388 | You Had Me at No: Boundaries, Burnout, and People-Pleasing

Hey Friends, If you struggle to say no, take on too much, or feel responsible for everyone else, this episode is for you. Today I'm talking with Sheryl Green, a boundaries expert, speaker, and author of You Had Me at "No." We talk about what healthy boundaries actually look like, why people-pleasing can lead to burnout, and how to start protecting your time and energy without feeling guilty. Sheryl has a Master's Degree in Forensic Psychology and is the author of six books, including You Had Me at "No": How Setting Healthy Boundaries Helps Banish Burnout, Repair Relationships, and Save Your Sanity. You can find Sheryl's book HERE. https://sherylgreenspeaks.com/ Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram. About Amber Amber Cammidge is the creator of The Mindful Home Technique,  a science-backed approach to creating a home with less overwhelm.  She is host of Declutter Your Chaos, a top ranking podcast with almost 2 million downloads, and hundreds of raving reviews, where a she helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and immersion in the teachings of Joe Dispenza, Jon Kabat Zinn, and Tich Nhat Hanh - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that allows you to become the best version of you. 

Hey guys, In this episode, I share what I'm learning about the connection between ADHD, anxiety, and internal hyperactivity, particularly in women. I also share about people pleasing and the relationship between people pleasing and anxiety. I talk about why ADHD can make seemingly simple things, like starting a decluttering task, so much harder than they appear from the outside. This diagnosis doesn't explain everything, and it doesn't mean my anxiety wasn't real. But it has changed the question I've been asking myself for most of my life. Instead of "What's wrong with me?" I'm beginning to ask: "How does my brain actually work?" And that question leaves a lot more room for understanding—and a lot less room for shame. I hope this helps you! XO, Amber Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram. About Amber Amber Cammidge is the creator of The Mindful Home Technique,  a science-backed approach to creating a home with less overwhelm.  She is host of Declutter Your Chaos, a top ranking podcast with almost 2 million downloads, and hundreds of raving reviews, where a she helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and immersion in the teachings of Joe Dispenza, Jon Kabat Zinn, and Tich Nhat Hanh - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that allows you to become the best version of you. 

Hey Friends! In this guided mindful decluttering session, we focus on the extra bedroom—whether it's a guest room, child's room, or catch-all space. You'll choose your where and when, gather a few simple supplies, and then use breath, body, and sensory awareness to help you stay present while sorting and letting go. We'll also use a simple question to guide decisions: What actually participates in the life of this room? And throughout the practice, come back to: One breath. One object. One decision. Hope you enjoy this episode! XO, Amber Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram. About Amber Amber Cammidge is the creator of The Mindful Home Technique,  a science-backed approach to creating a home with less overwhelm.  She is host of Declutter Your Chaos, a top ranking podcast with almost 2 million downloads, and hundreds of raving reviews, where a she helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and immersion in the teachings of Joe Dispenza, Jon Kabat Zinn, and Tich Nhat Hanh - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that allows you to become the best version of you.       

Hi Friends, In this episode, I talk with author of the beautiful book, Perfect Unfolding, Kristy Halvorsen.  Kristy is a former firefighter and engineer, who traded her dream home and career for the freedom of the open road.  After leaving her career, Kristy downsized into a 25-year-old Airstream named Coddi and began traveling full-time, learning firsthand how having less can create more freedom, clarity, and possibility. We discuss the emotional process of letting go, the financial simplicity of minimalism, following intuition instead of forcing answers, traveling solo, and giving yourself permission to reinvent your life at any age. Kristy also shares the idea of following the "tickles of the soul" or divine downloads, as I call them, which are those quiet internal nudges that become easier to hear when we slow down and make space. Hope you enjoy this episode! XO, Amber You can purchase Kristy's book, Perfect Unfolding,  HERE. Follow Kristy on Instagram HERE.  It's so fun to follow along with her journey in the book and on social.  Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram. About Amber Amber Cammidge is the creator of The Mindful Home Technique,  a science-backed approach to creating a home with less overwhelm.  She is host of Declutter Your Chaos, a top ranking podcast with almost 2 million downloads, and hundreds of raving reviews, where a she helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and immersion in the teachings of Joe Dispenza, Jon Kabat Zinn, and Tich Nhat Hanh - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that allows you to become the best version of you.       

Hi Friends! What if the clutter, the marriage, the job, or whatever you keep trying to fix, isn't actually the thing making you unhappy? In this episode, I share how divorce completely changed what I thought I knew about happiness, family, and letting go. We'll talk about why we give external things so much power over how we feel, how to stop taking responsibility for other people's emotions, and why letting go doesn't mean you made a mistake. Because sometimes the thing you're trying hardest to fix isn't the problem. It's the meaning you've attached to it. Mindful Decluttering Course: https://declutteryourchaos.thrivecart.com/declutter-without-overwhelm/ Email me with COACHING in the subject to make an appointment for FREE coaching for the podcast. [email protected] Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram. About Amber Amber Cammidge is the founder of Declutter Your Chaos,  host of the Declutter Your Chaos podcast, with more than 1.5 million downloads, hundreds of raving reviews, and the creator of the Mindful Method for decluttering. She helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about far more than organizing a house. It's about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that allows you to become the best version of you.       

Hi Friends!  What if the clutter in different areas of your home could tell you something about what's happening internally? In this episode, I'm joined by Bonnie Lippincott, biomedical engineer, author, entrepreneur, Reiki practitioner, mom of two, and host of the This Magic Life podcast. Bonnie brings together two worlds we don't often hear discussed in the same conversation: science and energy. We talk about her journey from engineering to writing and entrepreneurship, what she learned from becoming a mother, and how creativity and self-expression helped shape the work she does today. Then we get into chakras, Reiki, and clutter. Bonnie walks us through the seven chakras and explores how each energy center can relate to different areas of our homes and lives. We talk about what recurring clutter might reveal, why letting go can be more than a physical act, and how clearing our spaces can become an opportunity for greater awareness, clarity, and growth. We also talk about something Bonnie calls magic - not necessarily something extraordinary or supernatural, but our ability to notice what is already happening around us. When we become more present and change the way we perceive our everyday lives, ordinary moments can begin to feel very different. About Bonnie Lippincott Bonnie Lippincott is a biomedical engineer, author, mom of two, entrepreneur, Reiki practitioner, and host of the This Magic Life podcast. Her work explores the intersection of science, energy, intuition, personal growth, relationships, parenting, and everyday life. Follow Bonnie, explore her books, and learn more about This Magic Life through the links in the show notes. I can also make this more SEO-focused and give you 5 stronger episode-title options. Check out Bonnie's books here:  Books By Bonnie Follow Bonnie on Instagram here: Bonnie's Instagram   Mindful Decluttering Course: https://declutteryourchaos.thrivecart.com/declutter-without-overwhelm/ Email me with COACHING in the subject to make an appointment for FREE coaching for the podcast. [email protected] Join Me Live EVERY DAY until August 12th If you're on Instagram, come join my 30 Days of Mindful Decluttering series! I'm going live every morning, 9am Pacific,  sharing practical mindset shifts, tips and support  to help you create more space in your home and your life. Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram.   About Amber Amber Cammidge is the founder of Declutter Your Chaos,  host of the Declutter Your Chaos podcast, with more than 1.5 million downloads, hundreds of raving reviews, and the creator of the Mindful Method for decluttering. She helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about far more than organizing a house. It's about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that allows you to become the best version of you.       

Hi Friends! In this episode, I'm joined by Tyler Moore, known on Instagram as Tidy Dad, and author of his new book, Tidy Up Your Life, Rethinking How to Organize, Declutter, and Make Space for What Matters Most. Tyler shares how feeling overwhelmed by both physical and emotional clutter led him to rethink what it really means to have a tidy home. We explore how our homes reflect what we value, how to make space for what matters most, and how tidying can support a more intentional life. The paperback edition of Tidy Up Your Life goes on sale tomorrow, so it's the perfect time to hear Tyler's approach to making space for what matters most. Get Tyler's book: Tidy Up Your Life: Rethinking How to Organize, Declutter, and Make Space for What Matters Most   Mindful Decluttering Course: https://declutteryourchaos.thrivecart.com/declutter-without-overwhelm/ Email me with COACHING in the subject to make an appointment for FREE coaching for the podcast. [email protected] Join Me Live EVERY DAY until August 12th If you're on Instagram, come join my 30 Days of Mindful Decluttering series! I'm going live every morning, 9am Pacific,  sharing practical mindset shifts, tips and support  to help you create more space in your home and your life. Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram.   About Amber Amber Cammidge is the founder of Declutter Your Chaos,  host of the Declutter Your Chaos podcast, with more than 1.5 million downloads, hundreds of raving reviews, and the creator of the Mindful Method for decluttering. She helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about far more than organizing a house. It's about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that allows you to become the best version of you.     

Hi Friends! Press play, head to your bedroom, and declutter with me. In this guided session, I'll walk you through my method, which is a mindful approach that turns decluttering into a moving meditation. We'll arrive in the space, connect with the deeper meaning behind what we're doing, breathe, explore the clutter without judgment, and then notice what becomes possible when we create a little more space. Declutter in Layers Start with one category at a time and make your way around the room: Layer 1: Trash Walk around the room and collect anything that can simply be thrown away or recycled. Layer 2: Clothes Gather clothes and separate what needs to be put away, washed, donated, or let go. Layer 3: Toiletries & Personal Items Collect skincare, makeup, hair products, medications, and other personal items and return them to where they belong. Layer 4: Give Away Look for anything you already know you're ready to donate or give to someone else. Layer 5: Things That Belong Somewhere Else Gather anything that belongs in another room. Put it in a basket or pile to relocate when you're finished. Layer 6: Things You're Still Deciding About Set aside anything you're not ready to make a decision about yet. Don't let one difficult item stop your momentum. Layer 7: Clean Once the clutter is cleared, wipe down surfaces, vacuum, dust, open a window, or do whatever makes the room feel fresh. Layer 8: Put Everything Away Return the things you're keeping to their homes and enjoy the space you created. Hope this helps you! XO, Amber   Mindful Decluttering Course: https://declutteryourchaos.thrivecart.com/declutter-without-overwhelm/ Email me with COACHING in the subject to make an appointment for FREE coaching for the podcast. [email protected] Join Me Live EVERY DAY until August 12th If you're on Instagram, come join my 30 Days of Mindful Decluttering series! I'm going live every morning, 9am Pacific,  sharing practical mindset shifts, tips and support  to help you create more space in your home and your life. Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram.   About Amber Amber Cammidge is the founder of Declutter Your Chaos,  host of the Declutter Your Chaos podcast, with more than 1.5 million downloads, hundreds of raving reviews, and the creator of the Mindful Method for decluttering. She helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about far more than organizing a house. It's about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that allows you to become the best version of you.   

Hi Friends! What if joy isn't something you find—but something you practice? In this episode, I sit down with Jen Gomez to talk about creating more joy, moving through fear and anxiety, letting go of control, and finding meaning beyond achievement. We explore how simple practices can help us shift our internal state, why giving can feel so powerful, and how the difficult chapters of our lives can lead us closer to purpose. This conversation is about letting go of what no longer serves us—not just in our homes, but within ourselves—and creating more space for joy, trust, and who we're becoming.   Mindful Declutering Course:  https://declutteryourchaos.thrivecart.com/declutter-without-overwhelm/   Email me with COACHING in the subject to make an appointment for free coaching for the podcast. [email protected] For more information on Jen Gomez and her joy strategies check her out here: https://www.thejoyfulstrategist.com/     Join Me Live EVERY DAY until August 12th If you're on Instagram, come join my 30 Days to a Decluttered Life series! I'm going live every morning, 9am Pacific,  sharing practical mindset shifts and encouragement to help you create more space in your home and your life. Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram.   About Amber Amber Cammidge is the founder of Declutter Your Chaos,  host of the Declutter Your Chaos podcast, with more than 1.5 million downloads, hundreds of raving reviews, and the creator of the Mindful Method for decluttering. She helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about far more than organizing a house. It's about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that feels like your own.  

Hey Guys, This is a raw episode that will help you connect to a deeper sense of worthiness. Which will help you find more ease in letting go.   This episode is about coming home to yourself. Not through buying more. The answers you're looking for aren't outside of you - they're within you. I also share my honest experience with getting being on Instagram, how easy it is to lose yourself in comparison, and why creating feels so much better than consuming. Because when we stop trying to become someone else and start giving from who we already are, we find our way home. I hope this helps you! XO, Amber Join Me Live And if you're on Instagram, come join my 30 Days to a Decluttered Life series! I'm going live every morning, 9am Pacific,  sharing practical mindset shifts and encouragement to help you create more space in your home and your life. Find me at @amber.cammidge on Instagram.   About Amber Amber Cammidge is the founder of Declutter Your Chaos,  host of the Declutter Your Chaos podcast, with more than 1.5 million downloads, hundreds of raving reviews, and the creator of the Mindful Method for decluttering. She helps women stop fighting their clutter by understanding the psychology behind it. Blending behavioral science, neuroscience, practical decluttering strategies, and mindfulness - informed by her training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) - Amber teaches that your home isn't just where you live - it's where you practice becoming the person you want to be. Her work is about far more than organizing a house. It's about creating space for clarity, confidence, and a life that feels like your own.