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This week on the Regretful Parents series, Erika and Kristen react to a Reddit post from a 34-year-old German father who says he never wanted kids, claims his Japanese wife lied about being on birth control, and now regrets both his marriage and his baby — while living in a completely different country from them.The post is equal parts heartbreaking and baffling.In this episode:A German man describes his marriage to a Japanese woman and the culture clash that followedWhy "you have to read the air" is the most iconic line of the episodeThe baby was born in Japan — while he was in GermanyWhat you need to know about international custody laws when one parent is JapaneseWhy living together before marriage matters (especially across cultures)Our hottest take: get a vasectomy, babeWhether you're here for the relationship drama, the cultural commentary, or just two women yelling "you're not even in the same country!" — this one's for you.Take a trip with us! South of France in June: https://trovatrip.com/trip/europe/france/france-with-erika-abdelatif-jun-2026 Christmas Markets trip in December: https://trovatrip.com/trip/europe/germany-and-austria/germany-with-erika-abdelatif-dec-09-2026?earlybird=true Support the pod and get even more content: patreon.com/dinkypod Tags / Keywords:regretful parents, baby regret reddit, parenting regret, reddit relationship advice, german japanese couple, international custody laws, baby trapped reddit, marriage regret, childfree reddit, reddit react podcast, parenting podcast, divorce advice, cross-cultural marriage, Japan custody laws, reddit stories reactedChapters:0:00 Intro0:27 Reading the post — "I just need a channel to let out despair"1:21 The birth control lie2:09 "I regret many things" (very German)2:52 "You have to read the air" — Germany vs. Japan culture clash5:29 Wait… she gave birth in JAPAN?6:45 International marriage: are they even legally married?10:15 Reddit comments react11:36 Japan's strict custody laws explained13:21 Our verdict: snip snip, bitch14:19 Outro + how to find usBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Want more exclusive content from Dinky? Join the Patreon! This week, Erika takes Kristen down a rabbit hole she wishes she could un-visit — the disturbing story of Mike and Heather Martin, the couple behind the infamous DaddyOFive YouTube channel. What started as a "family prank" account quickly became one of the most notorious examples of child exploitation on the internet.We cover:How the DaddyO5 channel grew to 750,000 subscribers and an estimated $200K–$350K annually — and what was really happening behind the cameraThe "invisible ink" prank video that broke the internet The role of biological mom Rose Hall and the custody battle that followedWhat actually happened in court (spoiler: not enough)Where the family is now SOURCES: BBC, NYMag, Wikipedia, People TRIPS:TIME IS RUNNING OUT: Lavender Dreams & Riviera Nights With ErikaChristmas Markets 2026!!! GET MORE FROM DINKY:Treat yourself to new merch! Wanna get your finances in order? Use our link to sign up for a FREE 34 day trial of YNAB (You Need A Budget) and support the show. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and Threads at @dinkypod. Follow us on YouTube.If you have a question or comment, email us at [email protected] a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Erika is joined by friend of the pod and special guest Ashton to react to a Reddit post from a woman who is absolutely DONE being pregnant — stretch marks in places she didn't know could stretch, a partner telling her "your body will be better than ever," and a mom who just keeps saying "focus on the baby." YIKES. We get into why pregnancy horror stories are kept so quiet, the evolutionary reason human childbirth is uniquely dangerous, why women's pain gets minimized the second there's a baby involved, and the man on Instagram who came home for 1-2 hours a day and considered himself a parenting expert.Also: Ashton makes a great case for Dinky trips. Speaking of which, seats are still available for these two Dinky trips:South of France in June: https://trovatrip.com/trip/europe/france/france-with-erika-abdelatif-jun-2026 Christmas Markets trip in December: https://trovatrip.com/trip/europe/germany-and-austria/germany-with-erika-abdelatif-dec-09-2026?earlybird=true Support the pod and get even more content: patreon.com/dinkypod In this episode:Reacting to "I WANT THIS PERSON OUT" — a viral r/regretfulparents postWhat actually happens to your body during pregnancy that no one tells youThe evolutionary reason human childbirth is so much harder than other mammalsWhy lying on your back during labor might not actually be best for women800 women die in childbirth every day — and some men still minimize itMorning sickness so bad her doctor waited SIX MONTHS to mention there was medicationVagina pain, butthole cramps, and getting screamed at from a car while 8 months pregnantThe man who spent 1-2 hours/day with his baby and got on the internet to explain uteruses to womenWhy Ashton thinks Dinky trips might be one of the best decisions of her lifeChapters: 0:00 – Welcome & introducing guest Ashton 0:42 – Ashton's honest Dinky trip review (unprompted, unsponsored) 3:34 – The post: "I WANT THIS PERSON OUT" 4:33 – Can you actually be pregnant for 365 days? 6:19 – Stretch marks in places she never expected 7:08 – The mental whiplash of your body changing that fast 9:01 – "You might not even get a healthy baby. You just get a baby." 10:15 – Her partner & mom completely dismiss her feelings 12:34 – Why society keeps pregnancy realities hidden 14:31 – Ashton on being childfree since childhood 18:41 – Why human childbirth is uniquely dangerous (evolution explainer) 20:23 – Were women never supposed to give birth on their backs? 21:54 – Comment section: 800 deaths a day & the Instagram man 24:39 – Vomiting for 6 months before anyone offered medication 25:14 – Not every woman is built for this — and that should be okay 26:42 – Final thoughts & trip linksBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Want more exclusive content from Dinky? Join the Patreon! Dinky listeners have been flooding our inboxes lately pressuring us to watch Season 10 of Love Is Blind — because it featured not one, but TWO storylines about women choosing non-traditional paths when it comes to kids. One of those women was Emma Betsinger, who is our guest today!  Emma is a 28-year old who was adopted from China at age three, and raised in a white family in Ohio. Emma endured 10 surgeries before the age of 7 to remove high-risk birthmarks and expressed concerns about having biological kids as a result. She got engaged to Mike Gibney on the show, but their relationship ended at the altar. Today, we’ll be talking to Emma about her experience sharing her story on the show and where she stands on kids now.TRIPS:Christmas Markets 2026!!! Lavender Dreams & Riviera Nights With ErikaGET MORE FROM DINKY:Treat yourself to new merch!Wanna get your finances in order? Use our link to sign up for a FREE 34 day trial of YNAB (You Need A Budget) and support the show. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and Threads at @dinkypod. Follow us on YouTube.If you have a question or comment, email us at [email protected] a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Erika and Kristen react to one of the most harrowing posts from the r/regretfulparents subreddit — a woman's decade-long battle with serious birth injury damage after a midwife failed to suture a second-degree tear, leaving her with permanent physical damage, no sensation during sex, and a medical system that keeps turning her away.This one is NOT for the faint of heart. (You've been warned. 💀)We get into it all: the midwife vs. hospital birth debate, how the medical system routinely dismisses women's pain, why this would be treated as an emergency if it happened to a man, and the absolutely devastating moment where this woman has to choose between fixing her body and buying her kid braces.☕ Support the pod: patreon.com/DinkyPod (Help Kristen pay her 450-euro electricity bill in her Georgian-era icebox apartment. She deserves it.)In this episode:Reacting to a viral r/regretfulparents post about long-term birth injuryThe midwife vs. hospital birth debate — what does the data actually say?Prolapse, perineal tears, and why the medical system calls it "cosmetic"Why women's pain and sexual dysfunction are chronically under-treated"Braces or my vagina" — the impossible choices mothers are forced to makeChildfree commentary on why childbirth risks are still under-discussedChapters:0:00 – Welcome & intro to the post 0:42 – The midwife who didn't suture the tear 1:34 – Midwife vs. hospital births: Erika's hot take 3:24 – The tear that went unrepaired for years 5:08 – "It was gaping open" 6:38 – The surgeon who refused to fix it 8:25 – A decade of rejections from the medical system 10:32 – Braces vs. surgery: the impossible choice 12:26 – Top comments + our final thoughts 15:12 – Wrap up & how to support DinkyDon't get pregnant. 💅Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

This week, Erika and Kristen take a brief detour from the usual Regretful Parents subreddit and dive into a viral post from the “Am I Overreacting?” corner of Reddit. The situation? A mom who hasn’t had a solo shower in four days after caring for two sick kids alone while her husband enjoyed a bachelor party weekend. She finally gets a moment to herself… only to have it interrupted.When her husband returns home, things quickly spiral from mildly inconsiderate to fully infuriating. Instead of watching their one-year-old for five minutes while she showers, he places the baby in a playpen and leaves the house to run an errand. The result is a text exchange so ridiculous that Erika and Kristen perform a dramatic reenactment — and have plenty to say about communication, mental load, and weaponized cluelessness in parenting partnerships.Is the original poster overreacting… or is this guy just the worst?What We Talk AboutThe realities of parenting while your partner is awayWhy moms so often feel like they need to “ask permission” for basic self-careWhether the OP should have been more direct—or if the husband should have used common senseA dramatic reading of the couple’s painfully awkward text exchangeThe absolute audacity of leaving a baby alone during a showerThe difference between a partner and an extra child you have to manageThe fantasy revenge scenarios we’d personally consider in this situationReddit’s best comments roasting this guyMORE FROM USWebsite: https://www.dinkypod.com/ Patreon: https://patreon.com/dinkypod Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Want more exclusive content from Dinky? Join the Patreon! Today we are chatting with Nicole Louie, a writer and translator originally from Brazil and now based in Ireland. She is the author of Others Like Me: The Lives of Women Without Children. Others Like Me chronicles her own journey towards embracing a life without children while weaving in stories from women around the world she found in her search for community and guidance. Nicole’s essays have appeared in Oh Reader Magazine, The Walrus, The Guardian, and Literary Hub. More info about the giveaway can be found on our Instagram!Book SynopsisOthers Like Me: The Lives of Women Without Children by Nicole Louie (published by House of Anansi in North America)In a world that expects all women to become mothers, what happens to those who circumvent motherhood?Now and throughout history, women without children have been misunderstood and even vilified for not conforming to the prescriptive path of daughter, wife, mother, whether by choice, circumstance, or ambivalence. But with an increasing number of people choosing to forego children, Nicole Louie knew she was not alone. As she recounts her own journey toward embracing a life without children, Louie weaves in stories from the women around the world she found in her search for community and guidance, from their pasts to their presents to their hopes for the future.TRIPS:Christmas Markets 2026!!! Lavender Dreams & Riviera Nights With ErikaGET MORE FROM DINKY:Treat yourself to new merch! Wanna get your finances in order?Use our link to sign up for a FREE 34 day trial of YNAB (You Need A Budget) and support the show. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and Threads at @dinkypod. Follow us on YouTube.If you have a question or comment, email us at [email protected] a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Is Love Is Blind accidentally telling a regretful parents story?In this solo episode of the Regretful Parents series, Erika dives into the viral Reddit discussion about Love Is Blind Season 6 and the controversial engagement between Emma and Mike — specifically their major disagreement about having children.From pronatalist pressure to “you’d make a great mother” propaganda, this episode breaks down:Why you should NEVER “convince yourself” to have a childThe red flags in Emma and Mike’s engagementThe moment when Emma’s sister admitted she regrets having kids (and why the internet shamed her for it)Transracial adoption trauma and identity strugglesMedical concerns, genetic testing, and reproductive autonomyItalian family expectations & cultural pressure to have grandchildrenWhy marriage is about compromising paint colors — not parenthoodHave you been watching Love Is Blind this season? What did you think about Emma’s sister’s honesty? Can a relationship survive when partners disagree about kids? Drop your thoughts in the comments.MORE FROM USWebsite: https://www.dinkypod.com/ Patreon: https://patreon.com/dinkypod Keywords:regretful parents, regretful motherhood, Love Is Blind season 6, Emma and Mike Love Is Blind, childfree by choice, motherhood regret, pro natalism, transracial adoptee, adoption trauma, reality TV analysis, parenting pressure, women and reproductive choice, childfree women, regretful mom story, Netflix Love Is Blind recapBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Want more exclusive content from Dinky? Join the Patreon! We’re kicking off Season 10 with a recap of our 2025 Christmas Markets trip and getting a sneak peek ahead at our next adventure. We cover what surprised us, what we loved, and what we’d do differently in, plus with some tips of what we’d do differently! PS: we also preview our upcoming 2026 Christmas Markets trip featuring stops in Vienna and Munich.Please forgive that we are both FULLY sick and FULLY ADHD.TRIPS:Christmas Markets 2026!!! Lavender Dreams & Riviera Nights With ErikaGET MORE FROM DINKY:Treat yourself to new merch! Wanna get your finances in order? Use our link to sign up for a FREE 34 day trial of YNAB (You Need A Budget) and support the show. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and Threads at @dinkypod. Follow us on YouTube.If you have a question or comment, email us at [email protected] a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

What happens when parenting regret doesn’t go away… it just evolves?In this episode, Erika is joined by fellow childfree girlie Abby Porter (aka z00mie, aka “the girl with the list”)  to unpack a brand-new post from a parent whose regret has shifted from newborn exhaustion to something much heavier: existential anxiety, fear about the future, and the pressure of shaping a child’s entire life.We discuss: • Why regret can become more philosophical as kids grow• The crushing pressure parents feel to “not mess up” their children• Anxiety about AI, social media, and the modern world kids are growing up in• The myth that motherhood comes naturally• Why some people realize the realities of parenting too late• How comparison culture and mommy influencers make parenting harder• Whether thinking deeply about parenthood BEFORE kids could prevent regretTIMESTAMPS00:00 Intro + Meet Abby Porter01:00 How parenting regret changes over time03:00 Fear of traumatizing your kids (even if you’re a good parent)05:00 Generational patterns, anxiety, and breaking cycles07:00 Parenting anxiety about the future, AI, and safety09:00 “Philosophical garbage” — unpacking that take12:00 When motherhood isn’t what you expected14:00 The myth that parenting comes naturally16:00 Social media, mommy influencers, and comparison18:00 Kids, screens, and the “iPad generation”21:00 Therapist advice: stop spiraling or think deeper?23:00 Why these conversations matter BEFORE having kids24:50 Comment reactions + final thoughtsFOLLOW ABBY PORTERYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@z00mie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@z00mieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/z00mi.e/ MORE FROM USWebsite: https://www.dinkypod.com/ Patreon: https://patreon.com/dinkypod regretful parents podcast, parenting regret discussion, motherhood reality, childfree podcast, parenting mental health, motherhood expectations, modern parenting struggles, should I have kids, honest parenting talk, parenting anxiety, raising kids today, social media parenting pressure, AI future kidsBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.