Gentle Parenting with KJ from Big Life Journal #27

Podcast Title:Show Notes:Have you ever lashed out at your child and wondered "Where did that come from? Why am I so triggered?" Spoiler for this episode, it's your childhood... and the reason we do this is because most of us are totally unaware of this unwanted inheritance.Jon is joined by Dr. Shefali, the pioneer of conscious parenting, who shares her insights on how our childhood experiences shape our parenting styles. Together, they delve into the concept of the subconscious contract between parent and child, exploring how implicit memories and unresolved issues from our past often resurface in moments of stress.Dr. Shefali emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and healing in parenting, offering practical advice on how parents can break free from harmful patterns and create a healthier environment for their children. The conversation touches on spirituality, neuroscience, and the essential role of self-awareness in raising emotionally healthy kids.Timestamps:0:00 - A Saturday morning meltdown: Jon’s story of losing his cool2:43 - Introduction to Dr. Shefali and the concept of conscious parenting7:57 - The power of implicit memories: How the past shapes our reactions13:53 - The subconscious contract: Understanding toxic parenting dynamics22:19 - Practical steps for conscious parenting and breaking the cycleResources Mentioned:The Conscious Parent The Parenting Map Dr. Shefali's PodcastJoin Dr. Shefali's Institute Cohort CLOSING 9/9/24Send us a text

Get the Autonomy Guide HERE Episode Title: How To Get Your Toddler to LISTEN!Episode Number: #29Host: Jon @wholeparentTimestamps:0:00 - Introduction and Setting the Scene0:38 - The Frustration of Kids who WON'T LISTEN!2:40 - Why Toddlers Have Selective Hearing7:17 - Understanding Toddler Development and Autonomy16:18 - Effective Communication with Toddlers22:24 - Tips for Improving Toddler Listening Skills33:50 - Closing Thoughts and Call to ActionKey Takeaways:Toddlers often exhibit selective hearing due to their developmental stage of seeking autonomy.Consistent routines are crucial in helping toddlers feel secure and understand expectations.Effective communication with toddlers involves giving clear, positive instructions and allowing time for them to process.Saying "yes" as often as possible can foster a more cooperative relationship with your child.Resources Mentioned:PDF on Autonomy-Seeking Activities for ToddlersHow to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will TalkWhat episode should you listen to next?Episode #22: Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsEpisode #1: How to Stop Yelling at Your KidsCall to Action:Never miss an episode! CLICK HERE to subscribe.Share this episode with friends or on social media.Rate and review the podcast to help it grow.Contact Information:Follow Jon @wholeparent on all social media platforms.Email: [email protected] us a text

Struggling with bedtime battles? Discover an incredible bedtime hack that transforms chaos into connection, making bedtime one of the best parts of your day.Episode Number: #28Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the challenges of bedtime routines and reveals a transformative hack to turn bedtime battles into moments of deep connection with your child. He discusses the reasons behind kids' resistance to bedtime and shares a practical, brain-based technique that not only helps kids fall asleep faster but also strengthens the parent-child bond.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction And Importance Of Bedtime 02:04 - Personal Anecdotes About Bedtime Chaos And Routines 04:56 - Common Bedtime Resistance Issues And Practical Solutions 06:31 - The Bedtime Story Hack Explained 18:21 - Practical Steps For Implementing The Bedtime Story Hack 26:12 - The Importance Of Sleep For Children's Development 35:28 - Closing Remarks And Call To ActionKey Takeaways:The Bedtime Story Hack:Tell your child the story of their day in a calm, soothing voice to help them transition to sleep.Engage their memory and language centers to regulate their emotional state.Consistently use this technique to turn bedtime into a positive, connecting experience.Why Kids Resist Bedtime:Novelty and learning: Kids resist sleep because they are constantly learning and don't want to stop.Routine and regulation: Maintaining a consistent bedtime routine helps prevent resistance.Hormonal factors: Avoiding overtiredness and managing cortisol levels is key.Benefits of Sleep:Essential for physical, mental, and emotional development.Improves memory, emotional regulation, and overall health.Creates opportunities for deep attachment and bonding with your child.Links to Resources Mentioned:The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine AronKinetic SandWhat episode should you listen to next?Effective Discipline Without PunishmentUnderstanding Your Child's BrainHow to Connect:Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERESubscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who struggle with bedtime routines.Episode Transcript: The full transcript of this episode is available here.Connect with Whole Parent:Email: [email protected] Media Links:Instagram: @wholeparentTikTok: @wholeparentSend us a text

Episode Number: #27Description: In this guest episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon welcomes KJ from Big Life Journal. They discuss the transformative power of reparenting, the difference between gentle and conscious parenting, and the resources available to support parents on their journey. KJ shares her personal experiences transitioning from authoritarian parenting to gentle parenting, offers her top reparenting tip, and explores how journaling can help parents and children develop resilience and growth mindsets.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction to KJ and Audio Disclaimer 02:34 - Conversation with KJ begins03:12 - KJ's background and journey in reparenting04:21 - Difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting06:15 - Importance of questioning authority and fostering safe challenges09:09 - Explaining the difference between gentle and conscious parenting14:48 - The necessity of effective and conscious parenting today16:21 - The role of journaling in reparenting and parenting19:26 - Discussion on the downloadables and free resources from Big Life Journal23:33 - KJ's number one reparenting tip: Recognizing what’s happening in your body30:22 - Conclusion and final thoughts on reparenting and gentle parentingKey Takeaways:Reparenting: A crucial step in becoming a better parent by understanding and addressing one’s own triggers and reactions.Gentle vs. Conscious Parenting: Gentle parenting is what children experience, while conscious parenting involves the internal work parents do to improve their interactions with their children.Journaling: An effective tool for parents and children to develop resilience, growth mindsets, and critical thinking skills.Big Life Journal Resources: Offers journals and free printables to help children and parents on their growth journey.Resources Mentioned:Big Life Journal: WebsiteKJ’s Instagrams: @gentlehealingmom and @biglifejournalFree Printables and Sign up for the Big Life Journal NewsletterWhat to listen to next?How to Stop Yelling at your Kids #001 Calls to Action:Subscribe: Subscribe to the Whole Parent Podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review to help other parents find the podcast and benefit from the content.Share: Share this episode with fellow parents who might benefit from learning about reparenting and gentle parenting.Email List: Join the email list to receive updates on new episodes and resources.Contact Information:Email: [email protected]: @wholeparentTikTok: @wholeparentThank you for tuning in to this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast. We hope you found it insightful and helpful in your parenting journey. See you in the next episode!Send us a text

Episode Number: #26Take the quiz to find our if your kid is Highly SensitiveDescription: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the concept of collaborative consequences, explaining why this method is a powerful tool for effective parenting, especially for highly sensitive children. As a strong advocate for the abolition of punishment in parenting, discusses how to differentiate between punishment and consequences and introduces the idea of working with children to set boundaries collaboratively. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, Jon illustrates how this approach fosters a child's growth, understanding, and self-discipline.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction to the Whole Parent Podcast and the highly sensitive kid quiz02:24 - Definition and importance of collaborative consequences03:53 - Difference between punishment and consequences05:27 - Why punishment is ineffective06:48 - Explanation of consequences and their role in teaching07:29 - Steps to implement collaborative consequences11:58 - The importance of seeking a child's input13:44 - The significance of a child's buy-in in the discipline process16:10 - Long-term goals of using collaborative consequences17:37 - Personal example: Collaborative consequences for cleaning up messes26:18 - Personal example: Collaborative consequences for managing screen time32:52 - Conclusion and final thoughts on collaborative consequences33:09 - Call to action: Subscribe, rate, review, and join the email listKey Takeaways:Collaborative Consequences: Involve your child in setting boundaries and consequences to ensure they understand and agree with them, which increases their effectiveness.Difference from Punishment: Unlike punishment, which is retributive and ineffective in the long-term, collaborative consequences focus on teaching and guiding children to make better decisions.Child's Buy-In: When children have a say in their own discipline process, they are more likely to adhere to the agreed-upon boundaries and learn self-discipline.Practical Examples: Jon shares real-life examples of implementing collaborative consequences in his household, providing a clear model for listeners to follow.Resources Mentioned:Take the Highly Sensitive Kid QuizHow to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will TalkRecommendations for the Next Episode:Episode #11: Discipline Part 1Calls to Action:Subscribe: Subscribe to the Whole Parent Podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review to help other parents find the podcast.Share: Share this episode with fellow parents who might benefit from learning about collaborative consequences.Email List: Join the email list to receive updates on new episodes and resources.Contact Information:Email: [email protected]: @wholeparentTikTok: @wholeparentThank you for tuning in to this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast. We hope you found it insightful and helpful in your parenting journey. See you in the next episode!Send us a text

Want to know if your child is Highly Sensitive? TAKE THE QUIZ! Parenting a Highly Sensitive ChildEpisode Number: #25Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the world of highly sensitive children. He explains what high sensitivity is, how it manifests in kids, and shares practical strategies for parents to help their highly sensitive children thrive. Jon also highlights the groundbreaking work of Dr. Elaine Aron, who introduced the concept of high sensitivity, and provides insights into the emotional, physical, and social needs of highly sensitive kids.Timestamps:00:01 - Introduction to highly sensitive kids01:24 - Acknowledging Dr. Elaine Aron's work on high sensitivity02:48 - Improved show notes and additional resources03:17 - Understanding what high sensitivity is05:14 - Symptoms and characteristics of highly sensitive kids07:40 - Evolutionary perspective on high sensitivity10:03 - Sensory amplification in highly sensitive kids12:31 - Behavioral signs of high sensitivity22:47 - Emotional, physical, and social needs of highly sensitive kids31:52 - Practical tips for parenting highly sensitive kids41:58 - Benefits of being highly sensitive (IT'S A SUPER POWER!)43:26 - Conclusion Key Takeaways: Jon's Three Practical Tips for Parenting Highly Sensitive Kids:Establish Routines: Create a predictable home environment to provide a sense of security for highly sensitive kids.Take Breaks: Allow for regular downtime to help highly sensitive kids process and cope with sensory input.Focus on Emotional Intelligence: Teach kids to recognize, label, and express their emotions to manage their heightened sensitivity.Links to Resources Mentioned:Is Your Kid Highly Sensitive Quiz!The Highly Sensitive Child by Dr. Elaine AronThe Highly Sensitive Parent by Dr. Elaine AronWhat episode should you listen to next?Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsHow to Connect:Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERESubscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who have highly sensitive children or might benefit from learning about high sensitivity.Connect with Whole Parent:Email: [email protected] Media Links:Instagram: @wholeparentTikTok: @wholeparentSend us a text

Do you want to know how you can successfully navigate sibling conflict? This is the episode for you. Episode Number: #24Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon delves into the challenging topic of sibling conflict. He shares practical strategies for parents to navigate and resolve conflicts between siblings effectively. Jon also talks about the importance of fostering a team-centric environment and being a safe person for your children to express their frustrations.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction and Jon's return to podcasting01:30 - Review of Raising Siblings Part One03:53 - Principle 1: Foster a team-centric environment09:49 - Principle 2: Be the safe person17:13 - Quick call to action: Subscribe and review20:24 - Principle 3: Be a mediator, not an arbitratorKey Takeaways: Jon's Three Principles for Handling Sibling Conflict:Foster a Team-Centric Environment: Emphasize that the family works as a team and avoid creating winners and losers among siblings.Be the Safe Person: Ensure that children can express their feelings without fear of punishment or judgment.Act as a Mediator, Not an Arbitrator: Facilitate communication between siblings to help them resolve conflicts themselves.What episode should you listen to next?Raising Siblings Part 1Adding a New BabyHow to Connect:Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERESubscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform.Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who would benefit from learning about handling sibling conflicts.Links to Resources Mentioned:Mr. Rogers' Song About FeelingsSiblings Without Rivalry BookConnect with Whole Parent:Email: [email protected] Media Links:Instagram: @wholeparentTikTok: @wholeparentSend us a text

Raising Emotionally Intelligent KidsEpisode Number: #23Description: In this episode of the Whole Parent Podcast, Jon discusses the importance of raising emotionally intelligent kids. Jon shares personal insights and practical steps on how parents can foster emotional intelligence in their children. Jon also opens up about his recent break from podcasting, the challenges he faced, and how taking time for self-care has impacted his parenting.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction and Jon's return to podcasting00:34 - Focus on topical episodes and the importance of emotional intelligence01:32 - Understanding and processing emotions03:31 - Personal updates (Why I ghosted)08:43 - Step 1: Recognizing and understanding emotions17:56 - Step 2: Naming and labeling emotions30:03 - Step 3: Expressing emotions in a healthy way36:00 - Encouraging kids to express their emotionsKey Takeaways:Jon's Three Step Process for kidsRecognize Emotions: Check in with your body to identify physical signs of emotions.Name Emotions: Labeling emotions helps in processing and understanding them better.Express Emotions: Find healthy ways to express emotions, avoiding explosive outbursts.Links to Resources Mentioned:Dr. Mark Brackett's work on emotional intelligenceWhole Brain Child by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonAtlas of the Heart by Brené BrownWhat episode should you listen to next?Punishment-Free Parenting with Tina Payne BrysonHow to Connect:Never Miss a New Episode: CLICK HERESubscribe: If you haven't subscribed to the podcast yet, please do so on your preferred platform. Rate and Review: Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Share: Share this episode with friends and family, especially those who would benefit from learning about emotional intelligence.Episode Transcript: The full transcript of this episode is available here.Connect with Whole Parent:Email: [email protected] Media Links:Instagram: @wholeparentTikTok: @wholeparentSend us a text

To get podcast updates:CLICK HEREDo we need to punish our kids to be effective parents? That's exactly what Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and I navigate through in this enriching discussion on punishment-free parenting. By distinguishing between discipline as a means to teach, rehearse, and impart skills and punishment as an alternatively counterproductive reaction, we illuminate a path where parents can regulate their emotions and approach each day with a fresh, constructive mindset.Embark on a journey with us into the essence of 'whole parenting,' where the well-being of both parent and child is in the spotlight. This episode strips away the veneer of parenting perfection, as we share candid stories and acknowledge the slip-ups that accompany the challenge of raising our young. We lay out the blueprint for fostering secure attachments and resilience in our kids, underlining the power of being present, consistent, and approachable, while recognizing the unique dynamics of parenting through various stages, especially the teenage years.Wrapping up, Tina and I probe the delicate dance of discipline, where the art of being both firm and flexible fosters an environment ripe for our children to learn and make good decisions. The insights shared here are about more than mere techniques; they celebrate the precious relationship between parent and child and offer a fresh perspective on parenting with purpose and joy. Dr. Bryson's wisdom coupled with personal reflections make this episode a guiding light for parents aspiring to create a nurturing and supportive space for growth.Send us a text

To subscribe to the Whole Parent Podcast community:CLICK HERE Ever felt like it's all on you and your kids ONLY wants you?OR Ever felt like, no matter what you do, you're always just second best in your child's eyes? You're not alone. In this episode, we examine the emotional rollercoaster of the attachment hierarchy in families. Sharing my own experiences as a non-preferred parent, I peel back the layers of this complex dynamic. As we traverse the spectrum of parenting challenges, from feeling like the backup to handling jealousy, you'll uncover strategies and reassurance that will redefine your approach to these sensitive situations.Parenting is not a competition, yet it can certainly feel that way. This episode sheds light on the evolutionary underpinnings of why children may gravitate towards one caregiver and how this is not an indictment of your parenting prowess. We'll navigate the tricky emotions that come with parental comparisons, offering insights into fostering secure attachments and empowering both preferred and non-preferred parents.Then I address preferred parents and non-preferred parents directly and ask "What can you do, based on your role, to support your child and your partner?" This was one of the most vulnerable episodes for me to record; I hope that you are encouraged and helped through listening!Send us a text