Dare to be Different with Craig White

In this special reverse-role episode, Pat Divilly interviews Craig about his new book: 'Tell the Fucking Truth' and the experiences that shaped the book. They explore masks, control, relationships, emotional repression, personal growth and why Craig increasingly sees relational leadership as some of the most crucial work a man can do to revolutionise his impact in the world.SHOW NOTES:Why writing the book forced him to confront his own fear of playing small and being seenHow masks, control and high performance once helped him succeed while keeping other parts of himself hiddenWhy years of spiritual practice eventually led him back towards human relationships as the real arena for growthWhat an eight-month pause from dating taught both him and Pat about their relationship patternsWhy his next chapter is about reclaiming his voice, creativity, sexuality and capacity to make a greater impact Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/

Award-winning sports journalist Sam Peters has spent more than a decade investigating concussion, brain injury and player welfare in rugby. In this episode, he explores what he believes the sport still refuses to confront, why rugby’s warrior culture can work against its own players, and what meaningful change could actually look like.SHOW NOTES:why he believes professional rugby has become more physically dangerouswhat first convinced him that rugby had a much bigger concussion problem than was being acknowledgedwhy repetitive head impacts and long-term player welfare matter beyond diagnosed concussionswhy legal accountability, reduced contact and better recovery could force meaningful changewhy protecting players and improving performance do not have to be opposing goals Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/

Sexologist Coral Osborne spent years seeing a side of men they rarely reveal publicly. Drawing on her former life as a sex worker and her work coaching high-performing men, this conversation explores what sits underneath sex, fantasy, shame, secrecy and the desire for connection.SHOW NOTES:- Why many of the men she met through sex work were seeking connection and non-judgment as much as sex- How being publicly exposed forced her to confront shame, secrecy and the double life she had been living-Why sexual fantasies can provide clues about unmet needs, attachment patterns and unresolved parts of ourselves-Why men struggling in sexless relationships often need to examine the way they are living outside the bedroom Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/

In this episode, financial planner and money coach Sean McDermott explores why our relationship with money is often a reflection of our relationship with ourselves. The conversation moves beyond numbers into fear, scarcity, purpose, self-development and what financial success is actually supposed to provide.SHOW NOTES:why understanding what you actually want from money should come before financial planninghow fear and scarcity can remain even when somebody becomes financially successfulwhy taking responsibility for your finances can reduce stress and uncertaintyhow his own approach to work and leadership has changed through self-developmentwhy working harder and longer is not necessarily the route to greater success Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/

After unexpectedly losing his sight and later becoming paralysed, explorer Mark Pollock was forced to rebuild his identity more than once. In this episode, he explores grief, acceptance, hope and the practical process of finding something worth moving towards when life suddenly changes.SHOW NOTES: how grief, anger, denial and self-pity form part of the human response to crisis  why having even one person firmly in your corner can make a significant difference  how being challenged to create a five-year plan shifted him from patient to competitor and creator  why he believes people need both acceptance of the present and hope for the future Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/

In this episode, elite rugby coach John Mitchell reflects on the personal transformation behind his evolution as a man and leader. He explores the conditioning that shaped his earlier coaching style, the violent attack that forced him to reassess his life, and why relationships and presence now sit at the centre of his leadership.SHOW NOTES:how rugby, boarding school and a results-driven environment shaped his earlier leadershipwhy the attack he experienced in South Africa became a major turning pointhow he moved beyond purely outcome-focused coaching towards stronger relationshipswhat presence and emotional awareness bring to high-performance environmentshow his changing approach has affected coaching, intimate relationships and life outside rugby Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/

In this episode, Craig sits down with former Springbok Leader Joe van Niekerk as he reflects on his journey from elite rugby leadership to spiritual inquiry, brotherhood, and a very different definition of strength.The conversation explores grief, identity after sport, plant medicine, vulnerability, and why the deepest work of a man’s life may begin when the old role falls away.SHOW NOTES:- How losing his father at 13 shaped the fearlessness that drove his rugby career- What happened when rugby ended and the next deeper search began - Why ayahuasca, retreats, and time in the jungle became part of his path - How he now defines masculine strength through range, balance, and truth - Why brotherhood, vulnerability, and relationship have become central to his life Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/

In this episode, sex and relationship expert Carla Crivaro explains why men can find themselves wanting more sex just as their partners begin withdrawing from intimacy. The conversation explores sexual disconnection, emotional safety, male shame, performance pressure and the everyday behaviours that can either weaken or rebuild connection.SHOW NOTES:- Why a mismatch in sexual desire often reflects a much wider loss of connection- How mental load and control can create an unhelpful mother-and-son dynamic- Why presence, honesty and emotional discipline help a woman feel safer- How chasing orgasm and performance can pull both partners out of intimacy- How listening, non-sexual touch, check-ins, play and clear boundaries can rebuild closeness Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/

In this episode, former Wales international Rhys Thomas returns for a third time to share what it was like to finally receive the call for a heart transplant after 12 years of waiting. The conversation explores fear, surrender, survival, gratitude, recovery, and how life feels when the future suddenly opens up again.SHOW NOTES what it felt like to receive the call he had waited years for  how he approached the operation emotionally and mentally before going under  what waking up after the transplant was like and why it felt magical  how fear, survival, and uncertainty shaped the years before the operation  what he has reclaimed in himself since the transplant, including joy and softness Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/

In this episode, author and relationship coach Alison Armstrong breaks down how women often misunderstand men, and how that misunderstanding creates tension, shame, and conflict in relationships. The conversation explores respect, provision, partnership, emotional control, and the deeper pressures many men carry that women often never see.SHOW NOTES:- Alison’s story and turning point in how she saw men- Respect, appreciation and what men respond to- Purpose, provision and solving problems- Shame, failure and the male experience- Giving, receiving and relational balance- Power struggles and misunderstanding in relationships- Male self-control and emotional intensity- Fear, anger and the “rage monster” Season 3 is proudly sponsored by Lightside Financial Planning - a fiercely independent, Liverpool-based firm focused on clear, human conversations about money. Find out more at https://lightsidefp.co.uk/