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Body Love Binge Interview with Jessi Kneeland - Body Neutrality, Self-Objectification & The AvatarsIn this fascinating conversation, I sit down with Jessi Kneeland, body image coach and author of "Body Neutral." We dive deep into body neutrality vs body positivity, why we assign false significance to our bodies, the four body image avatars, and how self-objectification keeps us stuck seeing ourselves from the outside in. This episode is essential for anyone who's tired of trying to love how they look and wants actual freedom.Key Quotes from the Episode:💬 "Body neutrality is stripping the body of false or inflated significance, as opposed to trying to love how you look."💬 "We experience body image suffering when we've assigned our body a task, role, or purpose it can't fulfill."💬 "Women learn that their worth and value is based on making other people feel happy and comfortable - providing what others want rather than going after what they want."💬 "The first compliments little girls get are about how they look or how they're nice. Both are about other people experiencing you, not about you at all."💬 "If your body is the only thing that matters to a guy, that saved you so much time. Your dream person would never make you question your worth based on your size."What We Cover in This Episode:✨ Body neutrality vs body positivity - Why trying to love how you look isn't realistic for most people, and what actually works instead✨ The false significance we assign to bodies - How body image distress is different from preferences, and why some things have the power to ruin your day✨ Where we learn body obsession - How patriarchy, diet culture, and beauty ideals teach us that our worth is relative and based on attractiveness✨ The confirmation bias trap - Why your brain gathers massive evidence to prove you're unworthy whilst ignoring anything that contradicts it✨ Self-objectification and the male gaze - Learning to see ourselves from the outside in, and why women ask "will he like me?" instead of "will I like him?"✨ The four body image avatars - Self-objectifier, outsider, high achiever, and runner - and how each represents different root causes✨ Why being "average" feels like an insult - The high achiever's ranking spreadsheet and living in constant fear of being displaced✨ Attraction beyond appearance - How relationships are NOT based on objective ranking systems, and why pheromones matter more than abs✨ The exhausting strategy of trying to prevent rejection with your body - Why outsourcing tasks to your body that it can't accomplish keeps you obsessing forever✨ How Jessi lives in body neutrality - Having preferences without attachment, and why lack of attachment is the safest, kindest choice✨ Clothing as daily practice - Centring how you feel over how you look, and why "flattering" is the wrong goal✨ Age, ageing, and body image - How ageing out of beauty ideals creates unique identity and existential challengesThis episode will completely shift how you think about body image work - from trying to feel beautiful to simply stripping your body of the power to ruin your life.✨ Jessi's website: https://www.jessikneeland.com/ 💙 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/ 💙 Free trial group coaching: https://victoriakleinsman.com/coaching/ 💙 Work with me 1:1: https://victoriakleinsman.com/1-1-coaching/ 💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial 💙 Become a coach: https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Laura Nagiel, a confidence and dating coach for high-achieving women. We dive deep into the difference between confidence and self-esteem, why control-oriented women struggle in dating, and how to step into your feminine energy without losing your strength. This episode is gold for anyone navigating relationships whilst healing their relationship with themselves.Key Quotes from the Episode:💬 "Confidence is built through action. Self-love and self-esteem is how we see ourselves, what we deep down believe we are worthy of."💬 "Your relationships are a mirror of your self-esteem at the time. If your relationships aren't improving as you're doing the work, you're not actually doing the work."💬 "If you're strong masculine and you want your man to also be strong masculine, it doesn't work. These magnets are pushing each other away."💬 "Feminine energy is creativity, fertility, ideas. It's making a home out of a house, creating good vibes. You don't have to be shy and quiet to be feminine."💬 "If your body is the only thing that matters to that guy, and so he leaves or you leave, that saved you so much time. Your dream man would never make you question your worth."What I Cover in This Episode:✨ The crucial difference between confidence and self-esteem - Why you can appear confident but still feel unworthy, and how this shows up in dating✨ The toxic relationship pattern - How low self-esteem creates a track record of narcissists and messy situations✨ Creating your vision before you date - The four categories to define what you want in a partner (and who you need to become)✨ Why Type A women struggle with dating - How being control-oriented, perfectionistic, and in your masculine energy repels the man you say you want✨ Masculine vs feminine energy in relationships - Understanding polarity and why "strong personality seeking stronger man" doesn't work✨ The misconception about feminine energy - It's not weakness, shyness, or diminishing your achievements - it's creativity, magnetism, and strength✨ How to ask for your needs without being controlling - The power of praise, gratitude, and inspiring rather than demanding✨ Navigating sex and intimacy with confidence - Using touch and body language instead of over-intellectualising everything✨ Body image in dating - Why authentic photos save you time, and how the right person loves your essence, not just your size✨ The second mode for high achievers - Creating feminine energy as an intentional way of being without losing your professional edge✨ Laura's guaranteed framework - How she helps clients find their person within six months by addressing root causesThis episode is essential listening for anyone who's recovered (or recovering) from an eating disorder and wants to date confidently, understand their worth, and attract a healthy relationship.💙 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/ 💙 Free trial group coaching: https://victoriakleinsman.com/coaching/ 💙 Work with me 1:1: https://victoriakleinsman.com/1-1-coaching/ 💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial 💙 Become a coach: https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/🌹Read more about Laura’s signature DREAM Framework™️: https://resources.lauranagiel.com/dream-framework 🌹Connect with Laura on Instagram🌹Take Laura’s free dating audit to find out what’s holding you back in dating and 3 steps to fix it: https://lauranagiel.involve.me/audit

Body Love Binge Q&A with Julia - Fear, Fullness & Fat PhobiaIn this Q&A episode, Julia and I answer real questions from the Body Love Binge community. We dive into acting in alignment with your values, overcoming the "clean vs dirty" fullness association, panic zones in recovery, seeking external validation, and why guilt hits harder after eating.Key Quotes from the Episode:💬 "The word 'can't' is instantly slamming the door in your own face. You can. But what's the fear?"💬 "You can't notice when somebody else is empty or full from the outside. It's an internal game always."💬 "If you're in recovery from a restrictive eating disorder, the things your body needs is not fruit and vegetables - that's the hardest thing for your body to digest."💬 "Hurt people hurt people. But healed people heal people. Your healing can be the catalyst for your mum's healing."💬 "It's impossible to feel guilt and remorse whilst you're focused on gratitude and presence. You can't have both at the same time."What I Cover in This Episode:✨ Acting in alignment with your values when fear keeps stopping you - How to move from "I can't" to "I won't" and face the fear anyway✨ The "clean vs dirty" fullness trap - Reframing the story that empty equals clean and overcoming laxative abuse patterns✨ When everything puts you in panic zone - Practical tools for nervous system regulation when even small steps feel overwhelming✨ Calorie targets vs constant fullness - Why you might not actually be full, and how to get maximum calories in minimum volume✨ The fruit and veg trap in recovery - Why your body needs fat and dense foods, not "healthy" options right now✨ Seeking external validation from a fat-phobic mother - How to build self-acceptance when your worth was tied to body size✨ The inner child work with parental approval - Understanding your mum is trapped in her own cage of conditioning✨ Why guilt is worse after eating than during - The overthinking trap and how to eat and forget✨ Outsmarting the eating disorder voice - Julia's clever technique of predicting and crossing off ED thoughts✨ The ripple effect of your healing - How your recovery spreads and affects everyone around youThis episode is full of practical, no-BS advice for navigating the messy middle of recovery when fear, fullness, and family dynamics are getting in your way.💙 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/ 💙 Free trial group coaching: https://victoriakleinsman.com/coaching/ 💙 Work with me 1:1: https://victoriakleinsman.com/1-1-coaching/ 💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial 💙 Become a coach: https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with teacher and mind-body guide Sam Miller to unpack why your symptoms aren’t the problem, they’re your body’s solution. We dig into repression, the shadow, nervous system myths, and how to actually allow emotions to complete so you can return to real regulation (without biohacks, force, or fixing).Sam's YT: https://www.youtube.com/@thegreatallowing What I Cover in This Episode:✨ Symptoms as the solution — Why anxiety, fatigue, pain, and ED behaviours are the healing process trying to complete, not enemies to fight✨ Repressed charge & the shadow — How unfelt fear/grief/anger get stored in the body and surface when you’re finally safe enough to feel✨ The “allowing” method — A simple, titrated way to meet sensations (not stories) and let the energy finish its arc✨ Breath that doesn’t backfire — When breathwork helps, when it overwhelms, and how to “be breathed” at the edge of resistance✨ Primary vs. secondary emotions — Spotting shame/anxiety as blockers so you can access the real thing underneath✨ Coping mechanisms with compassion — Why food rules, over-exercise, purging, biohacking & perfectionism were brilliant adaptations...until they weren’t✨ The nervous system reframe — Regulation isn’t something you do to yourself; it’s what happens when you stop resisting what wants to move✨ Integration matters — Why the sleepy, foggy “after” (tingles, yawns, warmth) is your system updating, not you “relapsing”✨ Identity, control & safety — Letting the costume fall away, meeting the fear of rejection/abandonment, and building inner safety as the adult self✨ ED specifics — Extreme hunger, purge urges, and the “runner’s high” explained through survival energy (plus what to do in the moment)Powerful quotes from the episode:💬 “Your symptoms are the healing process of a problem you didn’t know you had.”💬 “The body doesn’t need fixing, it needs allowing.”💬 “You can’t heal what you still believe is dangerous to feel.”💬 “Every coping mechanism was a brilliant adaptation… until it wasn’t.”💬 “Regulation isn’t achieved... it emerges when you stop fighting what wants to move.”This interview is perfect if you’ve lived in your head, tried to “manage” feelings with food/control, or feel scared you’ll be overwhelmed if you stop coping. You won’t. You’ll learn how to let your body finish what it started...safely.💙 Join my FREE support group: ⁠https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/ ⁠💙 Free trial group coaching: ⁠https://victoriakleinsman.com/coaching/ ⁠💙 Work with me 1:1: ⁠https://victoriakleinsman.com/1-1-coaching/ ⁠💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial 💙 Become a coach: ⁠https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/

Body Love Binge Interview - 30 Years of Eating Disorders to Complete FreedomIn this powerful interview, I sit down with Karen, one of my Body Love Binge group coaching Queens, who recovered from 30 years of eating disorders - moving through anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating disorder. She shares her raw, honest journey from restriction and purging multiple times daily to complete food freedom.Key Quotes from the Episode:💬 "I spent 30 years with an eating disorder. I thought, you know what? It's time to try something different. Even if I gain weight, I want to be free."💬 "Why did none of the professionals tell me that my body was just trying to make up for all the time I'd been starving it?"💬 "The binges stopped really quickly once I realised I wasn't giving my body enough food and I just let myself eat what I wanted."💬 "It's my own thoughts making me unhappy. There are so many things in life that make you sad that you can't help - why let your own thoughts do it to you?"💬 "Recovery gets easier. It's not anything big and major - it's all the little things in life that are better because of changing this."What I Cover in This Episode:✨ Karen's 30-year journey through anorexia, bulimia, and BED - How restriction led to bingeing, and why traditional treatment didn't address the root cause✨ The pivotal moment of "enough is enough" - Why Karen decided to try recovery differently after three decades of struggling✨ Why professionals don't talk about intuitive eating - The anger and sadness of realising what she needed to know all along✨ Understanding you're not eating enough - How Karen discovered she was still restricting even when she thought she was eating normally✨ Facing the fear of weight gain in your 50s - What motivated her to choose freedom over staying small✨ The automatic purging response - Karen's practical breathing technique to retrain her body and stop involuntary purging✨ How walking helped with physical discomfort - Using movement (not as compensation) to manage fullness whilst digestion improved✨ The power of self-talk in recovery - Reassuring yourself through the 20% physical/80% emotional panic of feeling full✨ Body dysmorphia and weight gain navigation - How Karen dealt with gaining weight, not fitting clothes, and fear of others' judgements✨ Reframing thoughts about your body - The transformative realisation that your own thoughts are making you unhappy, not your body✨ Foods coming back into the house - How recovery shows up in the small things, like having "trigger foods" around without bingeing✨ The "P plates" phase of recovery - Why confidence continues to grow even after you're technically recovered✨ Group coaching vs solo recovery - How the Body Love Binge group supported Karen's transformation without constant 1:1 coachingThis interview is perfect for anyone who's been struggling for years or decades, feels like they've tried everything, or wonders if recovery is possible in a bigger body or later in life.💙 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/ 💙 Free trial group coaching: https://victoriakleinsman.com/coaching/ 💙 Work with me 1:1: https://victoriakleinsman.com/1-1-coaching/ 💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial 💙 Become a coach: https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/

Body Love Binge Q&A Episode - Mental Restriction, Emotions & Recovery NavigationIn this Q&A episode recorded from our wellness suite (complete with my gorgeous dog joining me!), I answer real questions from my Body Love Binge group coaching Queens. We dive deep into mental restriction, emotional regulation, navigating weight gain around family, and so much more.Key Quotes from the Episode:💬 "Restriction isn't an action, it's a state of mind. Freedom isn't an action either - it's a state of mind."💬 "You can't be your emotion if you can witness it. You're the experiencer, not the emotion itself."💬 "The world mirrors back to you what your beliefs are. Everything shows you who you are, depending on how you respond."💬 "People will see you through their own lens of conditioning and beliefs. What you think they'll think is just what you think about yourself."💬 "There's no right way to recover. You are the expert of your own experience."What I Cover in This Episode:✨ Understanding cognitive/mental restriction - Why allowing food physically isn't enough if you're judging yourself for eating it✨ Impending restriction explained - The subtle ways we plan future restriction without realising it✨ Why exercise as compensation is still purging - Even if it prevents other purging behaviours, it's keeping the ED alive✨ Resting as the bravest choice in recovery - How sitting with uncomfortable feelings builds true freedom✨ Emotional regulation demystified - What it actually means and how to practise it without collapsing into your feelings✨ Vagus nerve and polyvagal theory made simple - Practical techniques to bring yourself out of fight/flight/freeze✨ The mirror concept explained - How the world reflects your beliefs and conditioning back to you✨ Navigating seeing people after weight gain - Practical strategies for facing family when you're multiple dress sizes bigger✨ ADHD and recovery - Why labels don't change your recovery journey and there's nothing wrong with you✨ Shame around fainting in public - Getting to the root of what feels unsafe about being seen vulnerableThis episode is perfect for anyone who's physically allowing food but still struggling mentally, or navigating the relational aspects of recovery in a bigger body.💙 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/ 💙 Free trial group coaching: https://victoriakleinsman.com/coaching/ 💙 Work with me 1:1: https://victoriakleinsman.com/1-1-coaching/ 💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial 💙 Become a coach: https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/

Body Love Binge Group Coaching Call - Living with Someone Who RestrictsIn this powerful coaching session, I work with Kitty, a woman who recovered from 40 years of bulimia and is now training to be a coach herself. She's navigating the challenge of living with a partner who naturally restricts and controls his eating during cycling season - and how it's bringing up her own insecurities about her recovered body.Key Quotes from the Session:"You can only take someone as far as you've gone yourself.""Where are you on the acceptance spectrum? From 'this is my body' 🤷🏼‍♀️ to 'I'm fucking having to accept it because it is what it is' 😡?""If you were thinner, would your partners' restrictive behaviours still affect you? If not, then it's about your relationship to your body, not him.""Everyone's a mirror. They're reflecting back what's ready to be healed within you.""Coaching others is deeper healing for yourself. You realise where you're really at when you start coaching."What I Cover in This Session:💬 Working through triggers when your partner restricts and controls their eating - Why it's so hard to witness and what it's really showing you about your own healing💬 The difference between acceptance and preference - Understanding where you are on the acceptance spectrum and why that matters💬 Getting underneath guilt to the core emotion - Using the Russian dolls analogy to find what's really driving the discomfort💬 The part of you that's not caught up yet - Working with the part that's confused and questioning your recovery choices💬 Why your partner's behaviours trigger you - Uncovering what you think you're missing by being in a bigger body💬 Fashion, family judgment, and fear - Addressing the real concerns underneath body image struggles in recovery💬 The grieving process for your old body - Why writing a letter to your past body can support deeper healing💬 Somatic practices for body acceptance - How to use touch, breath, and presence to create safety with your body💬 The power of coaching others in your own recovery - How teaching what you've learnt deepens your healing💬 Letting them do their thing - Why other people's choices about their bodies don't need to affect your recoveryThis session demonstrates the nuanced work of later-stage recovery - moving beyond physical rehabilitation into the deeper emotional and relational aspects of true food and body freedom.💙 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/ 💙 Free trial group coaching: https://victoriakleinsman.com/coaching/ 💙 Work with me 1:1: https://victoriakleinsman.com/1-1-coaching/ 💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial 💙 Become a coach: https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/

In this candid Q&A episode, I answer real questions from my Body Love Binge group coaching members. I tackle the tough topics around eating disorder recovery with my signature no-BS compassion and practical wisdom - recorded spontaneously while my husband took our baby out to test the new pushchair!Key Quotes from the Episode:"Going all in isn't a behaviour you can measure. Going all in is how you show up internally - and it's all about what is manageable for YOU.""Restriction isn't an action, it's a state of mind. If you have a restrictive mind, anything will be turned into a diet.""Recovery is the foundation of the rest of your life. It's not the finish line.""The only difference between a dream and a goal is a plan and the belief that it's gonna happen.""When you're fully recovered, other people's behaviors around food and exercise won't affect you anymore. You'll be completely free."What I Cover in This Episode:• Managing panic zone vs stretch zone - How to take recovery actions without re-traumatising yourself and why staying in your comfort zone won't work• Intuitive eating vs intuition eating - Why I don't use traditional intuitive eating guidelines and my approach to eating for pure pleasure• Breaking free from food habits and rules - How to stop turning hunger/fullness into another diet and why eating the same foods can be perfectly fine• Making room for cake - Permission to eat less nutritious food to save space for treats you're excited about• Signs of true recovery - Physical, mental, and emotional markers that show you've reached full freedom (plus what to do with your life after recovery)• Dealing with ED voice arguing back - Why the eating disorder might get louder deeper in recovery and how to handle the internal negotiations• Making regular eating non-negotiable - Practical strategies for consistent eating when you're full, emotional, or overwhelmed by meal prep• Body image in recovery - Moving from body hate to neutrality to unconditional love, and why you don't have to like how you look to be free• Living with a fitness-obsessed partner - How to protect your recovery when your partner's exercise and food behaviours are triggering• Recovery isn't linear - Understanding that setbacks and challenges are part of the process, not signs of failureMy approach combines trauma-informed recovery principles with practical, real-world strategies that honour where each person is in their unique journey toward food and body freedom.💙 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/ 💙 Free trial group coaching: https://victoriakleinsman.com/coaching/ 💙 Work with me 1:1: https://victoriakleinsman.com/1-1-coaching/ 💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial 💙 Become a coach: https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/

Habits Aren’t The Enemy: Why Safety Heals What Willpower Can’t.This episode is a little different, Queens — it came to me in the middle of the night while lying in bed with baby Koa. I had no plan to record, but the download was strong, so here it is: raw, real, and straight from my heart.I’m talking about habits — what they actually are, why they form, and how to truly shift them in recovery (without fighting yourself).So many of my clients worry that bingeing, emotional eating, or dessert-after-dinner will become “bad habits.” But here’s the truth: when you heal the root cause, habits fall away naturally. They stop being needed.In this episode I share:✨ The difference between habits and routines (and why it matters in recovery)✨ How your brain wires habits — and how to rewire them with choice✨ Why forcing yourself out of ED habits never works long-term✨ The “swap, don’t stop” principle that makes change easier✨ Why allowance and self-trust create freedom💬 Powerful quotes from the episode:💬 “You are not your brain. You have a brain — and you can retrain it.”💬 “Habits aren’t good or bad — they’re just your brain making life easier.”💬 “When you no longer need the habit, it’s simple to change it.”💬 “Allowance creates space for choice. Restriction only creates rebellion.”💬 “Freedom isn’t about having no habits — it’s about choosing the ones that serve you.”If you’ve ever worried about getting “stuck” in bad habits, this episode will help you see them in a whole new light — and show you how healing the root makes change effortless.Resources & Links:💙 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/💙 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial💙 Become a coach: https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/