very fun purchase.Where to find Sarah: On Instagram @youloveandyoulearn, on TikTok @youloveandyoulearn, at www.youloveandyoulearn.comTimestamps: Sarah joins us at around minute 33.If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to ask a question, submit a Storytime idea, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcastWant to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!Thanks to this week’s partners:Apostrophe: Save $15 and get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for just $5 at apostrophe.com/FMH and use code FMH.Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.NOCD: Check out NOCD at www.nocd.comAcorns: Check out Acorns: https://acorns.com/FMHOur Sponsors:* Check out Gobble and use my code HEIGHT for a great deal: gobble.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/FMHAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy